Did you notice that one of the guys at the gym has been spending a lot of time checking you out?
Whether he’s admiring your moves or he’s just being friendly, he’s definitely not trying to hide his interest.
If you’re wondering if he likes you or not, we’ve got a list of 15 undeniable signs that even the skeptics will understand.
So keep your eyes peeled and check out these 15 signs that show a guy at the gym is interested in you!
1) He makes eye contact with you
The first sign is easy to spot.
If he makes eye contact with you, that means he’s interested!
Vanessa Van Edwards, the Lead Investigator at Science of People, agrees:
“When someone is attracted to you, they subconsciously will try engaging in lots of mutual eye contact. They do this to feel closer to you, and because they are interested in you.”
But how can you tell if he’s truly interested judging by his gaze only?
“When someone is attracted to you, their eyes go eye-eye-chest, which is an intimate way of gazing.”
So, if he’s giving you the eye and checking you out, then he’s definitely into you. Look deeply into his eyes to make sure.
2) He smiles at you whenever he gets the chance
Crystal Jackson, therapist and relationship writer, thinks that when a man smiles at you, it’s a sign of attraction.
But, at the same time, she warns you:
“You don’t want to interpret a smile to mean more than it is, but if you’re making a list, you’ll want to add this as a sign of attraction.”
In other words, if a guy at the gym often smiles at you, then you should definitely pay attention.
Because smiling is one of the most common flirting techniques. It’s an honest, open display of emotion that communicates interest and can be interpreted as being flirtatious.
3) He checks you out constantly
Want to know more?
The next undeniable sign that a guy at the gym is interested in you is that he keeps checking you out.
Is it because he thinks you’re hot? Maybe.
Is it because you make him feel a little nervous? Maybe.
But regardless, if he’s checking you out all the time, it’s a pretty clear indication that he’s into you.
Phil Ashton, life coach, confirms it:
“When a guy looks at you up and down, it is almost always a sign of attraction.”
“He is checking you out because he likes what he sees and probably can’t help himself,” he adds.
Well, if that’s true, then you should feel flattered!
4) He tries to work out close to you
Is a guy at the gym interested in you? He is if he always tries to work out next to you.
How do I know?
“A guy sitting really close to you will often be a sign that he likes you especially if he only does it with you and if he shows other signs of attraction around you,” notes Body Language Central.
Simply put, a guy who wants to work out next to you probably has an interest in you. He may just feel safe being close to you and working out with you, but the end result is that he’s drawn to you.
So, ask yourself this: Is he trying to get closer to you when he sees you at the gym?
If he is, then you have one more reason to think he’s interested in you.
5) He tries to make small talk with you while working out
Body language experts even say that men who are sending you signals of interest will often use small talk as a way to start talking with you.
For example, an undeniable sign a guy at the gym is interested in you is when he comes to you and introduces himself casually or asks you how you’re doing.
Another example is that he will often try to keep the conversation going by asking you various questions.
You see, guys who are interested in you will often make a conscious effort to talk to you and attempt to keep the conversation going.
This is because they want to find out more about you and figure out if they like you.
6) He tries to “accidentally” brush against you
Are you ready for another sign?
If he keeps brushing up against you in an almost-accidental way, it may be because he’s trying to get your attention.
But, if he brushes up against you by mistake, it may be because he’s simply clumsy.
To know for sure, ask yourself how many times it happened. Also, try and remember if he touches you while talking to you – such as a light touch on your shoulder, for example.
If he does it often, it’s a sign that he’s interested in you.
Here’s how Mia Bennett sees it:
“The thing is, if he’s openly flirting with you, such as touching your hand “accidentally” or staring at you for a long time, those are all signs he wants you to notice him.”
And if he wants you to notice him, it means he’s interested.
7) He compliments your fitness or body
The next sign is one of the most obvious ways to tell if a guy at the gym is interested in you.
Keep an eye out for any compliments he pays to your body or fitness level.
Does he point out that you’ve lost some weight? Or does he say something about how much more fit you are now?
Any compliment about your appearance or fitness is a good indication that he’s interested in you.
What’s more, it’s also true that some men can’t help but say nice things to a fit woman. If a guy really admires your fitness or compliments you to get your attention, then it may be his way of flirting with you.
8) He changed his workout schedule to match yours
Have you been seeing this guy at the gym for a while now?
If this is the case, then it may very well be that he changed his workout schedule because of you.
After all, why would he change his schedule to match yours if he wasn’t interested in you?
It’s true that some people do change their workout times for work or other reasons. But it’s also true that others do so to get a glimpse of someone they like.
9) He acts nervous when he’s around you
The next undeniable sign that a guy at the gym is interested in you is if he acts nervous when he sees you.
Well, nervous behavior suggests interest and arousal. In other words, it’s an automatic sign that a guy is attracted to you.
To be clear, some men are naturally more nervous than others. But there are really no exceptions to this rule – which shows that he definitely has an interest in you.
Anna Scheucher, writer for Love Connection agrees:
“If they’re really nervous around you while doing exercises that put them near you, they could be interested in you.”
In case you like this guy back, you could talk to him to help him with his nervousness. But, instead of asking him things, tell him a funny story or something about yourself.
10) He tries to impress you with his workout
Here’s another sign that a guy at the gym is interested in you:
If he tries to impress you with his workout, he could be trying to show off.
For example, a good way to tell is that he wants to impress you by demonstrating how much muscle or how strong he is.
If this is the case, it’s a clear sign that he wants you to find him attractive:
“A guy at the gym who’s interested in you will try to impress you with his workout. He’ll make sure you see him lifting heavy weights, and he’ll make sure he gets your attention.”
So, has he been trying to impress you with his workout? Does he want you to notice him? If so, then it’s a clear sign that he is interested in you.
11) He offers to help you with your workout
Yet another undeniable sign that a guy at the gym is interested in you is if he offers to help you with your workout.
And let’s be honest, this can be one of the best ways to get close to someone.
Because it demonstrates how much of a gentleman he is. For example, he shows that he wants you to succeed and feels responsible for helping you – which can actually make you feel good about yourself.
What’s more, this is another indication that he wants to get closer to you.
But, at the same time, Anna Scheucher warns us:
“They could just be a nice person, though, so try to look for other signs that they’re interested in you, too.”
So, read on for more signs.
12) He treats everybody else from the gym differently
Have you noticed that he treats everybody else from the gym differently?
This is a very indirect way to show that he’s interested in you.
In other words, it’s a sign because he has clear boundaries.
This means that he realizes that everybody is different, and tries to treat each of them accordingly. He may spend time with some gym members more than others. But he doesn’t spend time with everybody equally.
Does this mean that he is interested in you? If yes, how do you know?
He spends the most time with you, the person he is interested in. But, at the same time, he’s not a jerk to others.
13) He asks you to work out together
Do you go to the gym regularly?
If so, then it may be that this guy is trying to gain your attention by asking you to work out together.
Here’s how it works.
When he asks you to work out together, you have the chance to spend time with him at the gym.
Why is this a good thing?
You can get to know him a little before you make a decision about him. In turn, he gets to know you a little, too.
14) He tries to find out if you’re single
One more sign that a guy at the gym is interested in you is if he makes it clear that he wants to know if you’re single.
For example, he may ask you this question directly. But he may also try to find out from other members of the gym.
This way, he can examine your situation first before making a move. And if you are single, he’s free to ask you out on a date.
Body Language Central confirms it:
“The reason that he asked you could have been that he is attracted to you and he wanted to know whether or not you might want a boyfriend.”
So, my question is: has he tried to find out if you’re single?
If so, then it’s a clear sign that he’s interested in you.
15) He asks for your number
If you’ve been seeing this guy at the gym for a while, he may be interested in getting to know you better.
What’s more, he may want to ask for your number – or contact info of any kind.
In case he does, you can take it as an undeniable sign that he is interested in you:
“One major sign that confirms your suspicions is that he’s asked for your number. He wants to be able to contact you outside of the gym, which means he’s interested in getting to know you better.”
Who knows, maybe he wants to ask you out on a date or wants to flirt with you through text.
Do men have gym crushes?
Many men have crushes on their fitness instructors. And many women have crushes on their fitness instructors, too.
But what about men and women who meet at the gym during their workouts?
Here’s what mentor Kyle Estep shares on Quora:
“Most of my relationships started at the gym just because I was always there working or training. A gym is a place where people can show a side of themselves that is hard to find in any other social environment. Especially if they are training hard and start to exhaust themselves. Their true personality starts to come out.”
In other words, gym crushes are not uncommon. Men do have gym crushes, probably just as much as women.
And according to Estep, there are many benefits that come with it, such as going through challenges together, seeing each other exhausted, and getting closer through this experience.
So, who knows, maybe he’s not only interested. Maybe he has a crush on you.
This guy at the gym won’t make a move – What now?
Let’s say that all the signs point to him being interested in you. But, what if he doesn’t make a move?
If you’d like this guy, there are a few things you can do to encourage him to make a move, according to Kiran Athar, writer for Love Connection:
Initiate conversation and make it fun
“Humour is a great way to break the ice and instantly make him feel comfortable around you, and laughter is proven to make you look like more of a desirable partner, so don’t hold back on the jokes,” says Kiran.
In other words, don’t be afraid to be yourself. And if he is interested, then this will make him want to be more open.
Be yourself when you’re around him
What else can you do to get him to make a move?
Well, according to Kiran, you can: be yourself.
Why is this effective?
It is because it shows him that you’re not interested in playing games.
And if he doesn’t take the hint and make the first move, then don’t get discouraged. He may think that you are not interested in him. Or, at least, he thinks you are not interested in him right now.
After all, who knows what kind of person he is? Maybe he’s just a shy guy.
Make him compliments
Just as he said nice things about you, you should say nice things about him, too.
This is because men find it flattering when women compliment them and they will feel more attracted.
In addition, your behavior will encourage him to make a move because he’ll see that you want to keep the conversation going with him.
Do this and he will have no choice but to make a move.
By now you should have a pretty good idea about whether a guy at the gym is interested in you.
If you’re also interested in him, then don’t hesitate to encourage him to make a move. And if he does, then have fun flirting with him!
If you’re not, then make sure to let him down gently and kindly.
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