Do you have a feeling that she wants you instead of her boyfriend?
At first, you thought this girl was just friendly. You even blamed yourself for imagining she was flirting with you.
But after noticing a few patterns in her behavior, you came to realize that she could be falling for you.
So if you are wondering whether to take this further, here are 15 clear signs she wants you instead of her boyfriend.
1) She spends more time with you, not with her boyfriend
Sign number one, she wants you instead of her boyfriend, is that she spends more time with you instead of him.
You see, if she talks to you a lot, spends more and more time with you, and gets excited when she sees you, then it means she enjoys being around you.
Here’s the explanation:
If a girl that has a boyfriend spends more time with you and even makes excuses to come over to your place or spend more time with you, this should be a clear sign that she wants to be there with you and not with her boyfriend.
So, think about what you do together and what you talk about.
Does she seem excited to see you or is she clearly trying to escape her boyfriend? If you don’t know how to answer that question, then it’s time for the next clear sign.
2) She talks about her relationship with you
Let me ask you this: Does she ask for your opinion about her relationship?
A girl who likes you but has a boyfriend will often talk to you about her relationship because she wants your opinion.
It’s not that she doesn’t have anyone else to talk to; it’s because she wants to know how you’d behave in certain situations. Why?
Because she is trying to figure out if you’re the kind of guy that she wants to be with exclusively instead of her boyfriend.
In addition, she may even ask you for advice on how you would handle certain situations with her boyfriend. Again, this is to see how you would handle things.
Also, if she asks you for advice, it shows that she is very comfortable sharing her private thoughts with you.
And that’s another sign she could want you instead of her boyfriend.
3) She acts jealous when you talk to other girls
When you’re talking to other girls, does she get jealous?
If she does, this might also be a sign that she wants you instead of her boyfriend.
Listen, if she wants you, she can’t let other girls have you. She can’t allow them to steal you away from her. That’s why she gets jealous.
In fact, here’s something else to consider:
Some women show jealousy through anger. Others, however, act extremely nice toward you in order to get you to like them more. In other words, they want you to spend more time with them and they want your attention.
I know it’s strange, but it happens a lot and it’s one of the signs you’ve probably been waiting for in case you also like this girl.
4) She can’t get enough of listening to you
Here’s another sign this girl might want you instead of her boyfriend: she can’t get enough of listening to you talk.
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5) She gets touchy-feely with you
To figure out this girl’s intentions, ask yourself whether she touches you. And not in a way that’s weird or makes you feel uncomfortable.
For example, if she hugs you often, she could just be friendly. However, if she gets physically close to you in a not-so-friendly way, things could be different.
How so? Well, she could be trying to show you that she is interested in you. She might be showing you that she likes you, but doesn’t want to scare you off.
If she gently touches you when you make her laugh. Or, if she reaches for you in a very deliberate way. Then, she might just be affectionate.
So, she could be trying to send you a clear message that she likes you and wants to be more than friends.
6) She shows interest in your life
When you talk to her, does she show more interest in your life than a typical friend?
If she does, this could be a big sign that she wants you instead of her boyfriend.
She’s interested in what you have to say and wants to know more about your personal life. In other words, she wants to get closer to you.
Want to know more?
Consider these points: does she always have questions for you? Does she get really excited about the things that are happening in your life?
7) This girl likes and comments on all your posts
Look: there’s nothing wrong with having a number 1 fan. Friendships between men and women are actually possible.
However, if she likes and comments on every single one of your posts, it means that she’s definitely interested in you.
Would you like to know for sure?
Well, observe whether she does this with everybody or just with you. If she does it with everybody, then it means you’re not special.
On the other hand, if she does this only with you, then it could be a sign that she wants to get closer to you and maybe even flirt with you.
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9) She stares at you and looks away when you catch her
Want more advice on how to know if she’s interested in you? Well, this sign is one of the best ones to check out.
If she stares at you and looks away when you catch her staring, there’s a chance she might want you instead of her boyfriend.
Let me explain:
When you look at her while she’s looking at you, she might want to control the situation. In other words, she will look away because she knows she’s being watched and probably feels a little uncomfortable.
What does this mean?
More than likely, she wanted to check you out without you knowing. Also, she might have liked the way you looked or behaved at the time and didn’t want to let on that she was interested.
Now that you’ve caught her staring, however, it means your suspicions were probably right.
10) This girl can’t help but flirt with you
Flirting with you is one of the signs that this girl could want you instead of her boyfriend. Why? Well, because she’s basically showing you that she likes you by flirting with you.
Once again, there’s nothing wrong with being friends with someone who is dating someone else. However, if she flirts with you too much (or just a little), it could mean that she wants more than friendship.
She might want to date you and be exclusive.
So, how can you tell for sure that she’s flirting with you?
Here’s are a few ways:
- She laughs at your jokes.
- She smiles when you talk.
- She often compliments you.
- She touches you without any fear.
- She likes and comments on your posts. (Be aware: as I explained earlier in this article, she could be doing this with everybody or just you.)
11) She often compares you with her boyfriend
Does she often compare you to her boyfriend? If she does, this is another sign that she wants you instead of him.
If she compares your appearance, personality, or lifestyle to her boyfriend’s and finds you much more attractive, then this might be a sign that she wants to be exclusive with you.
It might be a sign that she wants to date you or be your girlfriend or even leave her boyfriend for you. All of these are possible and it’s a tough call.
That said if she compares you to him a lot or all the time and finds you way more appealing than he is, then she’s probably just being honest and is trying to tell you something.
12) She makes a real effort to look good when you meet
Does she make an effort to look good when you meet?
If she does, this could mean that she’s trying to impress you and let you know that she likes you.
She might be trying to make you notice her. She might also want to show you how great she looks by wearing something sexy, provocative, or eye-catching.
She might even be trying to show you that she wants you to want her. If this is what she’s doing, then this is a good sign – in case you like her too, of course!
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13) She avoids you when her boyfriend is around
Does she avoid you when her boyfriend is around?
If she does, this could be a clear sign that she’s actually interested in you. Why?
Because she doesn’t want anyone to get the wrong idea about her intentions, which means she’s not totally honest with her boyfriend.
How well do you know her boyfriend?
Well, if you don’t know him at all and you come across as better than him, then it could be a sign that she doesn’t want to hurt his feelings. She might even have the intention of breaking up with him because he’s not good enough for her.
So, if she avoids you when her boyfriend is around, it could mean that she wants to date you or be your girlfriend. She may even want to break up with her boyfriend altogether and start something new with you.
14) This girl treats you better than her other male friends
If she treats you better than her other male friends, it could be a sign that she wants you to like her a little more.
For example, she might put extra effort into looking nice when you’re together. Also, she might always invite you to the best parties or offer to treat you to the coolest shopping trip.
Why is she doing this? Well, it’s because she wants to make an impression on you and get noticed by you.
However, if she treats her other male friends in the same way as she treats you, then this is probably not a sign that she likes you more. She might just be trying to be really nice to everybody.
15) She often takes your side when it comes to arguments
Does she often take your side when you’re arguing with other people? If yes, then this could be a sign that she wants you instead of her boyfriend.
How so? You see, when she stands up for you, that means she’s choosing you over other people. Or, it might simply mean that she always agrees with you.
What does that mean? It means the way she thinks is very similar to yours.
In other words, she could have chosen to stand up for you in order to make you feel better or to get on your good side, and because she agreed with you.
It could also mean she wants to get closer to you.
How do you know if a girl is playing you?
Since this girl has a boyfriend, you don’t feel like you can trust her, do you?
- She often goes hot and cold.
- She wants to keep you a secret.
- She avoids you in front of her friends.
- She avoids you in front of her boyfriend.
- You often get mixed messages from her.
- You’ve never been to her place.
- She flirts with other men other than her boyfriend, and you.
- She doesn’t want to take pictures with you.
- You don’t have her number; you chat online.
So, how can you tell for sure if she’s playing? Well, there’s no way to be 100% sure unless she comes out and tells you that she doesn’t like you or that she doesn’t want to date you.
However, if you notice that she gives you lots of mixed signals, then there’s a good chance she wants more than friendship from you.
How do you know if she just wants attention?
It’s true that girls can be very good at hiding their true feelings. That’s why it’s important to pay attention to her body language and feelings when you talk to her.
Here are some of the signs that she just wants attention:
- She gives mixed signals.
- She often cancels plans last minute.
- She constantly asks you for help.
- She doesn’t want to talk about anything serious.
- She always wants to hang out with you and never wants to be alone.
- She often ignores your texts or calls.
- She always talks about how great her boyfriend is.
- She never listens when you talk to her.
- She just talks about herself or what she wants from you.
As you can see, if she only wants attention, then there are many ways she can show it.
What to do if she has a boyfriend?
The signs indicate that this woman wants you instead of her boyfriend. But, what can you do in this situation?
Well, if you want to pursue her, then you should do your best to get to know her. That way, she’ll see that you’re a great guy and won’t be too worried about moving on.
How? Well, here are a couple of ideas:
- Try to spend more time with her when her boyfriend isn’t around.
- Catch up with her at work or at school.
- Ask her out on a lunch date or to see a movie.
- Ask her to help you with some work or study.
- Invite her to join you and your friends at a party, concert, or sporting event.
No matter what you do, just remember that you should be yourself and stay polite.
In addition, you have to be confident. This means that you should be sure of yourself, but still be polite. And remember, you and this girl have a lot in common, so you have to be confident about the future between the two of you.
For example, if she always says that her boyfriend is great and that she should be with him instead of you, remind her of all the things you do together.
Also, impress her with your positive attitude and sense of humor.
She wants you instead of her boyfriend, what next?
The good news is that there are many signs that can indicate whether she’s into you or not. The bad news is that it’s not easy to tell for sure.
However, if you think she wants you instead of her boyfriend, you should take action!
If you want to take things to the next level with this girl, you don’t need to play games or act like someone you aren’t.
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