All the epic love stories of history started with just one kiss.
So what separates the kiss that changes your life with burning passion and a kiss that you soon forget?
If you have a man in your life and you’re wondering how much he’s really into locking lips with you, here’s a guide.
15 signs a guy is turned on while kissing
1) He can’t get enough of your kisses
The first and most important sign a guy is turned on while kissing is that he can’t get enough of your kisses.
Sometimes he wants more but he’s too shy.
However, in most cases, if he’s going for it then you’re going to feel his burning desire to lock lips for you as much as possible.
Kissing feels good in general, but it feels especially good when you’re kissing someone who you’re highly attracted to physically or romantically.
It’s hard to misinterpret this one.
If he constantly wants to kiss you more and is initiating the kiss then he’s definitely turned on and excited by you.
As relationship expert Nicole Graham writes:
“When a guy wants to kiss you all the time it means that he really likes you, he loves the way you kiss him, he can’t have enough of you, he wants you like crazy.
“It can also mean that he is turned on badly and wants to have sex with you.”
2) He gets hard for you
When a man gets turned on by kissing he tends to get a boner.
It’s not rocket science…although it is biology.
A lot of getting turned on happens in the mind, but it’s also a response to physical cues, and there’s nothing quite like your lips meeting someone else’s and feeling that spark of electricity shoot through you.
If you feel his trouser snake making itself known while you kiss, then you can bet he’s burning with desire.
Kissing can stop at just kissing or escalate into more sexual adventures and intercourse.
His equipment is warming up in anticipation.
This guy’s body is getting excited, and he’s prepared to bed you down if it comes to that.
He’s clearly getting hot and heavy, so at this point, you can be sure it’s not just you who’s feeling it.
3) He starts tripping over his own words
Another one of the top signs a guy is turned on while kissing is that he starts sounding like Ernest Hemingway after a bottle of Caribbean whiskey.
This could be a turn-off for you, but it’s just his primal self emerging.
When a man is very turned on he begins talking more slowly, slurring his words and forgetting what he’s talking about.
It feels like you’re lazing away on a summer afternoon or living in a dream. But the only dream is that he’s getting so turned on with you he’s starting to trip over his own words.
“His speech has gotten lazy and sensual. It’s almost as if all time around you has slowed and you’re both focused on this one hot moment.
“Newsflash: This is his bedroom voice,” explains Trisha Bartle.
Your kisses have gone to his head like a shot of the good stuff, and now he’s bumbling along like a drunk.
Whether he’s drunk on love or just sexual desire, there’s no doubt he’s very turned on.
4) He starts fixing his pants all the time
This is closely related to point 2: if you’re looking for signs a guy is turned on while kissing then look whether he’s adjusting his pants a lot.
If you’re already comfortable around each other then he may not be trying to downplay his boner.
But if he’s still feeling a little shy or kissing you for the first time then he may try to mask his excitement.
Is that just a new pleat in his khakis or is his sausage really that small?
I’m joking, I’m joking…
At the point he gets hard and tries to hide it, he may try all sorts of bizarre behavior…
That’s when he starts crossing and uncrossing his legs, hunching forward a bit like he suddenly got a cramp in his back and walking sideways as if he’s somehow evolved into a new kind of human who doesn’t walk normally.
Anything is possible, but you can bet that it’s far more likely he’s just got an erection and doesn’t want to be too obvious about it.
Remember to pretend you don’t notice, or you could always lighten the mood by asking if he’s got a remote in his pocket.
5) He starts making some noise
At heart, all of us are only in control of ourselves to a certain extent.
And when that limit gets crossed we start going a little bit wild. It’s true of both women and men.
One of the top signs a guy is turned on while kissing is that he starts making some noise.
It may be a grunt or a moan of some kind, but when he’s really feeling it then chances are that you’re going to hear it.
If he’s really a smooth operator then he may even make the noise in your ear combined with a caress.
It depends if this guy knows what he’s doing or not.
But more often than not the noises he makes are involuntary: a reflex from deep in his primal core.
“When a guy is turned on, he’ll be making moaning or grunting *not extreme* noises, because, well, he’s getting into whatever you’re doing to him.
“The man is getting turned on!”
6) He’s touchy-feely
One of the clearest signs a guy is turned on while kissing is that he starts getting touchy-feeling.
His wandering hands may find their way to your breasts, your behind or just focus around your neck and face.
If he’s caressing like an amorous Romeo then there’s no doubt he’s getting turned on.
Of course, this is not always something that a woman is open to yet.
So you may have to shoo his curious fingers from their intended targets.
But you can be sure that he’s getting turned on.
7) He tells you about it
When he’s excited by you, sometimes he just comes right out and says it.
Now clearly some guys are players and will claim to be so into kissing you just so they can get further into your pants.
But most of the time if he tells you he’s really into it and continues kissing you, then it’s because he’s enjoying himself.
If he was just faking he’ll tend to try to skip straight to sex or heavier stuff.
But when he tells you he’s into it and wants to keep kissing then you can be quite sure he’s getting very turned on.
“No one is going to tell you that they enjoy your lips unless they’re actually into kissing you. If he tells you he enjoys kissing you; then it’s clear where he stands,” writes Love Panky.
8) He gazes into your soul between every kiss
When he’s excited by kissing you he’ll give you a look that’s very unique and intense.
Some people call it “the look,” I call it gazing into your soul.
He basically tilts his head back a bit and looks you deep in the eyes as if he’s in wonder at your beauty.
He may mouth a word like “wow” or look as if he just saw all Seven Wonders of the World at the same time.
On your side, you may feel as if someone is seeing who you really are in a strong and authentic way that’s both comforting, risky and romantic.
“If a man is sexually attracted to you, he’ll probably frequently try to catch your gaze and hold it for an extended period. This type of eye contact radiates confidence and interest in the other person.”
9) He takes time to warm you up
When a guy is really turned on by you then he’s going to savor every moment with you.
He will take his time to warm you up and explore every inch of you possible: even if that’s just your lips.
When he’s excited it doesn’t always mean he’s going to dive right in with intense French kisses and pulling you towards him like the final credits of a love movie.
He will often be very delicate and subtle with you when he’s really turned on, enjoying every second of your interaction and slowly and sensually teasing you into full arousal.
A guy who can control himself in this way and use his excitement to slowly build your excitement as well is a rare find indeed.
10) His voice gets deep and husky
One of the impossible-to-fake signs a guy is turned on while kissing is that his voice becomes deep and husky.
This isn’t necessarily his choice.
It’s actually a feature of male biology.
In evolution and historical circumstances, a deeper voice attracted more mates. Think of it like the mating call of a bird, except a guy may not even realize he’s doing it.
But if you know what to look out for then you can identify when he’s getting very turned on while kissing you.
“Research has suggested that women prefer deeper male voices to higher voices and men will often lower the tone of their voice without realizing it.
“This is one of those things that men don’t really do consciously, so they can’t hide that they’re attracted to you.”
11) He goes for broke
When a guy is really turned on by kissing you, one of the signs is that he will grope and touch you, as I said.
This can be in the form of taking it slow and using foreplay, or it can be that he gets so turned on he starts touching you in all sorts of intimate places.
One of the top signs a guy is turned on while kissing is that he starts talking about or actively going for more.
This often takes the form of him trying to get you naked, suggesting you head to the bedroom or maybe giving you a wink.
If he’s not turned on then he wouldn’t want sex.
12) He gets lost in the kiss
If you’re looking for signs a guy is turned on while kissing then look at his eyes.
In addition to gazing into your soul as I described, he may sometimes close his eyes like an old-time blues crooner.
What’s up with that?
Well, in the animal world when you close your eyes it’s because you feel safe and are really enjoying something, such as a fresh drink of water or a delicious snack.
In the human world closing your eyes is also a sign of being either very sleepy or very secure and lost in the moment.
“Closing his eyes means he is extremely comfortable and ready to put himself in a vulnerable position. He is feeling every bit of the kiss and totally involved.
“He is not thinking about anything else at that moment except how good the kiss feels.”
13) His knees go weak
When a man is extremely turned on he goes weak at the knees.
It’s more than just a dime-store romance novel cliche. It’s actually true.
When the kissing is exciting him a lot, he may start to get an erection, have an increased heartbeat and even get dizzy.
Whether he wants to sit down or not, sometimes his own body makes the decision for him and he starts wobbling at the knees.
You turn him on so much he’s almost collapsing? Congratulations…
14) His tongue tells the tale
Not every guy is into French kissing, but if he starts getting excited there’s a high chance that his tongue will get in on the action.
If you start to feel him kiss with tongue then it likely means he’s getting pretty excited.
Whether he’s good at it or not is a different story.
15) He gets excited when you let him take the lead
Sometimes the best way to see how turned on a guy is by kissing you, is to let him take the lead.
If he’s shy, hesitant or just unsure of your boundaries then you can do a small trick.
Take his hand and put it somewhere special, even if it’s just the small of your back.
Show him that you physically trust him and want him to feel comfortable to move forward with you and take the kiss to the limits of pleasure.
See how he reacts.
“If your guy is the shy type, take his hands and place them in your body; tell him to touch you as well. Allowing him to touch you will arouse him.
“He will imagine other ways he can touch you.”
Keep it super sweet
Kisses are special, and even the smallest one can be memorable and seductive.
It’s really not about quantity, it’s all about quality.
If a guy is getting excited by kissing you then there are going to be numerous signs, and they will often happen very quickly.
Men tend to get more physically and romantically aroused more quickly than women as a general rule.
One fiery kiss can have him on his knees, whereas it can take a lady a little bit more time and subtlety to have her fire lit.
At the end of the day there is no need to overthink kissing. There isn’t really a “right” way to do it.
You just do it.
But what separates a bad kiss from an average kiss from an incredible kiss is really quite simple.
A good kiss takes over and makes everything else melt away.
“A good kiss gets you completely lost, you’re unsure what end is up, your knees go weak, your whole body goes limp, and every concern you had before you locked lips is gone.”
Kiss and tell
Not every kiss is the one that rocks the world or leads to a life of love.
In fact, if you add up all the kisses in the world, only a small percentage leads to real and lasting love.
The quest to find true love and intimacy can be a long and winding road.
But kisses do matter.
As Ingrid Bergman said, “a kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous.”
When a guy gets truly turned on by a kiss, he’s going to be enchanted and awestruck by the connection between the two of you.
In extraordinary situations, a guy will get much more than just turned on by kissing you: he’ll become enamored.
He won’t just have a hard-on and a desire to see you naked, he’ll feel like he’s also seen a little bit of your soul.
That’s the kind of kiss that leaves a mark.
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