Has your Virgo man been acting distant?
Does he criticize everything you do or has he been giving you the cold shoulder?
The end of any relationship, regardless of the star sign, hurts like crazy.
But with a Virgo, you’re probably going to be left feeling confused and frustrated, especially if he starts to pull away with no explanation.
And that’s the thing with Virgos, there’ll be no huge drama or broadcast about the end of your relationship – he’ll try to slip away as quietly as possible.
So what are the signs that he’s truly done with you? And can the relationship be saved?
That’s what we’ll be exploring in this article, but first, let’s look into why your Virgo man might have lost interest in the first place.
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Why do Virgo men lose interest?
Virgos, just like all the zodiacs, have their unique likes and dislikes when it comes to relationships.
The main difference with Virgos though is that they can be complete and utter perfectionists, and that can spill over into their relationships too.
By now, you’re probably already well aware of your Virgos tendencies, but if things aren’t going right and he feels distant, there could be a few reasons why:
- The relationship (or you) has become “too intense” for him and he can’t handle it
- He doesn’t feel supported in his work or personal life
- There’s too much gossip or cheap talk – Virgo men like to have meaningful conversations and they’re put off by idle chat.
- You’ve been dishonest – Virgos hate being lied to, even if it’s a small white lie
- You come on too strong – even in a committed relationship, Virgos take their time to warm up sexually and they don’t enjoy being pounced on when they’re uncomfortable
You see, not only are Virgos perfectionists, but they also need to feel connected to their partner before they can be intimate and loving.
If that connection gets cut for any reason, you’ll notice his behavior quickly change.
And whilst Virgo men are usually good at being honest and direct, when it comes to breakups, they don’t enjoy the confrontation.
So what does that mean for you?
Well, heartbreak, confusion, and a whole load of questions are probably what you’re experiencing right now.
Your once loving, sweet partner is now giving you the cold shoulder, silent treatment, and certainly no affection.
At this point, you’re probably wondering, “Is he going to leave me?”.
That’s where we’ve got you covered – below are 12 clear signs that your man is done with you, and after we’ll look at whether your relationship can be salvaged or not.
12 signs your Virgo man is done with you
1) He becomes critical of your relationship
And his criticisms are no longer there to improve the relationship, instead, they’re used as fuel for why he shouldn’t be in it any longer.
As Virgo men tend to want everything to be “perfect”, little relationship flaws that originally didn’t bother him is all that he focuses on now.
So whilst it’s normal for him to be a bit critical of your relationship from time to time, it’s not a good sign if he constantly picks up on issues and makes a big deal out of them.
2) He refuses to open up emotionally to you
You’ll know he’s done with you when he stops being open with you.
Let’s be honest here, Virgos are the best at conveying their emotions in the first place, so him shutting down might not seem like a massive deal.
But, if he was once open and willing to share his feelings with you, and then he suddenly stops, it’s a clear sign something’s up.
Your Virgo man overcame his emotional blocks to open himself to you when you were happy and in love, but the moment he doesn’t feel that way anymore, he shuts down.
To him, only people he’s close to can access this side of him, everyone else gets rejected by his protective outer shell.
So by closing down and retreating into his shell, he’s conveying that he doesn’t feel enough of a connection to open up to you anymore.
It’s tough to go through a situation where the person you love starts acting strangely, but it doesn’t mean that all hope is lost.
How do you get a Virgo man to open up to you?
If you haven’t heard of it before, the hero instinct is a new concept in relationship psychology that’s generating a lot of buzz at the moment.
What it boils down to is the drive men have to live a life full of meaning and to earn the respect of those around him.
Men don’t necessarily want to be Bruce Willis but they do want to protect the woman they care about, treat her right, and earn her love in return.
And if you want him to open up emotionally to you, you’ll realize this.
The best way to trigger the hero instinct in your Virgo man is to watch this excellent free video by relationship psychologist James Bauer.
James outlines the simple things you can do right now to tap into this very natural biological instinct.
I don’t often buy into popular new concepts in psychology. But I think learning about the hero instinct can be a game changer when it comes to your relationship with a Virgo man.
3) He analyzes everything you do
And the criticism might not stop there.
Your Virgo man might start analyzing and having an opinion on everything you do too.
Whether it’s your lack of ambition at work or the way you drive, you’ll soon start to feel that nothing you do is good enough.
So why does he act this way?
Well, for one reason or another, he’s not happy in the relationship and he’s dealing with it by assessing you and your role in his life.
What used to be words of advice now become mean comments intended to hurt and drive you away from him.
He’ll even go as far as to make you want to break up with him, something that not all Virgo’s will do but some may if they’re feeling pressured or trapped.
4) He becomes passive-aggressive
Another way your Virgo might show his lack of interest is by being passive-aggressive.
If you’ve ever come across someone who is passive-aggressive, you’ll know how difficult it can be to get through to them.
The crazy thing is:
Virgo men are generally upfront and honest about how they feel, but in times of confrontation, they tend to choose the sulky approach.
Therefore, a clear sign that he’s pulling away is when you get remarks like, “yeah, whatever” instead of mature conversation and solutions.
This can be incredibly tough to deal with.
Not only are you probably confused about why he’s acting this way, but he’s also not sure of how he should act.
All he knows is that he isn’t happy, and he can’t help but simmer in his frustration and negativity towards your relationship.
5) He suddenly becomes distant and cold
One of the most obvious signs that your Virgo is pulling away is when he stops texting back, calling, or wanting to meet up.
Even when you are together, he’s distant and often away with his thoughts, and very little attention is given to you.
The truth is:
If you asked him whether he still wanted to be together, he’d probably say no. That’s the good thing about Virgos, they tend to favor honesty over game playing.
But, if you never broach the subject, he’ll probably try to let things fade out and die naturally, without having to explain why he doesn’t want to be together.
Because Virgos hate having to express their feelings. He’d rather ice you out and stop returning your calls rather than have to rationalize his thoughts and emotions.
So even though they can be blunt and honest, if they’re faced with a difficult conversation many Virgo men would prefer to back out quietly and without any fuss.
The reality is most women don’t know what Virgo men are thinking, what they want in life, and what they really crave from a relationship.
And the reason is simple.
Male and female brains are biologically different.
One big way is that the limbic system (the part of the brain that regulates our emotions) is much larger in female brains and male ones.
This is why women are generally more in touch with their emotions and men (especially Virgo men) can struggle to deal with complicated feelings, such as falling in love.
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6) He reacts by snapping at you
If the catty passive-aggressiveness wasn’t enough, you might also see a change in the way he speaks to you.
Simple questions are answered bluntly and borderline rudely, and even though Virgos are known to be direct, this will take it to the next level.
Usually, Virgos are good at controlling their anger and if they love you, they’ll try to tone down their bluntness and respect your feelings.
But if he’s no longer invested in your relationship, considering your feelings will be the last thing on his agenda.
He’ll speak his mind and snap at you whenever he feels like it, without being able to give you a real reason why.
7) His grudges last longer than usual
Okay, it’s no secret that a Virgo can hold a grudge, but when he’s done with you his grudges will seem to go on forever.
Even if it’s a small issue that’s annoyed him, he might overreact and take longer to get over it.
And the worst part?
He’ll probably start bringing up old arguments or issues that have already been dealt with (or so you thought).
In his mind, he’ll be searching for all indications that you shouldn’t be together anymore, and he’ll use these old arguments to validate how he feels now.
8) He’s not interested in having sex anymore
Of all the zodiacs, Virgo men are the best when it comes to abstaining from sex.
It’s not that they have a low sex drive, they’re just more in control of it and they’re very particular about how they connect with others.
You see, for a Virgo man to be in the mood, he needs to feel comfortable with his partner.
He has to understand you and feel connected to you, emotionally, physically, and mentally.
If you have problems in your relationship, he’ll likely put off having sex or any other type of intimacy.
Virgo men are very sensitive and when it comes to physical romance, they need to be content emotionally before they can get into the mood for sex.
And if you’re not connecting mentally and emotionally, he’ll simply avoid being close to you.
It’s not to hurt you, but rather because Virgos need a lot of mental stimulation as well as physical – without it, they lose their desire to be intimate.
9) He stops seeing a future with you
But sex might not be the only thing he avoids – if your Virgo is done with you, forget talking about the future together.
If he goes from regularly making plans and sharing dreams for the future to avoiding the subject completely, it’s a massive indicator that he’s having second thoughts.
The thing is, Virgos tend to plan and make sure their calculations are meticulous in detail – they’re perfectionists after all.
So when you were in love and he was fully invested in the relationship, he would have pictured you far into his future.
But, the moment things started going downhill, you can bet that those dreams started to disappear pretty quickly too.
And since your Virgo doesn’t want to necessarily admit this to you, he’ll just stop talking about it altogether.
Even if you mention it.
It’s a sign that’s quite clear and even one that you could test if you think your Virgo man may have cold feet- simply bring up the future and see how he reacts.
The question you need to ask yourself is this: Do you see a future with your Virgo man?
10) Your opinion isn’t important anymore
Remember in the beginning when he couldn’t get enough of you?
Virgo men are notorious for wanting to please their partners, and they don’t feel content unless she is too.
When in love, they want to fully embrace their partner and know everything about them – from your favorite film to how your upbringing was.
But what happens when they no longer want to know what you think, feel, or need?
Well, it’s not good news, unfortunately.
Once your Virgo loses interest in what you have to say, they’re starting to detach from the relationship.
Gone are the days where he hangs off your every word, now you feel like he greets your news with little enthusiasm and hardly comes to you for advice or support.
And, the more you try to get through to him, the more he’ll shut down and stop listening.
It’s a horrible process to go through, but as Virgos are highly defiant and stubborn, it’ll be useless to force him to listen.
11) When you are together, he’s quick to pick a fight
As well as rejecting your opinions, your Virgo man might even start picking unnecessary fights with you – just because.
Each time, you’ll be left feeling confused and hurt, because the reason for the argument won’t be clear.
Anything from talking about the weather to asking what’s wrong could trigger him, and before you know it he’s lost his temper and you’re in the midst of a row.
And it gets worse:
Virgos will hit you with those below the belt comments to get their way in an argument – they can be quite nasty when they want to win a disagreement.
If your Virgo man has started doing this, don’t back down and give in in the hopes it’ll calm him down.
Fight your corner and hold your ground – this is the best way to deal with Virgos when they stop respecting you during an argument.
12) He becomes controlling
If your Virgo wants out, but he feels trapped, he may start becoming controlling. It’s not that he wants to control you, but he wants control back over his life.
And micromanaging you and everything that happens around him is his way of showing discomfort and unhappiness.
He might restrict your freedom, stop you from doing certain things, or just generally be hovering around you all the time.
His possessiveness will come from his need to be in control and he’ll hate it if other men come into the equation because it’ll mean he isn’t fully in charge.
At this point, your Virgo is in a bad place – he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you anymore but he also doesn’t see a way out.
And on that note, let’s look into whether you’ll be able to regain his affection.
Can you get your Virgo man interested again?
By now, you’re probably wondering if there’s any hope left for you and your Virgo.
There’s good news and bad news – we’ll start with the bad:
Once a Virgo has made up their mind, it’s incredibly hard to change it. They’ll have analyzed your entire relationship, weighed up the pros and cons, and studied all the evidence.
And the chances are, if they are truly done with you, nothing you say or do will get them back.
But, there is a silver lining.
If you ended because of something accidental or through a misunderstanding, give your Virgo man space and time to clear his head.
Not only will he appreciate being left alone to ponder his thoughts, but he’ll also be able to work through any issues he’s got that might be affecting the relationship.
Let him know that you love and care about him and that you’ll be there when he’s had time to think. Leave it at that and if he comes back – you’ll know it’s because he genuinely loves you.
The bottom line is:
Virgo men can’t and won’t be controlled or forced into something they don’t want to do.
It’s not in their nature to give in to pressure, so don’t make it worse by hounding him with constant texts or calls.
I know how frustrating it is to leave your fate up to the dating Gods, but when it comes to Virgo men, it’s best to take a step back and let them figure things out on their own.
And if you get the temptation to beg for them to come back, just remember that you’ll only be adding more pressure to him and it could backfire terribly.
But, if you’re at a point where you think he’s losing interest but you’ve still got a chance, read on to find out what exactly he’s looking for in a relationship.
What do Virgo men need in a relationship?
If you’ve read this far, it’s probably because you’re eager to know how you can salvage your relationship.
The signs are there, your Virgo is slowly withdrawing and you’re desperate to reel him back in, but how can you do it?
First, you need to understand the essentials of what a Virgo wants and needs in a relationship.
Then, you can make adjustments to make the relationship appeal more to him, and this will hopefully recapture his attention and commitment.
Here are some of the most important relationship qualities for a Virgo man:
- Trust – being open and honest with him at all times is a must
- Taking pride in yourself and your work/hobbies – Virgo men love a woman who has self-pride that can match their own
- Less emotional talk – Virgo men struggle to express their emotions, and they don’t enjoy chatting about feelings regularly
- Genuine support and care – your Virgo wants to know that you support him in his dreams and ambitions and that you’ll be there for him when he needs you
Finally, it’s important to maintain your individuality.
Your Virgo man is extremely independent, and he doesn’t want a clingy woman or someone who can’t look after themselves.
Here’s the deal:
Now you know exactly what a Virgo man does when he’s losing interest, and you know what he wants and desires in a relationship.
If you think you have a chance and he’s not cut off from you completely, try working some of the tips above into what’s left of your relationship and see if it makes a difference.
Most importantly – know that even with your attempts, your Virgo man will ultimately do what he wants to do.
At least you’ll be able to walk away knowing that you’ve tried everything you could and that it simply wasn’t meant to be.
But if he does come around, great. Keep working on making your relationship a balance between your needs and his, and eventually, you’ll both compromise and find a healthy middle ground.
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