There’s nothing more frustrating than your twin flame ignoring you, right?
You spend hours obsessing over what went wrong, why they won’t return your calls, and what you can do to get their attention.
It’s a painful situation because for you because they’re your twin flame. They’re the other half to your soul.
So what can you do?
In this article, I’m going to share 8 things you can do right now to start communicating with your twin connection again.
But first, let’s go through what makes a twin flame connection so special.
What makes a twin flame connection unique?
To explain what to do when your twin flame is ignoring you, it’s important first to understand what makes this connection so special.
Twin flames have a connection that transcends normal levels of intimacy. They connect deeply on an emotional and spiritual level, resulting in a fierce bond of unconditional love.
Think of it this way:
Twin flames are made up of one soul split between two bodies.
Unlike soulmates, you share the same soul, the same wounds, the same purposes in life. They are essentially the other half of your soul.
This makes your connection even more intense – and it can cause twin flames to trigger each other and face many obstacles throughout their journey together.
But one thing that twin flames tend to have in common is the feeling of being “home” when they’re together. There’s an instant spark, chemistry, love – even if it’s platonic (twin flames can be family members, friends, or intimate partners).
You might be wondering:
“What’s the point of having a twin flame?”
You see, a twin flame isn’t there to make you feel comfortable about yourself. Their purpose is to help you heal yourself first, and then go on to heal humanity.
They’ve come into your life to help you push through your traumas and limitations, and be the best person you can be.
But, it’s not always a smooth journey.
Twin flames are notorious for wandering in and out of each other’s lives, spending time together intensely but also experiencing separation from time to time.
And, if your twin flame starts to ignore you out of the blue, it’s no easy heartbreak to deal with.
But the good news is, with a little understanding, you can work out why your twin flame has gone quiet, and what you can do while you wait for their return.
Read on to find out…
Why your twin flame is ignoring you
Let’s get one thing straight – your twin flame isn’t ignoring you in the traditional sense of “ghosting” (where your partner simply disappears from the face of the earth for no reason).
If your partner is ignoring you on purpose or to cause you pain – they aren’t your twin flame.
That’s because whilst it’s quite common for twin flames to dance around each other and come in and out of each other’s lives, they always return to each other.
And they never leave out of hate or spite.
Usually, the reasons come from your partner mirroring your inner feelings, so a lot of understanding of why they’re silent comes from knowing yourself first.
So what does that mean for you?
Well, if you’re the one being ignored, you’ll probably be feeling emotionally bruised, hurt, and confused.
Don’t worry – the silence of your partner doesn’t have to be all misery and tears. Once you understand the reasons why your twin flame is ignoring you, it’ll make putting our 10 strategies in place much easier.
So without further ado, let’s check out the top reasons why your twin flame is acting distant:
1) They’re mirroring your fears
Your twin flame isn’t ignoring you – you aren’t addressing fears that you have and they’re mirroring this with silence.
You share core wounds, and being afraid of commitment or love are wounds that your twin flame will have too.
Until you deal with your fears of commitment or intimacy, your twin flame won’t be able to deal with theirs.
You need to find out where your insecurities lie, is it from having a fear of rejection? Is it being part of such an intense connection?
Whatever the reason is, blanketing it or hiding it won’t stop your twin flame from mirroring you with silence.
But we’ll look more into dealing with your fears in the next part of this article.
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2) They’re mirroring your lack of self-love
Just as your twin flame is mirroring your fears, they could also be highlighting your lack of self-care and love.
It makes sense:
You’re ignoring parts of yourself that need love, maybe through not taking care of yourself or not respecting your body and mind.
Your twin flame is automatically going to mirror this behavior back to you until you get the message and start looking after yourself.
Whether that may be spiritually, mentally, emotionally, or physically – your twin flame will have picked up on all of it.
3) Your twin flame is going through a period of growth
Sometimes you and your twin flame need to learn and grow separately, and even though the change in your relationship seems sudden, it’s not a cause for panic.
Your twin flame may be discovering something new, and they might feel they need to go through this experience alone.
Once they’ve learned what they need to, you’ll be able to reunite peacefully – but until then it can be a long wait.
Instead of overthinking their absence, check out the tips below to see how you can make the most out of your twin flame’s silence.
If you want to learn about growing alongside your twin flame, watch the video below by Ideapod founder Justin Brown. He shares a very unique perspective on how you can find your real twin flame – and it’s all about going through a period of growth together.
10 important steps to take when your twin flame ignores you
1) Heal yourself first
Healing is essential for both of you, and whilst your partner might be off healing by themselves, you should focus on repairing your traumas in the meantime.
So what needs to be healed?
Firstly, it’s a good idea to start by addressing any fears you have. Identify past traumas and target false negative beliefs (which you may have inherited through your ancestry or immediate family).
Other areas of yourself which may need healing include:
- Past life vows and oaths
- Traumas from your past life
- Wounds and sexual wounds from this life or past life
- Inner child wounds
You see, whilst some healing takes place together, much of what you and they need to process must happen apart.
So instead of seeing their silence as a cause for distress, use it as fuel to heal yourself and revisit parts of your soul that need taking care of.
When your twin flame returns (and they will), you’ll be ready to reunite again, after both of you have gone through a journey of healing and self-understanding.
2) Trigger his hero instinct
If you’re worried that your twin flame is ignoring you, then you need to learn about a new concept in relationship psychology that’s generating a lot of buzz at the moment.
It goes to the heart of why some men commit wholeheartedly to a relationship — while other men pull away (even from their twin flame).
I’m talking about the hero instinct.
According to the hero instinct, men have a biological drive to provide for those he cares about, and the desire to earn respect from those around him.
This drive is amplified when it comes to the woman they have a twin flame relationship with.
I don’t often buy into popular new concepts in psychology but the hero instinct is a fascinating take on what drives men romantically.
If you want to learn more, check out this excellent free video by James Bauer, the relationship expert who discovered it.
The interesting thing is that women can easily sabotage a relationship when they don’t allow a man to step up for them and act like a hero.
Your man wants to be there for you, help you when you need it, and protect you.
Are you letting him?
Because there are words you can say, phrases you can use, and little requests you can make to trigger this very natural instinct in him. James Bauer reveals what they are in his video.
If your goal is to be in a deep and passionate relationship with your twin flame, I think learning about the hero instinct can make all the difference.
3) Get some help
Yes, you can use astrology to help you out when you’re having problems in a relationship.
The best bit?
Zodiac signs can absolutely help you figure out what to do when your twin flame is ignoring you. They influence how you connect with your twin flame regarding communication, love, emotions, sex, and personality.
Just by taking this star sign quiz, you’ll be able to make it your twin flame’s idea to:
- Pursue you
- Chase after you
- And completely commit to you
I was blown away when I first took the quiz. I just selected my man’s zodiac and then discovered shocking details about him on the next page (which have proven to be 100% correct so far).
4) Connect to your higher self and raise your vibrations
I know you’re probably not feeling your best with your twin flame’s absence, but one of the best things you can do is focus on yourself right now.
Just as healing yourself is an important step in this process, so is raising your vibrations in different ways.
Stop wallowing and start living life – your twin flame will be back much quicker once you start loving yourself and creating joy in your life.
So how can you raise your vibrations?
Here are some tips which can be introduced step by step, depending on how low you feel:
- Do activities you love (dance, sing, meet old friends or simply read your favorite book), whatever it takes to lift your soul
- Listen to happy music
- Meditate/practice breathwork
- Help people around you
- Focus on positive relationships and let go of toxic people
Take some time every day dedicated solely to yourself and work on building your relationship with your higher self.
5) Give them time and space
As much as you’re tempted to text/call/visit them in hopes of catching their attention, right now your twin flame doesn’t want or need that.
If anything, you’ll push them further away by insisting that they speak to you – the opposite of what you want to achieve here.
Going back to the point about your twin flame being afraid of the intense connection you share, it’s likely that they simply need time to work through their past traumas.
And that’s normal, right?
Everyone needs space, time to reflect and a bit of distance can do you both good.
A twin flame relationship is intense, and you’re both on a journey, learning and growing through the love and connection you share.
So instead of waiting by the phone, know that eventually, they’ll realize that ignoring you is futile – the pull between you is too strong, and they’ll give in to it once they feel ready to.
And you’ll feel better for the fact that they’ve worked their way back to you for no other reason than because they’re your twin flame – what better way to know that your connection is real?
6) Face your fears and find out theirs
But while we’re on the subject of having past traumas – now’s a good time to start facing your fears.
Because your fears automatically reflect in everything you do, and your twin flame has picked up on them.
Now they’re not only mirroring you, but they’re also dealing with any unhealed trauma or experiences of their own.
Their silence isn’t to hurt you, but rather to avoid confronting their issues and opening a whole can of worms that they’d rather not deal with.
So what can you do about it?
Well, if it’s possible you could broach the subject with your twin flame, and by understanding each other’s fears you can work out a way to stay in touch while you both work on your issues.
If your partner still refuses to speak to you, leave them to it. As tough as it’ll be, take advantage of their absence – after all, it’s just another reminder that you have your stuff to work through.
7) Respect yourself to earn their respect
Just as this works in “normal” relationships, it holds an important part of twin flame relationships too.
That’s because when you respect yourself and raise your self-esteem and self-worth, your twin flame has no choice but to do the same.
Put simply, you’re raising the bar and they have to come and meet you at the same level.
And by loving yourself, your twin flame will rise to the occasion too, because it’s natural for them to mirror what they feel in you.
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8) Accept that your twin has the right to go cold from time to time
What makes a twin flame connection different from a soul mate or any other type of relationship?
It’s the fact that you share an unconditional love for each other.
Loving and respecting each other on this higher level means accepting them for who they are, and understanding that separation doesn’t mean the end of your relationship.
Your twin flame needs isolation now and then to work on themselves, and although it seems painful, it’s happening because you need to work more on yourself too.
So, instead of wasting your energy on chasing them, see their silence as a sign that you’re both going through progressive changes, and the distance between you is a necessity, not a problem.
And – remember that unconditional love means loving them regardless of how much you want or need to speak to them. By forcing them to speak to you, your love now has conditions that need to be met.
It’s a tough pill to swallow at first, but you’ll eventually get used to it and your twin flame relationship will become easier to navigate.
9) Don’t chase after them – but don’t cut off communication completely
I meant what I said about not chasing your twin flame – the more you want them, the more you’re losing out on energy that could be directed at better things, like self-care and healing.
But, that doesn’t mean you should give up on them completely. Don’t give in to your ego which will be undoubtedly telling you to retaliate by blocking them forever.
As tempting as it is, just for that little kick of satisfaction at getting your own back, you’ll just make the situation worse.
Instead, leave some channel of communication open, even if it means simply sending a text to say you’re ready to talk whenever they are.
Let them know that you’re still there for them, you still care and love them, but you’re respecting their space and time.
This lifts some of the pressure off them, and they’ll be more likely to come back to you once they feel ready to – and it’ll stop you from obsessing over them in the meantime.
10) Listen to your intuition
You know your twin flame better than anyone else does, so armed with the strategies we’ve covered, and your knowledge of your partner, trust your gut feeling and just go with the flow.
If your gut is telling you that you should reach out to them after a certain length of time, go with it.
If it tells you that your twin flame is searching for something, look inwards and see if you have any unresolved conflict.
Remember, you both share core wounds but you each need your own space to resolve them.
And, listen to your intuition if you begin to feel that your partner is ignoring you maliciously.
A twin flame would never do it to intentionally hurt you. They just don’t see any other way to process their (and your) issues.
Understanding your twin flame
Now that you’ve got a better understanding of why your twin flame is ignoring you, and what you can do about it, it’s time for our final point to help deal with their silence:
Your twin flame isn’t doing this on purpose to hurt you, this is happening because they’re there to push you forward, force you to heal yourself and reach your higher self.
Does it hurt in the process?
But it’s all part of growing, learning, and expanding yourself. Your twin flame will continue to hurt you until you recognize the patterns and make changes to your life.
No one says the process is easy, but it’s most definitely worth it.
Because when you weigh up how much you gain from a twin flame’s silence, it’s hard to deny that it’s the perfect push for self-care and healing.
So whenever your twin flame decides to take a break, know that it’s for both of your benefits – and your love and sense of self will only increase from having this distance between you.
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