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Are you wondering if your ex wants you to reach out to her? It can be tricky to know when it’s time to call or send a message.
Believe it or not, there are signs that your ex wants you to contact her, and I will show you today:
1) She reaches out to your friends
If your ex contacts a friend of yours who also used to be close to you, that’s a sign that she still wants to have a connection with you.
It’s important to note that she may genuinely want your friend’s help with something, but if your ex reaches out to your friends, and not you, it could be a way of getting in touch with you.
After a breakup, your friends might avoid contacting your ex at first.
They may be afraid of causing tension between you two or hurting your feelings.
However, after some time passes, they are likely to stay in touch with your ex.
If your ex contacts one of your friends and not you, it may be because she wants to get in touch with you.
You see, there are multiple reasons for this.
One, she might actually have had a strong connection with them and simply misses being in touch with them.
You see, there may be some common interest or hobby that you both share.
She may have simply wanted to get in touch with them because she missed hanging out together.
Two, she might want to see if they can ask you about her and then get in touch with you herself.
This is also a great opportunity to ask them about you and see if you are dating anyone new already.
You see, if you aren’t super active on social media, then this might be her only way of keeping tabs on you.
When an ex asks mutual friends about you, that’s a huge sign that she is not over you and actually wants you to reach out to her.
Think about it: why else would she suddenly contact your mutual friends again?
If your ex contacts one of your friends after a breakup and not you, it’s a sign that she wants to stay connected with you.
2) She’s reuploading old photos of the two of you together
If your ex uploads photos of the two of you together, she may be hinting that she wants to reconnect with you.
It’s likely she misses those moments and wants to relive them.
Exes often upload photos from their past relationships, but they usually pick only their best photos together.
The photos could be blurry, out of focus, or include a funny mistake she wants to remember.
Your ex might be uploading these photos as a way to get back in touch with you and remind you of your past together.
Now: she might not be making this obvious.
It doesn’t always have to be a photo of you two together, she might upload a photo of herself on a vacation you went on together.
Maybe the caption will be something like “Missing those times”.
Even though you’re not in the photo, what she is probably trying to say is that she misses spending time with you.
In order to decipher that, you need to know that the photos she posts were from your time together.
There are probably other photos of her that she is uploading from different periods of her life.
Once you notice that she posted one of those photos, that might be a sign that she wants you to reach out to her.
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3) She comes up with random excuses to talk to you
If your ex comes up with excuses to talk to you, this may be a sign that she misses talking to you.
It’s important to note that she may want to talk about work-related things or ask for your advice on something.
However, if your ex is coming up with excuses to talk to you, it may be because she misses speaking to you and wants to reconnect with you.
For example, if your ex asks to talk to you about a project you were working on together, she may be doing it just to get in touch with you.
You see, it’s not really hard to spot, when your ex wants to talk to you about things that could really be talked about with anyone, then it’s a pretty clear sign that she misses you and wants you to reach out properly to her.
The thing is, I know, it’s frustrating that she wouldn’t just come right out and say it openly, but you know, it can be hard being vulnerable like that, so she might just be testing the waters right now!
Simply put, if your ex comes up with any excuse to talk to you, she secretly wants you to reach out to her more.
4) She pretends that she needs help with something
If your ex pretends that she needs help with something, it’s possible that she just wants an excuse to get in touch with you.
It could be anything, like asking you to proofread an article she wrote or asking you to help her lift a heavy box.
If your ex needs help with something and doesn’t ask any of her friends, she could be hinting that she wants to talk to you.
Your ex might want to catch up with you because she misses talking to you.
It’s harmless to meet with your ex if she asks you to help her with something.
Just make sure not to get your hopes up too much. Meet with her, help her with something, and then see where things go.
You see, sometimes, there truly are things that nobody else could help with like if you are an expert in something, it’s clear why she would ask you for help with something related to that.
However, if she asks you for help with something generic like lifting a heavy box or helping her with something else, then it’s a pretty clear sign she wants you to reach out more.
Think about it: with generic things, she could have asked literally anybody else, so why would she ask you?
The answer is that she wants to catch up with you.
5) She still talks to your family
If your ex still talks to your family members, it may be because she misses talking to them and wants to reconnect with them.
It’s important to note that your ex may want to stay in touch with your family for completely innocent reasons.
For example, she may want to ask about your little sister’s volleyball game or hear how your parents are doing after recent surgery.
If your ex still talks to your family members and not you, it may be because she misses talking to them and wants to reconnect with them.
However, it’s possible that she wants to get in touch with you while still keeping in touch with your family members.
You see, she might also use your family as a way to not completely cut ties with you and to give you a reason to potentially reach out to her.
The thing is, you will notice this sign if she shows any of the other signs in this article, as well.
6) She posts pictures online, hoping you will reach out
If your ex posts pictures online hoping that you will reach out, it’s possible that she wants to reconnect with you.
It could be on any social media platform, like Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter.
Your ex could be hoping that you will like her pictures or comment on them.
She may also be posting pictures with a particular message in mind. If your ex posts pictures online hoping that you will see them, it’s possible that she just wants to reconnect with you.
You may have no idea that she’s doing this, so make sure you’re scrolling through social media often to see what your ex is up to online.
Now: to be fair, this one is really hard to spot because she might just be posting pictures because she likes them and she also enjoys other people’s attention.
Figuring out whether you are the one she wants to see her photos is tricky.
However, if you notice that right after breaking up she started posting more photos, it could be a sign she wants you to reach out.
Now: I would make sure that she shows some of the other signs in this article as well, to make sure that this is actually what is going on.
7) She’s been tagging you in posts and commenting on your Instagram
If your ex is commenting on your Instagram posts or tagging you in posts on Instagram, it may be a sign that she wants to reconnect with you.
Again, she may not be doing it because she wants to rekindle your relationship.
She could be doing it because she misses you as a friend. If your ex is tagging you in posts and commenting on your Instagram, she may want to talk to you.
Again, she may want to stay friends with you and is just doing it for fun. If you want to reconnect with your ex, you should respond to her comments and tags.
The thing is, no ex comments on Instagram or tags you in posts unless they want to be in contact with you.
That’s just a fact, so if she is doing that, you know for sure that she wants to talk to you.
However, her intentions of being in contact with you aren’t entirely clear yet.
Sure, she might just want to be friends, but she might also want to rekindle the relationship.
You will need to give it some time to figure that out.
8) She is still following you on social media
If your ex is still following your social media accounts, it’s likely that she misses you and wants to stay connected with you.
It’s important to note that she may be following your social media accounts for completely innocent reasons.
For example, she may want to be updated on your career or see your new projects.
If your ex is following you on social media and not liking or commenting on your posts, it could be because she wants to reconnect with you and doesn’t know how to do it.
If you want to reconnect with your ex, follow her on social media and try to strike up a conversation.
You see, some people immediately unfollow their ex after a breakup, so if she didn’t do it, there might be a reason for it!
9) There have been no new relationships since you broke up
If there have been no new relationships since your breakup, that could be a sign that your ex misses you and wants to reconnect with you.
It’s important to note that it takes time to heal after a breakup.
Your ex might be taking it slow and focusing on herself without any new relationships in her life.
If your ex has been focusing on herself without any new relationships in her life, she may be missing the connection and intimacy of a relationship.
This can be especially true if the two of you had an intense relationship and your ex misses that closeness.
Now, she might just be doing a phase of celibacy or simply doesn’t want a relationship at the moment.
However, the odds are generally better for you if she hasn’t been in a new relationship, it means your chances of getting back together with her are better.
Think about it: if she is in a new relationship, it probably means she doesn’t want you to reach out to her.
She probably wants to start fresh and doesn’t want you to interfere with her new relationship.
If she’s single, then there is a chance that she wants you to reach out to her again!
10) She’s posted pictures with a meaning
If your ex posts pictures with a meaning, it could be a sign that she misses you and wants you to come back into her life.
For example, she could post a photo of something that only has meaning to you two, like an insider joke, or write a caption about a relationship.
If your ex posts a meaningful picture, it’s possible that she wants to reconnect with you.
You may have no idea that she’s doing this, so make sure you’re aware of what she is posting if you want to stay up to date on those things.
This might be something completely obvious, but she might also use a tiny hint that you can barely spot.
Either way, you will need to analyze her posts if you want to figure this one out.
Does she want you to reach out?
If your ex has been doing any of these things, it’s possible that she misses you and wants to reconnect with you.
It’s important to remember, however, that you shouldn’t read too much into any of these signs.
Your ex may be doing these things for completely innocent reasons.
Try not to read too much into these signs, and keep your emotions in check.
If your ex reaches out to you, respond to her and see how things go from there.
If your ex does any of these things, it can be a good sign that she misses you and wants you back in her life.
It’s up to you to reach out to her and see if you can get your relationship repaired.
Now, don’t get too obsessed and watch her social media for months, waiting for a sign.
Instead, reach out to her if you want to repair the relationship, and see what she says. If not, follow the no-contact rule and simply move on!
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