8 signs you’re a strong woman and some men find you intimidating

There’s a fine line between being strong and being intimidating.

The line is drawn by perception. Some see your strength and confidence as intimidating, while others admire it.

But really, being a strong woman is all about knowing who you are, what you want, and not being afraid to go after it. It’s about standing tall in the face of adversity and never backing down from a challenge.

And yes, sometimes that strength can be a bit intimidating to others. Especially some men.

I’ve seen it in my work as a relationship expert and founder of the Love Connection blog. I’ve identified eight tell-tale signs that you’re a strong woman who intimidates some men.

Let’s get started.

1) You stand your ground

Being a strong woman often means standing up for what you believe in, even when it’s not the popular choice.

And yes, this trait can sometimes be intimidating to others. Particularly to some men who are not used to women asserting themselves.

I’ve seen it time and time again in my work as a relationship expert. These strong women are not afraid to voice their opinions and stand their ground.

It’s not about being aggressive or confrontational. It’s about having the confidence to express your thoughts and beliefs, and not back down when others challenge them.

This trait is a clear sign of a strong woman. And while it may intimidate some, it’s also a trait that many respect and admire.

Your strength is not a weakness. It’s a testament to your character.

2) You’re independent and self-reliant

Independence is another hallmark of a strong woman.

Being able to rely on yourself for your needs, be it emotional, financial, or physical, can be very empowering. And it’s something I’ve always promoted in my work with the Love Connection blog.

But let’s be honest, this level of independence can sometimes be intimidating to men who are used to playing the traditional role of the ‘provider’.

Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” An independent woman lives by this quote. She knows her worth and does not allow anyone to make her feel less than she is.

Strong women don’t need someone else to complete them. They complete themselves. And that’s something to celebrate, not fear.

3) You don’t shy away from confrontations

When it comes to confrontations, strong women don’t shy away.

As a relationship expert, I’ve noticed this trait in many strong women. They’re not afraid to face difficult situations, have tough conversations, or confront issues head on.

Now, this doesn’t mean they’re argumentative or combative. It means they’re not afraid to face difficult situations head-on and work through them.

In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I discuss the importance of being able to confront issues in a relationship, rather than avoiding them. This is a trait that strong, independent women often possess.

This ability to face confrontation can be intimidating for some men who are used to avoiding conflict. But remember, confrontation is often the first step towards resolution – Tina Fey.

4) You’re comfortable with vulnerability

Here’s something you might not expect: strong women are comfortable with vulnerability.

Yes, you read that right. Strength is not about being invincible. It’s about being able to show your vulnerabilities and still stand tall.

As a relationship expert, I’ve seen how this ability to be vulnerable can be intimidating for some men. They mistake it for weakness when, in reality, it takes immense strength to show your vulnerabilities.

It’s counterintuitive, I know. But as Brené Brown said, “Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome.”

Don’t shy away from your vulnerabilities. Embrace them. They’re a sign of your strength.

5) You live life on your own terms

Living life on your own terms is another sign that you’re a strong woman.

This means not conforming to societal expectations or norms, but instead, doing what feels right to you. It’s about forging your own path and not being afraid to go against the grain.

In my own journey, I’ve learned that living life on my terms sometimes meant making choices that others didn’t understand or agree with. But that’s okay. My life, my rules.

This can be intimidating for some men who are used to women who follow the status quo. But remember, living life on your terms is a sign of strength, not a flaw.

6) You’re not afraid to be alone

Here’s the raw truth: strong women are not afraid to be alone.

In fact, they often prefer their own company over settling for less in relationships. They understand the value of their solitude and they’re not looking for someone to fill a void.

This might be intimidating for some men who are used to women needing them to feel complete. But let’s face it, a strong woman would rather be single than in an unsatisfying relationship.

It’s a tough pill to swallow for some, but it’s the truth. Strong women know they’re enough on their own, and that’s something to be admired, not feared.

7) You have high standards

Having high standards is another sign of a strong woman.

This doesn’t mean being unreasonable or demanding. It means knowing your worth and not settling for less than you deserve.

In my own life, I’ve found that setting high standards for myself and others has often led to more fulfilling relationships and successful outcomes.

Maya Angelou once said, “Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.” A strong woman lives by this quote. She knows what she brings to the table and she’s not afraid to eat alone if need be.

Having high standards can be intimidating for some men, but remember, it’s a sign of your self-respect and self-worth.

8) You don’t need validation from others

Let’s be honest here: strong women don’t need validation from others.

They know their worth and they don’t need someone else to validate it. They’re not looking for approval or acceptance from others to feel good about themselves.

This doesn’t mean they don’t appreciate compliments or positive feedback. But they don’t rely on it to define their self-worth.

This level of self-assuredness can be intimidating for some men who are used to women seeking their validation. But remember, not needing external validation is a sign of inner strength and self-confidence.


Being a strong woman can sometimes be intimidating to others, especially some men. But remember, your strength is something to be celebrated, not feared.

Each one of these signs is a testament to your power and resilience. So embrace them, own them and continue to shine your light.

For more insights into building healthy, independent relationships, check out my book Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship.

Remember, your strength doesn’t make you less of a woman. It makes you a strong woman. And there’s absolutely nothing intimidating about that – Tina Fey.

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