Whether it’s in the dating world, in a relationship, or from a complete stranger – most women encounter the words “you are perfect” at least once in their lifetimes.
But what does it actually mean? Is it a sweet compliment or a red flag in disguise?
Here are 15 things it means when a guy calls you perfect!
1) He is attracted to you
I know, you’re probably thinking “Duh!” right about now.
And to be fair, it is the most obvious and also the most common reason a guy will call you perfect.
That’s especially true when you’re around the same age and he generally shows you positive body language.
To find out if that’s the case, you can look out for other signs a man is attracted to you, like:
- Standing close to you when talking
- Holding eye contact with you
- Asking friends about you
- Straightening his posture when he sees you
- Adjusting his appearance (like fixing his hair) when he sees you
- Finding excuses to touch you
- Uncrossing his arms when you see him
- Asking you a lot of questions when you’re around other people
- Watching you anxiously while you talk to other guys
- Trying to be as close to you as possible
When a guy calls you perfect, chances are good that he is very attracted to you. Once you see at least one or more of the other characteristics, you can be very confident that he is.
2) He is curious how you will react
Some guys will actually call women perfect because they want to see their reaction.
Now: this behavior can have different underlying motives.
For example, he might be attracted to you and is curious whether or not you will react positively to his statement.
In that case, you will usually also notice the characteristics of being attracted to you that I just mentioned earlier!
3) There is something he wants from you
Yeah, I know, we don’t like being manipulated.
However, some men will use the phrase “You are perfect” for exactly that reason.
It is a nice thing to say to someone, and they might use that to try and make you feel like you owe them something.
To figure out if that’s the case for you, think about whether or not he has asked you for a favor, as well.
It’s a messed up thing to do, manipulating someone like this, but unfortunately, it is no seldom occurrence.
You might also notice that he only talks to you when he needs something.
4) He thinks of you as a perfect friend
Depending on how you feel about the guy in question, this might come as a disappointment, but sometimes, calling you perfect might also just refer to you as a friend.
Contrary to popular belief, this statement can throw you into the friend zone quicker than you can say “perfect”.
But don’t worry, if that’s the case for you, the statement is generally more something like “You’re such a perfect friend!”
The one good thing about communicating with guys is that when he wants to be just friends, he will usually make that very clear.
In my own experience, there is usually no room for doubt when he doesn’t like you “like that”.
5) He wants to be more than friends
Now, before things get confusing and complicated, yes, saying you’re perfect can also indicate he wants to be more than friends.
In those cases, he has probably been your friend for quite a while.
One day, he calls you perfect as an attempt to get himself out of the friend zone a little bit.
In case you might be asking yourself how you can tell, refer back to the signs of attraction I mentioned in the first paragraph.
Does he show any of those signs? Then chances are he wants to take things to the next level.
While some of those signs might also relate to a friend, pay special attention to how he reacts when you are around other men or talk about other men.
Signs of jealousy, defensiveness, or talking them down could carry a deeper meaning.
6) It’s just a thing he says to women
Guys have certain pick-up lines or phrases they use with lots of women to draw them in.
“You’re perfect” could potentially be one of them.
He might have realized that this particular phrase gets a good reaction from most women, so now it’s a thing he says naturally.
This one is a bit trickier to figure out, especially when you’re alone with him, but in case you notice him showing the same body language to other women as he does to you, he might just be a player.
7) He wants to make you feel better
Think back to when the guy in question told you that you’re perfect.
Turns out some guys use this phrase in an attempt to make you feel better if you were sad at the time.
Were you talking about something that made you feel down when he told you this?
Or maybe you weren’t even talking, but you were sad that day.
He might have noticed by your
- Watery eyes
- Blank stare
- Talking at a higher pitch
- Taking deep breaths or sighs often
Men want to protect people they care about and cheer them up when they feel down. Whether his care stems from platonic or romantic feelings is up to you to figure out.
8) He isn’t ready to admit he likes you just yet
The two of you might have been friends for a while and he’s always kind of liked you, but never got around to making you realize he sees you “that way”.
I’m sure you are asking yourself how you could possibly find out whether or not that’s the true reason behind him saying that.
Well, now is the time to pay attention and observe.
Are there other hints that he might like you?
How is his body language?
How does he treat you?
Does he ever flirt with you?
All these factors will help you determine how he perceives you and what he meant when he called you perfect.
9) He finally admits you’re the one for him
On the other hand, he might not be in denial at all and told you you’re perfect because he truly feels that way and admits to it.
It comes as no surprise that, again, you will need to observe his body language towards you.
Body language offers the most important clues when it comes to figuring out whether someone likes you.
And the good news?
If that is what he means, then you probably don’t need to guess a lot, it will be pretty obvious.
He won’t switch the topic right away but instead talk about all the things he likes about you.
So, if he compliments you a lot before and after saying that particular phrase, you can be pretty confident that he sees you as the one.
10) He is afraid of saying something else
Because the phrase “You’re perfect” can be hard to interpret (hence why you clicked on this article), it is also the perfect disguise of not saying something else.
By that I mean, that man is madly in love with you but gets cold feet whenever he tries to open up to you about his true feelings.
So, what does he do instead? He blurts out “You’re perfect!” followed by an abrupt end to the conversation.
Or, he might whisper it to you, when he truly wanted to admit his love to you.
You see, in his brain it makes sense – he is hoping that by calling you perfect you will realize he is also perfect for you.
Unfortunately, life doesn’t always work that way, but hey, if you feel the same, give the poor guy a hint!
11) He thinks you’re hot
While women deserve to be seen for more than their bodies, some men, unfortunately, didn’t get the message.
For them, calling a woman perfect might refer only to her body, stating that she has the perfect exterior in his eyes.
What you make of this is up to you.
Of course, you have the right to enjoy the attention and have a little fun, but if you feel uncomfortable by the idea that he only cares about your body, don’t feel bad about moving on.
For guys who think that way, you will often notice him being very flirty at all times, never really focussing on you as a person, and making every conversation have a double meaning.
12) He is putting you on a pedestal
Don’t get me wrong, being perceived as “perfect” by someone is more than flattering.
However, it can have a detrimental effect on relationships.
Here’s why: when one partner thinks of the other one as utterly flawless, they are ultimately putting them on a pedestal.
Not only will this be unhealthy, as they will turn a blind eye to their partner’s imperfections, but they will also idolize them to the point of no return.
What does that mean for you?
I’m sorry to break it to you, but nobody is perfect and everybody is bound to f*ck up eventually.
So, when your partner thinks of you as perfect and you inevitably mess up, his entire world will come crashing down.
Needless to say, that’s not a healthy prospect for a relationship!
13) He is referring to your lifestyle or work ethic
Sometimes, we interpret too much into a phrase.
You see, a guy saying you’re perfect can be taken out of context to mean all kinds of things.
In reality, depending on the context, he might just mean that your work ethic is perfect, or the way you live your life is.
Think about it: when did he call you perfect? Was it when you told him you get up at 5 every day to go on a run before work?
But wait, let me tell you something!
That doesn’t mean he automatically has no feelings for you whatsoever. Just that this particular phrase might have been directed at something other than what you expected.
14) It’s a prank
Now, to be fair, if you’re beyond the age of, let’s say, 14, this should not be an option, but you never know.
Some guys are jerks, there’s no doubt about it. And when they are especially mean, they might prank you into believing they have a crush on you.
In those cases, the phrase “You’re perfect” could just be a part of his ploy.
But as I said, don’t worry too much about this one, unless he is incredibly childish, chances are extremely slim that this is what he meant.
15) He truly thinks you are perfection
Simply put, a good reason he said “You’re perfect” is that he truly believes that you are perfection.
He loves the way you look, think, smile, walk, talk, express yourself, etc.
This is incredibly sweet, of course, as long as he realizes that there is no such thing as a perfect person.
What does this mean for you?
Well, if you wanna know whether he thinks of you as perfection, look out for different words he might use to say the same thing:
…You get the idea.
If he uses more than one way to call you perfect, he might actually believe that you are.
Listen to your gut
As with most things, the important takeaway here is that you should listen to your intuition.
It knows way more than you think and with a little observation, you will probably get to the bottom of what he truly meant when he said those words.
Chances are, he really likes you.
Make sure to think about his body language, what you were talking about when he said it, how he said it, and how your relationship generally is.
Taking all these things into consideration, you will know in no time what he is truly thinking.
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