When we start dating someone new, it is so easy to find exciting things to share and talk about. This period of getting to know each other is so fun.
However, after a while, we start running out of options, and it can seem like we have nothing left to talk about. This is where these 27 hacks come in!
They will surely help you get new energy start flowing between you.
1) Take a class together
Getting a new class is awesome. I mean, you can try anything you want!
You can both be beginners in something and learn together. This way, you get to know each other’s personalities on a deeper level and in the best possible manner.
Not only will you learn something new, but you will also be able to tell each other all about it! Besides, you will cheer each other on, and that is always a plus.
You can improve your skills and help each other out in the process. Sometimes help from your partner can be very motivating.
You can get a language class that is completely geared towards you. I recommend getting a language class.
If you plan a trip to France or Italy, why not take a class before you go? You will get a chance to practice what you’ve learned and test how much you’ve learned.
This way your trip to the country is made easier and more enjoyable. Not only that, but it will also make your partner look at you with respect and admiration.
After all, who knows more about the country than the people who live in it? If that happens, it is a definite win-win situation.
Your partner will be happy to listen to your stories and will definitely ask lots of questions.
2) Cook together
Who doesn’t love the smell of food cooking in the kitchen? Plus, you will have so many new things to tell each other about! Just make sure you do not burn the house down!
Cooking together is a very powerful activity because it gives you time to talk and get to know each other on an even deeper level than before. Plus, if it turns out delicious, you can be extra proud together.
Have you ever thought about taking a cooking or baking class together? I mean, it’s something that is very different from what both of you do every day, and it will surely bring out the creative side in both of you.
There is nothing better to make a cute gift for your beloved than something yummy made by your own hands. Plus, it will definitely focus on one of the two things that are always in your mind: food and love.
Imagine the stories you will have using these cooking skills later on! You will have your stomachs full, and you will surely have lots of anecdotes to laugh about later on.
3) Take a hike
Hiking is one of the most amazing ways to get out and enjoy nature. It can be hard but so fun, and if your boyfriend is up for it, why not give it a try?
Moreover, hiking leads to a lot of exercise and sweating, which has been proven to increase endorphin levels and make you both happy. Not only will it be good for your health, but it is also a great way to connect and talk.
You will both enjoy the views, you will be sharing an activity together, and you will also have a lot of fun, which is the most important part. Be ready for tough terrains, steep climbs, and awesome stories along the way!
It’s an awesome opportunity to see how he behaves when he encounters an obstacle of any kind. Once you meet him at the top of the mountain, you will feel two things: how happy he is to be able to walk along the hill and have you who conquered all those hills with him.
It will be a great way to connect and bond!
4) Try something that you are both afraid of together
This is one of the greatest ways to bond with someone. If you can face your fears together, that is something that will surely last for a long time.
It will be an amazing way to make you both feel closer and have new stories to talk about. Maybe doing those things together can help you overcome your fears and be more secure with yourself.
There is no need to do something that is really crazy, like bungee jumping or skydiving. You just have to find something fun to do with your boyfriend.
5) Go on a road trip
Road trips are true adventures. It is so much fun to stop in an unknown place, eat new foods, see different things, and make stops at unique places along the way.
Choose a place you’ve never visited and take the adventure of a lifetime together. You will get to know each other better and have a great time.
If you are lucky, you can even see the sunset on a beach together. This is truly something to cherish and a chance to deepen your love together.
If you can’t decide where to go yet, writing down some ideas and discussing them could still be a lot of fun. It can be as simple as enjoying a nice picnic in the park, or it could be something like taking a weekend getaway to see the cherry blossoms.
If you are adventurous, you might want to go on an actual backpacking trip. This is sure to bring you closer together and give you a lot to talk about afterward!
Speaking of which, it’s always great to write down your thoughts after such an experience.
6) Read online together
If you are always browsing Reddit or Youtube, why not start reading together? That way, you can share stories about what you have read and talked about what you think about it.
It will be an amazing way to spend time together and get to know each other better. Besides, you will be able to relate to each other on a deeper level.
Watching or reading the same things (even though they are both super nerdy) will build a sense of kinship and make you closer in a short time. Pick a few books you would both enjoy and discuss them when you finish.
Exchange ideas and opinions about the plot, characters, or other interesting things that you found in it.
7) Talk about your dreams
This is an amazing way to share ideas and thoughts with someone. It is always nice to tell someone what you want in life and how you want it, even if it seems too far away sometimes.
Talk about your desires and aspirations together. That way, you can both achieve them with each other’s help.
You can motivate each other and prosper in the desired direction. This is also a great way to get to know each other better if you are not very close and you want to change that.
Write down your dreams on paper and read them to each other. You will have great emotions from having your big desires and ambitions discussed with someone.
This is a beautiful way to help each other achieve those goals.
8) Talk about the news and politics
Politics is hard to talk about, but it is really interesting if you can find a way to relate this (e.g., something happening in your country or state). It makes for an interesting conversation starter!
Besides, you will get familiar with your boyfriend’s point of view, and you will be able to prepare yourself if it differs from yours. A good way to start a conversation is to ask your partner what he thinks about some piece of news, and then you can share your opinion.
You will learn something new, and so will he. If you want to discuss something new, it is a good idea to watch the news together at least once a day.
This way, you will always have something to talk about. Try and find an interest of yours that he can relate to, and start from there (if he likes sports, watch some games together).
9) Go to a festival or event together
Festivals are always fun opportunities to meet great people, try new foods, listen to awesome music and dance the night away in new surroundings. This is a great way to spend time together and even meet some new people you can spend time with.
Make a calendar of events, and you will always have something to look forward to. Maybe you want to go for a walk in funny costumes, or you may want to go for a pizza-eating contest.
They say that laughter is definitely the best medicine, so doing goofy things together can definitely make you feel closer and happier. Having fun together will definitely help both of you feel much more relaxed and open up to each other.
10) Watch a movie together
Watching movies together is an interesting and fun way to get to know each other! You can discuss the movie and talk about it afterward.
This will be a great conversation starter, especially if you can relate it to something happening in your life. There’s nothing quite like a good movie to get you into the mood.
Watch a funny video together. Funny videos are also a great way to help you guys relax and have fun.
I’m sure you already have some funny viral clips saved on your phone! Just make sure that the video is something that you both find hilarious otherwise, it might ruin the mood for you instead of helping!
11) Share your subscription at the same time
This setup is handy if you have video streaming subscriptions. You can watch the same shows at the same time, and this will help you find similarities in your tastes.
Watching the same movies will open up a lot of topics, and you will surely have a lot to talk about.
12) Draw together
Drawing is another way we can get to know each other better! It’s a great way to express yourself and be creative at the same time.
You can go into depth on it from time to time and talk about how your drawings change, what you think of them, or what you want the future ones. You can draw each other, which can certainly be fun!
13) Discuss each other’s goals for the future
Discussing your aspirations for the future is something that you can talk about. This is a great conversation starter and teaches you about each other.
It is very useful too, because you will have more information about the way your boyfriend imagines the future, so you can see how you fit in it. Also, you will have an idea of what they want and will be able to understand their moods better.
You can also talk about what you think they would like to do in the future, and if you see something in a different way, you can qualify your opinions with “maybe I am wrong.” You are not right or wrong; this is all for discussion purposes.
Also, if something is about to happen, maybe it’s difficult for them to tell you about it? Showing understanding for your boyfriend’s struggles will help you develop your connection even more.
14) Plan a camping trip
Planning a trip together is fun, especially if using it as a way to get to know each other. If you’ve never been on a camping trip before, you will be sure to learn a lot about each other too.
You will be able to test your skills and learn to cooperate while you cook and set up the tent.
Refrain from engaging in anything that could ruin your trip, like fighting.
Have fun and enjoy your time together. Besides planning a trip, plan other surprise activities for the both of you to do together.
It will spice up the time you spend together and make it more memorable.
15) Plan a road trip together
Road trips are cool and adventurous, but planning them together is even better! You can discuss possible destinations, how many days you want to spend on the road, how many times you want to stop at new places.
There will surely be many adventures on your way, and you will enjoy them too! Buy a map and start exploring.
You can go to a bookstore and buy a map of your state, and then you can both start marking the places you have visited. As you travel more, the map will become covered by marks.
Either of you can also get a world map to mark all the countries, states, or cities that you plan to visit together.
16) Do something you wouldn’t do alone
If you are scared to do something, but your boyfriend wants to, why not try it together? It can be fun and interesting at the same time.
It will also show how much you trust each other and have fun while doing it, which is great! Also, if you end up having a conflict because of strong emotions, don’t look at it as a bad thing.
Conflict is often good for the relationship (unlike in movies), and it gives you the chance to work through something together.
What would you like to do? Where would you like to go?
What will be your goal? And what kind of adventure do you want to have?
Always remember that conflict might lead to a better understanding between each other. It might also lead you closer together and create trust between each other.
17) Go to a new restaurant together
This is a fun and exciting way to start a conversation, especially after you get to know each other better. It is a great conversation starter and fills gaps from ordinary conversation.
If you usually prefer to stay at home, this would be a good way to change things up a bit and take advantage of going out on dates. The goal is to talk about everything and anything between you.
Try to get to know each other well so it would be easy for you to talk about topics that come up during the conversation. You can also talk about the restaurant itself, such as its food, ambiance, and service.
18) Do an unexpected favor for your boyfriend
When we do something we know our partner will appreciate, we feel good about ourselves. Doing something for your significant other without them expecting it makes them feel loved and appreciated, which is a feeling that never gets old!
It’s something tangible to create closeness with someone if you’re interested in learning more about how to communicate with your partner on a deeper level, according to the leading communication expert on this topic, Dr. John Gray.
19) Play online games together
If your boyfriend loves video games, join him and see why he loves them so much. This can make for a great conversation starter, especially if done over a long period of time.
You can guide each other through the game and make for fun stories to share. It can be a perfect time for bonding and enjoying each other’s company.
20) Take a walk together in the park at night
This is a romantic activity that sparks up a conversation about the world around you and makes for great pillow talk afterward! The best way to create a walking date is to start developing a smooth routine in advance.
Have your partner pick out a specific time and place where you can meet and agree on what the walk entails. It could be as simple as going for a stroll around the park before dinner, or it could be more complex, like taking your dog along for a stroll in the city.
The next step is to decide something new about nature that you will talk about along the walk.
21) Go to the fair or amusement park together
For a day at the fair or amusement park, you can talk about a lot of things, especially if you’re talking about what rides to go on. It is a fun and exciting atmosphere where you can bond with each other!
If you’re going to an amusement park, you also get to see each other’s cute and fun sides. You can also take a snapshot photo of the two of you that you can keep as a memory!
It will raise your adrenaline level and simply enjoy each other’s company while doing something new.
22) Take a trip together on the weekend
Traveling as a routine is pretty boring, but when you get to know each other better, this will be a great way to bond, especially over the first month of dating. First, set a budget for how much your weekend will cost.
Next, think about what activities you would like to do together. Decide on a destination that fits within your budget and plan out the activities there.
After you have decided upon the place, take a look at flights for that destination. You could even find one-way flights to help save money!
Once you have found the best flights for your funds, start looking up things to do in their destination from where you are arriving from.
23) Have a picnic together
This is another fun activity that sparks up the conversation and lets you bond. It is new and unique, and it doesn’t have to be reserved only for the first date.
You can surprise your boyfriend with a surprise picnic when both of you have some free time. Bring some tasty food and simply enjoy watching the sky together.
Have a picnic at night. Dinner doesn’t always have to be part of your date.
Try having a nice dinner date at night when both of you are free and can go out to someplace attractive. A good choice is a restaurant where you can look at the skyline.
24) Have a movie night together
This is similar to watching movies together, but with the added value of being able to share popcorn and snuggle. This is my personal favorite!
Pick something that you normally wouldn’t. You can choose a comedy if you would like to have fun, or a horror movie if you want your boyfriend to keep you in his arms when you feel scared.
It is a great chance to see your boyfriend’s reactions and learn more about each other.
25) Have a game night
This is another fun activity that you can do with your boyfriend, especially if you learn new games and things to talk about. Call a few friends and let the games begin!
Prepare board games and snacks. You will enjoy playing games and having a lot of fun at the same time.
You can pick any game you both like and add a 20min break in between to talk about the game. This is a nice and cute activity that will surely catch your boyfriend’s interest, but also keep you entertained.
26) Sing karaoke
Have you always dreamed about singing in front of a large audience? Karaoke is a great way to do that, and it’s also an opportunity for you to get to know each other better!
This is exciting, fun, and interesting at the same time. You can have a lot of fun together.
This can give you the opportunity to share your favorite songs and sing duets, or even sing along if that is what you want. Not to mention that going out of your comfort zone can bring numerous new topics to talk about.
You will not be sorry that you did it. You can bet on that.
27) Go to the gym together
If you have been thinking about going to the gym for a while now, you can ask your boyfriend to go with you, so you can work out together. You can make it a regular routine to go in the mornings so that you can go before he starts his day.
You will both have time to work out, and you won’t have to worry about rushing around for your day. There are plenty of ways for you and your guy to hang out at the gym, but these hacks will help create new topics of conversation while still getting two workouts in!
As you can see, there are many ways to have conversations with your boyfriend, and all of them are quite enjoyable.
It is important to keep these in mind, so you don’t get bored or lost when it comes time for the first date!
I hope you have enjoyed this post and found it useful! And…go have some fun!
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