So, you’re in a long-distance relationship.
It’s not easy getting to see each other, but it’s worth all the effort when you do.
But sometimes, it’s hard to tell if your efforts are actually paying off.
Is your relationship serious?
Here are 15 signs that say:
Yes, it is.
1) You’ve met face to face more than once
The first sign you have a serious long-distance relationship is that you’ve met face to face at least once.
This aspect is really important due to factors such as the chemistry between the two of you and the ability to see and hear each other in person.
You need to be able to get a good feel for each other and you can only do this when you meet face to face.
Unsurprisingly enough, it’s usually easier for both of you to figure out if there is something romantic happening when there is physical interaction involved.
But what if you knew them before?
In case you transitioned from a real-life hook-up to a long-distance relationship, then seeing each other is not less important. However, at least you know that the physical attraction is there.
2) You’ve introduced each other to friends and family
How do you know when a relationship is getting serious?
One of the ways is to introduce your partner to family members and friends.
When two people are serious about each other and want a future together, they want to tell people about it. Am I right?
So, did you meet their friends and/or family? Before you answer, keep this in mind: meeting them online also counts!
In case this didn’t happen, but you already talked about it, I have good news for you! It’s still a huge sign that your relationship is serious.
Why? It’s natural to want to include each other in your lives and in your circle of friends and family. And the more you do that, the more important the relationship becomes, and vice versa.
3) You’ve made plans for future trips with each other
Long-distance relationships are characterized by the fact that the two of you can’t see each other often.
But, instead of simply accepting that fact, you two take each other seriously and try to make plans for future trips with each other.
Seeing each other is not simple. Even so, both of you are committed to planning the most wonderful get-togethers, especially because they’re less frequent due to distance.
In this way, you add excitement to your relationship. Going on trips together can also help you discover more about each other and explore the world together.
I don’t know about you, but I see this as a step in the right direction.
4) You two trust each other without a doubt
Trust is such a huge part of any serious relationship that I would venture to say it’s the first thing that comes to mind when thinking about long-distance relationships.
And this is totally understandable! After all, there are lots of cheating stories online, especially when it comes to long-distance relationships.
But have you ever heard of a serious long-distance relationship in which there was no trust?
I don’t think so!
There is no doubt that it’s hard to trust someone you don’t have a lot of direct contact with.
However, I can tell you for sure that if you and your partner have ever discussed the topic of trust, then it means your relationship is serious and it has potential.
On top of that, if you already have certain mechanisms in place to be totally transparent with each other, your relationship is definitely serious.
5) You communicate frequently, like several times per day
Communication is crucial in every relationship, not to mention a long-term relationship.
This is not only because it helps you express your feelings, but also because it allows you to feel closer to each other.
So if you communicate frequently with your partner, it means a lot. It means that there is already a real connection between the two of you and you feel free to contact each other without hesitation.
Furthermore, if you often talk during the same moments of the day, such as in the morning and at night, this becomes a habit.
Forming habits is recommended in long-term relationships. Why? Because you start to get used to each other and you know that there is someone out there waiting for your call.
Sure, this puts pressure on both of you and makes things hard, but it also brings a lot of good.
6) You’ve talked about your goals and how to align them
Talking about goals is a sign that a couple has real potential, and when you talk about how you plan to achieve them, it shows that this goal-setting process is promising.
In other words, you both know what you want, but you also know that it’s not going to be easy to get there and that you need to work together to achieve it.
However, since you’re both willing to put in a lot of work, you should be good to go.
And what if you didn’t have that discussion? Surely you still need to bring this topic up, because it’s essential for any relationship, especially for a long-distance one.
As a result, the sooner you do that, the better.
7) You’ve had fights and got over them successfully
Not everything goes smoothly in a relationship, especially not in a long-distance one. Getting into fights is probably inevitable.
However, you can handle them if you don’t let them ruin your relationship.
So when you have a fight, do you talk about it and bring the issue to light? And if so, do you manage to resolve it and move on?
If you do all this, your relationship is probably serious, because you both have the maturity and willingness to keep things together.
After all, there is no point in having arguments if you’re not willing to talk about them and resolve things.
Even so, also ask yourself this: Do you fight about the same things?
If you do, your relationship might not be that serious. What do I mean?
You shouldn’t have arguments about the same topic because that means one of you is not making the needed changes to avoid them.
8) You refer to each other as “we”
Well, this is a very sweet sign that reveals your long-distance relationship might be serious.
Let me explain: saying “we” in a relationship means that you think about each other like a real couple, that you are a team, and that you feel united.
Also, when people say “we” in a relationship, it shows that they are both committed to the relationship.
Furthermore, when you identify yourself as “we”, this leads to a future together.
For example, you say “We’re going to do this together”, or “We will buy that car”.
In this way, your lives are already intertwined.
So if you think you’re in a serious long-distance relationship and these signs resonate with you, be sure to let your partner know you feel this way.
It won’t hurt, and it is the best way to show your love for each other.
9) You’ve found ways to support one another
A good relationship is a constant cycle of supporting one another. And this means that you should be there for your partner when they need you the most, and they should be there for you when you need them the most.
You’ve found ways to support each other without having to be physically close. You’ve successfully communicated your needs and you’ve figured out how to meet theirs.
This not only strengthens the bond between the two of you but also brings a sense of unity, passion, and love.
So, if you’re in a serious long-distance relationship, all of these things are already happening. And if they aren’t, it’s time to act.
10) You know each other’s flaws and accept them
In simple words, this means that you know and accept each other’s flaws. A relationship, be it long-distance or not, cannot stand on a shaky foundation.
Simply put, you should be able to accept each other as you are, warts and all!
By doing so, you are also saying that you care about your relationship and that you really want to make it work.
So, if you know each other’s flaws but still accept them and treat each other with compassion, your relationship is a serious one.
11) The two of you understand the importance of honesty in your relationship
Honesty is the key to a happy, serious long-distance relationship. But why?
Well, just think about it:
If you can’t be honest with your partner and speak about things openly, there will be no way for you to have a real conversation.
And in the end, honesty is what will build your relationship more than anything else. While it’s true that feelings are fleeting and that they come and go, honesty should stay.
Fair warning: Being honest doesn’t only mean telling the truth, but also confessing your feelings when you don’t want to. It means talking about your problems and addressing them.
In a long-distance relationship, this is especially important, because emotions may not be as strong as they normally are in a normal relationship. And when you don’t share everything with your partner, things might get ugly.
So, a sign that you’re in a serious long-distance relationship is that you have a healthy relationship, one based on honesty.
12) You have made a commitment to being together
This is one of the most important signs you have to look for in a serious long-distance relationship because in this case, you are saying that you want to be together and that you are ready to make a commitment.
But why is it so important? Well, let me tell you.
A commitment means preserving hope and giving your partner a reason to believe that your relationship can last for as long as it needs to. It means being there for each other when things don’t go well.
Also, it means leading the relationship in a positive direction, because now you know that you have someone who is with you.
If your relationship is serious, then these things have already happened, and they’ll continue to happen.
13) You are both willing to make sacrifices to be together
Now, let’s talk about the less pretty face of a relationship: making sacrifices!
Examples could be taking time off from work, spending money on frequent travel, and so on.
In any case, it means being willing to go beyond what is normally expected from a relationship. And that is precisely what makes this type of relationship unique.
So, if you’re willing to make sacrifices for each other and follow through with the commitment you’ve made, then you’re in a serious long-distance relationship.
However, I’d like to warn you that making sacrifices has its limitations.
That is, you must know what to sacrifice and when.
For example, it’s a good thing to take extra time off from work or spend money on things that make your partner happy. But overdoing it can turn out to be a bad decision.
14) You both express your feelings for each other
This is another one of the main signs that you’re in a serious long-distance relationship.
Why? Because expressing your feelings for each other establishes the foundation of any healthy relationship and is a sign of maturity and respect.
Also, it opens the door to communication, which is crucial in a long-distance relationship.
When you have a serious long-distance relationship, you should want to express your feelings for each other. You should be ready to do that and not be afraid of showing how you feel.
Expressing your feelings could include a lot of different behaviors – from saying “I love you” to buying gifts for no reason at all!
It’s up to you to choose how to express them, depending on your personality.
15) You realize the importance of compromise in your relationship
A lack of compromise can make a long-distance relationship tough to handle.
You see, compromise is the middle ground where you reach a solution so that both parties can be satisfied. Compromising is what makes relationships work.
Want some examples? Compromises in long-distance relationships could include:
- Meeting just once per month so that you can spend a vacation together as well.
- Video-chatting instead of talking on the phone because one of you prefers it.
- Spending time with each other’s friends by taking turns.
As you can see, the opportunities to compromise are infinite.
Also, and probably most importantly, compromises are made with the intention of helping each other get what you want.
So in a long-distance relationship, you must be there to support your partner and help them find a solution, as well as be ready to accept their wants and needs and act accordingly.
If you both do this, then your relationship is already on the right track.
What are the red flags in a long-distance relationship?
Alright, now that we’ve covered the signs of a serious long-distance relationship, let’s talk about a few red flags that can point you to the obvious.
Here are a few signs that your relationship might not be serious:
- They call you only when they want something.
- They take their sweet time answering your texts.
- They often go hot and cold.
- You have no idea about his/her plans.
- Your partner is very active on social media.
While these are just a few examples, you get the point!
If you notice any of these signs in your relationship, then things might not be right, and you might want to reconsider your situation.
You see, long-distance relationships are tricky and they require extreme patience, kindness, selflessness, and pure love.
That’s why it’s important not to ignore the red flags or dismiss them.
What kills long-distance relationships?
Many studies have been conducted on the topic of long-distance relationships and what kills them.
The results are clear: the number one cause for ending a long-distance relationship is being too far away from each other!
In fact, being in different cities, states or even countries means that you can’t meet in person very often, and this part is extremely important for some people.
So, ask yourself this: How important is seeing each other face to face for you and your partner?
Lack of communication is also among the top reasons long-distance relationships don’t work.
Why? Because when you don’t communicate properly with each other, trust is lost and misunderstandings may arise.
The key is to keep a steady flow of communication open between you and your partner so that you can talk about anything at any time.
You have a serious long-distance relationship. What next?
Long-distance relationships are difficult, yet rewarding – especially when they become serious.
To make one work, you have to put a lot of effort into it without knowing what the future will bring.
When I was uncertain about the future of my relationship, I didn’t hesitate to reach out to a psychic.
I’ve always had positive experiences with Psychic Source and that’s why I chose to ask one of their gifted advisors for insight.
As expected, they provided me with great and practical advice that I was able to apply in my situation. What’s more, they empowered me to believe in the future and to trust in my partner.
That’s why I think they can help you too!
In a few minutes, you can connect to an advisor who will tell you more about your long-distance relationship, how serious it really is, and what could happen in the future.