Wouldn’t it be great if only people were completely honest about their feelings?
It would make our lives much easier!
Some of us just don’t pick up on the subtle signs when someone is in love and it can be agonizing especially if we like them in return.
To help you assess if someone’s into you, here are 15 surprising signs someone likes you but is hiding their feelings for you.
1) Their body language betrays them
They may try to hide their interest the best they could, but their body language will betray them sooner or later.
Body language can be quite complex, but some of the things you need to keep an eye on is how they position their feet and which way their body is facing.
People point their feet and orient their bodies depending on whatever it is that they want at the moment.
If they’re facing you head-on and their feet are pointing towards you, they probably like you and want to know more about you.
A person who’s into you might also mirror your actions, touch you more often, bite their lips, twirl their hair, adjust their pants, and exhibit many other body language signs that he likes you.
2) They make time for you
A sign that they secretly have feelings for you is that they would happily make time for you no matter how busy they are. Of course, they’ll do it as if it’s no biggie, that they’re just being kind or friendly.
Time and attention are the most valuable gifts you can offer someone. We’re all busy with school or work and the free time we have is extremely precious. So if someone gives you their time, especially if you know they’re busy, don’t take it lightly!
It’s an even bigger clue if they go along with you, even if it’s not something they’d normally do. A rather extreme example is that they might be perfectly willing to go with you to the steakhouse you’ve always wanted to visit even if they’re a vegetarian.
Or they might cancel their plans for their day off if you come knocking on their door. Well, they might grumble a little, or pretend as though they’re bothered, but the very fact that they did it anyways is what truly matters.
When you’re together, you can tell that they’re having a great time with you.
3) They pay close attention to your reactions
You could notice them looking at you every time someone says a joke or talks about something interesting. When you’re all watching a movie, they’re watching your reactions…in a very sneaky way, of course.
This is one of the very clear signs someone is interested in you. Not only does it inform them how you react to all sorts of things, they also simply like looking at you and want to take every opportunity to observe how you react.
That laugh you make when someone tells a stupid joke? It might just be the thing they look forward to seeing every day.
And besides, it also tells them what sense of humor you have—the kinds of jokes that make you crack up, and which ones that make you mad. They’re observing you and studying you because they want to know how they can make you happy.
4) You’re their “exception to the rule”
Although they might try to act “chill”, the fact that they care for you will still show in how accommodating they are towards you.
You’re an exception. You get favors and you get a free pass for almost everything.
You can mess up and forget to bring something that you promised to bring, or be late to a meeting and they’ll just let it slide. They might even try to make you laugh about it so that you won’t feel so bad.
This is especially obvious if they aren’t normally the kind to be patient and accommodating with people in general. In fact, they might be downright impatient with everyone else. But with you? They’re patient as a saint!
They can’t help it because it’s difficult to show negative feelings towards someone you like.
5) They can’t keep their eyes off you
They won’t be able to resist looking at you. They will try to make it discreet, of course, so that nobody will notice what they’re doing.
They might look in your general direction instead of at you, for example, and look for something interesting that they can stare at. That way if anyone ever catches them looking at you, they have a convenient excuse. “The poster is so well-designed”, they might say, when you’re sitting beside one.
If there’s a chance that they can look you in your eyes—say you’re talking directly at them— they’d like to get lost in them. But the moment you take notice and return the gaze, they will look away.
The look of love is hard to describe but you know it because you can feel it down to your bones.
6) They get extremely curious about you
Someone who likes you will want to understand and know you better, and trying to know more about the things you like is part of that.
When you’re talking with them, they will try to ask you about the things you like.
They might even try to hang around with your friends so that they’ll overhear what you’re into, and stalk you on social media to understand what you like to talk about.
And of course, they try to engage with your interests. If they know you like hanging out at the local arcade, they’ll go to that arcade. If they know you like reading, they’ll try to start reading as well.
Someone who likes you will be interested in anything that you do and would even force themselves to like them so you’ll have things to talk about and do together.
7) They apologize a lot over the smallest things
It doesn’t matter if you were offended at all. At the smallest notion that you might have found something they have done or said to be offensive, they will try to apologize to you over it profusely.
You see, it might not be a big deal to you, but it’s a big deal to them!
You might be talking to each other about your interests, and all of a sudden they will stop and apologize for rambling so much and try to give you your turn instead of just going on and on about the things they like.
Or they might accidentally bump your shoulder when you’re walking on the street, and they would repeatedly apologize as though they had stabbed your arm.
The last thing they want is to see you hurt, and if they’re the reason for it, they’ll find it unforgivable!
8) You dream about them a lot
This is an exception because it’s something you notice about yourself, and not something you see in them.
The thing with thoughts and feelings is that even when we think they’re all in our head, they actually ripple out into the universe. Empaths or highly sensitive people can pick up on those vibrations and understand people’s emotions just by being near them.
But even if you aren’t an empath, you will pick up on those vibrations when you’re asleep. That is when your mind is least distracted by the physical world and more in tune with the universe on a spiritual level.
When someone thinks of you all the time, their mind reaches out to you. Negative dreams about them might be caused by strong hate or anxiety, while good dreams are caused by overwhelming love and adoration.
It’s also very possible that they’re manifesting their admiration into your dreams so that they can share their feelings without being embarrassed with confronting you in person.
9) They’re a nervous wreck when you’re around
They’re normally calm and collected, but when you’re around, they quickly become a nervous wreck. They might roll and unroll their sleeves, drop their pen, twirl their hair. They might even become especially quiet and unassuming like a rabbit.
If they have especially good self-control, they might be able to keep it from being too obvious. But it’s normal to be somewhat anxious in the presence of someone you like or admire.
Imagine what you must feel when you’re standing in front of the superstar you’ve been looking up to since you were a kid. Well, to them, you’re that superstar.
There are many reasons for this nervousness. It could be because they’re afraid that you’ll figure out that they like you, or that they would make a complete fool of themselves.
10) How you treat them directly affects their mood
Even if your presence makes them nervous, they do become visibly happier when you’re around, especially if you give them your attention.
Imagine yourself, again, standing in front of the superstar you’ve always idolized and, somehow, they look at you and they invite you for some tea.
That would be what it’s like for them. Their heart would be bursting because—at last—the one they feel for is giving them the time of day.
Even when their day has been awful, the moment you smile at them, their face would light up. Give them a hug, and you can just feel their heart bursting in their chest.
And of course, it also goes the other way. Spend too long ignoring them, and they’re going to be down in the dumps. They might even become irritable. Their friends will ask them what’s up and they can’t explain it.
But the reason could be you.
11) Compliments galore
They might not notice it, but they only have the best things to say about you. It doesn’t have to be told straight in your face—they might be talking with their friends when someone brings you up in the conversation.
One might think that they’d notice just how obvious they are being, but this is one of those things that you can easily notice when others do it, but just can’t spot when it’s you who’s doing it.
So when someone—maybe you, maybe a friend of theirs—calls them out on just how much they seem to be talking about you, they will likely shut up and realize what they’re doing, or deny it because they simply didn’t think they were praising you that much.
It would be best not to push them into admitting it, or else you’ll end up pushing them away or embarrassing them, and that’s the last thing you want.
12) They try to steal a touch whenever they can
They might try to pay attention to opportunities where they get to touch you without looking like they’re having a special interest in you.
They might try to brush his hand against yours when you’re walking past each other in a hallway, or laying a hand on your shoulder when you’re hanging out with your buddies.
But how can you tell that they’re interested in you if they only touch you when they’re trying to make sure they aren’t being obvious about it?
It’s all about how often they do it.
Brushing hands while walking past each other isn’t too unusual, especially in crowded areas. However, if they seem to always touch you every time that happens, and if they seem to deliberately walk so that you can bump against each other, then it’s no accident.
13) They know a lot of random things about you
Even if you don’t talk to each other a lot, they seem to know a lot of things about you.
They won’t try to show off, of course—that is the very last thing they want to do, because it will make their interest in you very obvious.
It’s more like that you would be talking about random things at the park when they would randomly talk about how your favorite movie is going to be shown at the local theater in two days. And though they’re right, you just can’t remember telling them just what your favorite movie was!
That is because a person in love is like a spy. They would investigate all the things that they can know about you because they can’t help it. They’re hooked!
14) They stalk you on social media
Following you alone in all your social media profiles might not be a sure giveaway, but when they go on a liking spree on your posts, then they’re most likely interested in you.
Of course it’s strange because they don’t get close to you in real life. They won’t even talk about any of the stuff you post.
It can be quite disconcerting when someone shows they’re crazy for you online but won’t talk to you when you’re in the same room.
The obvious reason is that they’re interested in you but they’re just shy.
15) They don’t mind suffering (as long as you’re with them)
People don’t generally like things they deem boring or tedious. But even the most boring thing in the world becomes worth doing when they’re with someone they like!
Let’s say that they’ve always found throwing trash to be the most tedious chore in the world. But then you offer to walk with them to the garbage bin. All of a sudden, throwing trash means that they get to enjoy talking with you and being near you.
They’ll find throwing trash to be the most enjoyable thing to do, because of you.
So they will throw themselves into their work and they might even ask for more garbage to throw if it means they will get to hang around a bit longer.
Think of the things they usually don’t like doing. Be with them and see how their mood changes.
It’s important to take all these signs as suggestions, and not hard facts.
Everyone has their own signs, and some people are just super friendly and open. Try to see how many signs are applicable—the more points they tick off on this list, the more likely it is that they actually do like you.
But assuming that, yes, you do confirm that they do have interest in you, ask yourself why they’re trying to hide it from you.
Sometimes people simply find it better to hide their feelings. They might be shy and scared of rejection, or it can be because they’re scared to get a punch in the face.
Whatever the reason, you should approach them with tact if you want to acknowledge their feelings and coax them out of their shell.
Don’t waste your time waiting and guessing until eternity. It’s better to know if they’re really into you right now so you can enjoy each other more instead of restraining your feelings for each other.
Life is short, so take charge of your love life like a boss!
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