Are you texting a married man and wondering whether he really likes you or not?
When it comes to dating, texting can be a helpful tool for getting to know someone better. However, things can get tricky when your object of interest is a married man.
Are they into you? Does a married man like you through text?
In this article, I’ll share some tips on how to tell if a married man likes you through text.
1) He appears to be having a good time when you talk
Let’s start with the most obvious sign that a married man likes you through text: he seems to have a lot of fun talking to you.
Just think about it.
Does he seem distracted or disinterested when talking to you? Or maybe he honestly enjoys and values the conversations you have with him through text.
The thing is that when a married man likes you, he’ll probably have a good time talking to you. He may even seem to be more relaxed and uninhibited while texting you.
If you’re getting to know each other through text and you hit it off, there will be a point at which you both get comfortable enough with each other to flirt. If a guy is really into you, he’ll flirt with you even if you’ve never met before.
For example, if you’re having a great conversation, he should be really engaged with what you’re saying. He’ll be excited to talk to you and will try to keep the conversation going as long as possible.
And you might even notice that he’s trying to keep the conversation flowing, but he’s not trying to flirt with you.
He’s basically doing the minimum to keep the conversation going, and he doesn’t seem to be having a good time.
Does this sound familiar?
If so, then you should know that this is a sign that he’s interested in you.
Keep in mind that when talking to a married man who likes you through text, it can be easy to notice if he seems distracted or disinterested.
For example, if his responses are short and unenthusiastic (a la “I’m fine”), then it could mean that he just doesn’t care about your conversation.
If this is the case, then it’s probably time to move on and find someone else.
But if his responses are longer and more enthusiastic (like “I had a good time with my friends yesterday!”), then it could be a sign that he’s interested in you.
2) He texts about things other than work or his family
Not only the tone of their voice, but it’s also important to pay attention to the exact things he talks about whenever he has a conversation with you through text.
I mean, does talk to you about anything other than work or his family? Does he want to know more about you?
The truth is that if a married man likes you through text, then it can be easy to tell once he starts asking more about you.
For example, if he asks questions about your interests, your family, or your life in general, then it can be a good sign that he’s interested in getting to know you better.
A married man who likes you will try to find out more about what makes you tick and how much of an impact your life has on the world around you. He may even ask questions related to your personal beliefs and philosophy on life.
In other words, when talking to someone who likes him through text, if they ask him questions that go beyond his life.
but you know what?
You should know that if he’s a hard-working man, then work may always be on his mind and that’s perfectly fine.
However, if he texts about work or his family all the time, it can be a bit of a warning sign that he doesn’t really like you as much as you think.
A married man who really likes someone will want to talk about other things in addition to work and family life. He wants to get to know more about your interests and hobbies, what makes you laugh, etc.
This shows that he wants something deeper in your relationship than chatting on the phone.
So, when a married man is really into you, expect to talk about diverse topics instead of only about his work or his family.
3) He asks you questions and is genuinely interested in what you have to say
Now let’s think about the way he talks with you through text.
Does he ask you questions about your life, interests, and hobbies? Are you getting any of the following statements in your texts?
“How was your day?” “What are you up to?” “How was work today?” “Who are you with this weekend?” “What do you want to do this weekend?” etc.
Those are some of the typical questions men tend to ask whenever they’re genuinely interested in getting to know someone better.
If you’re getting questions like that, it’s safe to say that he’s into you.
If he is asking these types of questions, then it is a pretty good sign that he is interested in getting to know you better.
He might even be trying to determine if it would be appropriate for him to start dating someone who isn’t his wife.
Generally speaking, men who are married don’t spend a lot of time getting to know women who aren’t their wives.
But if he is spending a lot of time getting to know these things about you, then there is a good chance that he likes what he sees and wants more information on what makes you happy and sad.
Because when a married man likes you, he’ll be curious about your life. He’ll want to learn more about who you are and what your interests are.
He’ll ask you questions about things that interest him and will go out of his way to make sure that he understands your point of view.
He’ll share information with you because he wants to get to know the real person behind the screen – not just the person that he sees online.
And you know what?
This is especially true if it takes him a while to respond or if his answers are short and/or vague.
In these cases, there are two possible explanations: either he doesn’t care about what you’re saying or he wants to get to know you more but is unsure how to do it without being too obvious or awkward.
4) He sends you constant replies
Have you noticed that all the replies a married man returns to you tend to be quick?
It’s like it doesn’t take him much time to respond to your text messages, and he replies to you within minutes or even more — immediately after you text him.
Well, a guy who is interested in you will send you a lot of short replies to keep the conversation going.
If you send him a long text message, it might take him a while to reply. He might even ignore it altogether. That’s not necessarily a sign that he’s not interested in you.
He might just be busy, or he might think that the text isn’t that important. A guy who likes you, however, will not wait a long time to reply.
He’ll send you a short message right away, and he’ll keep the conversation moving.
So, here’s the thing:
If he takes a long time to respond, he’s probably not that keen on you.
Or maybe it’s because his wife is somewhere around, but still, if a married man doesn’t try to find a place where he can write to you as soon as possible, then chances are that he’s not that interested in you.
I mean, why wouldn’t he try to write to you as soon as he could if he’s that into you?
Just think about it and try to figure out the reasons why his replies are always late because that’s one of the things that determine whether a married man likes you through text.
5) He’s consistent with his responses
Okay, sending replies immediately is one thing, and being consistent with his responses is another.
But if you want to identify whether a married man really likes you through text or not, then you should pay attention to his consistency.
Well, you should figure out how consistent he is with his responses.
When you’re getting to know someone through text, it’s easy to just send a one-word reply or nothing at all. It’s hard to reply with a paragraph when you’re not looking at the person you’re texting.
If a guy is interested in you, he’ll try his best to be consistent with his responses. He’ll try his hardest to expand on what you’re saying and really engage with you.
He’ll respond to your texts with paragraphs instead of one-word replies. He’ll be excited to talk to you, and he’ll try to keep the conversation going as long as possible. If he doesn’t seem to care about keeping the conversation going, he’s probably not interested in you.
So if he’s constantly texting you, then it means he’s into you.
What do I mean by being consistent with his responses?
In fact, consistency means that he’s reliable; he always replies to your texts, he never forgets to call you, and he’s always there when you need him.
It means that he will be there when you’re down and out. He’ll pick up the phone and call you when things aren’t going well.
He won’t let you down or ignore your texts. Be on the lookout for this if you want to identify whether a married man really likes you through text or not.
6) He compliments your personality
Let’s face it: we all know that complimenting someone on their appearance isn’t always a good sign.
Because it simply means that a married man is attracted to your looks instead of your personality.
But what if he gives you compliments about your personality instead?
Here’s what I figured out:
Men compliment women by telling them how funny they are or how interesting they are when they’re actually interested in them on a deep emotional level.
At least, that’s what happened to me. Although the man I was texting wasn’t married, the situation is the same:
He was giving me compliments about my personality even though I knew he liked my appearance and couldn’t wait to give me compliments about my looks.
Is this something your man would do?
If so, he may think that you’re the most beautiful woman he’s ever met but he just tells you you’re the most amazing person he’s ever known.
That’s what a man says when he likes you!
And if your man does stuff like this, it’s safe to say that he likes you!
It means that he’s interested in talking about “deep” topics. And believe it or not, a study published in an authoritative scientific journal Nature shows that women prefer men who use metaphorical language when paying compliments in a romantic context.
So, maybe that’s the reason why you fell for him in the first place.
Either way, whenever a married man compliments your personality, that’s an obvious sign that he’s interested in you.
7) He gives you advice
Still, there’s one thing you should pay attention to:
Even if your man gives you compliments about your personality instead of your looks, it doesn’t mean anything if he doesn’t try to provide advice as well.
The thing is, when you’re getting to know someone, it’s not easy to give them advice on things they have to deal with. But if this person is really trying to show you that he cares, he won’t hesitate to give you advice on your issues.
But what kind of advice do I mean?
Well, if you’re going through a difficult time, he will try to help you. Or if you’re doing something wrong, he will tell you the right way to do it.
Clue: A married man isn’t interested in helping you with your problems if he’s not into you.
I mean, why would he bother to help you out if he’s not interested in you, right?
So, whenever you notice that he’s ready to give you compliments, consider it a sign that he’s interested in you.
After that, when you notice that he’s ready to help you with your issues, pay attention to him. It could be a sign that he’s really into you and wants to have a serious relationship with you.
8) He follows up with texts that support your story
Want to know what’s the best way to find out whether a married man is really interested in you based on just a text?
Well, I found out one thing is that it can play a role in non-verbal behavior in the text.
I don’t want to confuse you here, but what I mean is that, based on social psychology studies, nonverbal communication plays a significant role in romantic relationships.
In fact, it reveals much more information about a person’s intentions than his verbal communication. This means that the things he does are more important than the things he says.
And the same happens with chatting and communication through text. That’s why you should pay attention to whether he tries to follow up with texts that support your story
If a married man likes you through text messages, then he’ll probably follow-up with responses that support what you’re saying.
For example, if you say something like, “I was feeling sick yesterday,” then he’ll probably follow up with a response like, “I’m sorry to hear that.” This means he’s interested in what you’re telling him.
Or let’s say you’re texting about your trip to Paris. If he responds with a question about the food and wine there, it means he wants to know more about you and genuinely cares.
So, this is when he asks questions that are related to what you were saying. And it simply means that he is interested in what you have to say.
9) He asks you a lot of questions
Did you notice that a married man is asking a lot of questions through text?
You may have come to the conclusion that he’s trying to get to know you better, but there’s another reason for it.
A man who likes you will ask a lot of questions about your interests, hobbies, and even your family. He’ll ask about places you love visiting or things you love doing. He’ll ask about your favorite food and what kind of music you like listening to.
He may also want to know more about your family and friends. He may want to know if they support your relationship with him or not.
If he asks specific questions about them, then this is a good sign that he likes you and cares about how they feel about him.
But here’s something you should know about it:
When you’re texting with a married man, it’s important to pay attention to how he asks you questions.
If he’s trying to keep things casual, he will ask simple questions.
However, if he is truly interested in the person he’s talking to, he will have more complicated questions that reflect his desire to learn more about them.
This can help you tell whether a married man likes you through text or not.
10) He wants to meet up with you in person but never asks for it
One important thing that I’ve noticed about married men who actually like the women they’re chatting to is that they always want to meet up in person. But guess what?
They never take further steps and ask them for it.
I know you might think that if he’s really interested in you, he couldn’t wait to meet you up.
But think again.
When a married man is really into you, he won’t take the initiative to ask you out on a date because of one simple reason — it might make you feel like you’re an object of entertainment for him.
And he doesn’t want to make you feel this way because he cares about you.
Still, it doesn’t mean that they don’t want to see you in person and spend some time with you. Instead, they will just wait for you to take the first step and make that move.
I agree that it might sound strange but waiting for the right time is one of the signs of being polite and caring =.
That’s why you shouldn’t take it personally if your married man doesn’t offer to meet up with you. Just take the initiative and ask him out on a date yourself.
11) He’s overly nice and polite
Speaking of being polite, you should know that one of the most obvious signs that a married man likes you through text is when he’s overly nice and polite.
But why is he being extremely polite and respectful to you through text?
Well, it’s a sign that he wants to show you that he’s a nice guy. He wants you to like him and respect him.
He’s not just being polite because he wants to get laid or something like that. He’s genuinely being nice to you because he likes you.
The truth is that married men who actually like women will show a lot of respect toward them.
They’ll give you compliments, ask about your day, and never make rude comments.
If a guy is really interested in you, he’ll almost be too nice. He’ll go out of his way to be polite and respectful.
He’ll be incredibly nice to you and try to make you feel comfortable. He’ll make sure to keep the conversation going and will send you long messages to make sure that you know he appreciates your time.
So, if a married man is interested in you, he’ll make sure to be super nice to you. He won’t want to do anything to scare you off or upset you.
And if he’s not being nice to you, then he’s probably not interested in you so don’t waste any more time on a relationship that’s not going to work.
12) He enjoys talking about your mutual plans
Have you noticed that he makes plans with you in advance and enjoys talking about them?
This is a definite sign that he’s into you!
Another sign that a married man likes you through text is when he makes plans with you.
If this person wants to see you, he will make plans with you. And then he will follow up on it. If the two of you are going to meet up, and then something comes up, he will let you know about it.
If something comes up and the two of you can’t see each other anymore, he will tell you about it as soon as possible.
You know what I mean? He won’t just leave it hanging there without telling you anything for days or weeks at a time. He cares about the relationship and doesn’t want to hurt your feelings if something comes up unexpectedly.
Let me explain why.
A married man doesn’t make plans with someone unless that person is important to him emotionally (or physically).
After all, how many people do you know that would make plans with someone they didn’t care about?
So, if a married guy wants to go out with you, he’ll probably suggest making plans in advance.
He might ask what your schedule is like for the next few days so that they can hang out with you at an appropriate time. Or maybe they’ll ask if certain days are better for hanging out than others.
If they do this, it means they want to see you again, so it confirms their interest
13) He’s honest and open with you
How would you rate the degree of honesty of a married man you’re texting?
If he’s honest and open with you, then there’s a good chance he likes you.
If, on the other hand, he’s dishonest and evasive when it comes to his relationship status, then you probably shouldn’t expect anything good to come out of your relationship with him.
Now you probably wonder how it works.
Well, married men are often cautious when it comes to sharing their concerns and fears with others. However, if he opens up to you, it’s a sure sign that he likes you.
Believe it or not, he might even share his innermost secrets and fears with you.
This is because he feels safe knowing that you won’t judge him for his actions or words. A man who doesn’t feel safe around a woman doesn’t share his secrets and innermost thoughts with her.
So, if you’re in a relationship with a married man and he shares his fears and concerns with you, it means he’s really into you and it’s much more than simple texts.
14) He’s constantly checking in on you
Let’s explore one more sign that a married man likes you through text. If you notice that he always tries to check in with you and see if you’re doing well, then it might be a sign that he purely cares about you.
The reason is that if he cares about you, he’ll pay a lot of attention to you. He’ll want to know what’s happening in your life and how he can help you out.
For example, if you send him a text and say that you’re going through a hard time, he’ll want to know what’s wrong. He’ll ask questions and try to help you solve your problems.
He’ll ask how your day was and try to have a real conversation with you. He won’t just send quick texts and keep the conversation casual.
He’ll want to know if you’re okay and how you’re feeling. He’ll be interested in your life, and he’ll want to help you out in any way that he can.
And you know what?
This could mean that he’s trying to build a connection with you by constantly sending you messages.
This means that if he keeps asking how your day is going or how your weekend was, this is also a sign of interest.
15) He doesn’t use too many emojis in his texts
And finally, one last sign that a married man likes you through text is also related to the way he texts you.
Keep in mind that this is something that won’t work with every man, but still: if your married guy is sending you too many emojis and using smileys in his messages, it means that he’s trying to be nice and show some emotion toward you.
But it doesn’t mean that he’s actually into you! Instead, it’s just a way to grab your attention and get you to respond to his messages.
Yes, you might think that emotions are one of the main components of liking someone!
But emojis don’t represent real emotions, right?
So, if you notice that he’s using too many emojis in his texts, throw him a curveball and see what happens. If he doesn’t change the way he’s texting you after your response, it means that he’s just being nice and doesn’t really have any other intentions.
I’m not saying that every man who uses emojis and smileys in their texts is trying to be nice. But here’s a fact: if your married guy is using too many of them, it means that he’s trying to be nice and friendly with you.
That being said, if he doesn’t stop doing this after your response, it means that he isn’t interested in anything serious with you.
Bottom line – Is a married man into you?
All in all, if you notice that a guy is doing one or more of these things, then he’s definitely interested in you.
Still, getting involved with a man who already has a family doesn’t always work out. That’s why you have to assess the risks and decide if you’re ready and feel the same way!
Hopefully, you will be able to tell whether or not he’s into you. So, next time a married man starts texting you, keep these tips in mind!
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