Figuring out if a married man is attracted to you might seem like a hopeless task. However, even though men are difficult to understand, it is possible.
In this article, I’ll show you 15 ways a married man will act when he’s attracted to another woman.
Then I’ll let you decide for yourself if he is or not.
So what are the signs?
15 ways married men act when attracted to another woman
1) He turns on the charm
One way to tell if a married man is attracted to you is to gauge how charming he is when he’s around you. If you can tell that he turns on the charm whenever you come around, it’s a pretty big sign.
So keep an eye on his behavior. Does it seem like he smiles a lot around you, leans in closer? Or maybe when he notices you’re in the room he adjusts his hair, straightens his shirt, and so on.
These are all key signs that he’s turning on the charm. And when a married man is trying to be charming, it’s because he’s attracted to you.
There’s a lot of interpersonal dynamics that go on at work. If you’re wondering how to tell if a guy likes you, here’s a great article that goes through 15 signs he does.
2) He’s more comfortable when it’s just you two
When it’s just the two of you, a married man is going to be more comfortable expressing himself and the way he really feels.
He won’t feel the pressure of prying eyes as he shows interest in you, flirts with you, or tries to be his best, most charming self.
In other words, there’s a lot less to worry about when it’s just the two of you. He doesn’t have to stress about rumors or judgy people wondering why a married man is talking to another woman.
Further, when he’s interested in you, he likes spending time with you. If it’s just you and him, there’s less distraction, less interruption, and he can put all his focus and attention on you.
Here are some big signs a man is sexually attracted to you.
3) He looks for excuses to be closer to you
Whether it’s rushing to sit next to you, or just leaning in while you’re talking, a married man who’s attracted to you is going to look for any and all excuses to get closer to you.
Can you blame him? He thinks you’re gorgeous, and he’s addicted to your presence. He can’t help but want to be as near as he can.
Of course, if it’s making you uncomfortable in any way, don’t be afraid to say something, avoid him, or take necessary steps to remedy the situation.
In social settings, do you notice him gravitating your way? Can you tell that he doesn’t like it when there are people between you and him? He may be just fine talking to other people from a distance, but when talks to you, he wants to be close.
These are the kinds of clues to keep an eye out for. If you notice that he’s always looking for ways to get closer to you, it’s a sign that he’s really attracted to you.
4) The teasing and flirting
When a married man is attracted to another woman, he won’t be able to help but tease her and flirt with her. Whatever manner of flirting is most comfortable for him, he’ll be doing it.
It may seem a bit awkward, or he may be kind of shy about it, but there’s a strong desire to act on his attraction. Since he’s married, it’s unlikely he’s spent a lot of his time flirting and trying to attract the interest of another woman (unless, of course, he’s a womanizer).
For the most part, a married man who’s attracted to another woman is going to act pretty similar to a man who isn’t married. There might be small differences, but by and large, there’s going to be a lot of crossovers.
In other words, he’s going to flirt with you if he’s attracted to you. And, just like most guys who are interested in a girl, he’s likely to tease you a little bit too.
He’ll be playful and maybe a little inappropriate with his words, pushing that line in an effort to make you blush, feel pretty, and intrigued with him.
He’s trying to get your attention, and he’s going to act accordingly. Seems like maybe he’s got your attention, too, considering you’re reading this article.
5) Check the body language
The body language a guy gives off will give you a good clue as to how he’s feeling on the inside. In fact, body language is an indicator of a lot of things, and if you learn how to read it, you’ll better learn how to communicate with people.
Here are some body language giveaways that someone has a crush on you.
He’ll lean in when you speak. His feet will always be pointed towards you. He might not be able to help smiling any time you’re talking. He’s going to make a lot of eye contact. Or, he’ll always look away, abashed. He might put his hand on your arm, or touch your knee.
These kinds of body movements will give away his true feelings.
Once you learn to tune into his body language, you’ll be able to gather enough information to figure out if he’s attracted to you or not.
And here’s the thing: it doesn’t matter whether he’s married or not, his body language will be the same. Desire will always be displayed in the body.
6) He’s interested in your love life
If a married man is asking you about your love life, it could be because he’s attracted to you. It could be that he wants to figure out if you’re taken, single, heartbroken, or something else.
Why else would he want to know, if not because he’s attracted to you?
He may not be available, but that doesn’t stop him from fantasizing and imagining a relationship with you. It’s hard for him to act otherwise, he wants you.
Of course, he could just be gregarious and looking for good conversation. However, if you pair what you know about body language, as well as these other signs, you can get a better idea.
The real question is, what are you going to do with the knowledge that he likes you? Maybe you like him back, too.
Here’s a fascinating article about how a guy will act when he knows you like him.
7) He talks about his wife with you
Married men fit into two different categories when it comes to their wives. There’s the man who talks about his wife freely, and the one who doesn’t.
This and the next point will talk about both, and what that will look like in a man who’s interested in you.
This first point is in regards to the kind of married man who talks about his wife.
If he’s talking about his wife with you, it could be because he’s unhappy in his marriage. Is he making it clear that he wishes things were different, he feels isolated and lost? He could be interested in some form of extramarital emotional support.
And, because he’s attracted to you, he may be looking for that in you.
Or it could be different. He could want to leave his wife, and falling in love with another woman is a perfect excuse (in his mind) to do that.
He could also talk about his wife in a positive way, and still be attracted to you. It could be that he’s really happy in his marriage, but still interested in something more. He might be looking for a way to prove to you that he’s able to be in a healthy relationship.
That can be a big turn on for some women.
8) He doesn’t talk about his wife with you
Then there’s the other kind of man, the one who would rather not talk about his wife, if at all possible.
Maybe there’s a disparity between you and his friends—he talks about her with his friends, but never does with you.
That’s a big sign that he’s attracted to you. If you can tell that he’s avoiding the subject of his marriage when he’s around you, it could point to the fact that he’s attracted to you.
Beware, though, an affair is a tricky thing to get into, and there’s no telling how it will end up.
In all likelihood, it won’t end well.
However, there could be a really complicated story behind the whole thing, and he hesitates bringing it up because he doesn’t want to ruin his chances with you, or make you turned off to him in some way.
There’s really a lot going on when a man doesn’t bring up his wife to you at all, but still clearly has an interest in you.
In these cases, it’s up to you to figure out the best way to proceed. The best way you can do that is first to figure out how you feel, regardless of what else is going on. That way you can make the best, most informed, and reasonable decision.
At the end of the day, though, if you notice that he doesn’t bring up his wife around you, but doesn’t mind with other people, it’s a big sign that he’s attracted to you.
9) He gets you things
Does he offer to buy you lunch, or maybe just your coffee? This could be a clue to help you decipher his feelings for you.
Maybe he even goes so far as to get you gifts. These gifts could be anything from very simple, to elaborate and thought out.
Maybe it’s flowers, or jewelry, or a simple card. In any case, the point isn’t the gift, it’s the gesture.
The fact that he specifically thought of you is what’s important. He, out of all the people in the world, had you on his mind when he decided to buy you something, get you something, or make you something.
In other words, it means a lot that he got you something, and you should definitely pay closer attention to his actions. It could just be that he’s attracted to you.
Here’s a look at some other ways to tell if a guy likes you, even if he’s trying to hide it.
10) He changes his plans for you
Whether it’s to accommodate your needs or just an excuse to spend more time with you, if a married man isn’t afraid to change his plans for you, it’s a pretty good sign that he’s attracted to you.
Maybe he offers to take you home at the end of the day. Or, perhaps, your friend cancels last minute and you don’t have anyone to go with you to a concert or wedding or what have you. If he offers to go with you instead, it could be because he’s attracted to you.
Maybe you need a ride home because your car is down, or a last-minute ride to the airport.
Whatever his plans are, he’s not afraid to change them around in an effort to spend more time with you.
Keep an eye out for this behavior because it might just mean he’s attracted to you.
11) His acts of service
That is, if they’re attracted to you. It’s also a way to prove their value to you, their ability to take care of you and provide for you. It’s a bit of a biological need, actually, an instinct part of almost every man’s makeup.
These acts of service could be anything from offering to change your oil for you to fixing the plumbing at your house.
They could be less obvious, too. For instance, he could offer to buy you coffee or run an errand for you. Maybe he picks you up lunch so you don’t have to.
Again here, it’s less the specific and more the fact that he thought about doing something for you.
That fact alone points to the truth that he is more than likely attracted to you.
12) He’s acting different around you
It might be subtle at first, or you may not even notice it off the bat. However, as you pay more attention to him and his actions, you may start to realize that he acts different when he’s around you.
That’s because he might be really attracted to you. Notice his behavior whenever you come around. Does he change at all?
Maybe he gets nervous, or maybe he gets more flirtatious. It’s less about how he acts and more about the fact that he behaves differently with you in the picture.
Guys have a hard time (sometimes) just being themselves when they’re around a woman they have strong feelings for. This can be even more true when it comes to a man who’s already married.
If you notice that he’s always acting different around you, there’s a strong chance it’s because he is attracted to you
13) He makes jokes about liking you
Sometimes the answer to the question you seek is closer than you think.
In this instance, he could be telling you exactly how he feels, without directly telling you at all.
As is true for most people, sometimes we can only tell our truth through humor, jokes, or sarcasm.
So maybe the married man you’re thinking about has made some jokes lately about liking you, or being in a relationship with you. He could have made some sort of sly comment about the two of you being together but couched in comedy, or sarcasm, or facetiousness.
The fact that he made a comment of any kind about liking you points to an inner truth.
The truth being that he has thought about you in that way.
To make it clear: if a man has made any comment—whether joking, sarcastic or otherwise—about the two of you being together, that means he’s thought about it seriously.
So keep your ears open for these kinds of remarks, they’re a big sign that he’s attracted to you.
14) He’s interested in your future plans
Sometimes guys can’t help but imagine a future with the girls that they fall in love with. Yes, even if it is just a small infatuation or tryst.
So, if a married man is keenly interested in your future, there’s a good chance it’s because he is attracted to you.
In his innocent fantasy, he can’t help but think about a life with you, what it would be like. What that kind of reality would look like.
It’s part of how guys fall in love.
Yes, even married ones.
It could also be that he’s just gregarious and interested in making conversation with you. It’s up to you to gauge his interest, as well as keep an eye out for a combination of all these signs.
15) He plainly says so
This last sign is a little bit more obvious than the rest of these signs. (Obviously.) However, sometimes we get so caught up in our wondering that we fail to see what’s right in front of us.
I know I’ve been guilty of that many times.
Sometimes I feel like I have to be grabbed by the shoulders and shaken back to reality. That’s why I wanted to include this point.
Because it may just be that a married man tells you straight up that he is attracted to you.
There’s any number of reasons why you might miss it. You may not take him seriously. After all, he is married. Or perhaps you’ve brushed it off, in denial about the connection you share.
In any case, if he says he’s attracted to you, he means it. You should take him seriously, or at the very least ask him if he’s being serious.
At the end of the day, it’s important to pay attention to the married man you think might be attracted to.
Keep an eye out for his actions, his body language, and his words. Watch out for these signs, and you’ll be able to tell clearly whether or not he’s attracted to you.
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