It’s difficult when you break up with someone and are forced to live separately.
You two were a team, best of friends and now you can’t rely on them at all anymore.
You can’t really talk on the phone, text, or email them and they don’t have to check in with you either.
They are there when they want to be, but it seems like they just stopped giving a damn about your life.
The hurt of the separation is unbearable, even if you knew it was coming.
But sometimes, people do leave the door open for a second.
Even though they are moving on, they just can’t bring themselves to cut you off completely.
Here are some signs that your ex is leaving the door open and you have a chance to get back with them in the future.
1. They are keeping in contact with you
Even though you broke up, if they are keeping in touch with you, then that means that they want you in their life.
They will still check in with you from time to time and might even send you an occasional text or email update.
That’s a good sign that they left the door open.
After all, usually, when you break up with someone, they don’t want to hear anything more about you.
So if they are keeping in touch with you, that means they know that you might just come back into their life again.
2. They still want to hang out with your friends and family
After a breakup, people do their best to completely distance themselves from their ex’s friends and family.
They don’t want to be reminded of the relationship that they just got rid of and want to move on quickly.
But if your ex is keeping contact with your friends and family, then that means they aren’t completely cutting you out.
They still want to be involved in your life and keep on good terms with the people that are important to you.
That also means that they are keeping their options open, even though they might be pretending they have moved on from you.
So if your ex is keeping in contact with your friends and family, then there is a good chance that he or she might still want to get back with you in the future.
3. They come by occasionally
Do they drop by your house to see how you’re going? Or perhaps they “randomly” bump into you at your favorite going-out places?
They aren’t trying to push their way into your life, but they are hanging out with you and keeping things the same as before.
And that is a good sign that they aren’t completely giving up on being together and might just have a change of heart.
As we’ve said above, when we break up with someone, we usually try to cut contact with them immediately. Breakups are difficult and that’s usually the best way to get over someone.
But if they are dropping around to see you at your home or your favorite haunts, then it’s a sign that they still want to be in your life and they’re keeping the door ajar.
4. They are talking about getting back together
They aren’t outright saying that they want you back, but they are talking about how the future will be if you two were to get back together. That means that they still have feelings for you.
Sure, maybe they are just being optimistic about the possibility of getting back together in the future.
In fact, it also shows that they might have changed the way they feel about you if they are even considering any type of future.
Maybe you had a bad breakup. At that time, they were angry and didn’t think of you in a positive light.
But now? Now they have stepped back and reflected on the fact that perhaps you were the right person for them after all.
They’ve changed their feelings and thinking about you.
In fact, if you do want your ex back, then it’s imperative that you simply change the emotions they associate with you and make them picture a whole new relationship with you.
If they still have feelings for you, then they might be associating you in a whole new light.
In his excellent short video, James Bauer gives you a step-by-step method for changing the way your ex feels about you. He reveals the texts you can send and things you can say that will trigger something deep inside them.
Because once you paint a new picture about what your life together could be like, they’re emotional walls won’t stand a chance.
5. They are still upset over the breakup
Maybe they’ve told you they’re upset about the breakup. They realized what a good thing you had going on, and life just isn’t the same without you.
Obviously, if they say that directly to you, then they are not only leaving the door ajar, but they want you back.
Or perhaps they might be wondering how it could have gone differently or what they should have done differently to keep things together.
Whatever it is, expressing thoughts like this shows they are prepared to start things over with you in the future.
It’s definitely a good sign that your ex really wants to get back together, even though they might be pretending that it isn’t happening.
6. They are talking about you a lot and want to see you again
Again, if you’ve caught wind from your friends that they are reminiscing about you and talking about you, then for sure you’re still on their mind.
Sure, they might be telling themselves that they don’t care or aren’t interested in getting back together, but at the same time, this is a good sign that things could change later on.
7. They have asked about you to your friends
Sure, your ex might not want to keep directly in contact with you, but they are talking to your friends.
They aren’t telling them that they still want to get back together, they just want to hear about you and how you are doing.
That means that there is a possibility of getting back together later on.
After all, your ex wouldn’t want to know how you’re doing if they were no longer interested in getting back together with you.
Maybe you and your ex were soulmates and they can’t help but feel strong emotions towards you and they want to know what’s going on in your life.
That means that there is a chance that they are keeping the door open to get back together with you in the future.
7. They are way too interested in your love life
If they are contacting you, then what are they asking you about?
Now don’t get me wrong: You probably can’t read too much into general chit-chat.
But if they are asking you about your love life and who you’re currently dating, that’s a surefire sign that they are trying to work out if you’re single or not.
The main reason?
They probably regret losing you and they want to know if there is a possibility of you guys starting things up again.
If that’s not keeping the door open, then I don’t know what it is.
Now it’s important to remember:
It’s fairly normal for friends to ask at least one question about each other’s dating life. Don’t read too much into that.
But if they keep pestering you about your dating life and they seem overly passionate about it, then they’re clearly interested in finding out if you’re single or not.
They don’t want to find out that you’re dating someone because that will close the door to potentially reigniting things.
In fact, in my experience of running into my exes, we usually ask general questions like how life is going or work, but the topic of love is rarely the main topic.
The bottom line is that if they’re constantly asking you about your love life and who you’re seeing, then they not only regret breaking up with you, but they probably want to start the relationship again as well.
8. They are making excuses to get in touch with you
Maybe they want to get back together, but they know that it’s not going to be a quick or easy process. They know that it might take some time and effort.
And that means that even if they don’t want to admit it, chances are they want you back. So what are they doing to make things happen?
Making excuses to talk to you, of course!
For instance, maybe they don’t have anyone else to hang out with on weekends and they want a buddy to do things with.
They have no one else they’d rather spend time with and they just want someone they can hang out with.
So if your ex is making excuses to contact you, then there is a good chance that they are keeping the door open to starting things up again with you.
9. They are still calling you everyday
Maybe you’ve moved on with your life and have become a completely new person, but your ex hasn’t completely given up on getting back together.
They have been contacting you regularly since the breakup and they don’t seem like they are going to stop any time soon.
Sure, they might be pretending that they have been busy and haven’t had time to call you, but all of the sudden, they start calling you every day!
Calling is a way to get back in contact with you. Making the effort to call you is a clear signal that they want to see how you’re doing and they want to be in your life again.
For now, maybe just as friends, but if they want to be friends, then they are probably also keeping the door ajar.
Not just keeping the door open, but if they’re calling regularly, then this means that they are pretty serious about getting back together with you.
10. They still have feelings for you
After all, if your ex has been contacting you on a regular basis and thinks your relationship was worth continuing, there’s a good chance they still have some feelings for you.
You should be able to tell if they like you if you analyze the way they are talking with you.
Are they overly affectionate? Interested in everything you say? Reminisce about the good old days?
Use your intuition to work out how they’re feeling. You must have dated for a while previously, so you should intuitively know if they want to get back together with you from their behavior and body language.
And anyway, they might not admit it, but the fact that they constantly contact you is a good sign that they do want to get back together with you.
And if they’re not contacting you, but they are asking about you to your friends and family, then that is also a good sign.
In the end, it comes down to this:
Are they still thinking about you?
If they contact you, then they are thinking about you.
If you are still friends with them, then they still think about you.
If they ask about you, then they still think about you.
And if they are showing that they are still thinking about you, then they probably have left the door open to getting back together with you in the future.
Now if you want them back, then what can you do?
In this situation, there’s only one thing to do – re-spark their romantic interest in you.
I learned about this from Brad Browning, who has helped thousands of men and women get their exes back. He goes by the moniker of “the relationship geek”, for good reason.
In this free video, he’ll show you exactly what you can do to make your ex want you again.
No matter what your situation is — or how badly you’ve messed up since the two of you broke up — he’ll give you a number of useful tips that you can apply immediately.
Here’s a link to his free video again. If you really want your ex back, this video will help you do this.
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