Ugh – running into an ex has got to be one of the most confusing things ever.
Sometimes, you might not be over them yet, or vice versa. And even if you are, some awkwardness is not avoidable.
But what if I tell you that there could be a deeper meaning behind running into the person you once loved?
Let’s dive into that a bit:
1) You need to let go and move on
If you’re still hung up on an ex after a breakup, it’s time to let go and move on.
If you keep going back to that person, again and again, it means you’re either not ready to move on, or there’s some unfinished business between the two of you.
It’s important to have closure with an ex before you can move on and truly start to heal.
Running into an ex could be a sign to finally let go and move on.
You might find yourself thinking about them more than usual, which is when you know it’s time to let them go.
So, don’t hesitate to try a gratitude journal, meditation, or even burning incense to help you let go and move on.
The thing is, there are quite a few reasons why you might run into an ex, and further down, I will also go into the complete opposite of what I just told you.
The truth is, it depends 100% on your situation and what is going on in your life.
However, more often than not, when you see your ex, it is a sign that you need to finally let go and move on.
How long have you been grieving this breakup? It’s time to get your life back on track.
And if you’re not over them, it’s time to start working on yourself and get your mindset in the right place.
Once you have gotten yourself to a place of happiness again, you will notice that you can move on a lot easier from that breakup and let go of the pain.
Speaking of letting go of the pain, that actually brings me to my next point:
2) Let the pain of the breakup go
If you’ve been through a painful breakup, you might be having a hard time letting go of the emotions you’ve been holding on to.
If you run into your ex and feel a sudden rush of emotions, you need to let go of the breakup pain.
Sometimes, an ex can come back into our lives and offer us closure.
If you’ve been having a hard time letting go and letting go of the breakup pain, seeing your ex again could be what you need to finally let go of the breakup pain.
You might not feel ready to talk to them or have closure with them, but just being around them can release the pain you’ve been holding on to.
The thing is, even if you will never get back together with that person, holding on to the pain of the breakup is not healthy.
Stagnant emotions can cause you to feel trapped in the past, which will keep you from moving forward.
It can also create a lot of negativity and bitterness toward your ex.
It’s unnecessary to keep a hold on to all that pain because it will not help you move forward.
Instead, open yourself up and be ready to receive as much positivity as possible.
Think about it: what good comes out of holding on to that pain?
It’s not doing you any good at all.
So, cutting off ties completely might not be the best route, but feeling the pain of that breakup can help you move forward and start over again.
Now, speaking of not cutting the ties, running into your ex could mean something else, as well…
3) You’re still connected to them
If you’ve been having a lot of dreams about your ex, or you actually run into them, it could be because you’re still connected to them.
So, if you’ve been running into your ex more often, it could be because you’re still connected to them.
Maybe you two just need to talk and clear the air a bit.
The thing is, the universe doesn’t really make anything happen “by accident”. If you keep running into your ex, it could be a sign that you’re still connected to them somehow.
It could be that your subconscious is trying to get you to do something – like talk and clear the air.
Alternatively, if you are still truly over them, and this is just a coincidence or just something that happened by pure chance (such as they were in the same place at the exact same time), then it’s not necessarily a sign of anything.
But even then, you might still share a connection with this person on some other level than romance.
I will go into that in a minute, but in some way or another, your path together is not quite over, even if the romantic chapter has ended.
But speaking of the romantic chapter, you might still be clinging on…
4) You’re not ready to move on yet
If you find yourself running into your ex and you’re not ready to move on, it could be a sign that you need to take some more time in your healing process.
Sometimes, we just need a bit more time to ourselves to completely heal from a breakup before we move on to a new relationship.
If you’re not ready to move on, the best thing to do is decide what you want to do.
Are you simply not fully healed yet or is a part of you still hoping for a reunion with that person?
If it’s the latter, don’t force yourself to move on. It’s better to spend another month or two focusing on your healing process than jumping into a new relationship only to end up regretting it later.
But if you’re simply not healed yet, and you’re not planning on moving on anytime soon, then I would go for it.
The universe often tries to help us out, and if you are not ready to move on, it might send you into your ex’s path to figure out if you truly do want to be with them or if you are better off having them out of your life.
Seeing your ex that often can actually give you quite a lot of hope, which brings me to my next point.
5) It can give you new hope
If you’ve been struggling with your love life, and you have no luck with dating, running into your ex can give you new hope.
This person once made you very happy and loved, so maybe the universe is bringing them back into your life to help you find love again.
When you find yourself running into your ex, don’t be afraid to talk to them or ask them out on a date. It might be just what you need to find love again.
But not just that, it might also simply give you hope that this relationship is not fully over, yet.
In that case, it is up to you two to decide what you want to do, whether it be to end things completely or to give things another try.
In any case, if you run into your ex often it can really put your mind at ease and empower you to find love again.
Now: getting back together with an ex is not always a good idea, to be honest.
Unless you have both had time to heal and grow as people, there is a good chance that the relationship will simply end up repeating itself and create more problems than solutions.
Even if you decide that your ex is “the one”, then there is a chance that the relationship will be unhealthy and not last, anyway.
If you have both healed and grown as people, however, getting back together can be a great idea and can bring you two even stronger than before.
That’s the tricky part, though, you’ll need to be brutally honest with yourself here.
The thing is, lying to yourself won’t do you any good in the end, so it’s better to be honest and tell yourself the truth.
And the truth is that you will probably not be happy with your ex.
If you’re still holding on to some negative feelings about them, then there’s a chance that you might end up getting back together only for them to tear you apart yet again.
Speaking of negative feelings, maybe the meaning behind your meetings is to clear the air?
6) It’s time to apologize or clear the air
If you’ve been having issues with your ex, and there’s some tension between the two of you, running into them can be a good sign that it’s time to apologize.
Or, if there’s been some things that have been left unsaid or unresolved between the two of you, running into them can be a good way to clear the air.
Sometimes, we need the help of the universe to stop us from avoiding someone we need to talk to.
If you’ve been having issues with your ex, running into them can be what you need to heal your relationship.
The thing is, it doesn’t matter if you want to get back together with them or have them out of your life entirely – if there are things that were left unsaid, it’s important that you communicate that with them.
Think about how good it will feel to finally have done so and to clear the air.
Sometimes you need to work on yourself before being able to work on your relationship, and running into your ex can be a good way of working on yourself.
Running into your ex if you’ve been having issues with them will help you learn how to communicate clearly and effectively with them, allowing you to get closer in a healthier way.
The universe wants us to be happy, and running into your ex is the first step towards that happiness.
Now: if you feel like you have nothing to apologize for, then maybe your ex is the one who has some things they need to apologize for.
In that case, you’ll need to be patient and give them the time and space they need to figure out what they want.
Remember, not everyone is honest about their feelings, so give the person some time before you jump the gun.
But even in this case, if you feel like your ex needs some time to sort out their feelings, it’s OK – just stand by them until they’re ready.
You might not get back together after that apology, but who knows, maybe there is some space for friendship?
7) You’re meant to be friends now
If you ran into your ex and ended up chatting with them in a relaxed manner, it could be because you’re supposed to be friends now.
Sometimes, when we end relationships, we end up not having any contact with our exes.
But, running into your ex again means you two might be able to become friends.
It could be a sign that you two were meant to be friends from the beginning and that you two were probably just having a bad breakup.
The thing is, lots of couples get along really well, the romance part was the only thing that didn’t quite work out.
This can be an opportunity for you two to revisit the things that really did work out between the two of you and see if there is anything left that you could do together.
It might not be an ideal situation, but it’s better than continuing to avoid one another.
Sure, more often than not, being friends with an ex can be chaotic.
However, there are instances in which this can actually be a really good thing.
Maybe you two are meant to be best friends, and maybe running into your ex was the universe’s way of putting you two back together.
You’ll never know unless you give it a try.
Now: maybe, this encounter was also meant to bring you peace!
8) You are supposed to make peace with the breakup
If you’ve been having nightmares about your breakup or are still having a hard time letting go and moving on, running into your ex can be a sign to make peace with the breakup.
You might not be ready to talk to them or make peace yet, but just being around them can help you move on and make peace with the breakup.
Sometimes, we just need the right person to come into our lives to help us let go and move on.
If you’re having a hard time moving on, running into your ex might be a sign that you need to let go of the breakup.
The thing is, even if you feel like you are getting over your ex, you might not have made peace with the breakup in your heart.
A part of you is still resistant to the fact that you are no longer with them.
That resistance caused you to run into your ex, and now it’s time to make peace with the breakup and move on.
You can’t move on if you’re still holding onto your feelings about the breakup.
Here’s the thing: making peace with the breakup will allow you to move forward, and this is something that will come in handy when we get to the next point…
9) It’s to show you that you weren’t meant to be with this person
If you ran into your ex and instantly felt a sense of relief, it could be because it’s a sign that you weren’t meant to be with this person.
Sometimes, we just need to see someone in person to know that they’re not right for us.
If you ran into your ex and you instantly felt a sense of relief, it could be because you weren’t meant to be with this person.
This can also be a sign that you need to let go of the breakup pain.
The thing is, sometimes seeing someone in person will give you the necessary reassurance that this really is not the person you are meant to spend your life with.
Even if you run into your ex when you’re still confused about whether or not you should end the relationship, or even if your ex and you are still hanging in there, it might mean that being with them wasn’t the best choice for you.
This also ties right in with my next and final point:
10) It’s a way to alleviate any doubts you had about the breakup
It’s normal to have doubts about a breakup, especially if it was a long relationship.
If you ran into your ex and you instantly felt relief, it could be a sign that you had doubts about the breakup and you now feel more confident about the breakup.
Sometimes, we just need to see someone in person to know that everything is okay and we don’t have to worry anymore.
If you ran into your ex and instantly felt relief, it could be because you had doubts about the breakup and now you feel more confident about the breakup.
First off, it’s totally normal to doubt yourself after a breakup. “Did I make the right decision? Was breaking up a mistake?” these questions will likely float around your head, but seeing your ex after a breakup can be the universe’s way of alleviating all of your final doubts!
If you’ve found yourself running into an ex, these are 10 possible meanings behind it.
If you’ve been having a hard time moving on from a breakup, or you’ve been feeling anxious about a relationship, running into an ex can be a sign to let go and move on.
It can also be a sign to make peace with your past and make amends with an ex.
However, what this encounter truly means for you is something you will need to figure out on your own – it depends entirely on the situation and where you are at in life.
Either way, it’s a positive thing, though. You should embrace it and see where it leads!
Can a relationship coach help you too?
If you want specific advice on your situation, it can be very helpful to speak to a relationship coach.
I know this from personal experience…
A few months ago, I reached out to Relationship Hero when I was going through a tough patch in my relationship. After being lost in my thoughts for so long, they gave me a unique insight into the dynamics of my relationship and how to get it back on track.
If you haven’t heard of Relationship Hero before, it’s a site where highly trained relationship coaches help people through complicated and difficult love situations.
In just a few minutes you can connect with a certified relationship coach and get tailor-made advice for your situation.
I was blown away by how kind, empathetic, and genuinely helpful my coach was.
The above link will give you $50 off your first session - an exclusive offer for Love Connection readers.