What do you do when you first start to like someone? You go all in!
We all know the drill: when we like someone, we start to talk a lot.
But what if the person you like doesn’t reciprocate your feelings?
Let’s be honest. Guys go quiet when they like you. It’s not a bad thing, per se, but it can be a bit alarming. Why? Because it means they may be interested in you!
But how do you know if they’re really interested? And what do you do if they don’t show interest?
Here are 10 reasons why guys go quiet when they like you – and what to do about it.
10 possible reasons why guys go quiet when they like you
1) He doesn’t know what to say
Want to know one sure thing about romantic relationships?
It begins with a feeling of uncertainty. We don’t know what to say, so we try to avoid eye contact while we think of something to say.
It’s a good thing to be cautious! It signals that you’re being thoughtful and considerate towards the person you like. Why?
Because when you first like someone, it can be hard to work out what to say. You might think that you need to fill the silence with something witty, but this can just make them think you’re boring.
And this is the exact reason why he seems quiet around you. But guess what?
The problem is, this is the wrong way to go about it. But you should understand that he just doesn’t know what to say and how to grab your attention.
So the best thing to do is just talk. You don’t need to be funny or clever – just talk about random things!
And if you want him to reciprocate your feelings, then make sure that he knows exactly how you feel about him. Let him know as soon as possible. Don’t wait until he’s made a move – that’s when it’s too late.
2) He’s too shy
Strictly speaking, it’s totally normal for guys to be quiet around girls they like. And you know what?
If a guy likes you, he’ll feel the need to talk about it with his friends – but surprisingly, sometimes he doesn’t want to talk about it with you! When he talks about himself and his feelings, he will often talk about himself and his feelings.
And also, his shyness might make you feel uncomfortable. In particular, you may feel that it’s too soon to say anything back.
When this happens, it’s just a case of him being nervous and unsure of himself. It’s not because he doesn’t like you – it’s just that he doesn’t know what to say.
But don’t worry! This is all good news for you! It means he actually likes you! He doesn’t know what to say, but he still wants to be with you anyway.
And that’s okay! Because that’s how guys are. They don’t always like to talk about their feelings with other people. But you can help him overcome this shyness by giving him a little push—a little nudge if you will.
3) He thinks it’s too soon to talk about feelings
Can I be totally honest with you?
First of all, you should know that it’s totally normal for guys to be quiet around someone they like. It happens to everyone!
But one thing you can do is playfully remind him that he likes you – this will make him more comfortable around you, and it will make him want to open up.
For example: “I was thinking… you’re quiet today. I’m going to assume that means something good. ” Or, “Hey, are you okay? You seem a little distant today.” Or, “Hey! You’re not going out with your friends again tonight, are you?” And so on.
Why am I saying this?
Because it’s a great way to get him to tell you what he’s thinking. And even if you think that it’s a bit of strange advice, actually, it’s not.
4) He thinks it’s too early for dating
We all know the feeling of being attracted to someone: butterflies in your stomach, a slight tightening of the chest, and a dry mouth.
But there’s only one problem: you’re not sure if he feels the same way about you!
You know he likes you, but he’s not ready to do anything about it yet. He might be waiting until the right time comes along.
And that can be a problem—especially if you want him to commit to something more serious. It can be hard to know what to do when a guy is waiting for the right time before committing to anything. And what if it never comes? What if he never commits?
Well, it’s not just you who’s feeling anxious. He might be too. He might be waiting for the right moment to commit to you.
But that is totally okay! It can happen to any guy at any time. And it doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you – or that he doesn’t want to date you! It just means he’s waiting for the right time, and that’s why he’s being silent.
5) He doesn’t trust himself
This is a big one. It’s the biggest reason why guys don’t want to talk about their feelings with you.
But if you’re a girl who likes guys, you know that there’s nothing worse than a guy who doesn’t trust his own feelings.
When he doesn’t trust himself, he can’t be sure of what he wants. He can’t be sure of what he feels and what he needs.
In short, when he doesn’t trust his own feelings, it makes him feel that everything is uncertain and unpredictable. And that’s just not how life works! Everything in life is predictable and certain—that’s why it works!
But if you’re in a relationship with someone who cares about you and wants to commit to you, then you can trust that he cares about you.
And if he doesn’t trust himself, it’s because of something that happened in the past that made him afraid of trusting his own feelings.
The first thing to do is to help him overcome his fears, and then he will be able to talk with you about what he’s feeling—and what he needs from you. And that’s really important!
6) He feels like he can’t control things
I know that relationship problems can make us feel powerless, but we need to remember that men are just as powerless as we are.
We may be in charge of making our own decisions and controlling how we feel, but men aren’t in charge of anything. They don’t have the power to control what other people think or say about them.
Surprisingly enough, guys often feel like they can’t control how things turn out. And that can lead to Silence of the Lambs-like feelings of helplessness and hopelessness.
But they do have the power to change the way they feel inside, and that’s why it’s important for them to learn how to control their feelings.
The hardest part is getting a guy to face his fears and confront the things he’s afraid of. But once he does that, then he’ll be able to stop blaming himself for his bad moods and start taking control of his life.
7) He’s not sure how to tell you how much he likes you
Ever had the feeling that he doesn’t know how to start a conversation?
Maybe he thinks talking about feelings is a difficult thing to do, and that he’s not sure how to do it?
Well, you are right. It’s not easy to talk with someone about feelings. But it doesn’t have to be so hard.
If you’re like most girls, then you know that it takes time for a guy to start talking about his feelings. And that’s why most guys don’t feel comfortable talking about their feelings—because they aren’t sure how to start the conversation!
Now let’s face it: not everybody is good at starting conversations. I mean, we all have bad days when we can’t think of anything clever or funny to say!
But if he really likes you, then he will learn how to start a conversation with you. And he’ll do it in the right way and with the right words to make you feel special.
8) He feels like he’s not good enough for you
That’s right! This is a big problem for most women, but guys have their own worries and insecurities, too.
After all, they’re the ones who are supposed to be the “manly” ones! They have to be strong, confident, and ready to protect the women they love.
But sometimes they feel like they’re not good enough for someone as beautiful as you. So they might hold back and try to make sure that nothing bad happens between you two.
This is a common problem, especially when a guy has been hurt in the past by a girl who didn’t treat him well or was too needy. Unfortunately, most men don’t know how to handle this type of problem.
Here’s the thing: you can’t control other people! You can’t make them love you or treat you well. All you can do is be yourself and show your man that you want to be with him.
If he feels like he’s not good enough for you, then make sure that he knows that he really is good enough for you. And make sure that he knows what it is that makes him special to you.
9) He doesn’t trust women enough to share his feelings
Ever noticed how he tries to hide his feelings? Or how he gets upset when you ask him how he’s doing?
Guys are afraid that women will think that they’re not capable of handling their feelings, so they try to hide them. But that only makes things worse because guys don’t know how to express their feelings in a way that makes sense for them.
So instead of telling you his concerns and letting you help him work through the issue, he just keeps it all bottled up inside. And then he ends up feeling even more frustrated and overwhelmed than before.
The problem is that guys feel like they’re supposed to be strong and confident, so they try to keep everything bottled up inside.
This only makes them feel more depressed and helpless.
10) He’s afraid that you’ll leave him if he tells you how he feels
This is another big problem for guys.
After all, a guy wants to be able to protect his women and make sure that nothing bad happens to them. So he’ll try his best to ignore any signs that there might be something wrong with the relationship.
The problem is when guys don’t share their feelings with their partners, they end up feeling like they’re not good enough for them.
And then they’ll try even harder to make sure nothing bad happens between them.
So they just keep bottling up their feelings and trying not to show any signs of being upset or frustrated with their partners. And this only makes things worse.
6 things to do when guys go quiet
Again, the simple truth is that guys go quiet when they like you.
It’s natural to be attracted to someone we like, and it can be hard not to speak up when we feel like we have something to say.
However, there are a few things you can do to help your guy friend remain silent:
1) Listen carefully and communicate with him
When it comes to communication, men are usually better at looking than listening. This is most apparent in the way that men typically communicate.
In person, we tend to look for things to talk about rather than listen to them. By taking the time to listen to and understand what he has to say, you’ll be able to better communicate with him in a clear and concise way.
2) Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you don’t understand something
Guys like to give advice, and it can be helpful to ask for their opinion on something before you try and figure out the answer yourself. Why?
Because they think that by giving good advice, they’re helping other people and making themselves look great. But the truth is that most of the time, these guys just want your money.
3) Let him know how much you appreciate his support
It’s not always easy for guys to express their feelings, especially when they don’t know how to do it right.
So let him know that you appreciate him taking time out of his day to talk with you and being there for you when you need someone to talk with.
When he’s feeling upset or frustrated, it can be a lot easier for him to express his feelings if he knows that you understand and are there for him.
4) Be patient
Sometimes, despite your best efforts, he may not be able to express his feelings.
It’s important to remember that not everyone is capable of expressing their feelings in the same way that you are.
Some people have a harder time communicating their emotions than others do.
And this can be hard for both you and him to deal with at times. But it’s also a good thing: because it means he really cares about you and wants to make sure that you’re okay.
5) Be honest with him
Just tell him the truth about how you feel. This can help him trust you more and communicate better in future conversations.
It’s important, to be honest with him about how you feel, even if it means telling him that you don’t like something.
When he knows the truth, he’s more likely to know how to communicate his feelings in a way that will make you happy.
6) Don’t be afraid to take action
Sometimes the best way to show your support is by doing something concrete, like supporting him or spending time together. Why so?
Well, supporting someone means showing your support in tangible ways, like contributing money or time. It can also include spending quality time with him, listening to his problems, and helping out where you can.
In simple words, this will show that you care about him and his happiness.
To sum it all up, guys might be quiet for a while when they’re shy, but they don’t need to be. When you take the time to understand their emotions and listen to them, you will make it easy for them to express their feelings.
He might not be able to express his feelings at first, but once he knows you understand him and are there for him, he will start opening up more and more.
And the best thing is that once you start communicating with him in a better way, it will become easier and easier for both of you.
So, take your time and be patient, and you’ll be surprised by how easy it is to communicate with him.
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