So you met this new guy, and things were going well.
You went on a few great dates and everything seemed to be perfect, but then he started to act weird…
It now takes him forever to reply to a text. He’s full of excuses as to why he can’t see you.
Something is definitely off and you want to know if he’s lost interest.
Only one way to find out.
Here are 21 alarming signs he’s about to ghost you:
1) He sends one-word texts
If the guy you’ve been dating is replying to your texts with single-word responses like “K,” “Cool,” or “Yup,” he’s either too busy to text you back or he’s losing interest in you.
If the latter is true, it’s an alarming sign that he’s about to ghost you.
Before you start to freak out, ask yourself how often this happens. Does he always reply with one-word texts, or is it only when you text him at work?
2) You’re always the one to call or text him
If he never initiates a conversation and if you’re always the one to call or text him, it could be another sign that he’s about to bail on you.
Think about it:
If he really liked you, he would find the time to get in touch because he’ll want to know how you’re doing and what’s new.
So if you’re always the one getting in touch and you feel like you’re chasing him – that’s probably because he’s about to run.
3) You don’t make him feel like a hero
Do you make your guy feel like a hero? Do you make him feel special, do you make him feel needed?
You see, there’s a new theory in the relationship world that’s causing quite a stir – it’s called the hero instinct.
Coined by relationship expert James Bauer, this fascinating concept finally explains how men really think and feel in relationships.
And it’s something most women have never even heard of.
According to James Bauer, men don’t actually need a lot to feel content in their relationships. In fact, what they need has nothing to do with sex.
Men have certain innate drivers. And when a woman comes along and triggers them, it causes a powerful response. The result is a man who loves harder, commits wholeheartedly, and truly dedicates himself to the relationship.
So, how can you trigger your man’s hero instinct?
The easiest thing to do is to watch this simple and genuine video by James Bauer.
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4) He doesn’t want to make plans for the future
If the guy you’ve been seeing has been super keen on you, but then he begins to pull away and stops making plans with you, he may no longer be quite so keen to keep seeing you.
For whatever reason, he’s losing interest and doesn’t want to commit to any future plans – even if it’s for next month.
If he stops making plans with you, it could be a sign that he’s going to ghost you.
Asking a guy if he’s seeing anyone else, if he wants to get serious, or if he wants to be in a relationship with you is a great way to see if he’s interested in dating you long-term.
If he’s not interested, he’ll most likely tell you if you confront him, that way you can avoid being ghosted.
5) He bails on you to hang out with the guys
If the guy you’re dating keeps canceling plans with you to go out with his friends, he may be more interested in hanging out with his buddies than he is in spending time with you.
In my experience, if he continues to cancel on you, it’s only a matter of time before he cancels on you for good.
If you make a big deal out of it, he could use it as an excuse to break up with you. You see, it’s possible that he was trying to break up with you and just needed an out.
If you’ve been dating for a while and he’s tried to break up with you multiple times, he may be trying to ghost you.
6) It’s too good to be true
If everything seems to be going well between you and the guy you’re dating, and then he disappears without explanation, chances are it was too good to be true.
A guy who’s into you isn’t going to disappear without warning. If he does, you can be sure that it wasn’t as serious for him as it was for you.
If he’s too good to be true, it could be a sign of him being a player or someone who is trying to get into your pants.
If he’s too perfect, there has to be something wrong with him.
In short: If it seems too good to be true, chances are, it is.
7) A relationship coach will be able to read the signs
While this article will shed light on the main signs that he’s about to ghost you, it can be helpful to speak to a relationship coach about your situation.
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8) He seems distant when you’re together
If a guy seems like he’s not into you anymore but hasn’t said anything, he’s definitely not going to just come out and tell you he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you.
He’ll let his actions speak for him. In other words: If he seems distant when you’re together, he may be about to ghost you.
But, you can try asking him if there’s something bothering him.
Maybe the reason he’s distant has nothing to do with you. Maybe he’s going through some family issues or has problems at work.
Don’t jump to conclusions without making an inquiry.
9) He’s full of excuses
If you’ve been dating a guy for a while and he’s suddenly making excuses not to see you, he’s probably been wanting to ghost you for a while.
A guy who likes you and wants to keep dating you won’t make excuses to get out of seeing you.
Maybe he’s not ready for a serious relationship. Maybe he’s met someone else. Or, maybe he just doesn’t think you’re compatible.
Whatever the reason, he seems to be a lot more comfortable making excuses than being straight with you.
10) He’s always late
Being late for an appointment or a date is a sign that he’s not organized and that he doesn’t respect your time.
This might not be an issue if you’re seeing each other casually, but if he’s seeing you regularly, it’s a sign that he doesn’t respect you and doesn’t value your time.
Being late for dates suggests that he’s disorganized, so you can expect him to be disorganized in other areas of his life too.
If he’s always late for dates, it could be a sign that he’s not invested in the relationship, so he doesn’t have a reason to make an effort.
It could also be a sign that he doesn’t actually want to be there, that he feels forced into coming to see you. It’s possible that one day he just wont show up…
11) He talks about his ex all the time
The truth is that if a guy is constantly talking about his ex, he might be trying to let you know that he’s not ready for a new relationship.
Talking about an ex is the first sign of trouble in a new relationship.
It shows that the guy is not over his past relationship and he’s not emotionally available to move forward with you.
If misses his ex so much, he may not stick around.
12) He doesn’t seem to have time for you
If he’s always rushing out the door before you’re ready to say goodbye, it could be a sign that he’s not interested in investing time in the relationship.
If he’s always leaving you to go to work, or he’s always running late to meet you, it could be a sign that he’s not interested in spending time with you.
If he has no time for you, it’s a sign that he’s not interested. He’s probably ready to leave the relationship before it even starts.
13) He’s incapable of commitment
If his dating history is littered with broken relationships and he’s incapable of committing to anyone, he probably won’t commit to you.
If you’ve been dating for a while and he’s incapable of committing to you, it’s a sign that he’s going to break up with you.
I mentioned this fascinating concept earlier: the hero instinct. When a man’s inner hero is triggered, he’s more likely to commit to you.
Just by knowing the right things to say to him, you’ll open a part of him that no woman has ever reached before.
And the best way to do so is by watching this free video by James Bauer. In it, he’ll reveal simple phrases and texts you can use to make your man truly yours.
14) He doesn’t show any interest in your life
If the guy you’re dating doesn’t ask you about your life or doesn’t express any interest in what you do on a daily basis, then he might be looking for an easy way out of the situation.
Because dating is supposed to be a two-way street. You’re supposed to be involved in each other’s lives. You’re supposed to ask about each other’s day.
If he doesn’t ask you about your interests or if he doesn’t express any interest in what you do on a regular basis, then it’s a red flag that he might be getting ready to ghost you.
If he never asks about your family, your work, or your hobbies and projects, then he doesn’t care about you and doesn’t plan on sticking around.
15) He constantly flakes on plans
If you’ve been seeing this guy for a while now, and he’s constantly flaking on plans with you, then he might actually be ghosting you.
If he flakes on you from time to time, then don’t worry too much about it. It’s normal for people to flake on each other occasionally.
But if this keeps on happening and he never seems to have an excuse for why he can’t make it, then he’s probably ghosting you.
If he keeps making plans with you and then bailing on you at the last minute, then he’s definitely trying to tell you he’s no longer interested in you.
16) He disappears without any warning
This is one of the most obvious signs that you’re being ghosted.
If he just disappears for no apparent reason, he’s probably trying to disappear from your life completely.
Unless he’s lying in a hospital somewhere, there’s no good reason he would just disappear.
So if he just drops out of your life completely one day and never comes back, he’s probably ghosting you.
I know it sucks but it happens to the best of us so don’t take it personally.
This happens to a lot of people at some point in their lives, and there’s nothing that you can do about it. It’s rude behavoir to say the least and in my opinion, you’re better off without him.
17) He doesn’t answer when you try to reach out to him
If you’ve tried to reach out to this guy on a few occasions and he never responds, then he’s probably ghosting you.
I mean, if this guy was interested in you, he would at least take a couple of minutes to reply to your texts.
If he’s constantly giving you the silent treatment and never replies to you when you try to contact him, then he’s definitely trying to get away from you.
18) He constantly puts you down and makes you feel bad about yourself
If you’ve been seeing this guy for a while now, and you’ve noticed that he always puts you down and makes you feel bad about yourself, then he’s probably trying to break up with you.
If he always has something negative to say about your appearance, your job, or the way that you live your life, then he’s probably trying to push you away.
If he constantly says negative things about other people in your life, like your friends or family members, then he’s definitely trying to get rid of you. Don’t be surprised if you get ghosted soon.
19) He only talks to you when he wants something
If this guy only talks to you when he wants something from you, like money or help with something, and he never talks to you when you’re alone together, then he’s probably ghosting you.
If this guy was interested in you, he would also talk to you when you’re not expecting him to ask for something from you. If he only talks to you when he wants something from you, and he doesn’t even pretend to care about you, then he’s just using you and will ghost you again once he gets what he wants.
20) He doesn’t reschedule after a cancellation
If the guy you’re dating cancels on you at the last minute, then he should reschedule his date at the earliest convenience.
There is nothing more rude and inconsiderate than blowing someone off without a valid reason. If the guy you’re dating doesn’t try to reschedule his date or doesn’t offer you an apology for his cancellation, then he might be looking for an easy way out of the situation.
Why? Because there is no excuse for blowing someone off without a valid reason.
The bottom line is that if the guy you’re dating cancels on you at the last minute and doesn’t reschedule his date or doesn’t offer you an apology for his abrupt cancellation, then it’s a red flag that he might be getting ready to ghost you.
21) He suddenly stops responding to your calls
Let’s face it, if you’ve been dating this guy for a while and he suddenly stops returning your calls – you’re being ghosted!
There is no excuse for not responding to someone who is trying to get in touch with you.
Similarly, if this is a guy you met recently and he suddenly becomes incommunicado after letting you know that he has your number and after you two have been in contact, then it’s a red flag that he might be getting ready to ghost you.
The best way to avoid being ghosted is to not invest too much in someone who isn’t invested in you.
Ghosting is a passive-aggressive way of breaking up with someone, and it often leaves the ghostee feeling confused and angry.
It’s best to just come out and say what you need to say.
If a guy is ghosting you, it’s best just to move on. Dating is hard enough without putting yourself through the anguish of being ghosted.
But if you really have your heart set on this guy and you want him to prevent him from ghosting you – there’s really one thing you can do to convince him to stay in your life.
I touched on the hero instinct earlier – it’s the perfect remedy for the situation you’re facing.
Because once a man’s hero instinct is triggered, he’ll want to stick around. You’ll reach a part of him that no woman has ever managed to reach before.
And in return, he’ll be compelled to commit to you and love you like he’s never loved another woman.
So if you’re ready to take that plunge and reach new heights in your relationship, make sure to check out relationship expert James Bauer’s invaluable advice.
Why do people ghost?
Let’s face it: ghosting can be super awkward.
Whether you’ve been ghosted once or multiple times, the experience is never pleasant. It hurts to be rejected by someone you care about, especially when you are left with no explanation for why that person has chosen to disappear from your life without warning.
So what exactly is ghosting? Well, in dating terms, it’s when someone cuts off all communication with another person they’ve been seeing and ends the relationship abruptly and without explanation.
It’s cowardly, but it happens all the time. So if you ever find yourself being ghosted again in the future, here are six reasons why people do it:
1) People ghost because they’re scared to admit they don’t want a relationship
If you’re dating someone who is emotionally unavailable, they may be subconsciously scared to admit they don’t want to be in a relationship with you.
While this isn’t fair to you, it’s important to understand that they might not be in a place where they’re able or willing to admit that they don’t want a relationship because they’re scared of hurting you.
2) People ghost because they don’t feel any chemistry
If you’ve gone out on a few dates with someone and they ended up ghosting you, it could be because they don’t feel any chemistry with you.
Now, I know, the mature thing to do would have been to let you know that it’s not going to work out. But some people just don’t know how to break up.
If you feel like you’ve been ghosted because the other person didn’t feel any chemistry with you, try not to take it too personally. After all, not everyone is going to feel a spark with you, so it’s not really your fault.
Plus, it’s better to find out now that there’s no chemistry between you before you go any further and risk getting your heart broken by someone who doesn’t even feel a spark.
3) People ghost because they’re constantly falling for the wrong people
This may sound a little dramatic, but it’s possible that someone has been ghosting you because they’re just constantly falling for the wrong people and don’t know how to express their feelings.
If you’re seeing someone who has ghosted you, try to understand where they might be coming from – it will make you feel less bad.
While it’s not ideal, sometimes people just want to ghost someone because they don’t know how to express their feelings. They might feel like they’re constantly falling for the wrong people but don’t know how to break up with you or voice their feelings.
If you find yourself dating someone who has ghosted you like this, don’t take it personally. Instead, know that it’s usually not about you.
4) People ghost because they think you’re not worth their time
I know, sometimes people suck.
If you’ve been seeing someone who ghosted you, sadly, it might be because they think you’re not worth their time.
I know it can be a little harsh, but it happens.
Don’t be too upset if you’ve been ghosted because you feel like the other person thinks you’re not worth their time. Instead, try to learn from the experience and remember that not everyone is going to be interested in you.
What’s more, you should be glad that they’re out of your life and that you can now meet someone who actually likes you!
Ways to stop being ghosted
Sometimes, no matter what you do, you’re going to get ghosted by a guy. There are, however, a few things you can do to prevent it from happening more often.
- Be upfront about what you’re looking for in a relationship and a partner. If you’re not looking for anything serious, let him know.
If you’re looking for a relationship but he’s not, use that as a reason to end the relationship with him before he has a chance to ghost you.
- Stop being so eager. While it’s great to be excited about a new relationship, being too eager and desperate is a turn-off for most guys.
If you need to slow down the pace of your relationship, do it. If he’s interested in you, he’ll stick around.
- Expect nothing. If you go into the relationship expecting nothing out of it, you won’t be disappointed when he ghosts you.
It’s important to acknowledge that ghosting you might be the only way they know how to break up with you.
If you’ve been seeing someone who ghosted you, try to understand why they did it. Was it because they weren’t able to admit that they don’t want a relationship?
Be understanding, and give them space if they need it. And most importantly, don’t take it personally.
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