Sorting through the maze of love and relationships can be quite a task. But what if there were telltale signs that you’ve found your soulmate?
According to psychology, there are.
Finding your soulmate isn’t about the grand romantic gestures, it’s about those little moments and feelings that give away the fact that you’ve found ‘the one’.
In this article, we’ll uncover the 10 psychological signs that you’ve hit the soulmate jackpot. And trust me, once you know what to look for, you’ll see your relationship in a whole new light.
Ready to delve into the world of soulmates and psychology?
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1) Shared values
Psychology tells us that shared values are one of the most significant signs you’ve found your soulmate.
In the world of relationships, it’s common for people to believe that opposites attract. However, studies show that having shared values and beliefs can be a strong indicator of a long-lasting relationship.
When you and your partner share the same fundamental beliefs and principles, you’re more likely to understand each other on a deeper level. This understanding forms the basis of a strong, healthy relationship.
Justin Baldoni said, “The greatest gift we can give to others is our authentic self.”
When your core values align with your partner’s, it’s easy to be your authentic self because you’re both on the same wavelength.
While shared values are important, they’re just one piece of the puzzle. There are still nine more signs to look out for! So, let’s keep going.
2) Effortless communication
Communication is key in any relationship, but when it comes to soulmates, it’s even more significant.
In my own relationship, I’ve noticed how effortless our communication is. We can talk about anything and everything without any fear of judgment. And when there are misunderstandings, we tackle them head-on instead of sweeping them under the rug.
In relationships, words are only 7% of the total communication. It’s not just about what we say, it’s also about how we say it and what we do.
When you’ve found your soulmate, your communication transcends words. It’s about those shared glances, the comfort in silence, and understanding each other’s thoughts without needing to speak them aloud.
But again, this is just one sign. Let’s explore more!
3) Acceptance of flaws
Nobody is perfect, and accepting this fact is a crucial part of any relationship. When you’ve found your soulmate, you don’t just tolerate their flaws, you accept them.
I’ll be frank here. Falling in love is easy; staying in love is the hard part. It’s about seeing each other’s imperfections, accepting them, and choosing to stay in love every single day.
Carl Jung, the famous psychoanalyst, once said, “The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.” When you’ve found your soulmate, they won’t just accept you completely – they’ll inspire you to do the same for yourself.
Every relationship has its ups and downs. But if you find someone who loves you even at your worst and inspires you to grow, hold onto them. That’s a sign of a soulmate connection.
Let’s move on to the next sign!
4) Unconditional support
Your soulmate is not just your lover, but also your biggest cheerleader. Their support is constant, unwavering, and unconditional.
In my own life, I’ve seen how a supportive partner can make all the difference. When I decided to switch careers, my partner was there beside me, encouraging me and pushing me forward, even when I doubted myself.
Sigmund Freud said it best: “Love and work… work and love, that’s all there is.”
When you’ve found your soulmate, they’re not just there for the love part; they’re there for the work part as well – supporting your dreams, being there in hard times and celebrating your victories.
If you have someone who believes in you, even when you don’t believe in yourself, then that’s a strong sign you’ve found your soulmate. But let’s not stop here; we’ve got more signs to uncover!
5) Comfort in solitude
Here’s a sign that might seem counterintuitive at first: you’re comfortable being alone.
Yes, you read that right. When you’ve found your soulmate, you don’t feel an incessant need to be with them every second of the day. You’re secure in your relationship and comfortable spending time apart.
Famous psychologist Erich Fromm once said, “If I am what I have and if I lose what I have, who then am I?” Finding your soulmate doesn’t mean losing yourself in them; it means complementing each other while still maintaining your individuality.
When you’re comfortable in your own solitude, it shows a level of security and self-confidence that not only strengthens your individual self but also your relationship.
Interesting, isn’t it? Let’s move on to the next sign!
6) Emotional intimacy
While physical attraction often sparks a relationship, emotional intimacy is what fuels it in the long run.
Emotional intimacy is about being able to share your deepest fears, hopes, and dreams without fear of judgment. It’s about being vulnerable and knowing that your partner will respect and cherish that vulnerability.
Renowned psychologist John Bowlby once said, “What cannot be communicated to the [m]other cannot be communicated to the self.” In the context of a soulmate relationship, this means that what you can’t communicate to your partner, you can’t fully understand within yourself.
If you’re with someone with whom you can share your deepest emotions freely and openly, that’s a strong sign they could be your soulmate. But we’re not done yet; there are more signs to discuss!
7) Shared laughter
They say laughter is the best medicine, and in a relationship, it’s the glue that keeps things joyful and light.
In my own relationship, shared laughter has been a constant, even during tough times. It’s our way of saying, “We’re in this together, and we can handle anything life throws at us.”
As the famous psychologist William James once said, “We don’t laugh because we’re happy – we’re happy because we laugh.” When you’ve found your soulmate, shared laughter comes naturally. It’s a sign of mutual understanding, shared perspectives, and joy in each other’s company.
If your partner is also your favorite comedian, then you might just have found your soulmate! But hold on, we’ve got more signs to explore! Let’s move on.
8) Mutual respect
Respect might seem like a given in any relationship, but I’m not talking about just any kind of respect. I’m talking about a deep mutual respect that acknowledges each other’s individuality and independence.
It’s a respect that says, “I honor who you are, who you’ve been, and who you’re striving to become.” It’s a respect that doesn’t try to change you but accepts and loves you as you are.
As the famed psychologist Gordon Allport once said, “Love received and love given comprise the best form of therapy.” And I believe mutual respect is at the heart of this love.
When there’s deep respect in your relationship, it creates a safe space for both of you to grow and flourish. And that’s another sign you’ve found your soulmate.
But remember, we still have more to discuss! Let’s move on.
9) Healthy disagreements
This may seem counterintuitive, but regular, healthy disagreements are a sign that you’ve found your soulmate.
Yes, you heard it right. Disagreements. But let me clarify – I’m talking about healthy disagreements, not destructive arguments. It’s about expressing differing viewpoints and working through conflicts in a respectful manner.
As the renowned psychologist Carl Rogers said, “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” Applying this to relationships, we can see that accepting and respecting differing opinions can lead to growth and change.
Healthy disagreements show that you are two different individuals who respect each other’s opinions. This not only strengthens your bond but also contributes to personal growth.
If you can disagree without disrespecting each other, it’s a good sign you’ve found your soulmate. But we’re not done yet; there’s one more sign to go! Let’s uncover it.
10) A sense of home
Finally, one of the most telling signs you’ve found your soulmate is a sense of ‘home’ when you’re with them.
In my own experience, being with my partner feels like coming home after a long day. It’s comfortable, safe, and filled with unconditional love. It’s a feeling of belonging and ease that’s hard to put into words.
Psychologist Robert Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love speaks about the ‘consummate love’ which is the complete form of love representing an ideal relationship. It involves intimacy, passion, and decision/commitment – just like feeling at home with someone.
If being with your partner gives you a sense of comfort and peace like no other, it’s likely you’ve found your soulmate. And remember, while these signs can guide you, at the end of the day, trust your heart because it knows things that your mind can’t explain.
And there you have it, the 10 psychological signs that you’ve found your soulmate!