If you’re feeling anxious about your boyfriend potentially not forgiving you, this list will provide some comfort to conquer those fears.
It’s hard to think about the future sometimes, but if you can take a look at these 17 big signs that your boyfriend will forgive you for whatever reason soon, it’ll help relieve tension.
Are you ready?
Let’s take a closer look.
1) When he returns your texts
Hit or miss, it might happen one day or another that you receive a text from your boyfriend that simply says: “You’re forgiven.”
It’s also possible that he just asks how you’re doing without further explanation.
When this happens, it’s a sign that he’s not only forgiving you but is often saying so because he wants to see you before everything continues as usual.
2) He is expressing concern
Your boyfriend allowing you to speak your mind about him is a good sign that he’s not only willing but worried about how you feel about the relationship.
Make sure that he knows how much you care about him and that your relationship is important to you enough to convince him that you’re worth a second chance.
3) He tells you not to worry about what happened in the past
If he’s starting to tell you not to worry about what happened in the past, then it’s just a good sign that he has the potential of forgiving you.
In other words, don’t be concerned if he tells you this — instead, feel encouraged by it because it means that things might be working out in your favor soon.
4) He knows he made mistakes too
If your boyfriend is aware that he has done things wrong in the past, then he’ll probably also be able to forgive you for something that makes him nervous or uneasy.
He knows he may have pushed you away and has been hard on you, so if you let him know that you can see his point of view and are willing to forgive, he’ll be willing to do the same for you.
5) He has the courage to talk about what happened
If your boyfriend has the courage to talk about what happened, then it’s a strong sign that he’ll eventually forgive you.
It takes a certain sort of person to put their feelings out there and deal with you again after you have hurt them in the past.
If he can communicate his feelings to you, then the two of you should be able to work things out — especially if the two of you want to give things another shot.
6) He eases your anxiety
Let’s face it:
If he’s going to forgive you, he will ease your anxiety.
Maybe not directly, but you will see it in his actions.
But I know the anxiety can be difficult to handle on your own.
Trust me, I know what you’re going through — with the anxiety that he will never forgive you — because last year, my relationship was seemingly reaching a dead end too.
I’m talking do-not-resuscitate. Over and out.
I was ready to walk away, but before I did that, I realized I needed to focus on myself first.
So, I tried this self-healing meditation.
I had low expectations because I never really believed in meditating (I actually thought it was pseudo-science), but I was pleasantly surprised when it actually worked.
The affirmations eased my anxiety, and I was able to let go of my worries and focus on the things my partner does that actually shows that he’s going to forgive me.
7) He knows that he is lucky to have you
If your boyfriend knows that he is lucky to have you in his life and still wants to work through the problems, then it’s a good sign that you’ll be able to work it out.
He’s not just trying to convince himself that he wants to stay with you, but also is convincing himself why it’s worth it and will do everything he can to make sure that you’re happy.
8) You’re making progress
There are many issues that take some time to resolve, so it’s important for your boyfriend to see that you’re trying to make corrections in your actions and feelings.
If he sees you making progress, he’ll know that at least you’re listening to him and are willing to change.
9) He is expressing his emotions
If he is taking the time to express himself and working with you on getting past the issues, it has a big chance means he wants things to work out again and is going to do everything in his power to make sure they do.
10) He can’t stop talking about the things you did when they were in love
If he’s constantly talking about feelings from the past when things were perfectly fine between the two of you, there are no guarantees that everything will be fine once again.
He keeps in contact with you
If your boyfriend has kept in contact with you since he broke up with you, then it’s a pretty good sign that he will eventually forgive you.
He might talk to his friends about what happened or send you little texts here and there, but if he’s still talking to you, it’ll be easier for you to reconcile.
11) He has mentioned getting back together in the future
If your boyfriend has mentioned that he will eventually want to get back together with you, then there’s a good chance that he will forgive you.
This can happen if he knows that even if you’ve made mistakes in the past, that doesn’t mean the relationship is beyond mending.
As long as you’re both willing to put in the effort, it will work out in the end.
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12) He is willing to reach out for help when you need it
If your boyfriend is willing to reach out for help when you need it, then it’s a good sign that the two of you might be getting back together.
He might appear to have gotten over you, but if he is happy to offer help, then he will also be willing to forgive you.
13) He asks about what happened and what you’re doing now
Your boyfriend might want to know more about what you did, why you did it and what you’re doing now in order to get a better understanding of your life.
It doesn’t show that he is over the relationship or not, or that he’s dwelling on what happened, but instead that he’s trying to learn from the experience and move on.
14) He no longer gets mad at you for past mistakes
If your boyfriend is no longer mad at you for past mistakes, then that’s a great sign that he’ll eventually forgive you.
After going through one of the worst experiences of their life, it makes sense that he would want to try to put things behind him and move on in order for them to be successful moving forward.
15) He makes jokes about the breakup and can laugh about it now
If your boyfriend can make jokes about being broken up with, then it’s pretty clear that he will eventually forgive you.
He might only be able to laugh about it now because he is already moved on and there is no point in being upset anymore.
16) He starts looking for you again
If your boyfriend starts to look for you again after he is broken up with you, then it is a strong sign that he will eventually forgive you.
He might want to spend some time thinking about things on his own, but once he has reached that point, then the natural next step will be to start looking for you again — and that’s when the two of you can try to reconcile.
17) He says he can’t live without you now that things are over
If your boyfriend says that he can’t live without you now that things are over, then he will likely forgive you.
He might need some time to think about whether or not he still misses his ex, but once he does that and realizes that he does miss her, the two of you might be able to go back to being together indefinitely.
Do guys forgive easily?
Men are known for being difficult. Especially when it comes to relationships, they can be completely indifferent or unreasonably competitive. But do they ever forgive?
A lot of people might assume that men don’t forgive easily, but the truth is that it can depend on the situation.
For example, when someone’s betrayed them in some way, they may feel a lot of trauma and distrust.
However, if you explain what happened and apologize sincerely enough times, he will probably start to get over it. It all really depends on how much he values your friendship/relationship!
Sometimes, he might also get upset about small things, especially if you’ve had an ongoing argument for a long time. But that’s just because he’s looking for some sort of resolution.
I think it’s easier to forgive if the person genuinely wants to apologize.
However, if you are just pretending to apologize so you can escape from something or move on with your life, that’s when it becomes difficult for a guy to forgive.
How do I make it up to him after hurting him?
If you’ve just hurt someone close to you, it’s important for you to take the necessary steps to make it up to him.
Not only does this show that you care about his feelings, but also that what he said or did wasn’t bothering or hurting your feelings in any way.
Whether this person is your partner, friend, or family member – who ever has been hurt by something that you have done – there are many ways for a simple apology not to be enough.
Although an apology is an easy and effective way to make up for what you have done, it’s not always enough. The person that you hurt might want more to help them feel better.
The truth is:
We all know that it can be difficult for a man to forgive. It’s difficult but not impossible, especially if you’re willing to take action and do the work.
Here are some things that may help make it easier for him to forgive you.
Before you even think about saying anything, it’s important for you to be aware of the reason why this person is upset with you.
While keeping in mind that a minor issue wouldn’t warrant much of an apology, someone who has been hurt might be more inclined to hear if it was a big deal before they started their complaint.
If you have made a serious issue out of it, then you should take it more seriously and make sure to really express your feelings.
It’s also important for you to make sure that your actions match what you are saying.
You should show them that you are taking their feelings into consideration as well as showing them that your words meant a lot to you.
Your behavior, your appearance, and the way you act can all affect a people’s opinion of what they offer to believe.
Before approaching this person, it’s important to think about the problem first.
What is the problem, who is the problem, and how do you feel about this person.
If he were inconsiderate or wouldn’t listen to anything that you had to say, then it’s important that you really express about you understand how hurtful and upsetting this was for him.
This can be accomplished through a big gesture or just an ordinary everyday one.
Making a complaint
Feelings are heavily connected to the human body, thus if you want to calm someone down and make them feel better, then this is the best way to allow them to complain about it.
Showing a person you care about how he feels and what you have done to upset him or said by putting himself out there will accomplish this.
You can also tell how you feel, it’s important to let the person know how sorry you are about what has happened. This can be accomplished by just using simple words such as “I’m sorry,” but with a gesture that shows that you really mean it.
You could hug them, show them your concern in a physical way, or just show that they are important to you.
What makes up an apology can be different for each person and should be viewed as unique depending on the situation.
Although everyone might want something different when it comes to an apology, the most important thing is that you tell them how you feel and that you understand how they feel.
There might be times when it’s not just a simple apology that will be enough, so spend some time thinking about what they really want to hear and then make the necessary changes to make them happy again.
A lot of guys have trouble forgiving because they feel as though it’s a sign of weakness.
The truth is, there is nothing weak about forgiving someone you love. This isn’t about what’s right or wrong, this is about forgiveness and sometimes that requires letting go of the things that hurt you the most.
There’s something to be said for fighting for what you want and not giving up. But if your partner hasn’t forgiven you then it’s time to look at yourself and decide if the fight is worth it.
Because once you paint a new picture about what your life together could be like, you could end up creating the relationship you’ve always dreamt of.
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