It’s safe to say that most people go through a breakup. In most cases, it’s not hard to see why someone would end a relationship.
The feelings we have when someone says goodbye, the pain of knowing it’s time to end an affair, and the fear of being on your own again are all markers that show you’re going through a breakup. And, no matter how painful it is, you have to go through this phase.
However, if you feel like your ex’s rebound relationship is failing, you might be onto something. Keep reading 13 definite signs below to understand why, and how you can get out of the situation as fast as possible:
1) They are using other person to get over you
Did your ex start dating someone right after you broke up?
Unfortunately, this is a common pattern for rebounders.
To some extent, it makes sense. When someone gets dumped, it’s their instinct to move on and look for someone else.
Maybe, they don’t want to, but they end up getting back together with their ex because they are determined to get over their old feelings. You may have been the person they were with before they were in a relationship with you.
However, this should not be an indicator that they are using their new relationship to get over you. When someone starts dating another person, it normally has to do with their feelings for the first one.
Instead of being honest, they get back together with their ex to get over you. They don’t care about their new partners at all, and are only in it for the emotional rush they get from their rebound relationship.
Besides, what a rebounder does is use that time to wipe all their feelings for you, so that when they finally get back with you, they’re already over you. This can happen for one of two reasons:
- You broke up with them because you didn’t feel the same way as them. In this case, your relationship was doomed from the start.
- You broke up with them because you didn’t want to be with them, and they refused to accept this.
In fact, it’s quite the opposite. Your ex is trying to get over you by moving on and letting go of their own feelings.
Ultimately, their rebound relationship is a reflection of their own feelings. They want you to be out of their life, and this person is a way for them to achieve that.
However, if your ex is using a third party to get over you, there are sure to be red flags. While it can be a way to get over your relationship, it will never replace the real you.
2) They are the complete opposite of you
One of the most common signs that your ex’s rebound relationship is failing is that they are the complete opposite of you. This may seem impossible, but it’s true.
If you were more social, they are now a lot more quiet than they used to be with you.
If you take charge most of the time, they are now more passive, and ask you to take the lead.
If you were someone who would always try to be right, they are now someone who would apologize and say it was “wrong of me to do that.”
When you break up with someone, you are breaking off a part of your personality. This is especially true if you were in a relationship with them for a long time.
After all, you and your ex were with each other for a while. It’s only natural that you would have learned things about each other over time.
As a result,
In a rebound relationship, your ex is likely to be the exact opposite of you. This can be a sign that they are trying to get rid of you and make the relationship not mean as much to them.
3) You are now able to give their the attraction experience they really want
Many rebound relationships are based on trying to get your ex back. This might be because you didn’t end the relationship properly, or because you’re afraid of being on your own.
Whatever the reason is, you’re now able to give your ex the attraction experience they really want.
You’re not supposed to impose your feelings on your ex, but you’re also not supposed to try to force them to feel the way you do. This can be done in a much better way; by trying to understand what they want and need.
As soon as you understand their needs, you can start acting like a friend in order to get their attention.
Breakups are a journey that every person goes through. Each relationship is different, and some are easier than others. There are going to be some things you have to accept, and others you don’t.
But, one thing that you can control is the attraction experience your ex has. They might have been longing for someone who can give them the attraction experience they really want before. You might have been that person before, but now you don’t feel the same way.
So, you have to let your ex know that you can now give them the attraction experience they really want. Tell them you are ready to let them feel the attraction they want, and that you are willing to help them move on.
4) If he makes classic relationship and attraction mistakes
The biggest red flag when it comes to rebound relationships is when your ex does the exact same mistakes he made in his first relationship. You may have been the one to break up with him, but he’s the one who’s trying to move on.
The faster your ex’s rebound relationship goes, the more likely it is that he’s making classic relationship and attraction mistakes. If he’s treating you like a rebound, he’s trying to win you back, but he’s also treating you like a rebound.
If this is the case with your ex, you might want to consider that his rebound relationship with a new person might not be based on sound relationship principles.
Sure, you probably fought and disagreements were bound to happen, but the ex was willing to work through them. If they are trying to fix things by getting involved with a new person, that could be a red flag.
If he’s trying to get back with you, he’ll want things to go back to how they were, rather than having to work on his issues, and that’s a sign that he’s still not over you.
If he’s not over you yet and he’s still making the same mistakes he did in the past, then this rebound relationship is never going to work out.
5) They did not learn about the breakup
A rebound relationship is based on assumptions. Someone who bounces back from a breakup is probably hoping for a new relationship.
However, if the new person does not know about the original breakup, that could be a big red flag.
Did your ex tell the rebound person that you broke up, or did he choose to keep the breakup to himself? That will determine how well they learn and respect the situation.
If your ex is moving on very fast and making classic relationship and attraction mistakes, he needs to own up to his mistakes.
However, if he didn’t learn about the breakup, then he’s going to keep making the same mistakes, which means you’re going to keep getting hurt.
If you’re ready to move on and are ready for a rebound, there’s no way it’s going to work out. You’re not meant to be friends, and you’re definitely not meant to be back together.
6) The relationship is moving very fast
With a rebound relationship, things are moving very fast. There’s constant contact, they are usually trying to make plans with you, and they are usually trying to spend time with other people. Plus, you might feel very, very lonely.
The rebound person may feel pressured to get back together with your ex as soon as possible.
It’s normal to feel a bit of uneasiness the first few days after a breakup. A new person coming into your life usually causes a certain amount of fear and uncertainty.
It’s important to remember that it will take time for you to heal, and this new person is not going to speed up that process. If you are rushing the situation, you may not have time to make a mistake.
Although it may seem like your ex is trying to move on by getting back with someone else, this doesn’t necessarily mean it’s time to panic.
However, if the relationship moves from casual fling to full-blown relationship too fast, this is another red flag that your ex is trying to get back with you.
If the relationship moves very quickly and there are large signs of affection, like your ex constantly texting you and calling you, then he’s most likely trying to re-win you back.
All in all, your ex is ready to move on, and the rebound is moving very fast, the rebound is going to end very soon.
This is because the rebound is moving very fast, and it’s not meant to last. When you start to see signs that the relationship is moving very fast, it’s a sign that the rebound is going to end soon.
7) They are not ready for real love
If your ex is trying to get back with you, then he’s probably not ready to date anyone else, including you. Maybe he’s not ready to be single, but he should look for someone who is. If he’s not ready for another relationship, he should wait until he is.
If your ex is not ready to date, but he’s already trying to get back with you, then he’s not ready for you. This may be because he’s scared, or because he doesn’t know how to move on.
Love is messy. It’s complicated. It comes with its ups and downs, and it’s validated by commitment and exclusivity.
If someone’s rebound relationship is not ready for love, your ex is not going to be able to return to your relationship with a new person. There is nothing you can do or say that is going to make someone ready for love in a few weeks.
When someone is going through a breakup, they might feel like the feelings for their ex are not real.
If your ex is in a rebound relationship, you should ask yourself if they’re ready for real love. And, if you’re willing to wait while they figure it out.
Most people, when they’re going through a breakup, don’t want to wait to be in a relationship. They might feel like the right person will come along, and they’ll be ready when they are ready.
But, if you’re in this situation, it’s time to step back and let your ex find a partner who is ready for a healthy, real relationship.
8) If they are doing it for revenge
If your ex is doing this for revenge, it’s likely because he wants to hurt you.
Furthermore, that’s going to be apparent very quickly. This type of rebound relationship usually involves the person who was dumped hoping to hurt the person who broke up with them.
If that’s the case, you can be sure the rebound relationship will fail. It’s important to remember that revenge is a selfish act, and it has nothing to do with the other person. It’s a worthless act that only hurts the person who did the revenge.
On the other hand, sometimes, people try to get back together with someone they have broken up with in order to get back at them. This is referred to as “revenge dating.” In most cases, this is not a healthy way to move on from a breakup and can cause a lot of unnecessary pain.
However, in some cases, it could be true.
For example, if your ex broke up with you in order to get back at you for cheating, or if they tried to get back with you after they cheated on you, this could be true.
If he’s doing this to hurt you, then this is not right. If your ex is doing this to hurt you, there are better ways to get back at him, such as getting back at his friends and family.
Revenge dating is one of the main signs that your ex’s rebound relationship is failing.
If you suspect that your ex’s rebound relationship is revenge dating, it’s important that you move on as quickly as possible. The slower you move in a rebound relationship, the more likely it is that you are in a rebound relationship for revenge.
9) They are still communicating with you
If your ex is still contacting you and talking to you, then it could mean one of two things. It’s possible that he has a huge fear of moving on, or he doesn’t know how to move on. If he’s still getting in touch with you, it means your ex is not over you.
Besides, this type of relationship is based on the person who was dumped hoping to end the relationship.
If your ex’s rebound person is still communicating with you, it’s probably because they are hoping to get you back. In most cases, the relationship between you and your rebound person will not last long.
If your ex is contacting you and wants to get back with you, then he does not know how to communicate with a woman. If he’s contacting you and trying to get back with you, he’s scared and doesn’t know how to move on. Either way, he’s not ready to be single.
10) Keep you updated to make you jealous
Because let’s be honest – if they’re in a new relationship and they haven’t kept you updated on progress, chances are that they’re not making much progress at all.
It could also mean that your ex still wants you – they want to keep you as an option, and a potentially viable one, so they don’t want to risk accidentally spooking you off by being honest about their current situation.
11) Appearing with the new partner in events you are in
When your ex’s rebound relationship is failing, it means that your ex starts showing their new partner off to you.
This could be at a family gathering, an event that both of you are at, or just at a party with your ex’s new partner present. This is quite a narcissistic thing to do and shows that your ex is putting their new partner ahead of you.
If your ex keeps bringing their new partner to events you are both at, it’s a sign that your ex’s new partner is taking priority over you. It’s important to remember that this isn’t always the case, but most of the time it is. This is probably one of the easiest signs that your ex’s rebound relationship is failing.
12) Comparing you with the new person
Another sign that your ex’s rebound relationship is failing is when your ex starts comparing you with the new person. This might start off small by your ex saying that they miss the new person more than they miss you, but it will grow and grow.
Your ex is comparing you to this new person and making you look bad, and it’s a sign that your ex’s rebound relationship is failing.
It’s important to remember that this isn’t always the case, but most of the time it is. This is probably the easiest sign that your ex’s rebound relationship is failing.
13) Showing-off the relationship on social media
If you have a job that requires a social media account, you will have noticed that your ex’s new partner will start posting pictures of them and your ex.
This is probably annoying, and makes you feel like you have to constantly prove yourself to your ex, but that’s a sign that your ex’s rebound relationship is failing. This is probably one of the easiest signs that your ex’s rebound relationship is failing.
Rebound relationships are a dime-a-dozen these days. And while the Internet is full of articles promising insight into the best way to do it, there’s no training manual for how to make sure the relationship fails. But that doesn’t mean you can’t figure out if yours is going well…or not! From those above signs, you can know soon if your ex’s rebound relationship is failing.
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