The ultimate guide to making an Aries man obsessed with you

Is there an Aries man in your life who you’ve got your eye on?

Aries men are known for being passionate warriors yet they possess an almost childlike curiosity.

The truth is, keeping their attention can be tough.

But it’s not impossible. If you’re wondering how you can make him completely obsessed with you, you’re in the right place.

In this article, we’re going to cover everything from how to get his interest, keeping it once you’re together, and which signs are compatible with Aries.

But first, let’s start by understanding what Aries men look for in women.

What qualities do Aries men like in women?

Before you can make him obsessed with you, it helps to know what Aries men love in women.

Some of the main qualities an Aries man looks for are drive and passion. Just as he is determined and strong-willed, he also wants a woman who shares the same goals and dreams for the future.

They’re the perfect match for ambitious, career-driven women who want a man who can handle their success, and more importantly who will encourage and support them in reaching their goals.

Other qualities that attract Aries men include being:

  • Adventurous

  • Mysterious

  • Strong character

  • Fiercely independent

  • Clever/intellectual

  • Unpredictable

  • Witty

Now, you don’t have to be all of the above, but the more you possess, the higher your chances are of making him obsessed with you.

The next step in getting him to crave you like crazy is to initiate the chase.

What’s the chase?

It’s where you make him notice you enough to want to pursue you. Without the chase, there’s nothing to keep him interested.

That’s because Aries men are motivated by challenges and they love working hard for their pleasures, so the more you make him chase you, the more he’ll want you.

How can you make an Aries man chase you?

Here are some fool-proof ways to get your Aries man interested in you:

1. Let him protect you

Aries men indeed love a strong, independent woman, but they also like to feel that they’re in control and able to look after the people they love.

Letting him protect you doesn’t have to mean giving up your personal power and acting weak. Small gestures like letting him check in on you after a long day at work or opening the car door for you can go a long way.

It gives your Aries man a chance to look after you, something that appeals largely to his personality and to what he’s looking for in a partner.

If you’re wondering how else you can make him feel protective over you, then you need to know about a new concept in relationship psychology that’s generating a lot of buzz at the moment.

It’s called the hero instinct.

You see, most of us think that we understand what men want from a relationship, but sometimes we miss the mark.

Above all else, men want to feel like a hero towards the woman they care about.

By a hero, I don’t mean a Marvel character or a situation where you need to act like a damsel in distress – far from it.

The hero instinct is an innate biological drive within men to be needed, respected, and essential.

And the best bit is that you can actually trigger this instinct in your man.

All you need to do is find ways to make him feel like your hero. There’s an art to doing this which can be a lot of fun when you know exactly what to do.

The best way to learn how to trigger the hero instinct in your guy is to watch this free online video.

James Bauer, the relationship psychologist who first coined this term, gives a terrific introduction to his game-changing concept.

Some ideas are life changing. And when it comes to making an Aries man obsessed over you, I think this is one of them.

Here’s a link to the free video again.

2. Don’t chase him

Go easy on chasing him.

It doesn’t matter how cute he is or how long it’s been since your last date, let him pursue you. If you make all the first moves, he’ll see it as “too easy” and quickly lose interest.

If he wants to go out for dinner, don’t text him with suggestions. Let him plan the date and work around your timetable rather than making yourself fully available.

The bottom line is, you don’t want to make his job easy. Let him know you’re interested, and then let him put in the hard work – it’s the best way to get his attention.

3. Don’t be clingy

So even though you should let him into your life a little bit, don’t go overboard.

An Aries man won’t appreciate feeling trapped or suffocated, so avoid texting him constantly or making too many plans with him.

Keep your independence (another trait that he’ll love) and don’t forget your social life just because you’ve got a new love interest.

By doing this, you’ll not only avoid being clingy and needy, but you’ll make yourself far more interesting to him because you have a life of your own.

4. Have a sense of humor

Aries men have a sense of humor and they look for that in their partners too. They want a woman who can have lighthearted banter with them, or who has a quick wit and smart rebuttals.

There’s a fine line here though, as they don’t like cruel jokes or offensive senses of humor, so try not to overdo it.

Keep your sense of humor sincere, classy, and fast-paced – he’ll quickly fall in love with your conversations and keep coming back for more.

5. Don’t forget to flirt

And finally, don’t overlook the power of flirting.

Not only are they great charmers, but Aries men love to be mentally and physically turned on, so flirt in a way that appeals to both his mind and his body.

And, since Aries men are very receptive to stimulation and they love physical touch, don’t be afraid to let a bit of sexual tension build-up.

Tease him, make him laugh, and keep an element of mystery to your life and he’ll find you irresistible.

So, once the chase is underway, you know you’ve got him a little bit hooked on you already. But, as much as Aries men need physical attraction, it’s the mental side that you need to keep interested.

You need to keep reminding him why he was attracted to your personality and by following the steps below, you can make sure his interest in you never wavers.

15 ways to make an Aries man obsessed with you

1) Trigger his hero instinct

Want to know the absolute best way to make an Aries man obsessed by you?

Trigger his hero instinct.

I mentioned this concept above. And I know for a fact it works extremely well on Aries men.

According to the hero instinct, men have a biological drive to live a life full of meaning and to be there for the people they care about.

And this drive is amplified in their romantic relationships.

The best part is that you can actually trigger the hero instinct in your Aries man.

There are words you can say, phrases you can use, and little requests you can make to trigger this very natural instinct in him.

To learn all about them, watch this excellent free video about the hero instinct.

I don’t often buy into popular new concepts in psychology or recommend videos. But if you want an Aries guy to commit to a relationship with you, learning about the hero instinct can make all the difference.

Here’s a link to his video again.

2) Don’t hide your ambitions

This is a fact – Aries men love to see ambition in their ladies.

Whether it’s working your way up in your job or setting up your own business, showing how passionate you are about your work will drive your Aries man crazy (in a good way).

Aries men tend to be very ambitious and they enjoy the finer things in life, but they aren’t the best at saving their precious pennies.

Therefore, they seek women who are in control of their finances and can help contribute to creating an empire together.

And if you’re not the ambitious type, don’t fake it. It’s not an easy secret to keep hidden and your Aries man might enjoy encouraging you to find a career that you love.

3) Make an effort with his friends

A sure-fire way to get him obsessed with you is to win over his friends. Aries is one of the most sociable out of all the zodiac signs, so they take friendships seriously.

And to your Aries fella, nothing will show him how great you are like his friends praising you (and being jealous of him).

The truth is, he doesn’t want you to become best buds with his friends, but he does care what they think and if they give you a thumbs up – it’ll only make him more into you.

So the next time he invites you to hang out with the gang, make a real effort to get to know them all, and don’t forget to let him know how much you enjoy hanging out as a group.

4) Get active…

Aries men love adrenaline – anything sporty is right up their street.

Now, I know some of you are already thinking, “Uh oh, I haven’t played sports since school”, but don’t worry.

If you’re not the sporty type, you can still make him obsessed with you by slowly introducing a bit of physical activity into your life.

Even if it just means going for a walk on the weekend or a game of tennis after work, he’ll appreciate your effort and will probably encourage you to be more active (which is never a bad thing).

If you are already sporty, great news. Just carry on as you and don’t be afraid to be competitive – he’ll love having someone to challenge him physically.

5) And get adventurous

Ladies, if you’re the type who loves quiet evenings in, you’re going to have to shake it up a bit and keep your Aries man on his toes.

Being bored and falling into comfortable routines are far from what Aries men like, so the more adventure and spontaneity, the better.

But with that being said, you don’t have to completely give up on cozy evenings snuggled on the sofa, just make sure to balance it out with plenty of exciting adventures where possible.

Find out what your guy is into – if it’s theme parks, surprise him with tickets one weekend, or look for local activities you can do together so it breaks up the usual “dinner and a movie” dates.

6) Don’t make it easy for him to win you over

As I mentioned earlier, Aries men prefer a chase. They want to pursue you and have challenges along the way.

Here’s the deal:

The quicker you give in to them, the sooner they’ll lose interest.

Playing hard to get might sound a bit outdated and I’m sure many experts would say game playing doesn’t help – but you’re dealing with an Aries, and they’re notorious for loving a challenge.

So play the game a little bit.

Don’t make yourself available every time he asks you out and take your time when it comes to being emotionally and physically intimate, it’ll only make him more obsessed with you.

And let’s be honest, sometimes it’s nice to feel pursued and wanted, so enjoy it while it lasts and make the most of your man’s attention.

7) Keep a sense of mystery

And alongside playing hard to get, it doesn’t hurt to inject a bit of mystery into the mix.

So what do I mean by mystery?

To start with, you don’t need to reveal every detail about yourself on the first date. It’s hard to find the balance between being open and friendly, and mysterious yet intriguing.

But a sure way of doing it is to avoid blabbering on about yourself too much. Verbal diarrhea will only cause him to lose interest and attention.

Instead of telling him your life story, wait for him to ask you questions before giving away intimate stories or favorite memories.

Mixing up your style from time to time can also be a good way to keep some mystery, as every time he thinks he’s got you worked out, you shake things up and keep him curious.

8) Be honest about your feelings

As much as you want to remain mysterious, there’s also a point where being open with him will draw him in closer.

The thing is, he wants to know that you’re into him. As much as he enjoys the chase, it’s pointless if he never knows how you feel.

So whilst you don’t need to write him a 3-page letter on your feelings, now and then it won’t hurt to let him know how much you enjoy his company.

Although the ball is in your court about being honest about your own feelings, sometimes even Aries men will give you mixed signals in return. And there’s a perfectly good explanation for this…

Male and female brains are biologically different.

One big way is that the limbic system (the part of the brain that regulates our emotions) is much larger in female brains and male ones.

This is why women are generally more in touch with their emotions and Aries men can struggle to deal with complicated feelings, such as falling in love.

I learnt about this from relationship expert Amy North.

Watch her excellent free video about it here.

In her video, Amy North reveals exactly what to say to a man to make an Aries man want to commit to a relationship with you. These words work surprisingly well on even the coldest and most commitment-phobic men.

If you want to learn science-based techniques to attract men and get them to commit to you, check out her free video here.

9) Don’t hold back in debates

And while we’re on the subject of conversing and getting to know each other, your Aries man will find it both fun and sexy to have someone who can rise to them in a debate.

As you get to know your man, find out if there are any topics, in particular, he’s passionate about – whether it’s politics or the local arts and culture scene in your town.

Just by being informed, you’ll be able to offer your perspective on topics he’s into, which will get him interested and eager to chat with you more.

The only caution here is to not come across as too aggressive. Aries men like to feel in control, but that doesn’t mean you have to give in to him every time.

Keep passionate conversations calm and keep a level head, you’ll make your points clearly and he’ll enjoy the discussion more.

10) Believe in him and his dreams

Aries men are known to be very ambitious, and they are relentless in pursuing their dreams.

“But what does that have to do with me?” I hear you asking.

Well, there are only so many hours in the day. While your Aries man is busy chasing his goals, he’s spending less time focusing on you.

So, it’s only right that you combine the two – you and his ambitions. By being a solid source of support and showing belief in him, he’ll recognize that you could be a great addition to his success.

And, he won’t see you as merely a distraction.

11) Show off your intellect and wit…

There’s nothing an Aries man loves more than a woman who can meet his banter with witty remarks and quick comebacks.

When it comes to flirting, this is the ultimate way to make him go crazy for you, as he’ll see how smart you are and that your sense of humor matches his.

The key here is to be witty but not cocky, have a sense of grace and playfulness to your banter but as we’ve already covered…a hint of mystery can also spice it up a little and keep him intrigued.

12) And your compassionate side

But as much as you want to make him laugh whilst appearing sexy and seductive, don’t be afraid to show him your kind, caring nature.

An Aries man wants a clever, fun partner but he also needs to know that you’ll be there for him when he needs it.

When he’s had a bad day or a topic that means a lot to you comes up, don’t hold back.

Show him that you have a sensitive side too and that around you he can be vulnerable if he wants to.

Not only will this make him more into you, but he’ll also feel a deeper intimate connection to you because you’ve opened up to him.

13) Be confident

Put simply:

Confidence is key to an Aries man.

And it’ll work wonders in making him obsessed with you. Aries men tend to be attracted to confident, bold women who go after what they want in life, and being confident is also seen as extremely sexy by Aries men.

You don’t have to be loud, dominating, or pushy, but even quiet confidence and self-assurance will be picked up on by your man.

Be sure about what you’re doing in life and who you are as a person, and he’ll find you irresistible.

14) Have fun with your body language

There’s also no harm in being confident with your body.

Whether it’s a flirtatious hand on his arm or stroking his hair out of the way when he talks, touch is a great way to make him want you.

The ruling planet of Aries is Mars – passionate, full of action, and thrives off energy.

Use your body language to light that fire in him, and as Aries are very passionate themselves, he won’t be able to keep his hands off you.

And when you’re not together, the memory of your touch will keep him wanting more, so you win either way.

15) Keep hold of your independence and social life

Our final point is one that is essential if you want to make your Aries man head-over-heels obsessed with you:

Live your own life.

There’s nothing worse for an Aries than a clingy partner who doesn’t have her own life together.

Don’t make the mistake of thinking that you need to be around him 24/7 to keep him interested – Aries men need a lot of space and time to themselves.

And they love to hear that you need the same.

Whether it’s to be alone, or because you want to spend time with your friends and family, he’ll want you, even more, when he sees how much you don’t need him to have a life.

How do you know when he’s obsessed with you?

So now you’ve worked your magic and shown him your confident, mysterious, witty side, how do you know that he’s obsessed with you?

Lucky for you, Aries men don’t hold back on showing their love and affection.

There’s a deliberate emphasis on the word “showing” here because your Aries man is more likely to express his love through his actions rather than words.

Aries are extremely physical in all aspects of their life – from being sporty to showing affection physically.

Expect your man to show how much he adores you by expressing public displays of affection (like holding your hand or putting his arm around your shoulder) because he wants to show you off to the rest of the world.

Or, he might show his love by bringing you breakfast in bed or always opening the door for you – it might sound a bit old-fashioned but it’s a sincere way for him to show you he’s into you.

Now you’ve got him…how do you keep an Aries man obsessed with you?

Okay – you know he’s obsessed with you – but how do you keep the fire going?

It’s simple:

Show him your inner strength and let him see all the colorful sides of your personality.

Looks are important to Aries but more than that they want someone who has a personality that compliments and matches theirs.

And that is someone confident, ambitious, passionate, and not afraid to live life to the fullest.

So what can you do to keep his interest?

Keep your Aries man into you by adding in spontaneity and adventure whenever possible and building your career or personal life so that you stay independent and interesting.

Remember – you want him to feel like you need his protection from time to time, but that ultimately you’re in control over your life and you’re able to handle yourself.

Don’t let the fun and flirting slide either, no matter how comfortable you get in your lives as a couple, keep the banter going and remind him often of why he fell for you in the first place.

And what to do if your Aries man is losing a bit of interest and you want him to miss you? Read on to find out.

How to make your Aries man miss you

Even if you’re still together, you might have the feeling that he’s slowly losing the spark and needs a chance to miss you.

If you’ve broken up, you can still follow these steps to getting him back:

  • Give him space, and plenty of it. Don’t ignore him, but keep yourself busy and avoid seeing him too often.

  • Look your best. Aries men love a woman who looks and feels good, so forget about caking your face with makeup – make yourself beautiful inside out. Look after your skin, eat, and sleep well and do things that make you feel happy. He’ll see your glow and find it irresistible.

  • Keep living your best life. The ultimate way to make him crave and miss you is to go out and enjoy yourself. Hang out with your friends, take a solo trip, or pick up a new hobby. It’ll make you more interesting to him and he’ll look forward to hearing about your new adventures.

The truth is:

Aries is called the “child of the Zodiac” for a reason – they’re independent, determined, and strong-willed, but babies at heart.

They easily get bored and look for the next fun thing to do, so keeping their attention is harder than getting it in the first place.

The key lies in keeping yourself active and living a fulfilling life – your Aries will continue being intrigued by you and even if things don’t work out, you’ve still got a life to live.

And ultimately, if your Aries man loses interest completely, maybe you weren’t compatible in the first place and he’s doing you a favor by not wasting your time.

So, which signs are most compatible with Aries?

And as with anything that comes with the signs, compatibility plays a huge role in knowing whether it’s worth pursuing your Aries man.

In this case, bad news for Libra, Cancer, and Virgo women. These signs can work out with an Aries, but it will take a lot of time, patience, and effort to make it work.

The most compatible signs are Leo and Sagittarius because they’re also Fire signs.

Gemini women also tend to work out well as they share wittiness and outgoingness with Aries and even though there’s still work involved, these signs should be able to find a natural rhythm.

But, whether you’re in the compatible category or not, true love finds a way to help things fall into place too so don’t give up hope.

You might have to work a little harder at your relationship and at keeping your Aries man obsessed with you, but his intense love and loyalty, in the end, will make up for all the hard work.

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