If you want to be a truly classy woman, say goodbye to these 8 habits

There’s a clear distinction between being a woman and being a truly classy woman.

It’s all about the habits – those little things we do without even realizing it.

Being a classy woman isn’t about wearing designer clothes or having impeccable manners alone, it’s about shedding those habits that don’t serve you well.

As Tina Fey, founder of Love Connection blog and a relationship expert, I’ve observed and learned that there are specific habits you need to let go of to elevate your class.

In this article, I will share the 8 habits to say goodbye to if you want to transform into a truly classy woman. Let’s dive in!

1) Over-sharing on social media

In this digital age, it’s so easy to share every aspect of our lives online.

However, there’s a fine line between keeping your friends updated and over-sharing.

Being truly classy isn’t just about how you present yourself in person but also how you do so online.

As a classy woman, it’s essential to maintain a sense of mystery and privacy. This doesn’t mean you have to go completely offline, but rather be mindful of what you share and how often you do it.

Over-sharing on social media can easily come off as attention-seeking or even desperate. Plus, it leaves little room for people to get to know the real you outside the virtual world.

2) Neglecting your manners

I’ve always believed that good manners never go out of style.

While it might seem obvious, it’s surprising how often we tend to overlook the importance of good manners in our daily interactions. Simple gestures like saying “please” and “thank you”, keeping your phone away during conversations, and respecting personal space can go a long way in showing class.

To quote Audrey Hepburn, an icon of grace and elegance, “Good manners: The noise you don’t make when you’re eating soup”. This quote perfectly encapsulates the essence of being a classy woman – it’s about being considerate and respectful in all situations.

In my personal journey, I’ve found that practicing good manners has not only made me more classy, but it has also helped me build stronger relationships.

3) Being overly dependent

Independence is a key characteristic of a truly classy woman.

In life, it’s tempting to rely on others, whether it’s for emotional support, financial stability, or even decision-making. However, being overly dependent can come across as needy and can stop you from reaching your full potential.

In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I discuss the importance of self-reliance in maintaining healthy relationships. It’s all about finding balance – being able to lean on others when necessary but not losing your sense of self in the process.

So ladies, let’s wave goodbye to being overly dependent and embrace our independence. Remember, a truly classy woman is her own person first and foremost!

4) Trying too hard to be classy

Now this might sound a little counterintuitive, but hear me out.

The essence of being truly classy is not about trying hard to appear classy, but rather, it’s about being genuine and comfortable in your own skin.

When you try too hard to portray an image of classiness, it often comes off as pretentious or unnatural. People can sense when you’re not being authentic, and nothing is less classy than insincerity.

Remember, classiness is not just about looking the part; it’s about feeling and behaving the part too. It’s about maintaining grace under pressure, treating others with kindness, and staying true to your values.

5) Holding onto grudges

Holding onto grudges and past resentments can be an easy habit to fall into, but it’s definitely not a habit of a truly classy woman.

Let’s be honest, we’ve all been there. We’ve all been hurt or disappointed and found it hard to let go. I’ve been there too, and I can tell you from personal experience that holding onto grudges only hurts us in the long run.

A classy woman knows the power of forgiveness. She understands that while she cannot control other people’s actions, she can control her own reactions. She chooses to forgive not because the other person deserves forgiveness, but because she deserves peace.

6) Comparing yourself to others

In a world filled with social media perfection and unrealistic beauty standards, it’s easy to fall into the trap of comparing ourselves to others. It’s a raw, honest truth that many of us struggle with.

But let me tell you, nothing steals your joy and self-worth faster than comparisons.

A truly classy woman understands that everyone is on their own unique journey. She appreciates her own strengths and accomplishments without measuring them against those of others.

7) Neglecting self-care

We often get so wrapped up in our busy lives that we forget to take care of ourselves. But neglecting self-care is a habit we need to break if we want to be truly classy.

I’ve learned from personal experience that when I don’t prioritize my own needs, I can’t be my best for others. A classy woman understands the importance of self-care and makes time for it, no matter how hectic her schedule may be.

To quote the legendary Audrey Hepburn again, “I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong… I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day, and… I believe in miracles.”

8) Settling for less than you deserve

Here’s a raw and honest truth: many women settle for less than they deserve, whether it’s in relationships, careers, or personal goals.

This habit of settling often stems from self-doubt and fear. We fear that we’re asking for too much, or that we’re not worthy of the best.

But let me tell you this: a truly classy woman never settles. She knows her worth and she’s not afraid to demand respect and equality in all aspects of her life.

So ladies, it’s time we stop settling for less than we deserve. Remember, you are enough just as you are, and you are worthy of the best that life has to offer!


Being a truly classy woman isn’t about appearing a certain way, but rather about shedding negative habits and embracing self-love, self-care, independence, and authenticity.

Remember, we are all works in progress and it’s never too late to start making positive changes.

For more insights on building self-reliance and creating healthier relationships, check out my book Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship.

So here’s to becoming the best, most classy versions of ourselves. We’ve got this, ladies!

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