Have you fallen for a guy who has a bit of a reputation for being a player?
Maybe you’ve gone out a couple of times, maybe you didn’t expect anything serious with this guy given his reputation.
But now, things are getting serious. You think you may be falling in love and you want to know – can a womanizer fall in love?
As a matter of fact, he can, and here’s a list of 14 surprising signs to look out for.
Let’s dive right in:
1) He starts to act differently
You knew what you were getting into because this guy has a reputation that precedes him.
Normally he likes to flirt and thinks flattery will get him anywhere. He usually works very hard in trying to convince you that you’re the only one, that he’s not the man people say he once was.
You know that this is just an act. But here’s the kicker:
Something has changed. He starts to act differently.
In fact, for the first time, it doesn’t feel like he’s acting anymore. He’s suddenly very attentive, more protective, and less flirty with other women.
When he says something, you know he’s being truthful. He stares into your eyes lovingly.
In short: He’s stopped putting on a show and is acting differently.
You can see that he genuinely cares about you. This is a sign that your womanizer is falling in love with you.
2) He’s more affectionate
Suddenly, he’s more affectionate than he used to be.
He’s showing more love: he holds your hand in public, he showers you with kisses; he’s suddenly a hugging man.
And one more thing:
You used to get into arguments all the time, but now it seems like a fight is the last thing on his mind!
He wants to show you how much he cares about you and how much he wants you in his life. It’s all about you and putting your needs first.
All in all, this is a man who’s falling in love.
3) He makes plans about the future with you
You didn’t have the sort of relationship where you made plans too far ahead.
Normally, you’d decide to meet up last minute. Now, he’s planning dates weeks ahead. And I mean proper dates!
He’s taking you to the theatre and fancy restaurants and planning romantic weekend getaways.
It gets better:
He wants to know what you’re planning for the summer because his friend has this beach house and he thinks you’d love it there…
He might even ask you where you see yourself 5 years from now and whether you plan on having kids one day. That’s right – kids!
It’s clear that this relationship is starting to become more than just a fling. This is a guy who wants to spend as much time with you as possible.
He is making plans for the future that involve you. It might surprise you to know that if he sees a future with you in it, it’s because he’s head over heels in love.
4) He sleeps over
It was an unspoken rule – he’d never stay the night at your place.
He always had some excuse why he had to go back home after sex – he had an early meeting, your mattress hurts his back, your neighbors are too loud, your dog stares at him while he sleeps…
You get my drift.
Well, that was ok with you because you didn’t expect anything from the relationship, it was a casual fling. But things are changing.
Now, he’s sleeping over at your place.
Suddenly he’s too tired to go back home, or your place is closer to his office, or he falls asleep without meaning to…
The bottom line is this:
You are no longer just a booty call. If he’s sleeping over it’s because he wants more from your relationship. In other words, he has feelings for you.
5) He introduces you to his friends
Once a guy introduces you to his friends, it means that he’s decided to take the relationship to the next level.
By introducing you to his friends, he’s essentially opening up to you and letting you see another part of his world. He’s also showing you off to his friends.
He’s been telling them all about you – how great you are – and has decided that it’s time that they see for themselves.
It may not be obvious at first but if you think about it, you’ll know that I’m right.
Introducing you to his friends is actually a big deal and a somewhat surprising sign that he’s falling in love with you.
6) He introduces you to his family
If you thought meeting his friends was a big deal, you’re in for a treat.
So, you thought you were just having a fling with your player, and you didn’t expect anything serious from the relationship- when things take an unexpected turn.
He tells you that he wants to introduce you to his family. What’s more, he wants to meet your family!
Here’s the deal:
A guy wouldn’t introduce a casual fling to his family. He wouldn’t introduce you to his mother if he wasn’t serious about you.
Truth is: Your player is falling in love with you!
7) He talks about his feelings
Another sign that your womanizer is falling for you is that he starts talking about his feelings. He’s not just making small talk – he’s actually talking about how he feels.
There’s something about you that makes him want to open up and discuss everything with you – his childhood, his previous relationships, his friends, his work, his hopes, and his dreams.
Now, this is a guy who really wants you to get to know the real him, he wants to be able to open up to you. He wants you to be able to tell each other how you feel – even when it’s hard.
The thing is that you’ve completely changed the way that he looks at life.
This normally secretive guy, this player who didn’t let girls see the real him, has decided to let you into his life. He obviously thinks you’re special and is falling for you hard.
8) It’s no longer just about sex
Here’s another surprising sign that he’s falling in love. Your relationship used to be purely physical, but not anymore.
Now: He wants to hang out and talk. He comes over to make pasta and watch Netflix with you.
Suddenly, you find yourself doing normal relationship things, which include silly things like grocery shopping together, talking about work, and going to the movies.
Sometimes, he just sleeps over without the sex.
9) He takes a real interest in your life
You know that a man is falling in love when he starts to take a real interest in your life.
It’s not just that he’s being polite – he really wants to know what’s going on.
- He asks about your family: how your parents are; how your grandma’s hip surgery went; if your baby brother got into college.
- He’ll remember to ask about your promotion at work.
- He’ll ask you what the book you’re reading is about.
- He’ll ask about your hopes and dreams for the future and listen carefully when you talk about them.
- He’ll gladly spend hours listening to you talk about your childhood.
Here’s the deal:
He used to only care about himself and his ego. He was only interested in things that concerned him. But now he finds himself caring about things that didn’t matter to him before.
He cares about what you think and what you feel. He cares more about your opinion of him than his own reputation.
Now, it’s not all about him. You’re made him realize that there’s more to life.
10) He’s become a constant in your life
It’s been months and he’s still around. You thought that your relationship would have run its course by now, but he doesn’t seem to be going anywhere.
Check this out:
He’s become a regular in your life. You’re used to seeing him every day, and he’s not trying to hide the fact that you’re together.
Wait, there’s more!
He’s not the man who used to be in the bar every night with his buddies, now he’s at home with you. He doesn’t want to be seen out with another girl.
In short: He likes having you in his life, he’s finally realized what he’s been missing all these years. He’s falling in love with you!
11) He surprises you with gifts
Now, he doesn’t just buy you the usual gifts – roses, chocolates, and teddy bears…
He surprises you with well-researched gifts, things he’s sure you will love.
He’ll remember that you once had this music box when you were little that was very special to you. He knows how sad you were when your brother broke the music box in his childish attempt to get some attention.
What does he do? He goes around antique stores and browses online auctions until he finds the exact same music box from your childhood.
You see, this is not something a guy does for just anyone. It’s obvious that he really cares for you.
He’s started picking up on your tastes and wants to make sure that you have everything that you need. It’s important to him that you’re happy and by getting you the right gift, he hopes to make your day and put a smile on your face.
12) He’s jealous of other guys
You thought that he was a player and that this was just a casual fling.
Turns out that he’s jealous of other guys you talk to – even your male friends.
You see, He’s starting to fall in love with you and it’s making him feel insecure. He doesn’t want you to see other guys, or god forbid, fall in love with someone else.
Bottom line: He’s realized how much you mean to him and he wants you all to himself.
13) He wants to be exclusive
He wants to be exclusive. He’s realized that you are the one he wants to be with. He doesn’t want to see other women and he definitely doesn’t want you to date other men!
Finally, he’s ready to make things official, he wants you to be his girlfriend.
In essence: He’s fallen in love and is not going to let you go without a fight.
14) He tells you that he’s falling in love with you
He tells you that he’s falling in love with you
Now, what you need to know is that it’s not easy for people to say the L-word.
It’s especially difficult for guys like him who were never about being with just one girl and settling down.
So, maybe this is surprising and maybe it’s obvious, but if he tells you that he’s falling in love with you, he must really mean it!
It’s important to him that you know how much he cares about you.
So how can you make a womanizer fall in love?
What are the signs telling you? Is a womanizer falling in love with you?
If you’re unsure, but you’d like him to fall in love with you and commit to you wholeheartedly, there is something you can do.
Relationship expert James Bauer can help you out.
According to him, men don’t actually need a lot to feel content in their relationships. What’s more, what they need has nothing to do with sex. It has everything to do with their Hero Instinct.
This fascinating concept finally explains how men really think and feel in relationships. And it’s something most women have never even heard of.
The truth is, once you understand how it works, there’s no telling what heights your relationship can reach. He’ll start making efforts for you and your relationship in no time – even if he’s a womanizer. He’ll fall madly in love with you.
So if you want him fully dedicate himself to you and your relationship, make sure to check out James Bauer’s excellent video. In it, he reveals the exact texts and phrases you can use straight away to trigger a deep change inside him and make him fall in love.