It takes guys an average of eight weeks to miss you, but why?
Is it because they are more committed to the relationship? The sex?
Or is it just easier because they don’t have a lot of materialistic things to hold on to in the first place?
Discover 15 reasons why it takes 8 weeks for guys to miss their ex.
1) They are afraid to show vulnerability.
Women are more likely to admit they miss their ex. They will also tell you that they “love” their ex.
Men aren’t as likely to do this because it is seen as a weakness and vulnerability.
As we know, guys don’t have a lot of experience with relationships, so they follow the lead of their friend group.
Guys who have a bunch of female friends who act like it’s no big deal when they break up with them will usually do the same.
Girls are allowed to be emotional and get angry, but if guys act that way then they’re being “whiny” and “too sensitive”.
They refuse to let themselves show any vulnerability because it would make them appear weak. They would rather follow the crowd.
2) They don’t realize how much they miss you.
Sometimes guys are in love with the idea of being in a relationship but it isn’t actually what they want.
They want to be with you because of all the good stuff you bring them, but over time they realize that wanting to be with someone isn’t as important as not being alone.
This can lead them to start missing you, but only if they are willing to fight for what he wants rather than doing whatever he thinks is cool.
Being single and spending most of the time with girls can reinforce feelings for your ex.
Most guys say that they “miss” their ex, but they don’t want to talk about it even though it’s often in the forefront of their minds.
They think that admitting they miss someone makes them look weak and clingy, but the truth is that you can miss someone without being “clingy”.
If he is already so judgmental towards women, then why would he admit he misses the person? He would rather pretend it didn’t happen.
3) They don’t try to
Guys miss their ex-girlfriends for one of two reasons, either because they want to or because they don’t try.
Trying to get over an ex will always make it harder than if you just let go quietly.
It’s easier for a guy if he doesn’t want to get over his ex.
He may not have even realized he wanted to get back together with his ex until she was gone.
The very act of trying is already creating friction and making it harder on him.
It gives him more time to obsess about her, instead of forgetting her and moving on and healing himself in the process.
This is why a guy who is still hung up on his ex won’t ask her out or call her for a date–he’s afraid of being rejected.
She’s better off without him if he can’t get over his pride and reach out to her.
A quiet break-up may be the best move so he can focus on getting over his ex and not obsess about her.
4) They’re waiting for her to contact them
It can take a guy up to 8 weeks (or even longer) for him to miss his ex because he’s waiting for her to contact him first.
Not reaching out shows that he’s confident and doesn’t need her approval or attention to feel good about himself, even if it hurts at first.
Some guys are just like this. It’s only when he feels rejected and ignored that he gets insecure and starts to feel sorry for himself.
The best way for him to get over his ex is to stop hanging on to her, being a downer, and wait for her to be the one who reaches out first.
He shouldn’t try to get over his ex by telling himself that she’s moving on with someone else or is getting over him.
He should give up trying to get back together with her and move on with his life.
5) They’re not ready for forever
Not realizing that you love someone is the biggest reason why guys miss their ex.
It’s almost always the case that they’ll realize they don’t want to be without the person they are missing after a while, but it doesn’t mean they’re ready for forever!
This is where men often fail in relationships.
They will say something stupid like, “I guess I know now that I can’t live without her,” but this assumes that she exists in some special way and he will never find someone else like her.
He knows that he loved her, but it’s not enough to make him commit or commit his life to a woman.
6) The relationship wasn’t that good in the first place.
Another reason why it takes guys 8 weeks to miss their ex is that they never really wanted to be in a relationship with them in the first place.
If they had a really good relationship with them, then they wouldn’t want to get over them.
They may still be upset that the relationship ended, but they probably won’t be missing their ex because they didn’t want to be in the relationship in the first place.
They think he could get over it faster than they could, but he’s just being like the girl because he doesn’t want to feel bad about it.
If the relationship was good but then it ended, then he probably doesn’t have this self-inflicted guilt about being in a relationship that never truly worked out.
What they don’t realize is that guys don’t need to feel this way, either.
7) Because he’s still thinking about her.
You don’t just stop thinking about your ex-girlfriend. You can forget her hobbies and the little details that she’s kept hidden from you, yet you still have a picture of her in your head.
You continue to think about how great it was between you two and how wonderful it would be if she were with you again.
You think about how much fun you had together and how amazing things used to be before all of the fightings started. You continue to think about her smile, her eyes, the way she says your name.
I’m not saying that you don’t stop thinking about her. Of course, you do. Unfortunately, there’s no way to stop the thoughts from continuing to enter your mind.
You can’t stop yourself from thinking about the great times that you spent together and what it would be like if she were back in your life again.
And then it hits you. You miss her.
8) Because he doesn’t know how else to get over her.
When you’re in the middle of dealing with a broken relationship, you have no idea what to do next.
You don’t know how to get over her and move on with your life. All you know is the present and how much it sucks without her in your life.
You can’t find the answer to the question, ” What do I do now? “, and you have no idea how to get back on your feet.
You may try to fill the void of loneliness in your heart with other girls and by hanging out with your friends.
But at night, when you’re all alone in your room and you’re staring at the ceiling, it all seems like a waste of time.
You don’t see how any of that could help you forget about her. And then you finally accepted the fact that you miss her.
9) Because he’s afraid of moving on.
You don’t want to move on because you’re afraid of getting hurt again. You don’t want to give another girl a chance because you’re afraid that things will end up just as badly as they did the first time around.
You don’t want to get your heart broken again and so you decide not to put yourself in a position where it could happen again.
Even though you want to get over your ex-girlfriend, you’re afraid that it’s the wrong thing to do.
If you let her go, she may never come back and you’ll regret losing her forever. You don’t want to end up alone and without a girlfriend.
There are other girls out there, but you’re so afraid of getting hurt that you think it’s better to just avoid them altogether. It’s easier not to deal with that pain.
It might take weeks for you to think about her again.
10) Because he believes his lies.
He’ll think about her more than he’ll admit. He may try to convince himself that he already moved on and no longer have feelings for her, but it’s all a lie.
There are a lot of lies that guys tell themselves to avoid getting hurt again. You’re lying to yourself all the time and you don’t realize how much pain this is causing.
Guys will believe their own lies and start thinking that they’re stronger than they are.
They’ll think, “Hey, I can handle this.” They don’t like to admit that they’re as vulnerable as you are and they’re just as scared of being hurt again.
Instead of facing the pain in their heart, guys will pretend that nothing is bothering them at all.
They’ll act like they’re stronger than they are and they’ll never admit to the pain in their hearts. They won’t be able to see all of the pain that they’re in, but it’s all there.
11) Because he doesn’t want to face his feelings and move on with his life.
He’s in denial. Just like you are every time you think about her, he doesn’t want to admit it and let himself feel the pain.
He doesn’t want to admit that his heart is still attached to her and that he still has feelings for her. He doesn’t want to feel afraid and uncertain again, but that’s exactly how he feels.
He’s hiding behind his pride and pretending like everything’s okay. He pretends like he’s moved on when he hasn’t.
He’ll just look at you and act like everything is fine when in reality, it isn’t.
12) Because he’s afraid to start over with someone new.
There are other women out there and he’s afraid of getting close to them. He might have feelings for you, but he keeps himself away because he’s afraid that you’ll end up the same way his ex-girlfriend did.
He doesn’t want to get close to anyone else and forget about all the bittersweet memories that he has with his ex-girlfriend.
He doesn’t want to be hurt again and lose yet another girl that he cares about.
13) Because he doesn’t want to face the truth.
He’s afraid to admit that he still has feelings for her and he’s just so stubborn and proud that he doesn’t want to move on with his life.
He thinks that he’s stronger than he is, but it isn’t true.
He pretends like his feelings don’t matter much anymore, but they do.
He hates her for breaking up with him, but deep down inside, he still feels like there might be a chance to make things right again. It’s making him nervous, but he’s not sure how to deal with it.
14) He’s taking his time to figure out if you are the right person for him.
For the most part, guys are logical thinkers. They need to have a reason for doing something, and they like to understand everything about it.
When it comes to love, guys don’t realize that they miss you because they need time to figure out if you are the right person for them. If you love him, you’ll want to tell him how you feel about him.
When a guy loves a girl, he starts to think about her more and he wants to be near her all the time. He wants to be with her more than anything and he wants to take care of her…but he doesn’t know if you’re the right girl for him.
He might love you, but he doesn’t want to throw himself into a situation where he might end up getting hurt again.
He’s afraid that you’ll leave him because if you do, he’ll never get over it.
He’s willing to take his time and figure out whether or not it’s the right thing for him to do.
15) Because he’s still trying to get over her.
He might have finally let his feelings for her go, but it doesn’t mean that he’s totally over her. You’re just one of many girls that he’s been with and he was just using you to forget about her. He wasn’t really in love with you, he was using you to move on with his life.
Guys think that having a girlfriend will move them on and make them forget about their ex-girlfriend, but they’re wrong. Guys never forget about their ex-girlfriends, they just move on with their lives.
Just because he’s with you doesn’t mean that he’s over her. He still has feelings for her and you’re just the next girl that he’s with…to make him forget about his ex-girlfriend.
16) Because he wants to see if she still feels the same about him as before.
He’s going to talk to her and see her again. She’s always been his true love and he never wants to stop loving her.
But he has to see if she still loves him too. He can’t wait for the time to come when he’ll be able to tell her that he’s sorry again and that he feels bad about how things ended up with him.
It might be hard for him, but it won’t be long before she starts ignoring his calls again.
He wants her back, but she doesn’t feel the same way about him anymore. He’s just going to have to see what happens next.
So that’s it, guys! Hope you enjoyed it!
After you read this article, you should be able to understand why guys will act in such a weird manner and make irrational decisions that are impossible for them to make.
They’re just afraid of getting hurt and they don’t want to face the truth; they want to live in denial.
They’ll realize that they still have feelings for you and that they’re still in love with you. Most of us don’t realize this and we just brush it aside like it doesn’t matter.
Then, when the two of you both agree on this, you can go forward with your relationship.
Don’t let anyone push you away and don’t let a past relationship ruin your future happiness.
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