Have you ever hooked up with a guy just to have him act extremely weird afterward?
I know I have, and it can be a strange feeling. But I have some good news for you:
There are some reasons why guys act weird after hooking up and I will let you in on those secrets today:
1) He wanted a one-time thing
There are a number of reasons why men act weird after hooking up with you. One of the most common is that he wanted it to be a one-time thing.
This could mean he’s not interested in pursuing anything further, he doesn’t care about your feelings, or he just wants intimacy without any strings attached.
You see, many guys are like that, unfortunately.
The thing is unless you explicitly clarified it beforehand, there is really no reason for him to want more from your relationship.
When you hook up, it’s basically like a one-night stand.
He’s probably not interested in you as anything more than a fling.
Now: I know, that might not be what you wanted to hear, I get it.
However, the thing is, when you sleep with a guy without knowing his intentions first, then there is always a chance of him not wanting anything more serious.
Maybe he thinks you want more from this than he does, which is why he is acting weird now to get out of the situation.
Very mature, I know.
2) He is trying to figure out how he feels about you
It may be that you have been hooking up with this guy and he still hasn’t figured out how he feels about you.
While most guys will tell you they are not looking for anything, some of them actually do care about you and want to take things further.
So: a huge reason he might be acting weird is that he doesn’t know how he feels about you, yet, and until he knows for sure, he wants to be careful.
That’s why you shouldn’t take it personally if he acts weird around you after hooking up with him.
He might just need some time to figure things out and he may feel awkward in your presence until then.
Now the question is, do you want to be with someone who needs time to decide how he feels about you?
I know I don’t.
Of course, it’s totally understandable to need a little bit of time to figure out your feelings, but if he’s been acting weird for a while, I can promise you there are guys out there who would give anything to show you how they feel about you.
On that note:
3) He is trying to figure out how you feel about it all
Some guys might feel confused, weird, or awkward after hooking up with a girl.
He may be trying to figure out how you really feel about the situation. He might be wondering if you regret it.
So, the tables might have turned.
Do you think there is a chance that this guy is confused about where you stand in the whole situation?
Think about it: if he’s not sure about your feelings, he might be acting weird in an attempt to not look desperate or vulnerable.
They might not know if you regret it or not, which is why he’s acting weird and trying to figure things out.
He may be waiting for you to tell him what you want from him.
If that’s the case, it’s really up to you what you want to do.
Do you want to let him know how you feel? Or do you want him to step up and take responsibility?
There is no wrong or right answer here, it all depends on you and what you want to do.
4) You didn’t bring out his inner-hero (yet)
A huge reason why a guy might act weird after hooking up is that you didn’t bring out his inner hero yet.
I know it sounds weird, but let me explain:
There’s a new theory in the relationship world that’s causing quite a stir – it’s called the hero instinct.
Coined by relationship expert James Bauer, this fascinating concept finally explains how men really think and feel in relationships.
And it’s something most women have never even heard of.
According to James Bauer, men don’t actually need a lot to feel content in their relationships. In fact, what they need has nothing to do with sex.
Men have certain innate drivers. And when a woman comes along and triggers them, it causes a powerful response.
The result is a man who loves harder, commits wholeheartedly, and truly dedicates himself to the relationship.
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5) He is self-conscious because it didn’t go as he planned
It’s not uncommon for guys to be self-conscious after hooking up.
Guys are often a lot more invested in the actual act of sex than girls are.
You see, more often than not, guys can get really self-conscious if things didn’t go as planned.
Maybe he wanted it to be more romantic or more exciting, and now he is afraid of what you think of him.
No wonder he’s acting weird, right?
He might want to make things right, and he might be trying to figure out how to do that.
Or who knows, he may just need some time to think about it all and come up with a plan.
So, the question is: what do you want?
Are you still interested in pursuing things with him?
Maybe a little encouraging text like “I had fun the other night!” can loosen up the situation a little bit for both of you.
Or maybe you just want to talk about it and figure out exactly what went wrong.
6) He thinks you’re the one acting weird
If a guy hooks up with you and then acts weird, it could be because he thinks you’re the one acting weird.
Maybe you’re sending mixed signals or being too aggressive. It’s hard to read people, so he might not know what you want.
You see, guys are often confused by girls, they don’t always understand us very well.
Sometimes, that’s because they are just not sure what we mean by the things we say.
So, to avoid that, try being as clear as you can with him.
If he doesn’t understand, then maybe it’s a good idea to try things again another time in a more casual environment.
Or maybe you want to just move on, which is okay too. It’s not like he made a mistake or anything, right?
However, you can also take a closer look at yourself and figure out if maybe you are acting strange right now.
You see, sometimes we don’t notice it but subconsciously send out weird signals.
Maybe a part of you didn’t feel safe during the hookup or perhaps something else is going on.
Whatever it is, try to be introspective and figure it out.
7) He was only looking for something casual
You are both consenting adults. You had a good time.
A reason he’s acting weird is that he may have been looking for something casual, but he’ll probably want to keep his options open and not be tied down to just one girl.
I know, this is probably not what you want to hear when searching for this article, but it’s true.
Many guys act a bit weird in an attempt to stop you from developing feelings for them.
They don’t want to be tied down, they don’t want to get hurt, so they might act a little weird.
Of course, if he’s acting like this but asking you to hook up again, then it’s pretty obvious that he is looking for something casual like friends with benefits.
It means he’s interested in seeing you again, but not as a girlfriend.
In that case, you need to figure out if that is something you want. Not everybody is down for casual sex, and that is completely okay.
You should always make sure to do what feels right to you, nobody else.
8) He has been busy
It is natural for guys to sometimes be busy and not have time.
So, maybe the reason he has been acting weird is that he just genuinely has a lot on his plate.
Or maybe he’s just been too stressed to focus on you, so he’s been a little more distant.
Either way, it’s okay. A guy can be busy but still be interested in you.
Now: there is a catch here, though.
Although it’s perfectly normal to get busy sometimes, a guy who really cares about you will make you a priority.
That means, although he’s super busy, he will let you know why and will propose a different day to hang out again.
You see, when a man is interested in you, he will leave no room for doubt in your mind.
He will be consistent and clear with what he wants.
So, if you’ve been confused for a while now, it might be better to move on to someone who doesn’t leave you wondering where you stand in his life.
I mentioned this fascinating concept earlier: the hero instinct. When a man’s inner hero is triggered, he’s more likely to commit to you.
Just by knowing the right things to say to him, you’ll open a part of him that no woman has ever reached before.
And the best way to do so is by watching this free video by James Bauer. In it, he’ll reveal simple phrases and texts you can use to make your man truly yours.
9) He is afraid of vulnerability
The fear of getting hurt is a very human feeling, and it’s not just a girl thing.
In fact, I would say that guys are even more afraid of vulnerability than girls.
It’s normal to feel some level of insecurity after a new experience with someone.
Guys don’t always know how to communicate their thoughts and feelings so they end up acting weird in order to avoid vulnerability.
You see, when you’ve been hurt in the past, vulnerability can be the most terrifying thing ever.
That’s why a lot of guys will try to avoid it at all costs.
But the truth is, that vulnerability is powerful, and it can build a strong connection between two people.
It’s the only way to truly know if someone cares about you, so if you’re not willing to open up and be vulnerable, it’s probably better to move on.
10) He is afraid of commitment
Another reason for him acting weird is that he could be afraid of commitment.
Hooking up with a girl can lead to feelings that are hard for him to handle and he is not ready for a relationship yet.
There are some guys out there who just don’t want to commit at all.
Maybe they have been hurt in the past or they aren’t ready yet.
In any case, they might be looking for something casual like friends with benefits instead of trying to get serious with someone.
If that is the case, it doesn’t matter who you are, what you look like, or how amazing you are – he will be afraid to commit.
Don’t take it personally, but also don’t settle for this.
If you want commitment, there are men out there who will commit to you in a heartbeat, so don’t settle for someone who won’t.
11) He is seeing other people
One of the reasons why guys act weird after hooking up is that they are seeing other people.
When a guy starts seeing someone new, he will often get nervous.
It’s because he wants to keep his options open and be able to date as many women as possible.
Of course, this doesn’t apply to every guy.
In fact, there are plenty of guys who want to commit to one person.
However, there are also some that are seeing other people and they don’t want you to find out about that.
If that’s the case, it’s not uncommon for him to be acting a bit weird from time to time.
Maybe he’s hiding his other relationships or hookups from you.
Do you suspect that? Then it might be better to move on to someone who is more honest with you.
What do you think is the reason?
You’ve heard lots of reasons for guys acting weird after hooking up.
Do you have any idea of what might be the reason for your particular situation?
The good news is that if you want things to go further, there is a solution.
I touched on the hero instinct earlier – it’s the perfect remedy for the situation you’re facing.
Because once a man’s hero instinct is triggered, he’ll only have eyes for you. You’ll reach a part of him that no woman has ever managed to reach before.
And in return, he’ll be compelled to commit to you and love you like he’s never loved another woman.
So if you’re ready to take that plunge and reach new heights in your relationship, make sure to check out relationship expert James Bauer’s invaluable advice.
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