Let’s be real: men aren’t exactly known for their ability to remain faithful.
Sadly, affairs are all too common. But how can you tell if a married man is interested in pursuing something more with you?
There are plenty of red flags that signal a man is thinking about straying from his marriage.
Unfortunately, it isn’t always easy to spot signs a married man wants to cheat on his partner.
But with these signs, you will be able to tell very easily what his intentions are with you:
1) Your female intuition never lies
If something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t. Or if you get a feeling that he wants you, he probably does. If you get a feeling about a guy and his intentions with you, it’s worth listening to your instincts.
You should trust your gut when it comes to dating and romance.
Even if you can’t explain why you’re feeling a certain way, you should never ignore those feelings.
If you think that something is up, it probably is.
The thing is, a woman’s intuition never lies, so if you get the hunch that this guy wants to cheat with you, he probably does!
Listen to your gut feeling in these situations!
But let’s look at other, more tangible signs:
2) He doesn’t talk about his wife with you
If a guy is interested in you as a friend, he should want to talk about his wife.
He should want to tell you about her and what she does. He should want to talk about his kids and how proud he is of them.
Think about it, he would want to show you pictures of his family and be proud to be a husband and father.
If a guy doesn’t want to talk about his wife, that’s a major red flag.
A guy who is cheating on his wife or is thinking about cheating on his wife doesn’t want you to know about her because he doesn’t want you to know that he’s married.
He is trying to keep you from finding out in case you know about his relationship and don’t want anything to do with him.
This brings me to my next point:
3) He hid his marriage at first
If a guy is interested in you and he isn’t married, he will tell you about his relationship status right away.
And if he is married but has no bad intentions with you, he will be proud to have you know that he is committed to someone and he won’t want to lead you on.
If a guy is hiding his relationship, it’s probably because he is married.
He is keeping you in the dark about the fact that he has someone special in his life and is in a relationship.
He is probably scared that you will lose interest in him when you find out that he is married.
A married man who is interested in cheating will try to keep his relationship a secret as long as possible. It is a way for him to prolong his ability to cheat on his partner.
Now, the way he interacts with you says a lot, too:
4) He gives you a ton of compliments
If a guy is interested in you and wants to sleep with you, he’ll shower you with compliments.
He will be proud to have you in his life and will want you to know that you are special to him.
A married man who is interested in cheating on his partner will try to butter you up as much as possible.
He will shower you with compliments and make you feel like you are the most special person in his life.
Simply put, he will want you to like him and be interested in him so that you will be more likely to participate in his affair. He will want you to feel special and wanted.
That way, he can make you feel guilty if you try to break things off with him and you won’t want to stop seeing him.
But also with his wife and family, a big sign can be visible:
5) He hides his correspondence with you
If a guy is committed, he will want you to know that he has someone special in his life and that he isn’t available.
A married man who wants to cheat on his partner will keep his communications with his lover a secret.
He will want to remain discreet so that no one finds out about his affair. He will want to keep you in the dark about his communications so that you don’t know about his relationship.
If he is keeping his phone hidden from his wife or not telling her about you, that’s a big sign he wants to cheat with you.
Think about it: if you were just a normal friend, then what is there to hide?
Only when he starts acting shady is when you know that something is up!
6) He speaks badly of his wife and marriage
If a guy is not interested in you sexually, he will praise his wife and marriage.
He will be proud to be in a committed relationship and he will want you to know all about his wife.
A married man who is interested in cheating on his wife will talk badly about her and his marriage.
He will make it seem like his relationship is a burden and he doesn’t want to be married. If he is saying terrible things about his relationship, he is probably wanting an affair as well.
He is trying to justify his actions and make them seem less wrong. If a guy is talking negatively about his marriage and partner, there is a good chance that he is interested in cheating.
While a guy might say that he hates seeing his wife unhappy, if he’s spending more time with you than he is with her, then something isn’t right.
If your new guy is constantly bashing his wife or complaining about her, there’s a chance that he wants to get out of the relationship and cheat with you.
He might not want to admit it to himself, but if he puts down the woman that he supposedly loves so much, then that means something isn’t right.
Another thing that’s not quite right in a committed marriage…
7) He flirts unapologetically
If a guy is interested in you even though he is married, he will flirt and be unapologetic about it.
He will know that he is willing to sleep with you and he will want you to know it as well.
So yes, a married man who is interested in cheating will still flirt with you.
He will want you to like him and he will want you to be interested in being with him.
He will want you to know how special you are to him and how much he wants to be with you.
This man will want you to know how he feels about you and want you to feel the same way about him.
You see, he will want to make you feel special and wanted. If a guy is flirting with you and seems to be unapologetic about it, he is probably cheating on his partner.
Now, he will also want to get some one-on-one time with you:
8) He tries to spend time alone with you
A married guy who is interested in cheating on his partner will want to spend time alone with you.
He won’t want to be around your friends and family because they will see his relationship with you and try to put a stop to it.
He will want to spend time with you at his place, your place, or at a hotel so that no one finds out about his affair.
He will want to be able to be alone with you so that you can have a private relationship.
This is a clear sign that he wants to cheat with you – otherwise, he’d invite his wife along to the meetings or even let you meet his friends.
But also when you are together, you will notice immediately what his intentions are:
9) He is very touchy when you are together
If a guy is interested in you even though he has a wife, he will want to be close to you. He will want to hold your hand, put his arm around you, or have you sit on his lap.
A married man who is interested in cheating on his partner will want to get close to you. He will want to be physical with you and will want to touch you often.
He will want to touch you on the arm, play with your hair and hug you more than necessary.
Maybe he will want to hold your hand and put his arm around you.
You see, he will want to rest his head on your shoulder and put his leg between yours when you are sitting together.
He will want to be very touchy with you because he is trying to make you feel special and make you think that you are special to him.
But the most clear sign of all is this next one:
10) He tells you outright
One of the most clear signs a guy wants to cheat on his wife with you is when he simply let’s you know.
A married man who is interested in cheating on his partner will sometimes want you to know that he is married.
He will let you know his intentions and then it is up to you to decide what to do with that information.
While it’s technically not your responsibility to watch out for someone else’s relationship, it is still a sign of decency to think twice before sleeping with a married man.
If you find yourself in this situation, I’m sorry, that’s not easy.
You will have to rely on your own judgment to see what the best option in this case is.
If you want to sleep with him, you can, but you need to be okay with the moral and emotional consequences that this decision brings with it!
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