Virgo men are very trusting and loyal as lovers.
But like most signs, they are human too.
They may engage in affairs as well.
Virgo men can be pretty sneaky, so how do you know if he is cheating on you?
Below, you’ll find:
- How Virgo men are in relationships
- Why Virgo men cheat
- Signs they’re having an affair
- How to deal with an unfaithful Virgo partner
Without further ado, let’s dive into this article!
Virgo men in relationships
So what sets Virgo men apart? As lovers, they’re known to exhibit these qualities:
Psychologists define kindness as being considerate, friendly, and generous. Although some deem this a weakness, it’s a skill that requires much strength and courage.
It goes without saying that kindness is good for the heart – and the mind.
“Science has shown that devoting resources to others, rather than having more and more for yourself, brings about lasting well-being.”
Unsurprisingly, this kindness also bodes well for Virgo relationships.
To wit, “kindness has been found by researchers to be the most important predictor of satisfaction and stability in a marriage.”
Virgo men are not only kind – they’re modest too.
According to psychologists, modesty is a “type of self-awareness which is accessible only through recognition of how I am being experienced in the eyes of others. It also refers to the desire to alleviate any suffering that this may cause.”
Modesty is not only good for the Virgo psyche – it’s beneficial for their relationships as well.
In fact, a report has shown that humility exerts a positive effect on love life.
In other words, couples who showed modest traits were more likely to have a successful, long-term relationship.
Researchers attribute this to the fact that modesty enhances commitment – as well as social bonds.
Also known as the ‘Social Bonds’ hypothesis, it’s where couples develop a ‘we-ness’ – so much so that they don’t mind sacrificing for their partners.
Virgo’s modesty proves good for overall health as well. Relationship problems are stressful – and humility can help avoid situations that often lead to bitter conflict.
3) Need for clear communication
Virgo’s communication skills are said to be borderline predictable. For them, discussing things openly with a partner is a relationship requirement.
They believe that it’s a way to achieve healthier arguments and better sex.
As astrologer Lisa Stardust puts it:
“Mercurial Virgo rationally discusses issues — and only wants to commit to a communicative partner. This mutable sign resolves situations fast, after having an open and transparent conversation with their partner.”
4) Logic and practicality
Virgo does more than just memorize things and apply formulas as a logical person. They have a unique set of skills and abilities – developed throughout years of experience.
“A Virgo deals with information like a computer, transforming even the most jumbled set of information into organized, clear concepts,” one report explains.
Because of this, logical Virgo lovers are known to be:
- Good communicators
As mentioned, Virgos are logical – which is why they’re meticulous perfectionists as well.
They pay great attention to detail, which means they notice things that others don’t.
They’re observant so that they make good sense of unconnected things.
They value efficiency, although they anticipate trouble too.
They will try their hardest to find solutions, which makes them appear controlling most of the time.
Meticulousness is not only good for the Virgo man’s daily life – but it also comes in handy for their relationships. For most, it’s one way to show love.
6) Slow (but sure) approach
Virgo men wouldn’t just jump on a relationship.
They’re logical and meticulous, which is why they take a lot of time before establishing a relationship.
They’re glacial because they want to be 100% sure.
As astrologer Jacquelyn Son puts it:
“They usually prefer to play it safe and don’t like to make a move unless they’re certain that you’re into them.”
And they’re right to do so.
“Rushing through the initial stages of a relationship can put a damper on your partnership and decrease the odds that your relationship will last long-term.”
Despite being slow to profess love, Virgo men will give their all to the relationship. When they commit, they’re often in it for the long haul.
Why Virgo men end up cheating (or falling out of love)
Virgo’s traits – while positive – may lead them to have an affair (or walk away from the relationship.)
1) Meticulous perfectionism drives them to become control freaks
Their perfectionism means that they wouldn’t accept anything short of – well – perfect. This allows them to excel in life – although it can be harmful to them – and their lovers.
Virgo’s perfectionism can take a toll on the relationship, especially when they expect themselves (and their partners) to live up to impossibly high standards.
For them, making a mistake is no option.
Sadly, Virgo men often suffer other-oriented perfectionism – where they’re never satisfied with what their partner brings to the table. Sometimes, the criticisms go overboard that they’re enough to cause the breakup.
They strive to control the relationship, thinking it’s the best way to move forward. In the end, they:
- Isolate you from friends or family
- Belittle you
- Criticize you for the smallest mistakes (and keep tabs on them)
- Make you feel unworthy
- Use guilt as a tool
- Refuse to hear you out
- Assume you’re guilty – until proven otherwise
2) They’re too logical – which means they’re bad at emotions
Virgo men may have high IQs, but their EQ sucks.
Also known as emotional intelligence/quotient, it “refers to a person’s ability to perceive, control, evaluate, and express emotions.”
EQ is all about identifying other people’s emotions – and controlling/using one’s own. It’s also about evaluating/perceiving what others feel – and relating to them.
While logic is needed in a relationship, it’s no secret that emotions and feelings matter too.
According to a report: “Emotional intelligence can help people to lead and manage their relationships far more effectively.”
It’s a matter of balancing both, but sadly, Virgo’s attention is skewed towards logic – rather than emotions.
Their lack of EQ means they’re not that self-aware, which is “knowing and understanding our own emotions and increasing our ability to cope.”
They’re also bad at self-regulation, which is the “understanding how your body reacts to emotions.”
Without these two crucial EQ factors, some Virgo relationships can’t help but crash and burn.
3) Modesty leaves them in the backseat
Some Virgo men are so meticulous that they end up controlling their partners.
However, some are so humble that they get thumbed down in the relationship.
Sure, modesty is beneficial for relationships.
According to a report, “young women and men were more likely to be satisfied with their partners the more they felt they were modest and respectful.”
That said, being too good is not always ‘good.’
Some Virgo men are too soft-spoken that they fail to show their worth.
As a result, their partner ends up dictating everything. In other words, the Virgo man has no choice but to take the backseat.
4) They’re too kind that their partners abuse them
Being too nice is not always good. In fact, this kindness makes Virgo prone to partner abuse.
For one, this makes them attractive to partners with overwhelming emotional needs, such as those who are:
- Overly emotional
- Controlling or demanding
- Guilt trippers
If Virgo men get in relationships with these people, they treat them as weak partners. Eventually, they take advantage of them.
5) Kindness warps their expectations, too
Being inherently kind to others, the Virgo man can’t help but expect the same degree of niceness.
As a report goes:
“This always leads to the nice ones thinking others are being mean to them or taking them for granted.”
Coupled with their perfectionism, they can’t help but expect much from their partners. They have high expectations of themselves, so they feel it’s reasonable to expect the same amount.
More often than not, these high expectations end up pushing their partners away.
6) They have the constant need to fix somebody
Virgo men are self-confessed fixers. And when they do have affairs, it’s often with a girl they need to fix.
Who can blame him, after all? Fixing others means they essentially become the other person’s savior.
These men are drawn to ladies who are out of luck. They are captivated by those who need advice, comfort, or assistance.
You can blame this on Virgo’s need to be needed. They have a ‘knight in shining armor’ complex that drives them to cheat on their partners with someone who makes them feel irreplaceable.
By fixing a person in need, they feel more special and powerful.
7) They’re drawn to intellectually-stimulating females
Virgo – being logical and meticulous – has a soft spot for a similar partner. Call it their Kryptonite, if you will.
“Intellectual compatibility is when both people are mentally stimulated by the same conversations,” explains relationship coach Jenna Ponaman.
Even if Virgo is loyal to his partner, there are times when he can’t stop himself from being attracted to an intellectually-stimulating female.
For example, he signed him and his girlfriend up for a masterclass. His girlfriend is unable to go because of work.
While he’s disappointed about this, he continues to attend the class anyway.
There, he’s matched with a partner who’s able to stimulate him mentally. They talk for hours – and end up in a coffee klatch.
He’s tempted. Depending on the circumstances, he may find himself giving in to this desire.
8) Planetary alignments play a significant role
Planetary alignments also contribute to a Virgo man’s cheating ways. He can get drawn towards flirty signs, such as Leo and Libra.
Although these signs are incompatible with Virgo, he’ll go ahead and give it a try.
Leo, a sign apart from Virgo, creates a semisextile on the astrological chart. As such, their priorities in life aren’t quite aligned.
Add to that, their personalities can’t help but clash.
Leo is a loud, alpha-type person, while Virgo is a patient individual who’s prudent when making decisions.
Libra is another semisextile, which means their partnership often leads to discomfort and misunderstanding.
Libra likes playing the role of victim, which is why Virgo men often find having an affair with them.
14 signs your Virgo man is having an affair
While Virgo men are some of the most kindhearted souls you’ll ever meet, they have a tipping point as well.
Sad as it may seem, your Virgo man is more or less done with you if he exhibits any of the following signs:
1) He doesn’t spend as much time as he did before
A Virgo man who loves you will spend as much time with you as he can. Quality time is one of their love languages, after all.
However, if he has set his eyes on another woman, this is bound to change.
Suddenly, he’s spending more time in the office – more than he did before.
Yes, he’s a workaholic, but this busyness is on a different level. It’s suspicious, to say the least.
2) He’s not as affectionate
Virgo men are devoted partners. They’re big at professing love, be it by acts of service or quality time.
They’ll do chores or run errands for their partners, among many other things.
So if they’re not as affectionate as they once did, then it’s a red flag.
There’s a strong possibility that he’s giving you the cold shoulder because he’s in love with someone else.
3) He’s become passive-aggressive
Virgo men are usually honest, but they can get a little passive-aggressive if they’re trying to hide something (e.g., an affair.)
In other words, they end up indirectly expressing negative feelings – instead of just resolving them.
Other signs of Virgo passive-aggressiveness include:
- Resentment or opposition to your demands
- Resistance/procrastination to cooperate with you
- Hostility or cynicism
4) He’s no longer communicating with you
As mentioned, Virgos are suckers for communicating. It’s a must for their love life.
So if your guy is no longer communicating freely with you – and he has lots of excuses for such – then it may be a sign that he’s having an affair.
He sees no need to talk with you anymore, for he gets the conversations he needs with another paramour.
5) He’s doing a lot of things without you
Virgo men – as with other men – enjoy doing many things with their partners. However, things are sure to change once they’ve found someone else.
Instead of spending time with you during the weekends, he’ll embark on outings with someone from work or the gym.
In case you try to join him during his exploits, he’ll dismiss it as a day-out with friends that ‘you won’t enjoy.’
6) He’s asking for some space
Every person in a relationship will need space – one way or another.
It’s about “taking time to put yourself first and do things that are just for you—choices that will make you feel great about yourself, putting you in a better mindset to take care of your relationship.”
The only difference is when a Virgo man is having an affair, he’ll be defensive of his need for space. He’ll cite several reasons, from work to a need to spend more time with friends.
In some cases, he may ask for ‘more alone time’ and refuse to elaborate on what he plans to do with it.
If you have a toxic relationship – or your Virgo man has a history of cheating – it may be his way of manipulating or gaslighting you.
So even if you genuinely love him, it’s a good sign that maybe you shouldn’t be together anymore.
7) He’s mum about the future
Virgo men like planning in advance. They’re all about talking about the future, especially if it’s with somebody they love.
Unfortunately, if your man has set his sights on someone new, then he won’t be as chatty about the future as he once did.
He may take a ticket to Paris next year – and not include you in the itinerary.
He may even decide to go to his best friend’s wedding next month as a stag.
He’s effectively disavowed you from his future – for he plans on spending it with someone else.
8) He disregards your opinions
Virgo men are people-pleasers – they want their partners to be just as happy and satisfied. They’ll always seek their opinion in everything, whether it’s getting a new job or a new car.
That said, things are likely over if he isn’t actively asking your opinions anymore.
You can try to give him a piece of your mind, but he’ll be quick to dismiss it.
It’s a sign that he’s detached from the relationship, mainly because he’s found someone new.
9) He’s constantly hanging out with a ‘smart’ girl
As previously established, Virgo men consider mentally-stimulating ladies as relationship Kryptonite.
When a Virgo man finds a girl who challenges him intellectually, he will be tempted to pursue her.
Should he find an opportunity to do so, he’ll quickly move in for the kill.
Suddenly, you find him hanging out with this smart girl after work – even on the weekends. It’s usually not obvious, and it’s often too late whenever the partner finds out.
10) He’s always with a damsel in distress
While Virgo’s desire to fix things is admirable, it often leads to infidelity.
As mentioned, the mutable sign is drawn to ladies who need their help or assistance, one way or another.
It’s why they’re drawn to ‘victimized’ signs such as Libra.
What starts as giving advice or comfort can lead to a full-blown affair. Virgo yearns to be needed, after all. Once they find this feeling in someone else, they’ll excitedly pursue it.
11) He spends more time with a female connected to the ‘sixth house’
In astrology, the sixth house refers to the house of mundane life. When you open it, you’ll find the portal to:
- Work and duty
- Community needs
- Daily routines
The sixth house is ruled by Virgo and its planet, Mercury. As a result, a Virgo man’s infidelity is more likely to occur with women associated with the sixth house.
In other words, he’s prone to cheat with:
- A co-worker
- The barista in his favorite coffee shop
- A co-gym member
12) He keeps on pointing out all your flaws
Meticulous Virgo men are driven by perfection. They quickly notice things, no matter how small.
They want everything to be in tip-top condition, relationships included.
Sure, they may point out problems every now and then. But if he’s bent on leaving you for someone new, he’ll take this criticism to a whole new level.
Suddenly, everything you’re doing is wrong. You haven’t changed a thing, but it seems like the way you cook food or wash his clothes is all wrong.
13) Sex has fizzled out
Virgo men are known to be hardworking, attentive lovers. While abstaining from sex is no problem with them, too much abstinence may be a sign that he’s having an affair.
As with most cheating men, your Virgo partner has directed his desire towards another girl. As such, he doesn’t like doing the deed with you as frequently anymore.
14) He tells you upfront
Virgo men are brutally honest. While some will consciously hide their affairs, some will throw in the towel and be over and done with it.
They won’t sugarcoat stuff – they’ll tell you upfront that they’re having an affair with someone else.
How to deal with an unfaithful Virgo man
Getting cheated upon is heart-wrenching and devastating. But if you want to heal fully – and save your relationship along the way – then you need to do these four things:
Get your facts straight
First and foremost, are you 100% sure that your Virgo man is cheating on you? If you want to keep the relationship afloat, you need to be certain that he does have an affair.
For one, Virgo men hate being accused of something that they didn’t do.
That said, it’s always good to ask questions – even if the answers will end up hurting you.
Sit down with him. Virgo men are good communicators, after all.
Add to that, Virgo men are brutally honest. As mentioned, they’ll be upfront about their affair when push comes to shove.
Don’t be vengeful
Yes, ‘hell hath no fury a woman scorned.’
More often than not, partners who get cheated on resort to revenge cheating – otherwise known as retaliatory infidelity.
For most, it’s a way to even the score with a partner – and make him understand what you feel.
Sadly, it only does more harm than good:
- It doesn’t even out things, for the bond between you and your Virgo man is already broken.
- It wouldn’t make him feel victimized. For him, it will only justify his affair. In fact, he may use it as leverage and continue cheating.
- It won’t make him feel what you feel. For him, It will only minimize the impact of his actions.
- It won’t teach him a lesson. It’s essentially telling him that you’re vindictive – and that’s pretty much it.
- It will encourage him to cheat again. You both did it, so why wouldn’t he do it again?
In other words, revenge cheating will only diminish the chances of getting back together. After all, it will only:
- Distract you from the actual relationship issues.
- Disengage you further from the relationship.
- Make you feel guilty.
- Damage your morals and well-being.
- Hurt more people.
Do some soul searching
While your Virgo man’s affair is his entire fault, is it possible that you also have a role to play?
Maybe you haven’t given him enough time or affection. Perhaps you haven’t communicated with him in his peculiar way.
That’s why it’s essential to do some soul searching yourself.
It’s all about “taking a step back, examining your life and yourself to replenish the soul.”
Simply put, soul searching allows you to:
- Examine your current situation.
- Calibrate your life trajectory.
- Get some well-deserved ‘me’ time.
- Learn more.
- Pay more attention to the family and friends you’ve ‘ignored’ along the way.
- Detox from social media.
- Meet new people – maybe even a new man?
Express your desire to work things out
Say you’ve taken the time you need for soul searching.
Add to that, you’ve given him the time he needs as well.
If at the end of the day, he’s still the person you yearn for, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t try to work things out.
As mentioned, Virgo men are good communicators. Talking to him and appealing to his good side may make him reconsider.
He may take you back – or he may not. It’s a chance you have to take.
The key here is forgiveness.
According to psychologist Kathy Belicki:
“The easiest path to both kinds of forgiveness that pour out from you towards the offender or the world is empathy: imagining why this person was the way they were.”
Virgo men are excellent partners, but they’re humans who are bound to cheat too. Such is the case if they find a woman who needs help – or someone who’s just as mentally stimulating.
As with any other relationship, it’s all about putting a lot of effort into the relationship. At the end of the day, it’s up to you and your Virgo man to work things out.
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