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Is your man making love to you? Or is he just simply having sex?
In this article, I’m going to share with you 30 definite signs that your man is honestly making love to you.
In fact, if you’ve been confused about what your man is really feeling for you when you’re in bed together, you’ll finally be able to get to the bottom of it after you read this post.
We have a lot to cover so let’s get started!
What you'll learn:
1) He enjoys kissing
While a “quickie” is in order every now and then, a man who really loves will want to hold you and kiss you for long periods of time.
He won’t be in a rush to get to the main attraction just yet. He’ll spend time looking into your eyes and caressing your face. He’ll pay attention to you. And you’ll love it!
2) He loves all of your body
If you’ve ever seen a guy slap a girl’s ass and think that it was a terrible display of public affection, you’d be wrong.
Men who are comfortable enough with their lovers to exhibit those kinds of displays of public affection are really in love.
They pay attention to all of a woman’s body, inside and outside of the bedroom. If your man likes to grab your ass when you walk by, consider it a compliment.
3) He nuzzles your chest
Sure, he probably wants to get close to your breasts, but it’s more likely that he wants to feel close to you.
Getting close and nuzzling your chest lets him hear your heartbeat and lets him feel safe with you.
Being physically close promotes trust and confidence in the bedroom, and if he wants to get close to you outside of the bedroom, that’s cool too.
He loves your breasts, even if you have small boobs. It doesn’t matter to him. He loves everything about your body.
4) He is patient and considerate of your needs
There is a difference, of course, between sex and making love.
If your guy is all about “wham! Bam! Thank you mame”, then he might not be the kind of guy you want to marry.
If, however, he is patient and kind and considerate of your needs, and he’s not racing against a ticking clock, he could be worthy of your love forever.
5) He tells you his fantasies
Sharing sexual fantasies requires a level of trust that many people never get to with their partners.
If you are going to marry someone, he needs to be able to share his fantasies with you and you need to share your fantasies with him.
If you can’t be honest about what you want and need in the bedroom, what’s the point?
6) He feels like he’s doing his ‘job’
When it comes to sex and intimacy, what does he really want from you?
Men don’t necessarily want a woman who’s a firecracker in bed. Or one with a big chest and flat tummy.
Instead, he wants his prowess validated — to feel like he’s doing his ‘job’ as a man.
Nothing speaks to a man’s masculinity more than satisfying the woman he loves. Men are hardwired to want to please women.
When he feels like he’s doing his ‘job’, you’ll instantly know that he’s making love to you rather than just having sex.
7) He wants to cuddle
After sex, he doesn’t jump out of bed and get dressed to get on with his day.
Surely this has happened to you at least once in your life, and you know the sting it can leave behind when you are hoping to get some snuggle time in after sex.
If he hangs around and wants to hold you, he’s the kind of guy you should marry.
8) He is polite in and out of the bedroom
Kind and gentle men often make the best lovers because they ensure that their partners enjoy themselves as much as he is enjoying himself.
A generous lover understands that men and women have different needs and that there’s no need to rush any of them.
If you find yourself in a relationship with a guy who is kind and considerate in his everyday life, he’s likely going to be a kind and considerate partner in the bedroom.
You might not think that robust and healthy sex life is important to a long-term relationship.
Are your parents still having sex at their age? Hopefully.
Sex is natural and a wonderful part of life and if you are lucky enough to find someone who rocks your world, hang on to them.
If you can share the most intimate parts of being human together, you can share anything.
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9) He talks low and slow
If there’s one sure-fire way to get your girl all riled up, it’s whispering in her ear.
Women love the closeness and passion that comes out of a whisper session.
And what’s great about whispering in her ear is that it is the right move regardless of where you are in your love-making session.
It’s he does this trick, try to keep this man for years to come.
10) He explains in detail why he thinks you’re beautiful
While it is already a pretty effective move to tell a woman she’s beautiful while you’re getting close, if he takes it one step further and tells her why he thinks you’re beautiful, then you’ve got him lots of brownie points.
If he wants you to know exactly what he likes about you, so that you feel comfortable around him and they’re not just those generic lines that other guys use, then he’s a keeper.
11) He asks what you want and listens
He takes the time to ask her what she wants.
You might be shy about it at first, but he encourages you to be honest with him so you can both enjoy the company of one another in bed without holding back.
When you’re telling him what you like, he is attentive and encourages you to be as open as possible.
He doesn’t laugh or judge. He treats it as an intimate moment that could pay off big time for both of you.
12) He takes his time
Do the words, “there’s no rush” mean anything to you? They should.
When it comes to the bedroom, he takes his time with everything he does.
He gives you his undivided attention and ensures he takes his time to enjoy the moment and the beautiful experience you are sharing together.
He just wants the emotional and sexual connection you’re engaging to last for as long as it can.
He remembers that one of the best parts about being together is that you get to BE together, so he doesn’t rush to the finish line and then be done.
He wants to keep you interested and wants to be with you, so he pays attention to where you’re at in your pleasure center. This isn’t a single ride to him.
13) The foreplay is meaningful
Ever been with a guy and it simply feels like he is doing foreplay just because it’s necessary to get to his goal of sex?
Yep, that kind of guy isn’t making love to you.
But if it feels like he is genuinely enjoying foreplay with you, and he’s taking the time to caress you, massage you, and make you feel loved all over, then you know for sure that he is making love to you.
It should be obvious to you when you’re in the heat of the moment. Don’t doubt what you’re feeling.
Usually, when you have a strong emotional connection with your man, you just know, you know?
14) You feel more free and easy
When a man is simply having sex with you, it can feel forced.
He sticks to his routines and the way things should be, rather than letting loose at the moment and enjoying it.
When you’re making love, there is genuine passion and excitement between the two of you that make you feel easy, flexible, and free.
You know you both want to be each other and as a result of that security, you bask in the glory of those strong emotions you’re feeling for each other.
15) He goes with whatever you’re feeling
Some women like to be in charge, while others are perfectly happy to sit back and let the guy do all the heavy lifting.
He wants you to be you when you’re in the bedroom. He wants to know how you operate: if you are the take-charge kind of gal and he might like it if you play the dominant role for a while.
He doesn’t try to guess what you want in bed. He asks!
He owns up to the fact he doesn’t know everything about sex and this opens a whole other opportunity to talk about your sex life.
16) He tries new things
He doesn’t want to get wild and crazy but he finds fun to experiment a little and share new experiences.
You don’t always have to be “in bed” to be “in bed.” Take your cues from one another and if it feels right, go for it.
17) He lets you take your toys to bed
There’s no reason to be embarrassed about sex toys; in fact, they can really enhance your sex life.
If you’ve got them, he lets you use them. Sex doesn’t have to be so serious. You can have a lot of fun together if you let go of your inhibitions.
18) He’s not afraid to emotionally connect with you
Let’s face it:
Some guys are cold and they only want the physical.
But if your man is willing to talk to you, express his emotions and actually listen to what you want and need, then he’s probably a man in love.
He’ll show this emotional connection in the bedroom by holding you close and giving you touches and kisses on your cheeks and body.
The best bit?
He’ll express these feelings even after you’ve finished in the bedroom.
Why?
Because it’s more than sex. It’s not about simply finishing and saying goodbye.
Nope. He’s not rushed. He wants to spend more time with you because he loves you.
19) He pays attention to the non-verbals
Men sometimes miss the non-verbal cues women send them because they are expecting women to tell them what they want.
But if your man understands your body language and what you’re really feeling, hold onto him.
So consider this list the next time you meet a new man and ask yourself if he is marriage material using this handy list.
Remember to think about what is important to you as well — if you don’t like cuddling, don’t marry a guy who wants to cuddle all the time. Obviously.
20) He gazes into your eyes
You may have heard the saying that the “eyes are the windows to the soul,” and many people think this is true.
You can tell a lot about a person if they refuse to make eye contact with you. Eye contact can be one of the most telling signs that your man loves you and is not just lusting after your body.
In fact, research from the University of Chicago indicated that someone more interested in a person’s body (lust) was more likely to look at their body rather than their face. Those people who saw someone as a potential romantic partner (love) focused on the face instead of the body. The research concluded that this pattern was true for both males and females.
Most casual flings or one-night-stands don’t include much if any, eye contact. Gazing into each other’s eyes is often a tell-tale sign of a deeper connection.
21) He shows affection outside of the bedroom as well as in the bedroom
The term “making love” means many different things — and while it generally means sex, it doesn’t have to. Instead, showing simple signs of affection can also be a form of making love, whether it’s in or out of the bedroom.
You can maintain closeness in many other ways besides having sex. Signs of affection might be as simple as a touch on the hand or a quick slap on the butt. And these can be private or public displays of affection.
Holding hands or cuddling on the couch, even when it doesn’t lead to sex, can mean that when you do get down to business, it’s more than just focused on lust.
22) He’s patient and willing to work through your hang-ups
Not everyone is super comfortable with their body or how they perform in bed. Most of us have a few issues that we need to work through in bed, whether it’s making sure the lights are off or keeping some clothes on.
A man who is patient and wants to work through these insecurities with you is more likely to be in it for the long haul.
Someone who loves you is going to be willing to ease you into addressing these hang-ups.
He’s understanding about how long it takes you to work through these issues — and he doesn’t put pressure on you to do anything you’re uncomfortable doing.
He’s often also willing to talk through these hang-ups with you and help you work through them at a deeper level.
23) He’s willing to take necessary precautions
Birth control isn’t sexy — but it is necessary.
A man that pays attention to his role in birth control is showing he cares. Because women are the ones that get pregnant, men sometimes just ignore this “necessary evil” and assume that you have it handled.
Instead, a man who makes love to you will want to be sure that you are both being safe and careful. If he cares, he will be sure that you are both healthy and practicing safe sex.
Safe sex and birth control shouldn’t just be your responsibility!
24) He’ll stop if you ask
A man that is making love to you will never want you to be in pain (unless that’s what you’re going for) or uncomfortable with what is happening. The moment that you say that you want to stop, he should stop.
We all have days when we are just not in the mood, or things are uncomfortable for one reason or another. Your guy will understand and either help you work through it, adjust what he’s doing, or try again another time.
Someone who is making love to you will want you to be completely comfortable with the situation. It isn’t making love if one or both of you aren’t feeling it.
25) He makes you feel beautiful
Did you know that 91% of women report that they are unhappy with some portion of their body?
If you’re in that 9% that is completely happy your body — then good for you! But, for the rest of us, sex that showcases some part of our body that we don’t like can be anxiety-provoking.
When your guy makes you feel wanted, needed, and beautiful in the bedroom, chances are that you are doing more than just having sex.
Making you feel beautiful can happen by having him whisper sweet nothings in your ear, or it could be just the way that he runs his hands over your body.
Making love not only feels amazing physically — it’s a full mind and body experience.
Feeling beautiful because of how your man touches you and treats you is a huge part of that experience and it’s one of the many signs your man is making love to you.
26) He’s willing to be vulnerable with you
Body image isn’t just a problem for women. Roughly 45% of men struggle with dissatisfaction with their body image.
And men have insecurities about their bodies and their performance in bed, just like women do.
If your guy is willing to share some of these issues with you, chances are that you have a lover, not just a fling.
Being vulnerable is difficult for everyone, but it can be especially difficult for men who are “supposed to be” tough, strong, and masculine.
For men, performance issues in bed are a huge confidence killer in a lot of aspects of their life. If he’s willing to open up to you about these issues so you can work through them together, you can build a stronger, lasting relationship.
27) He makes you laugh — even in bed
Sex is supposed to be fun! It can be intense and passionate, but there are times when it is just downright fun and funny.
Let’s face it. Not everything is going to be perfect in bed. Laugh it off! Do silly things! Have fun with your man!
If you can laugh together even while doing the deed, your relationship will likely go far beyond the bedroom.
According to some experts, playfulness between romantic partners is critical to bond together and establish security.
There are tons of other benefits of laughing in bed, too. Research shows that it makes couples more comfortable, they feel secure, and it relieves performance pressures.
Laughter can even help your muscles relax, making the entire experience more pleasurable — and who doesn’t want that?
28) You can see it on his face
While sex can make virtually anyone happy, you will often notice a “look” after you and your guy are done. It might be a smile or glint in his eye. It might also be a playful move or two, like giving you a nudge with his nose or quickly biting your ear.
It’s hard to miss the happiness on his face when you’re finished.
Showing this genuine look of joy and glee is one of the easiest ways that you can tell that he thinks you have more than just a physical connection.
