It’s always a struggle when you’re trying to get a guy to text you back, especially after he ignored your last message.
He’s either playing games or he just doesn’t want to text you.
Before you respond, stop and think about the situation.
Why is he ignoring you? Has he done this before?
Here are 12 no-nonsense tips for when he texts after ignoring you:
13 no-nonsense tips for when he texts after ignoring you
1) Consider why he ignored you in the first place
In my experience, it can be quite a challenge to understand why a guy isn’t texting you. But doing so can help ensure that you respond appropriately.
Did he give you a reason for not getting back to you before?
Or is he acting like everything is normal?
Did you two get into an argument before he ghosted you?
Do you think you might have said something that offended him? Is he angry with you?
Did he lose interest or find someone else?
Or is he just playing hard to get?
If he didn’t provide a reason and ignored you without any plausible explanation, then you don’t have to respond.
Your silence will communicate that you’re not willing to participate in this kind of game anymore.
2) How long has he been ignoring you?
If he didn’t reply to you for one day, this is a completely reasonable amount of time so please, don’t be dramatic.
I know that you want to hear back from him as soon as you press “send” but the reality is that that’s not always possible. People don’t normally sit around with their phones in hand waiting for a text from the person they’re dating.
There are plenty of reasons why he couldn’t reply the same day:
- Maybe he didn’t see the message.
- Maybe his phone battery died.
- Or he might have been in the middle of doing something important and wanted to reply but was unable to.
If he got back to you the next day, then I’d say that there’s no reason to be upset.
However, if he doesn’t respond to you in days or even weeks, then that’s a whole other story.
The bottom line is that he needs to have a pretty good reason for ignoring you for so long.
3) Show him that you need him
Have you considered that maybe the reason that he ignored your texts was that he felt like you didn’t need him in your life?
I know it’s 2022 and that women are independent and don’t really need a man to do things for them, but the thing is, guys need you to need them.
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4) Is he breadcrumbing you?
If you’ve never heard of breadcrumbing, don’t worry, I only found out what it means recently.
In truth, if a guy is breadcrumbing you, it means that he’s giving you just enough attention to keep you interested without really making an effort or, god forbid, committing to anything.
Guys usually do this when they want to keep their options open.
They’ll be pretty casual and keep the conversation going until they get distracted or busy with other things.
What does that mean for you?
It means he doesn’t like you enough to give you the attention and respect that you deserve, but he doesn’t want to write you off completely, either.
Basically, he wants to have you as an option in case he gets bored or lonely.
5) Don’t be too quick to reply
You don’t want to appear too eager or desperate. If he has ignored your texts for days or even weeks and finally decides to write back, don’t reply immediately.
Let him ask himself, “Is she going to text me back? Is she mad at me?”
Now, obviously, if he has a good excuse for not texting you (like he was in the hospital or something) then you shouldn’t wait to text him back.
Think about how you want to respond and take your time.
Make sure that you don’t reply while you’re feeling angry and hurt because you might say something that you’ll regret later, or you’ll end up pushing him even further away.
Take some time to compose yourself and when you do reply, be civil.
Write something like, “Oh, haven’t heard from you in a while.” or “What a pleasant surprise…”
6) Don’t revenge ignore him either
Unless you want to end the relationship and ignore him forever, don’t ignore him as a form of revenge.
It’s petty and childish.
If his behavior makes you mad, then you need to communicate your feelings (when you are calm and collected your thoughts). Tell him how shi**y his ignoring made you feel.
If you ignore him back, it won’t make your relationship any better and might just complicate things and cause a rift between you.
7) Make him worship you
And he’ll never ignore your texts again!
Now, if you think that he’s ignoring your texts because he’s afraid of commitment, then you have to make him worship you.
I learned this from one of the leading experts on male psychology – Michael Fiore. He explains what men really want from relationships.
In his free video, Michael reveals why most men struggle to settle down with one woman, and how to overcome this barrier using simple but surprisingly effective techniques.
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8) Convey your limits to him
Now, if he’s been ignoring you for a day or two, there’s no need to convey anything.
But if he’s been ignoring you for weeks and you feel pretty terrible about it, you need to tell him.
Explain to him that you have your limits and that you will not tolerate such hurtful and disrespectful behavior.
You need to express yourself in a calm, cool state of mind.
Don’t write any reply while being hurt, wanting to take revenge, or feeling desperate.
Don’t threaten him or act like you’re about to go crazy – that won’t solve anything.
Tell him that you’re happy to go on with your life without him, no hard feelings.
9) Think about your behavior
Is there something that you did or keep doing that’s making him ignore your texts?
This can be a tough one because you’ll be dealing with some heavy emotions. It’s not always easy to look in the mirror and be honest about what you see.
Now, if this guy is someone that you want to keep on dating, then you need to see if there’s something that you’re doing that’s pushing him away.
It’s actually good news if you’re the reason he’s ignoring your texts.
You see, if you can pinpoint what you said to upset him or identify an annoying habit that could be making him take a step back, then it means that you can fix things!
The ball is in your court.
10) Give him some space
Maybe things have been moving pretty fast and the guy just needs some breathing space.
When you started dating, you were pretty excited and you talked all the time. You probably made plans almost every day.
Maybe things got too serious too fast.
Sometimes people really need some space to unwind and think about what they want. Don’t push him.
Give it some time before texting again. Let him come to you.
11) Consider confronting him about it
If you want to confront him and tell him how much he hurt you by ignoring you, it’s best not to do it over the phone.
Instead, ask him to meet you in a coffee shop or somewhere, then bring it up.
I know it’s not easy, I too have trouble confronting people sometimes. But if this guy means a lot to you and you can’t get over the hurt he’s caused, then you really should talk to him about it.
Try not to attack him but rather, tell him how his behavior made you feel.
You have every reason to be mad at him, even so, you need to understand that maybe there’s a reason for his behavior. Hear him out. Give him a chance to explain.
Perhaps he was in a bad mood, or upset about something else? Maybe something serious happened that interfered with his whole life.
Or maybe he’s just “not into” you anymore.
Either he’ll feel bad and apologize and promise to mend his ways, or he’ll fail to see that he did anything wrong. Whatever the case, you’ll be able to move on.
12) Ask yourself if he’s the guy for you
Before you get too emotionally invested and start over-analyzing the fact that he’s ignoring you, ask yourself: Do I even care? Is he the guy for me?
It’s a fair question.
I mean, if he’s been ignoring you for weeks then there’s a pretty good chance that he doesn’t feel too strongly about you.
It might be time to cut your losses and move on.
13) Don’t beat yourself up
If he’s breadcrumbing you or he’s not interested in being in a relationship, don’t beat yourself up about it.
He may not see how special you are but there is someone else out there who will, so don’t let it affect your self-worth. And anyway, what’s so special about him?
Don’t sit around at home feeling sorry for yourself.
Instead, call your friends and go out. Have some fun. Forget about your phone and the guy who ignored your texts for so long.
Put yourself out there and meet new people.
Maybe it didn’t work out with this guy but there are plenty of fish in the sea so don’t despair!
How long should I wait to text him back after he ignored me?
First, make sure you’re ready to communicate with him again. It could take a day or several days.
It really all depends on why he ignored you in the first place.
Also, consider how long he ignored you for.
Like I mentioned earlier, if he didn’t get back to you until the next day, then you shouldn’t get too upset. There’s usually a good reason for that.
See what he says about not getting back to you sooner. Take an hour or two tops to reply.
However, if he’s been ignoring you for days or even weeks, then he might have been pulling away for a reason. Did he lose interest? Did you do something to upset or annoy him?
In this case, you want to take your time to figure out what’s going on before you reply.
Feel free to take a couple of days to see how you feel and what you want to say.
This way you’ll show him that he can’t just waltz in and out of your life as he pleases, he needs to respect your feelings.
Lastly, ask yourself if you have a reason to answer him.
If he’s been ignoring you for weeks and now he’s texting you out of the blue because he’s bored or is looking for a booty call, then maybe you don’t need to text him back.
And the bottom line?
It’s pretty clear that he doesn’t care about you and why would you want to give him the satisfaction of knowing that you’re still interested in him?
Should you pick up when he calls after ghosting you?
Don’t pick up immediately!
Don’t be too eager.
Wait for him to call a few more times.
Or let it go to voicemail and listen to the message.
He’ll say something like, “Hey, it’s me. I know you’re mad but…” Wait for him to give you an explanation!
It’s really not cool of him to ignore you for so long, so you really don’t owe it to him to pick up immediately.
When you do pick up, be calm. Don’t get into a fight. Don’t ask him why he’s been ghosting you. Be cool as a cucumber and let him do the talking.
Hopefully, the guy will be respectful and apologize.
What’s more, it’s a good idea to be the one to end the conversation.
Hear him out and tell him that you have to attend to something and that you’ll talk another time.
And if you feel like he didn’t give you a good enough reason for ignoring you and you want to end things, just tell him that you’re not interested anymore. Be honest but don’t be mean to him either.
You can say something like: “I’m sorry but I just can’t see myself dating someone who doesn’t care enough about my feelings to bother replying to my texts.”
Being ignored by a guy you like sucks.
But, if you want him to fall madly in love with you and never ignore another text from you, I have just the solution.
I touched on the hero instinct earlier – it’s the perfect remedy for the situation you’re facing.
Because once a man’s hero instinct is triggered, he’ll only have eyes for you. You’ll reach a part of him that no woman has ever managed to reach before.
And in return, he’ll be compelled to commit to you and love you like he’s never loved another woman.
So if you’re ready to take that plunge and reach new heights in your relationship, make sure to check out relationship expert James Bauer’s invaluable advice.
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