10 reasons your ex-boyfriend still wants to sleep with you (and what it means for you!)

So you want to know why your ex-boyfriend still wants to sleep with you?

It’s a hard pill to swallow, but it’s not uncommon for ex-boyfriends to still want to sleep with their ex-girlfriends and the other way around.

While it may be confusing if your ex-boyfriend still wants to sleep with you, it’s also understandable.

Let’s be real. There is nothing wrong with sleeping with your ex-boyfriend if you both want to.

But… it’s only normal to want to know why your ex-boyfriend still wants to sleep with you after he dumped you or you dumped him.

Listen: I can give you 10 reasons why your ex-boyfriend still wants to sleep with you.

Let’s jump right in!

1) He feels comfortable with you and knows what you like

The first reason your ex still wants to sleep with you could be that you are familiar.

Simply put, he already knows what to expect from having sex with you. In addition, he also knows what you like and he doesn’t have to put on an impressive performance for you.

You know how to please him, too, so he doesn’t have to go through the hassle of telling someone else about his naughty preferences.

If an ex-boyfriend asks you to hook up after he dumps you, it’s because there are a lot of advantages in it for him.

What does this mean for you?

Can I be totally honest with you? This reason means nothing for you.

Your ex-boyfriend is selfish and he takes the best decision for him. You meet his sexual needs and you save him the emotional and mental effort needed to be with someone else.

If it’s any consolation, it also means that he’s still physically attracted to you.

2) He knows you are available

He just broke up with you so, he knows that there isn’t someone else in your life already.

Who knows, maybe he wants to keep you close until he finds someone else. In fact, this is already a thing and it is called monkey-branching.

But, more about that later.

Your ex-boyfriend could see nothing wrong with getting down and dirty with you once in a while, especially if you broke up on amicable terms.

If you’re not with someone, and he’s not involved either, why not get together, right?

Wrong!

What does this mean for you?

In case you want this guy back into your life for good, you still have a chance because he didn’t find anyone else yet.

There’s a new theory in the relationship world that’s causing quite a stir – it’s called the hero instinct.

Coined by relationship expert James Bauer, this fascinating concept finally explains how men really think and feel in relationships.

And it’s something most women have never even heard of.

According to James Bauer, men don’t actually need a lot to feel content in their relationships. To most people’s surprise, it has nothing to do with sex.

You see, men have innate drivers. These are natural responses that they’re not even aware of. But when a woman comes along and triggers them, it causes a powerful response.

The result is a man who loves harder, commits wholeheartedly, and truly dedicates himself to the relationship.

So, how can you trigger your ex-boyfriend’s hero instinct?

Well, you certainly don’t need to act like a damsel in distress or buy him a cape. It’s quite simple, actually.

All you have to do is give your man certain signals that make him feel needed in the relationship. These allow him to step to the plate and feel fulfilled in his role as your partner.

And these signals are revealed in this simple and genuine video by James Bauer.

The truth is, once you understand how the hero instinct works, there’s no telling what heights your relationship can reach.

So if you want to give your ex-boyfriend what he truly wants from you, make sure to check out James Bauer’s excellent video. In it, he reveals the exact texts and phrases you can use straight away.

Here’s a link to the free video again.

3) He gets drunk and booty calls you

What does a man typically do after a breakup? He goes bar hopping and drinks a couple of beers to get over everything.

(Or a couple of glasses of wine, whiskey, or vodka.)

A few drinks can make him do silly things like booty calling you.

As you probably know, drunk people don’t really have control over their actions. They don’t really think about what they’re doing or saying.

So, if your ex-boyfriend booty calls you while drunk, it’s because he wants to express his desire to sleep with you and nothing more.

What does this mean for you?

If you’ve ever been drunk yourself, you know that it can make you do regrettable things.

Whatever you’re thinking at that time may sound like a good idea, but it almost always proves to be a bad one.

Well, this is exactly what happened to your ex. He didn’t make a rational decision about you. He just acted based on his instincts and his desires at that moment.

So, don’t take his actions seriously. Being drunk is a poor excuse for bad behavior and flaky decisions.

4) He doesn’t have better options

Your ex-boyfriend may be in a situation where he doesn’t have any other options except you.

His life as a free man might not be going as he hoped, and he has no success with other women.

He either didn’t find anyone better or he lost interest in those who did attract him. So, he turned to you because he knows you can meet his needs.

What does this mean for you?

Well, it depends on the situation. Let’s assume that your ex-boyfriend broke up with you due to a lack of interest in the relationship.

He may have dumped you because he was bored with the relationship or because he felt that it wasn’t going anywhere.

But, this doesn’t mean the sex wasn’t great.

If this is the reason your ex-boyfriend still wants to have sex with you, you should expect him to stop as soon as he finds another woman to spark his interest.

5) He needs some sort of closure

Why would your ex-boyfriend still desire you sexually after breaking up?

Perhaps unsurprisingly, your ex-partner could need closure.

He may not know how to deal with the breakup himself, and that’s why he may think that getting intimate with you one more time will magically fix things.

Although this reason might not make too much sense to you, it is as real as possible. Your ex could be lying to himself thinking he can’t get over you unless you have sex one last time.

What does this mean for you?

Your boyfriend isn’t exactly at peace with your breakup, so you have a chance to change his mind if you’d like.

I mentioned this fascinating concept earlier: the hero instinct.

When a man’s inner hero is triggered, he’s more likely to want to commit to you, not get closure. Just by knowing the right things to say to him, you’ll open a part of him that no woman has ever reached before.

And the easiest way to do so is by watching this free video by James Bauer. In it, he’ll reveal simple phrases and texts you can use to make your man truly yours.

Here’s a link to the excellent video again.

6) He wants to keep you close until…

The brutal truth is that some men do something called monkey-branching.

Monkey-branching is the term used to refer to a man who starts seeing someone new before he completely breaks things off with his other girlfriend.

In other words, he may want to keep you close until he finds another girlfriend he wants to commit to.

Most of the time, if an ex-boyfriend does that, it means he sleeps with both his ex-girlfriend and his current love interest.

If this is your ex, he might be asking you to hook up even if he already dates another woman because he isn’t sure about her yet.

He just doesn’t want you completely out of his life yet, and he wants to keep a slight connection with you before letting you go completely.

What does this mean for you?

If your ex-boyfriend wants to keep you around just in case until he finds someone else, you should definitely not play along.

Men who resort to monkey-branching are clearly the type of people you want to avoid.

Furthermore, you need to get over the idea of getting back together with him. At this point, his techniques shouldn’t work on you.

7) He wants to see if he can win you back

Another reason your ex-boyfriend may want to sleep with you is that he’s trying to win you back.

This scenario usually happens if he’s still interested in you, but isn’t sure of your feelings for him.

Many men believe that if your desire for them is as strong as they think it is, you’ll change your mind and come back to them.

So, if your ex-boyfriend wants to see if he can win you back, it could be because he actually still has feelings for you and needs to know whether they’re real or not.

What does this mean for you?

You have to have a great deal of self-control if your ex is trying to win you back. It is a very tricky situation, especially when he wants to be intimate again.

However, it’s really hard to tell if he wants to win you back unless he does/says nice things too, not just sex-related.

On the other hand, you should always listen to your intuition about a man who’s trying to sleep with you.

If you feel that things aren’t right, then he may not actually want to be with you. In fact, he could be asking you for sex for hedonistic reasons only.

8) He wants you to be friends with benefits

While some ex-boyfriends are genuinely interested in getting their ex-girlfriends back and they don’t know how other than asking for sex, other ex-boyfriends still want their ex-girlfriends in their lives, but as friends with benefits.

Being friends with benefits means that you two are friends who often sleep together; no strings attached.

So, by asking you to have sex, he’s asking you to be friends with benefits even though he wants to find a new girlfriend.

What does this mean for you?

Being friends with benefits is the kind of relationship that you should definitely avoid (unless you’re happy with that arrangement yourself).

Men who are only interested in having sex with you are emotionally unavailable and extremely selfish.

If your ex-boyfriend wants to be your friend with benefits, it means that he still needs to feel desired and wanted by you despite the breakup. It also means that he’s happy with getting less from you.

9) He’s feeling insecure

Now that you’re no longer there to tell him he’s handsome and hot, at least once in a while, your ex-boyfriend has become insecure.

He could also feel insecure because he didn’t have much success with other women. So, it’s only natural for him to feel less confident than before.

Therefore, what he needs now is reassurance from you. That’s why he wants to sleep with you, even if you’ve broken up.

Because he needs someone to feed his ego; someone who he knows is for real; that someone is you.

What does this mean for you?

Well, if your ex is insecure, you shouldn’t care. You are not responsible for making him feel good anymore.

You deserve to be with a man that meets your needs and makes you happy!

This simple, yet surprisingly difficult advice, is something I learned from relationship expert Amy North.

If you haven’t heard of Amy before, she’s a dynamic, engaging YouTube star that’s so easy to listen to. And she’s just released a brand new video with an incredibly easy solution for getting the man of your dreams.

Deep down, you know you deserve a man who loves you with all his heart, fully commits to you, and gives his all to your relationship.

Are you ready to make it happen?

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10) Sex is all he ever wanted from you

Let’s face it: maybe sex was all he ever wanted from you to begin with, but he was afraid to tell you.

Numerous relationships are built on initial attraction, but sex can’t fix everything. Not even great sex!

So, he might want to go to bed with you even after breaking up, because that’s what he wanted from the first second he saw you.

What does this mean for you?

In a way, you should feel flattered. A guy tried to get involved in a relationship with you just because he thought you were really appealing.

While this is not a good enough reason for a man to commit to a woman, it could’ve been his.

Even so, the fact that you two didn’t get along has nothing to do with your personality. It’s just a matter of compatibility.

Should you sleep with your ex-boyfriend if you want him back?

Relationship psychologists say that you should not sleep with your ex-boyfriend if you want him back.

Why? Because having sex is not a good enough reason for your ex-boyfriend to want to get back together with you.

In fact, it could make him feel less attached to you and you could have to try even harder to win him back. You being available for his sexual needs will not improve your worth as a woman.

So, if you think that sleeping with your ex-boyfriend will bring him back to you, think again!

Is sleeping with your ex-boyfriend normal?

I can’t tell you whether sleeping with your ex-boyfriend is normal or not.

But, I can tell you this:

Nearly 44% of 1000 people admitted they had had sex with an ex, out of which 14% attempted reconciliation, according to this survey.

Surprisingly enough, the reasons listed by them also included revenge.

Fair warning: Your ex-boyfriend might want to get revenge.

So, is sleeping with your ex-boyfriend normal? You’ll have to decide for yourself.

Final thoughts

I touched on the hero instinct earlier – it’s the perfect remedy for the situation you’re facing.

Why?

Because once your ex-boyfriend’s hero instinct is triggered, he’ll not only want to sleep with you, but he’ll want you back. You’ll reach a part of him that no woman has ever managed to reach before.

And in return, he’ll be compelled to commit to you and love you like he’s never loved another woman.

So if you’re ready to take that plunge and reach new heights in your relationship, make sure to check out relationship expert James Bauer’s invaluable advice.

Click here to watch the excellent free video.