Guys are more likely to open up and tell you personal things about themselves when they feel comfortable and safe with you.
But are there other reasons why guys tell you personal things about themselves?
We will find out today:
1) They feel safe with you
Every human wants to be safe and feel secure.
In a relationship, you want to feel secure and safe in sharing your feelings with your partner.
If a guy feels that he can’t open up to you and share his deepest feelings, then there’s a problem in the relationship.
We are all human, and we all have emotions.
We can’t just keep them inside and bottle them up. We need a place to share them and let them out.
For a guy to open up about his feelings, he needs to feel safe with you.
There are many reasons why guys don’t open up to you, but the main one is that they don’t feel safe with you.
You see, men often grow up in our society thinking they have to be strong and emotionless.
This is the root of the problem, and it’s something that needs to be addressed.
If a guy doesn’t feel that he can share his deepest feelings with you, then there’s a problem in the relationship.
So how do you fix this?
Well, there is probably something that doesn’t make him feel safe, maybe you haven’t known him for a long time or you didn’t know he had these feelings.
Or maybe you have a bad habit, like saying or doing something that makes him feel uncomfortable or unsafe.
So what can you do?
You need to be honest and make an effort to understand him.
The good news?
If he does open up to you, it can indicate that he feels very safe with you, which is a good sign!
2) To test the waters
No one can ever be sure of how another person will react to a certain situation.
That’s why when you are dating someone, it’s only normal to test the waters every now and then.
Through testing, you try to figure out what the other person thinks and feels about certain things.
You try to see how they think and react to different situations.
You test the waters when you tell someone a personal story or you share a personal detail about yourself.
You do this to see how they react. You want to see how they will respond to your story.
You want to figure out how they feel about the situation that happened to you.
If a guy opens up about personal things to you, then he is probably not feeling very safe with you.
This is because he might be afraid that you will judge him. He might be afraid of how you will respond to his story. Or, he is simply testing the waters of whether or not he can trust you.
So what can you do?
You need to make an effort to understand him and make him feel safe by telling him, “I don’t mind if you tell me your stories” or “I don’t mind if you tell me about yourself.”
When a guy is testing the waters, that’s a pretty good sign that he really likes you, and he wants you to pass those tests.
His personal stories might be embarrassing or something that he doesn’t want to tell anyone, but he feels comfortable with you, so he tells you.
3) Because they like you
If a guy opens up to you on a first or second date, or even before the first date, then it’s because he likes you.
This is a very big sign that he is falling for you.
He is letting his walls down and lowering his guard.
He is revealing intimate details about himself because he likes you and he likes you a lot.
Not every guy will open up to you because not every guy likes you.
Some guys are shy and others are just natural introverts who don’t open up with just anyone.
It’s normal to have one or two dates with a guy and not open up to him.
You see, some guys might not open up for weeks or even months, and it doesn’t necessarily mean they don’t like you, they might just be a bit warier.
But if a guy opens up to you after just one or two dates, then it’s definitely a good sign because it means that he likes you.
Think about it: why else would he open up to someone he barely knows and share personal details with them?
It’s not because he wants to hook up. He’s not trying to sleep with you.
He is trying to show you that he likes you and that he is feeling comfortable enough to open up a little bit.
How do you know when a guy likes you?
I’m sure many of you have been in this situation: You have just met a guy at the bar, and after meeting him, he won’t stop talking to you.
He won’t shut up, and it’s frustrating because it makes no sense! He barely knows you! How can he like you so much?
Well, you must have had quite the effect on him!
As a rule of thumb, if a guy likes you, you won’t be confused. He will make it clear that he likes you and his intentions will also be clear from the start.
If you are guessing and confused, there’s a good chance he doesn’t really like you.
4) So that there are no surprises later on
A guy could open up to you about how he broke his leg when he was 12 or how his parents divorced when he was 10.
He could also tell you about scenes from his past that are still vivid in his memory.
While all these stories may not mean anything at first, they can reveal some things about that guy that you might otherwise never know.
You may have wondered if men open up because they want to find out some things about you.
This can be a reason why guys tell you personal details about their past.
However, sometimes they also do it so that there are no surprises later on.
They do it so that you don’t have any secrets between you two.
Maybe they do it so that you are both totally honest with each other and there are no secrets or surprises between you two.
Some things can really shape a person, especially childhood experiences.
If he opens up about something traumatic that happened to him as a child, he might do so in an attempt to show you that there are still some things he is struggling with.
It’s a good thing, it means that you won’t be surprised by it later on.
5) They want to bond with you
The two most important things for a successful relationship are trust and intimacy.
You want to be trusting of your partner and you want to be intimate with your partner.
A guy who opens up to you about his past is showing you that he trusts you and that he wants to bond with you.
He wants to get really close to you and he wants to share his deepest and darkest secrets with you.
He wants to bond with you and open up to you.
And the best part?
He wants to share his feelings with you and be emotionally vulnerable with you.
He doesn’t want to hold back. He wants to let you know everything about him. He wants you to know every single detail of his life.
This is great, especially if you reciprocate the feeling.
You see, sharing personal information and details can be a great way to bond with someone.
It shows that you are close and that you care about him.
If he opens up to you, he wants to bond with you. He wants to be intimate with you and he wants to trust you.
You have got to reciprocate this feeling by sharing your deepest secrets too.
6) They want to know you better
A guy who opens up to you is definitely trying to get to know you better.
He is trying to find out more about you. He is trying to discover your likes and dislikes.
In other words, he is trying to find out what makes you tick.
You can use these opportunities to ask him questions about himself too.
You can ask him questions about the things that he has shared with you.
You can ask him questions about the things that he keeps to himself.
You can ask him questions about the things that don’t make sense to you.
He will appreciate your interest in him and the fact that you want to know him better.
When a guy shares personal things with you, he often does so in an attempt to also find out more about you.
They believe that when they open up to you and are vulnerable, that will make you more comfortable to open up, too.
If you reciprocate this feeling and are interested in him, he will be willing to open up even more.
7) They tell you just to show off
Something that a lot of guys do is to show off.
They want to impress you and show you just how great they are.
They want you to think highly of them and they want you to see them in a very positive light.
These guys want you to think that they are amazing and wonderful guys.
They want you to think that they are not just good guys, but they are the best guys ever.
Simply put, they will open up to you and tell you personal things just to show off.
They want you to think that they are great and that they have had many wonderful experiences and they want to seem interesting and special to you.
Some guys want to make sure that you are attracted to them and that you like them.
Guys who do this don’t really care about you or what you experienced. All they care about is impressing you and making you think that they are great.
You see, when a guy tells you personal things to show off, you will know immediately.
The boasting tone of his voice and just his entire attitude will let you know right away that he is doing this just to impress you.
He is trying to show off just how great and wonderful he is.
8) They want to find out if you are the right person for them
Sometimes guys open up to you because they want to know if you are the right person for them.
They may have been dating someone for a long time, but they want to know if you are the right person for them.
You see, by sharing personal details, they are gauging your reaction to their stories and want to see if you find them funny or if you have a completely different reaction.
They want to see if you are going to think that they are funny or if you find their stories interesting.
They want you to find them interesting, but they also want to see how you react when they tell you personal things about themselves.
They want to make sure that you are interested in them, but they also want to see if you are even the right fit for them.
Personal stories can be the perfect way to gauge that – are you interested, offended, find it funny, or think it’s stupid? All these reactions can tell them a lot about you as a person!
9) They want to find out if you are trustworthy
It’s important to be trustworthy. It’s important to know that your partner will never betray you. It’s important to know that your partner will always be there for you no matter what.
You see, it’s important to know if the person you’re dating is someone you can trust.
It’s important to know if the person you’re dating is someone who will never betray you.
The person you’re dating should always be there for you no matter what.
Do you know a guy who is opening up to you but hasn’t really told you any personal things about his past?
This could mean that he wants to know if you are trustworthy.
Guys who do this don’t want to know if you are the right person for them. They just want to know if you are trustworthy.
Once they trust you enough and believe that you are worthy of their trust, they will open up even more and begin to tell you personal stories.
10) They want to sleep with you
Sometimes, when a guy opens up to you, he may only want one thing: to sleep with you.
When a guy opens up to you out of the blue, be wary, especially if it’s a random guy you don’t know very well, yet.
Sometimes, men fabricate stories about their past to seem vulnerable, just to then sleep with you.
I know that this is a horrible thing to think about, but it’s true.
When a guy opens up to you, he may only want one thing: to sleep with you.
You see, when a guy gets what he wants by opening up (or even just blatantly lying), he will do it again and again, so watch out for those guys!
It’s hard to tell
In reality, it’s really hard to tell why a guy might be sharing personal things with you, but most likely it is for a positive reason – he likes you and either wants to learn more about you or find out if you are truly a good match for him.
Sure, there are some outliers who will use this to manipulate you into having sex with them, but those are just a few among the many, so before jumping to conclusions, it’s probably a good sign.
If you like the guy, too, then there is nothing standing in your way of being with him.
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