Let’s face it — not everyone is lucky enough to have someone they like genuinely reciprocate their feelings.
Chances are if you’re reading this, you suspect that she simply doesn’t like you in the same way and has no intention of changing her mind.
It hurts. A lot! But at least you won’t be wasting any more time pining after her or wondering why she doesn’t feel the same as you.
Here are 14 telltale signs she’s playing you and doesn’t really like you…
1) She never wants to see you
If a girl is playing you, she’s going to make it difficult for you to be with her in any consistent way.
One of the clearest signs that she’s playing you is if she never wants to see you.
When you ask her out, she has an excuse or there are always distractions when you try to get together.
She might even just say no outright…
I’m going, to be honest with you: if a girl truly likes you, she will go out of her way to make time for you!
I’m serious, we can move mountains for the man we like.
So, if she never has time to see you (and has no valid excuses), then she’s just not that into you. She’s just being nice. But if it goes beyond that, she might be playing you.
The truth is that if a girl doesn’t want to see you and has no valid reason for not wanting to see you, then she is probably not interested in dating anymore.
Save your time and dignity and find a girl who adores and respects you!
2) She’s constantly flirting with other guys
One of the easiest ways to tell if a girl likes you is if she’s constantly flirting with other guys.
If she’s constantly out and about at events without inviting you, or she shares her number with other guys and doesn’t care what they text, it could be time to stop trying.
A girl who really likes you will never flirt with another guy in front of you as that’ll make her look like a bad person.
But not just that, I mean, do you really want to put your trust in someone who can’t stop flirting with other guys?
How is that ever gonna be a loving and trusting relationship?
Similarly, if she has a boyfriend but still texts you or talks to you because she can’t stop thinking about you, chances are she does like you but it might not be enough for her to risk dumping the current relationship.
In this case, it might be good for both of you to cut off contact for a while before initiating anything again.
I mean just think about it: if she is using you to cheat on your boyfriend, what’s to say she isn’t going to cheat on you the first chance she gets?
Girls who truly like you won’t try to use you as a plaything.
There’s a saying “Once a cheater, always a cheater.”
I don’t believe in that saying for all people who cheat, but if she continuously cheats on her current relationship without any remorse, that’s a huge red flag!
If a girl cheats on her boyfriend all the time, what’s to say she won’t cheat on you too?
3) The conversations with her aren’t deep at all
Do you ever try to have a deep conversation with her and nothing is coming back? This can be a sign that she’s playing you.
But there is a way out!
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4) You’ve asked her to be exclusive and she won’t
If you’ve been dating for a while and you want to take things to the next level but she’s not on board, it’s an obvious sign that she doesn’t like you as much.
You’re probably dealing with a player who doesn’t have any intention of stopping her game.
You see, I’m not saying just because a girl isn’t immediately ready to commit is a reason to dump her.
However, if you’ve been dating for a considerable amount of time, you’re catching feelings, and thinking about her with other guys hurts you – that’s when you know it’s time to be exclusive.
Now: if she’s not on board, that’s a sign she doesn’t like you because she would have said yes in the very first place.
If a girl feels pressured to be exclusive with you, maybe she likes you but doesn’t want to get tied down, or maybe she has other reasons for not wanting to be tied down.
In this case, dumping her won’t make her like you any more than before (she’ll just find another guy to distract herself with).
If you want to find a solution, you’re better off working out where your relationship is and what’s holding her back from an exclusive relationship with you.
In case this is something you can control, then give it a shot, otherwise, cut your losses and move on!
5) She constantly lies and doesn’t own up when she’s wrong
But if she’s constantly lying to you, it’s possible that she doesn’t respect your intelligence or honesty.
If this is the case, it could be a sign that she doesn’t like you and simply wants to get some sort of validation from you.
When a girl constantly lies about small things while you are still in the dating phase, just imagine what will happen when you are in an actual relationship!
That’s a huge red flag that she’s a player, so get out while you still can!
6) She only texts you when she needs something
There are undoubtedly certain occasions when you’ll need something from someone, but if she never texts or calls you without needing something, that’s a red flag.
If she only initiates contact with you because she wants your help with something or is in need of an opinion, it’s unlikely that you’re her favorite person to talk to.
You see, if this is the case, then it’s likely she doesn’t care about you and will only stay in the relationship for as long as it benefits her.
People like that take advantage of people like you, and you shouldn’t have to put up with that.
So: if she only texts you when she needs something, find someone who is genuinely interested in your life and what you have to offer.
7) She’s unclear about her feelings
This is a biggie.
She’s interested in you and not sure what she wants from the relationship.
She’ll play it cool, keep you guessing, or even lead you on without realizing it.
Perhaps she says things like, “I don’t know if I like you that way,” or “I’m not sure how I feel about you yet.”
It hurts but at least now you know where you stand and can move on!
The thing is, if you’ve been dating for a while and she still can’t make up her mind about you, then she isn’t the right one for you, believe me!
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8) She gives you vague answers
If she’s playing with you, she’ll answer your questions vaguely. She won’t come out and say it if you’re feeling her or not and it can be frustrating.
Whenever you want to talk about future plans, she’ll avoid the question or answer in ways that aren’t clear at all.
What she’s doing is essentially just buying time before leaving, so do yourself a favor and cut your losses!
9) She doesn’t show any physical signs of attraction toward you
The biggest sign that she’s playing you is if she doesn’t show any physical signs of attraction towards you.
If she was actually interested in you and wanted to be intimate with you, she would show some kind of reaction when she sees or hears from you.
It could be the way she laughs, blushes, touches, or looks at you… but if there are no signs that she’s into you then it’s a pretty good indication that it’s all fake.
Even if her mouth says yes but her body language says no, this is a really clear sign that she’s not entirely invested in the relationship.
I know, attraction is not everything, but it’s still a crucial part of a relationship!
10) Her behavior is inconsistent with what she says
Maybe she says she’s into a serious relationship, but then she doesn’t want to commit.
She doesn’t put in the same amount of effort that you do.
Simply put, she might be playing you if her behavior doesn’t line up with her words.
If she seems to say one thing and do another, it might be because she likes you but doesn’t like you enough to actually put effort into the relationship.
When someone’s behavior and words don’t line up, we’re dealing with an issue of integrity.
Now: this is pretty serious, if she doesn’t have integrity, then all her other values are worthless, too.
You see, integrity is the biggest and most important value a person can have. Without it, they are fake!
11) She Doesn’t Show Any Interest in What Matters to You
Women who are interested in being somebody’s girlfriend often make an effort to understand the things you are passionate about.
If she doesn’t show any interest in what matters to you and your hobbies, she’s probably not that into you.
You see, when a girl likes someone, it doesn’t matter if his passion is the most boring thing in the world, she’ll want to hear about it because he’s passionate about it.
So, that will tell you a lot!
12) She Constantly Talks About Other Guys While With You
You’re at a party or dinner with her and she’s talking about another guy?
That’s a major red flag.
Don’t be surprised if she starts flirting with him, too.
She is just trying to see how you react and how much more time you will spend with her.
She may even tell you that he is better than you in certain areas, which is her way of manipulating you and making you feel bad.
If anybody treats you like that, you should leave immediately.
You deserve so much better than this!
13) She’s Incredibly Flaky, And Rarely Shows Up On Time
It’s one thing to be a little late. It’s another to be constantly an hour late, or not show up at all.
If you find yourself waiting for her, just know that this is her way of managing the expectations of how much she can commit to you.
If she really liked you, it would seem like showing up on time is more important than anything else.
You see, when she doesn’t put in the same amount of effort as you do (ie: if this is always a struggle), then it’s safe to say that she doesn’t enjoy spending time with you as much as you enjoy spending time with her.
In my own experience, when you truly like someone, you will do anything in your power to be on time or at least not flake out on people last second.
That is just not respectful and if she really liked you, she wouldn’t do this.
14) Value yourself more than anything
My biggest tip for you here is to value yourself more than anything.
Don’t let her treat you like crap. It’s so much better to be single than to be half-hearted with someone who treats you badly and won’t commit.
You deserve so much more than that!
That doesn’t mean all hope is lost!
If you want to take things to the next level with this girl, you don’t need to play games or act like someone you aren’t.
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