When it comes to relationships, it’s clear that everyone has different boundaries they set.
And then enters the world of social media, which creates some very blurry lines.
The online world has opened plenty of new avenues to connect and find your soulmate.
However, it also leaves those doors open to both ex’s and new love interests to enter into the relationship.
So, where are those boundaries now?
It can be hard to know whether your husband’s actions are completely innocent and you’re simply overreacting, or perhaps there’s something a little more going on behind the scenes.
Is that compliment he left on another woman’s pot harmless?
Here are 11 things to do if your husband compliments other women on social media.
11 things to do if your husband compliments other women on social media
1) Consider your feelings
A woman’s intuition has a lot to answer for. Now’s the time to trust yours.
What does it say about the compliment?
Do you feel threatened or in any way worried about your relationship?
If not, then trust that intuition.
Just because your friend Sally from work thinks it’s a bad thing and means your husband is cheating on you doesn’t mean a thing.
Sally is likely single and has never been in a long-term relationship before, so is getting pleasure out of seeing yours go wrong.
The fact that your husband is leaving the compliment somewhere he knows you’ll come across it (as well as many other people), suggests it’s very harmless.
After all, if he were trying to hide something, then don’t you think he’d do a better job at actually hiding it?
If it seems innocent, then it likely is.
Don’t read into the situation just for the sake of it!
2) Work out if it’s ongoing
If you’re feeling a little worried about the compliments that keep cropping up, it might be time for a little stalking.
Well, it’s not really stalking if all the information is right there in front of you, is it?
Go through this woman’s profile and see how often your husband has been commenting.
If his name keeps cropping up, then it might be time to have a chat with him.
Once again, don’t jump to the worst-case scenario. He may not even realise he’s doing it. Or simply thinks he’s just been nice.
If it’s a repetitive behaviour and not just a one-off, then it helps to address it.
Let your husband know how it makes you feel seeing those comments, and ask him if he could stop.
You’ll hopefully find that he wasn’t even aware of what he was doing and is all too happy to stop.
If not, you might have a different discussion on your hands…
3) Take a look at your marriage
Now’s a great chance to take a look at where your marriage stands.
If these compliments your husband is laying around the internet are making you uncomfortable, think about why.
Are there areas in your relationship you’re already concerned about?
Perhaps he hasn’t been home much lately.
Maybe he has been distant and not spending as much time with you.
Look beyond social media and bring it back to your real life. If it’s not jealously that you’re feeling (read point 3), then work out if there are other issues that need addressing in your relationship.
And if there are some serious problems in your marriage, what can you do to get on better terms?
Well, it can be as simple as knowing the right phrases to say to rekindle the bond with your husband.
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4) Avoid pointing any fingers
You might see these compliments as a big red flag and feel the anger brewing inside.
It’s a completely natural reaction.
As a result, you might find yourself wanting to confront your husband and start accusing him straight away.
If his comments are completely innocent, this accusation could drive a wedge between the two of you that can’t be repaired.
It’s an issue of trust and it goes both ways.
Think about other things that are going on in your relationship: does he seem distant? Have you lost the connection? Has it changed at all?
These are all red flags that something isn’t right, and it’s better to address these issues and find out where you both stand, before jumping to conclusions.
5) Avoid bringing anyone else into it
There’s something about social media and being able to hide behind the computer screens that seem to give us the power to do things we wouldn’t normally do.
Such as confronting the woman your husband has been complimenting.
This is always a bad idea.
Your relationship is between the two of you.
Bringing this other woman into it is just going to make things much worse for both you and your husband.
You then become the ‘crazy wife’ especially if it all turns out to have been completely innocent. You don’t want to be labeled like that.
No matter how tempted you might be, don’t contact her.
6) Consider whether it might be a jealousy issue
Compliments on social media can be completely innocent and harmless.
Especially if they are one-off comments.
Then why do they leave you feeling so jealous?
This likely has more to do with you and your relationship than it has to do with any potential cheating.
You jealously probably stem from the fact you aren’t getting the attention you want out of your relationship.
When was the last time your husband complimented you?
It’s time to address it with your husband.
You don’t even have to bring up the social media comments.
Instead, simply let him know how you’re feeling and ask if he could throw a compliment your way every now and then.
Knowing what it means to you will make your husband more likely to oblige.
7) Ask him to stop
If it’s bugging you that much, it might be time to simply ask him to stop.
While you may know he’s not cheating on you, and even realize it’s completely harmless, your feelings still matter. If you aren’t happy about the situation, then it’s time to address it.
After all, you both set the boundaries in your relationship, and it’s up to the two of you to work out what these are.
Just sit down for an open and honest conversation.
If you’re in a healthy relationship, your husband will hear what you’re saying take that on board. He might even suggest a compromise.
It’s important to come to a solution that the two of you are happy with.
8) What would a gifted advisor say?
When our husbands compliment other women on social media, most of us are all over the place. Energetically speaking it’s a turbulent time and knowing what to do can feel challenging.
For example, you might find yourself questioning, is this really a sign my husband doesn’t love me anymore?
So could getting some outside guidance help?
It’s fair to say there are plenty of frauds out there in the psychic world, who are just waiting to take advantage when we’re at our most vulnerable.
But after a really challenging breakup, I found that speaking to an advisor from Psychic Source was super helpful.
The psychic I spoke to was kind, understanding, and insightful.
My love reading gave me the guidance I was looking for (and needed) during a painful and confusing time.
9) Ask yourself: do I trust him
At the end of the day, it comes down to an issue of trust.
You have to be able to trust your partner to be in a positive relationship with them.
If these comments have you questioning your trust in him, then it needs to be addressed.
If you leave these feelings, they will grow and drive a wedge in your relationship that will be hard to come back from.
It’s much better to address them at the moment, to ensure that trust is never broken.
This is one of the foundations of any relationship.
10) Take a social break
Looking to move on?
It might be time to take a social break.
Forget the endless scrolling and stop spending your nights in bed over analysing likes and comments. It’s not doing anyone any good.
If you have an issue, address your husband.
If not, it might be time to step away from the socials.
It’ll work wonders for your mental health, and you’ll probably find it has a great effect on your relationship as well.
11) Find some more quality time for each other
If anything should come out of these compliments, it’s the need to reconnect and spend more quality time with our partner.
Instead of feeling resentment, give your partner a reason to compliment you in person instead.
You could set up a date night, plan something a little sexier, or simply organise a movie on the couch together.
Don’t let the comments get in the way of your relationship. Address them if they’re an issue for you, otherwise, push them aside and work on what’s important: your relationship together.
The world of socials
Relationships and social media is whole new territory to navigate. Take each day as it comes and maintain open and honest communication with your partner. This is the easiest way to see yourself through it.
It’s about working out what your boundaries are, agreeing on them and putting them into place. This will be different for every couple.
Your husband complimenting other women on social media isn’t a pleasant situation.
But more than just disrespectful or hurtful, it indicates there could be a deeper issue in your marriage.
And his online activity is an outlet for whatever is going on at home.
So rather than focus on what he’s up to in the digital world, turn your attention back to your marriage and start there.
And while you’re at it, check out Brad Browning’s excellent advice.
I mentioned him earlier – he’s helped thousands of men and women discover the root cause of their issues and work through them.
Let’s face it, uncovering what’s gone wrong in your marriage will require a lot of patience, compromise, and sheer determination. No marriage is easy, but with the help of a seasoned expert, you can get yours back on track.
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