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Let’s be real here. These days, it’s not uncommon for people to have multiple partners at once.
If you’re dating a woman, there is a chance that she might be cheating on you with another man.
A few months ago, I was in that same situation, suspecting the same thing.
I wanted to know for sure, as my trust was wearing thin.
So, I tried out different approaches to see if she was cheating and it worked!
Unfortunately, I ended up breaking up with her, but I want you to at least get the chance to test your partner, too!
1) Ask “My friend’s partner cheated on them, I think they should break up. What do you think?”
Ask your partner “My friend’s partner cheated on them, I think they should break up. What do you think?”.
This is a great question to ask if you want to test if your partner has been cheating on you.
The conversation that follows will give you a good idea of how she will respond to the pressures of a relationship.
If your partner has been cheating on you for a while, she might make impulsive decisions.
Since she has been keeping this a secret, she might have trouble making the right choice when the time comes to talk to you.
If some time has passed since she has been unfaithful, she will have had enough time to reflect and agonize over her mistakes. In this case, she might be ready to come clean and tell you the truth.
Now: the reason this question is so powerful is that it will tell you exactly where your partner stands morally when it comes to cheating.
Does she say something like “maybe they can work it out”, or “maybe there was a reason for the cheating”?
In that case, it means that she is empathizing with the cheating partner. Is that proof that she is a cheater?
No, not at all, but it should ring some alarm bells.
If she says “yes, they should break up”, then you can rest assured that she is probably a faithful person who does not cheat on people.
Either way, this will give you a good indication of her moral compass in regard to cheating.
2) Ask her if she’s ready for the next step in your relationship
Another effective method of uncovering a potential affair is to ask your partner if she is ready for the next step in your relationship.
It’s important to be careful when bringing this subject up, as it’s best to talk about it when you are both in a good place.
If your partner is cheating on you, she will be more reluctant to commit to a serious relationship with you.
She may not want to rush into it, fearing that her current relationship (with her secret lover) will be discovered.
You see, asking to take things a step further and get more serious might make her nervous.
She might worry that you will find out about her affair and break up with her.
If she has been unfaithful, she will be more hesitant to tell you that she wants to take things further with you.
But be careful with this, some people will still want to take things further with you, even if they are cheating.
They might not have given a lot of thought to their future with you, so they are more willing to take things further.
However, if you notice her hesitating a lot when you bring up this topic, then that could be an indicator that she isn’t as invested in the relationship as she should be.
Of course, she might also just have a fear of serious commitment, which is something that you can talk about as well.
3) Ask to see/use her phone
This is a bit more invasive, but if you suspect your partner is cheating on you, it’s a good idea to ask to see her phone.
Now: I’m not saying you should ask her to look through her phone or even snatch it and look through it without her knowing.
What I’m saying is that you ask something simple like “my phone is charging, can I check something on yours real quick?”
Or “can I look up something on Instagram real quick?” .
If your partner has been unfaithful, she might have evidence of this on her phone.
This could be texts, pictures, or even saved numbers.
Now: she knows that, so you asking to use her phone to google something could make her really nervous that you will accidentally stumble upon something.
If you notice that she gets really nervous, then that’s a good sign for you.
If you have a good reason to believe that she might be cheating, then you have a right to ask for her phone, but she doesn’t have to give it to you.
You see, even if she doesn’t cheat, many people have strong personal boundaries and that might be a deal-breaker for them, so don’t push too hard.
I’d really use this tip to watch her reactions to simply needing her phone for a second.
This will give you a good chance to see whether she’s nervous or not.
4) If you have evidence, tell her you know what’s going on
This is one of the most effective ways to catch a cheater red-handed. If you have found proof that your partner has been unfaithful, you can confront her about it.
You might be tempted to keep the information from her, but if you want to get your relationship back on track, you need to bring it up.
If you have found evidence of your partner’s deceit, you can confront her with it.
This will give her the chance to come clean about her unfaithfulness.
It’s important to remember that if you confront your partner with the evidence you have found, it doesn’t mean you have to end the relationship.
It just means that you want to know the truth and you want to move forward with your life.
Cheating is a difficult subject and it’s not always black and white.
However, when you have sound proof that your partner is cheating on you, I’d tell them something like “I know what’s going on, you can stop lying now.”
This will either make her come forward with the truth or she’ll try to deny it, at which point you can confront her with the evidence.
If she admits to cheating on you, then it’s time to decide what you want to do next.
If you want to work on your relationship and save it, then that’s great!
But if not, then that’s fine as well.
It’s up to you and how much she actually means to you and where your boundaries are.
I’m not here to judge anybody, because I’ve been in a situation where I had proof that my girlfriend was cheating on me and I really didn’t know what to do at first, either.
5) “Someone hit on me today, how would you have reacted in the same situation?”
If you have been dating your partner for a while, you might have noticed that she is very possessive.
You might have also noticed that your partner gets jealous when other people flirt with you.
If your partner has been cheating on you, she might have a strong reaction to the above question.
If your partner has been unfaithful, she may be more likely to lash out in an aggressive manner.
She may say something like, “I would have broken their legs!”
If your partner has been faithful, she might take a more rational approach to the situation. She might say something like, “I would have ignored them.”
You see, this is because we always see situations from our own perspective and judge other people based on that.
If she knows that she cheats, then she will suspect you of the same, which is why she might react very jealous.
6) “Do you think it’s normal to want to cheat?”
If you have been dating your partner for a while, you will likely have developed a strong emotional connection with her.
However, if you are with a cheater, you might not be getting the same connection in return.
If your partner has been cheating on you, she may be having difficulty connecting with you emotionally.
That’s why she has been seeing other people.
If your partner has been unfaithful, you can ask her if it’s normal to want to cheat.
Based on her reaction you can gauge where she stands regarding this topic.
You see, some people will say “no, it’s not normal!!”, while others say “I think it depends on the situation”.
For the latter, there is a bigger chance she’d be willing to cheat at some point.
7) “Have you ever been cheated on?”
If you have been dating your partner for a long time, you might be wondering if she has ever had a serious relationship with someone else.
You might be wondering if she has ever been cheated on. If your partner has been unfaithful, she will have a strong reaction to this question.
She may hesitate and struggle to find an answer for you.
She may also talk about how she wants to protect you from the hurt of being cheated on.
If your partner has been faithful, she will have an easier time answering this question for you.
She will likely tell you that she has never been cheated on and that she wants you to trust her.
Now: if she has cheated on you already, this question will throw her off guard.
She won’t know how to react to it because on the one hand, she will feel like you figured it out, while on the other hand, she doesn’t want to give herself away.
It’s a tricky situation, so if she reacts really strangely, then that could be a red flag that she has been unfaithful.
8) Use a guilt trap
If you have been dating your partner for a while, she will likely have built up a lot of guilt towards you.
If your partner has been unfaithful, she will be feeling a lot of guilt for keeping this secret from you.
She will likely want to tell you the truth. If your partner has been unfaithful, she will likely feel guilty about keeping this from you.
This guilt can be used against her.
You see, you can use a good, old-fashioned guilt trap.
This entails you being the perfect partner for her, spoiling her, and acting extremely loving towards her.
You can do this for a few days/weeks.
Then, when she seems grateful for how well you are treating her, you can say “Well of course I want to spoil you, you are so sweet and loyal and I can trust you with my whole heart.”
Now: if she is messed up, this won’t have a big effect on her, she’ll just use you even more.
If she has an ounce of a heart, however, then you will see guilt in her eyes as you say that.
You see, most people who cheat are still people with feelings and a moral compass, so they do feel guilt.
Your partner will likely feel guilty for not telling you the truth, especially if it has been a while since she cheated.
She will likely feel guilty for taking advantage of your trust.
You can use that to your advantage and say something like “I can tell that you are feeling guilty about something, what is it?” or “You look like you have something on your mind, what is it?”
This is her chance to come clean.
9) “How was your friend last night? Is she okay? I’ll call her and check up on her!”
If your partner has been cheating on you, she will have been keeping this a secret from you.
The last thing she will want to do is tell you about her other partners.
If your partner has been unfaithful, she will not want to tell you about her other partners.
She will want to keep them a secret.
So, she might be using excuses, like having to take care of a friends who isn’t feeling well or some other excuse, to not be able to tell you about her friends.
If this is the case, you can use that against her.
You can say “You don’t have to worry about it, I’ll just call your friend and see how she is doing!”
If your partner has been unfaithful, she will not want you to talk with any of her friends because then you might find out that she wasn’t with them, after all.
The way she reacts to this tells you a lot about where she is mentally.
10) “What would you do if you got cheated on?”
If you have been dating your partner for a while, you might be wondering if she has ever been unfaithful before.
You might be wondering if she has ever been cheated on and/or what she would do.
If your partner has been cheating on you, she will have a strong reaction to this question.
She may hesitate and struggle to find an answer for you.
She may also talk about how she wants to protect you from the hurt of being cheated on.
Usually, if someone cheats, the mere mention of the word cheating will make them nervous, because they are afraid of being found out.
So, if you bring up these questions, really watch her reaction to them.
You will be okay
These are the top 10 tricks to see if your partner has been cheating on you.
If you implement any of these, you will have a good idea as to whether or not she is faithful to you.
Now: this is a really difficult situation and I’m sorry that you have to go through it.
Personally, when I found out my girlfriend was cheating on me, it took me quite a few therapy sessions to finally move on from the trauma — it really is that difficult, so if you’re struggling, I understand.
But what also helped me during those times — especially when I’m alone, was some guided meditation.
A few minutes of silence and self-reflection really helped me look inward and re-discover my self-worth. It helped me realize that I didn’t deserve to get cheated on.
I am a truly wonderful person, and it’s not my personal failure if they couldn’t see it — it’s theirs.
So if you want to find some peace again after grueling mental gymnastics just to see if your girlfriend is cheating on you, perhaps this self-healing meditation could help.
Click here for the free meditation.
Lastly, if you are going through this, I hope that you can use my tips to see if your partner has been cheating on you — and I hope it can help you find the peace you deserve.
Good luck!
