Have you ever been confused by a guy’s seemingly harmless shoulder touch?
It seems so insignificant, but it’s almost instinctual to wonder what it means when a guy touches your shoulder. Is it something more than just a casual greeting?
Let’s take a look at some surprising things it means when a guy touches your shoulder.
Let’s jump right in!
1) It’s just a friendly greeting.
If you’ve ever seen a colleague or friend greet you with a shoulder touch, it’s likely just a friendly gesture.
Sorry to disappoint you!
If you’re a woman and you’ve been greeted with a shoulder touch by a man, it might be a sign that he’s interested in getting to know you as a friend.
Men who initiate this type of physical contact are often interested in getting to know women with whom they feel comfortable.
It’s possible that he doesn’t have a lot of female friends and wants to make you a part of his inner circle.
Or, there could be more to it…
2) He’s staking his claim.
When a man touches your shoulder, it could mean that he has a romantic interest in you.
If he initiates the touch when you’re in a group setting with other people, he might be trying to stake his claim.
He could be letting other men know that you’re his girl. If he touches you when you’re by yourself, however, it could mean that he’s interested in pursuing you.
A guy who touches your shoulder when you’re by yourself might be trying to let you know that he has romantic feelings for you.
He might be longing for a romantic relationship with you and want to tell you that he’s interested in pursuing a relationship with you.
If he touches your shoulder and then looks you in the eye, he might be trying to let you know that he has feelings for you without scaring you off.
3) His hero instinct has been triggered.
Picture the scenario, you’re out at a party and things start to go south. A fight breaks out and there you are, drink in hand, in the middle of all this nonsense.
Then from out of nowhere, a guy comes over and places his hand on your shoulder.
This is a gesture that he’s trying to protect you because he doesn’t want you to get hurt.
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4) He wants to hook up with you.
If a guy initiates physical contact with you and then moves his hand down to your lower back or onto your waist, it’s possible that he wants to hook up with you.
It could be a sign that he has a romantic interest in you and is willing to go further with you.
So, how you react is up to you. If you’re not interested in hooking up with him, let him know that you’re not interested and tell him to get lost
But, if you’re keen on him, let him continue…
His shoulder touch will probably progress to some further touching. You might notice that his hand will start moving towards your lower back and waist which is a surefire sign that things are going to heat up.
5) He wants to test how you’ll react to his touch.
If a guy touches you and then quickly moves his hand away as if he has no idea what he was thinking, it could mean that he’s testing how you’ll react to his physical contact.
He might be trying to get a sense of how comfortable you are with him initiating contact with you.
He could be trying to find out if you’re the type of person who is easily offended.
I mentioned this fascinating concept earlier: the hero instinct. When a man’s inner hero is triggered, he’s more likely to be affectionate with you.
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6) He likes the feeling of your skin.
There are guys who really like the feeling of someone touching their skin and he might be craving your touch.
If a guy initiates a shoulder touch and then continues to hold your hand for a few seconds longer than he should, he might be longing for more contact.
He could be craving the sensation of your skin against his hand. If a guy touches your shoulder and then holds your hand for a few seconds longer than necessary, let him know that you’re ok with the contact.
You don’t want him to feel weird about the situation or like he did something wrong. If you let him know that you like the contact, he’ll likely be grateful.
7) He’s flat out flirting with you.
This is a no-brainer in terms of guy code!
If a man touches your shoulder and then holds his hand there, he’s likely flirting with you.
He might be trying to let you know that he’s interested in you and is hoping that you’re interested in him too.
If you’re interested in him and want to let him know that you like him too, you can either move your hand to his shoulder or touch his hand.
If you move your hand to his shoulder, move it towards his face. This is a lovely gesture that will encourage him to pursue you more!
Also, your actions let him know that you’re interested in him. Why not be bold and take it a step further! Grasp onto his hand and squeeze it gently and then watch the sparks fly!
8) He’s looking for a booty call.
If you’re not familiar with the term booty call, it basically means he wants to get into your pants.
If a guy touches your shoulder and then moves his hand down to your waist or lower back, it could mean that he has erotic feelings for you.
If he continues and moves his hand further down towards your bum he might be trying to hint that he’s interested in taking things further.
If you’re not interested in hooking up with him, politely move his hand away from your but and let him know that you’re not that type of girl.
His reaction will likely be one of disbelief and he’ll be heading for the hills in record time..
9) It’s a friendly gesture.
It’s possible that a guy touches your shoulder and then leaves his hand there as a friendly gesture.
Sorry to rain on your parade if you were hoping for more.
I mean sometimes there’s no need to overanalyze every situation.
If he’s a friend, he might be letting you know that he’s there for you and that he cares about you.
If he touches you and then moves his hand away quickly, he might be trying to show you that he’s friendly with you.
He might also be trying to show that he likes spending time with you and wants to remain friends.
But how do you move beyond the friendzone?
Let’s be honest about relationships
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10) It’s a cheeky move.
Some guys will do anything to cop a feel.
If a guy touches your shoulder and then lets his fingers run down towards the side of your breast, it could mean that he’s flirting with you.
He might be trying to let you know that he thinks you’re attractive and that he’s interested in pursuing a romantic or sexual relationship with you.
So depending on what you decide to do, the ball is in your court. If you’re into him, embrace it, if you’re not, slap him across the face and tell him his fortune.
11) Touching you was by accident.
If a guy touches your shoulder, it could be an accident. He might be trying to initiate friendly contact with you and then realizes what he’s doing.
It’s even possible that he is scared of offending you and wants to diffuse the situation. If he touches your shoulder and then quickly moves his hand away from you, it could be an accident.
He might be trying to send a signal that he’s not interested in anything more than friendship with you.
12) He has bragging rights.
Maybe he thinks that he’s just so irresistible that even your shoulder is an extension of his sexual prowess.
Did you notice how guys will put their arms around the girl they’re with?
They do this because it makes them feel more powerful like they are in control of the situation.
He might be enjoying being seen in public with a beautiful woman and he wants to make sure that others see him with you.
13) He’s just being chivalrous.
Some men were just raised right and are chivalrous and downright respectful.
If a guy touches your shoulder and then keeps his hand there, it could be a sign that he’s trying to show you that he’s chivalrous.
He might want to let you know that he wants to treat you with respect and doesn’t want to see you being treated badly or getting hurt.
He might want to let you know that he wants to be the protective big brother figure and is willing to step in if anything bad were to happen.
14) He wants to get to know you better.
If a guy touches your shoulder and then moves it down, he might be trying to get to know you better.
If you want to let him know that you’re interested in him, move your hand to his shoulder and then move it towards his hand.
If you want to make sure that he knows how you feel about the situation, you can tell him that it made a good impression on you.
15) He’s pranking you.
Some guys can be relentless pranksters so, if he touches your shoulder, you turn over and see no one there, and then the same thing happens again, he’s pranking you.
He might be trying to put you in a position where you feel uncomfortable so that he can goof off and have fun.
And let’s face it, some guys are just super immature and by pranking you he’s actually trying to let you know, albeit in a goofy way, that he likes you.
16) He’s trying to lock you in.
If a guy touches your shoulder and then moves it away from you quickly when you try to move it back towards him, he could be trying to lock you in by keeping your hand on his shoulder.
His hand is likely there because he wants to keep you from getting away and making a move on someone else.
This could be an attempt at disguising the fact that he wants to get physical with you. When you try to move his hand away, it sends a signal to him that you’re not satisfied with the way he’s touching you.
There are many things it means when a guy touches your shoulder. It could be a friendly gesture, a way to stake his claim, or a way to test your reaction to him.
It could also be a way for him to flirt with you or even a way for him to hint that he wants to hook up with you. Touch is an important way we communicate, so when a guy touches your shoulder, it indicates that he wants something from you.
Often, it’s a signal for friendship, but it can also mean more.
I touched on the hero instinct earlier – it’s the perfect remedy for the situation you’re facing.
Because once a man’s hero instinct is triggered, he’ll only have eyes for you. You’ll reach a part of him that no woman has ever managed to reach before.
And in return, he’ll be compelled to commit to you and love you like he’s never loved another woman.
So if you’re ready to take that plunge and reach new heights in your relationship, make sure to check out relationship expert James Bauer’s invaluable advice.
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