Last year my girlfriend and I broke up and my life went to pieces.
After a while though, I started to think that maybe she wanted to get back together, but I wasn’t sure if it was just wishful thinking or if she really regretted the breakup
It’s not easy figuring out what women want so I decided to try speaking to a relationship coach. I wasn’t sure what to expect but they were super helpful.
Now that I know what signs to look for, I want to share them with you so that you don’t spend ages overanalyzing her behavior and wondering if your imagination is playing tricks on you.
Read on for the 16 big signs she regrets losing you and wants you back:
1) She keeps contacting you after breaking up with you
If your ex keeps contacting you after breaking up with you, this could be a sign that she regrets the breakup.
However, it’s important not to jump to conclusions because there might be other explanations for that besides regretting the breakup.
For example, she might be contacting you because she wants to get closure.
So how do you know that she’s calling because she misses you and regrets losing you?
Well, she may call without a specific reason. She’ll say she’s just calling to check in and see how you’re doing.
Or, she may even call to apologize for something and say that she’s sorry for everything that happened – in other words, she regrets the breakup.
Personally, I think it’s always best to look for more than one sign, just to be sure.
2) She’s constantly reminding you of your good moments together
Here’s the thing: If she keeps bringing up the good old days and how much fun you had together, it’s a big sign that she regrets the breakup.
If when you meet up for drinks she starts to reminisce about the past, it’s because she’s not over it.
Clearly, she hasn’t moved on with her life and isn’t thinking about recreating new moments with someone else, she wants to have some more good moments with you.
She may not come out and tell you she wants you back because she doesn’t know how you feel, so she’ll try and remind you that your relationship wasn’t all bad, in fact, you had some great times together.
She might bring up the good moments while in a conversation with other people, such as your friends. You might even find yourself bringing up some of your good memories together.
All in all, if she’s focusing on the good times, and you miss those good times too, you guys should definitely give it another shot.
3) She cries when talking about the breakup
Why do women cry?
Because they’re sad. Because they’re filled with regret. Because they feel powerless…
So if your ex starts crying when talking about the breakup, it’s a pretty surefire sign that she regrets the breakup.
She might be sad because she misses you or she might be upset because she feels guilty for what happened. She’s scared there’s no going back and nothing she does will make things ok again.
Look out for tears: they’re a clear indicator that she regrets losing you.
4) Why not try a relationship coach yourself?
As I mentioned earlier, when I was trying to figure out whether or not my ex wanted to get back together, I decided to speak to a relationship coach.
I know what you’re thinking, and I was skeptical at first too. In fact, I first tried to talk to my buddies about my situation but they were even more clueless than I was.
If you want to give it a shot, it’s super easy and can be done from the comfort of your own home.
Relationship Hero is a popular site where highly trained relationship coaches help people work through complex relationship issues, like figuring out what women want.
I wouldn’t be recommending them if I wasn’t confident that they could help you out too.
Within minutes, you could be receiving life-changing advice on how to get back together with your ex – if that’s what you both want.
5) She still has stuff you have
When people get out of a relationship for good, they generally want to keep their old relationship in the past and move on with their lives. This often means getting rid of mementos and gifts from their old partner.
Of course, some people will keep a little something from an ex as a reminder of that period of their lives, with no other meaning behind the act.
However, a lot of people hang on to anything related to their ex because they miss them and are not over them. From gifts they got from their ex to an old t-shirt that belonged to them, hanging on to these items gives them hope.
Even if she’s not ready to admit it, she might keep something that reminds her of you to make her feel better or have a constant connection to you.
All in all, if she’s kept everything you ever gave her or left behind, it’s because she misses you and those things make her feel close to you. They also give her hope that you’ll get back together someday.
6) She posts pictures of you two on social media
In my experience, If your ex still posts pictures of you two on social media, it’s a sign that she hasn’t fully let go yet.
Think about it – pictures represent memories, and if your ex still posts pictures of you two, it’s because they hold meaning to her. She might be keeping them as reminders of the good times you two had or to remind herself of how happy she was at one point in her life.
She’s probably also hoping that you’ll see the photos and start to miss her too.
In short: if she’s still posting pictures of you two after the breakup, it’s a clear sign that she regrets losing you. She might also not have fully accepted the breakup and might still be hoping that you two will get back together again.
7) She asks your friends about you
Does your ex keep asking your friends about you?
If she is, I have news for you: she misses you.
She’ll ask about how you’re doing, if everything is ok at work, what you’ve been up to…
She’s probably hoping to hear that you’re sad without her in your life and that you miss her.
She might also be doing this because she feels like she lost a part of your life when she broke up with you and getting updates from your friends makes her feel close to you.
She is uncertain about what to do next in her life, and you are a reminder of happier times in her life.
8) She inquires about your relationship status
Another way to know she misses you is if she inquires about your current relationship status from time to time.
Now, she probably won’t be too forward about this and will ask you in a roundabout way. You might meet for coffee to catch up and she’ll say something like, “I hope your new girlfriend doesn’t mind your snoring” or she’ll ask your friends and family if you’re seeing anyone new.
The bottom line is she wants to find out if you have found someone else or if there’s still a chance of the two of you getting back together.
9) She keeps showing up where you hang out
If your ex keeps showing up where you go on the regular and she knows it’s your fav spot, it’s because she wants to run into you.
If she had moved on with her life, she would avoid running into you all the time. She is hoping to get your attention and show you that she misses you.
The fact that she keeps showing up at places she is certain to bump into you is a big sign that she regrets the breakup and wants to make up.
This is exactly what gave my ex away. She kept hanging around the arcade I went to with my friends, and she definitely wasn’t into playing any of the games.
If you miss her and think you can make it work, then you should definitely give it another try.
10) She isn’t dating anyone new
If you broke up a while ago and your ex still hasn’t started dating again, it’s not because she hasn’t had the opportunity.
I mean think about it: she’s pretty, successful, interesting, fun… guys used to hit on her all the time when you were going out.
So if she’s not dating anyone, it’s because she has no interest in doing so. The only man for her is you – and she regrets the breakup. She doesn’t want to move on with her life, she wants things to go back to the way they were.
In other words, she wants you back.
11) She still talks to your mum
Hey, if your ex-girlfriend is still calling your mother to chat or even meeting her for coffee, that’s a HUGE sign.
I mean it’s great for mothers and girlfriends to get along, but once your relationship is over, theirs should be too.
So, if your ex is still friendly with your mum, it’s because she misses you. She’s probably hoping your mum will help her win you back.
In fact, they’re probably cooking up a plan to get you back together as you’re reading this.
12) She leaves stuff at your place
This one is a classic.
If your ex leaves stuff at your place, it is because they want to make sure to see you again.
The thing is that she wishes you two had never broken up and she needs an excuse to see you again… so she left a bunch of her stuff at your place. This could be anything from clothes to CDs to cosmetics…
I know what you’re thinking, people can leave stuff behind by mistake and you’re right. It could happen. But what about the other signs? If in addition to leaving her stuff at your place you’ve checked off a few other signs then it’s clear as day – she wants you back.
13) She calls to check in
While couples are together, they check in with each other all the time. However, after a breakup, communication declines significantly. This is especially true if you were the one who initiated the breakup.
But if she calls you to check in, this can be a sign that she regrets losing you. It could also be that she’s interested in rekindling your friendship or getting advice about a problem she’s dealing with.
Either way, you can use this as an opportunity to test the waters and see if she wants to get back together.
14) She’s excited and happy when you meet
If she’s happy and excited to see you when you meet, this can be a sign that she wants you back in her life.
If she seems genuinely happy to see you it’s because she is – she misses you and feels good to be in your presence again.
If you feel like there’s still chemistry between you and she’s excited to see you, it’s another sign that she regrets the breakup.
15) She tells you she’s changed
Finally, when your ex starts to tell you how they’ve changed, it’s probably because they want you to give them another shot.
So if she’s telling you how she’s been working on herself and is aware of her past mistakes, it’s because she wants you to know that she’s a better version of herself and that this time around the relationship would work and she wouldn’t make the same mistakes twice.
The ball’s in your court now.
But… How do you make her regret losing you? How do you get her back?
If your girlfriend hasn’t shown any signs that she regrets losing you and wants you back, and you desperately want HER back, don’t worry, I can help with that too!
1) It’s all about confidence
If there’s one thing I know, it’s that women love confident men.
I never really thought about it until I watched a video by relationship expert Kate Spring.
The way she explained it, confidence sparks something deep inside women that sets off instant attraction.
So, if you want your ex to regret losing you and come running back to you, you need to boost your confidence. If you want to know just how to do that checkout Kate’s excellent free video here.
It’s not always easy to know what women want or what they’re feeling, that’s why watching Kate’s videos has been a game-changer for me.
Trust me, with Kate’s help, you’ll have your ex back in no time.
2) Don’t sit around moping
You are in charge of how you feel and how you move forward. You can’t control your ex-girlfriend’s actions and you can’t always choose the outcome of certain situations.
What you can do is control how you react to the situation. You can choose to remain hopeful and optimistic, or you can sulk and mope with your head in the sand.
But if you want her back, I’d definitely advise against moping around, it’s not very attractive. If you want her to regret losing you, she needs to see that you’re moving on with your life.
3) Give her a chance to miss you
It can be tempting to call her up and try to talk her out of the breakup, but that isn’t the best way to get her back.
Instead, give her some time to miss you. Let her go through a few days or weeks without you.
Let her experience the loneliness of a breakup. This can be frustrating, but it’s a necessary process.
She has to feel what she’s missing from the relationship before she can start to wonder if there is something better out there.
4) Don’t be too quick to reply to her texts
When you’re desperately trying to get your ex back, you might want to respond to every text.
You want to get in touch with her as much as possible. However, that isn’t always the best move. If you respond to every text right away, it might look like you are desperately trying to get her back.
You want her to think you’re moving on and that you are happy. Don’t ignore her texts or calls, but don’t respond to them as soon as they come in.
Make sure to give yourself enough time to respond thoughtfully. Once you’re responding at a normal pace, it’s a good sign that you’re not trying too hard.
5) If she wants to meet, tell her you’re busy
This one goes hand in hand with the two points above – you don’t want to seem too eager and you want her to get a chance to miss you.
Now, if your ex wants to catch up, you might be tempted to say “yes” and go running to meet her.
Big mistake. If you want to make her regret dumping you, you should tell her you’re busy. You don’t have to be rude about it, but you need to play it cool. Suggest another time when you’re “less busy*.
You know she wants closure and you also know that she wants to talk to you about the breakup.
You don’t have to give her either. If she tries to push for a meeting, you can politely tell her that you are busy.
Make her wait until you are ready to meet.
6) Make her jealous
If you want to make your ex regret breaking up with you, you need to make her jealous of other women you are dating.
This is where social media comes in – you can post pictures of you at parties or going on adventures with other women.
When you talk to her, tell her how well you’re doing and how much fun you’ve been having recently
If she sees that you are happy, she is going to regret breaking up with you even more.
Once she sees that she can be replaced by another woman, she’ll want you back more than anything.
7) Make new friends and have fun
If you sit around and mope about the fact that your ex broke up with you, you aren’t going to get very far.
You need to focus on your life and make new friends. If you want to get your ex back, you need to show her that you are doing well and having fun without her.
You need to show her that you don’t need her in your life anymore.
Don’t go overboard here and don’t forget your old friends. Just make an effort to go out more and make some new friends and have new experiences. This will not only make her want you but will help you get through this tough time.
8) Live your best life
A surefire way to make your ex regret their decision to break up with you is to show that you are happy without them.
You can do this by living your best life. Spend some time reflecting on what you want to do in life.
What makes you happy? What are your goals and what steps are you taking to achieve them?
Don’t just sit around and sulk or mope. Instead, try to figure out how you can move forward and live your best life.
9) Start working out
Getting in better shape and looking hotter can help you get over your ex and make her regret the breakup even more.
You might not be ready to jump into another relationship yet, but you can at least show your ex what she’s missing.
Exercise is proven to help you get over breakups more quickly thanks to the endorphins it releases. You see, studies suggest that exercise triggers the release of these feel-good hormones in the brain.
It also helps you attach better and feel more confident about yourself. Exercise can be a great way to channel negative feelings and emotions, especially when you are trying to get your ex back.
And when your ex sees the transformation, it will awaken something primal in her and she’ll fall for you all over again.
This is another thing I learned from relationship expert Kate Spring.
According to her:
Women don’t choose the guy who will treat them the best. They choose guys they are deeply attracted to at a biological level.
Women like confidence. They like strength. It’s all about giving off the right signals and triggering something deep inside her.
I really recommend checking out this free video by Kate Spring. If you’re still hesitant, all I can say is that you’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain.
10) Update your image
Finally, if you want your ex-girlfriend to regret the breakup, you might want to consider updating your look or image.
You don’t have to change everything about yourself, but if you want to get your ex back, you might want to consider changing up your look a bit.
Whatever you decide to do, just make sure that you like it too. You want to impress your ex but you don’t want to be someone you’re not
Can a relationship coach help you too?
If you want specific advice on your situation, it can be very helpful to speak to a relationship coach.
I know this from personal experience…
A few months ago, I reached out to Relationship Hero when I was going through a tough patch in my relationship. After being lost in my thoughts for so long, they gave me a unique insight into the dynamics of my relationship and how to get it back on track.
If you haven’t heard of Relationship Hero before, it’s a site where highly trained relationship coaches help people through complicated and difficult love situations.
In just a few minutes you can connect with a certified relationship coach and get tailor-made advice for your situation.
I was blown away by how kind, empathetic, and genuinely helpful my coach was.