Have you ever had the sensation of falling in love with someone even before knowing their name?
It’s magical how it happens.
Your crush seems to be perfect from head to toe and you just can’t help but wonder what would happen if you two were together.
But sometimes things don’t work out as we want them to be, especially when your crush likes someone else.
Now, if this sounds like something you may have experienced recently – read on for some advice on the things you can do when your crush likes someone else:
1) Accept that now is not the right time
Look, just because your crush likes someone else now, this doesn’t mean that they’re committed for life to that person.
There is a possibility that they may one day reciprocate your feelings.
Well, now may not be the right time for you to start dating.
However, who knows what the future has in store for you?
Let’s be realistic.
The simple fact that your crush likes someone else doesn’t mean they will always like that person.
Don’t get me wrong, though! I’m not suggesting that you should keep obsessing about this person.
I’m saying that thinking something along the lines of “he/she will never like me” is not healthy – or necessarily true.
The fact that your crush doesn’t like you is not actually about you. They’re just hooked on someone else.
You’ve been in love before, haven’t you?
If so, then you know your feelings passed and now you have feelings for another person.
The same goes for your crush.
2) Give yourself some time to process this
You might be hurt, sad or depressed when your crush likes someone else.
In fact, you may also feel lonely.
But, you should remember that even if you’re not a part of a couple at the moment, it doesn’t mean that you’re alone. You have people in your life who care about you and people who like to be around you.
If you’ve ever experienced heartbreak before, just remember that it will pass with time.
The last thing you want to do is cry over a guy or a girl who doesn’t even like you back. So, try to keep smiling, have fun, and look for other people to make you feel better.
Your crush might have been a big part of your life until you found out they like someone else; I get it.
However, now it would be best to start spending that time on yourself; on doing things that you like and that put you in a good mood.
3) Focus on yourself, not on them
Stalking your crush on social media is not going to help you.
Stalking them in real life won’t do you any good either.
Instead of focusing on what your crush is doing with someone else, why not focus on yourself? You are the best person to talk to and the easiest person to make happy.
Focus on the positive aspects of your life and let go of the negative ones, such as your crush liking someone else.
Focus on the reasons why you are awesome, as opposed to thinking about how your crush doesn’t notice how great of a person you are.
Why not focus on the love that you have for yourself?
Remember, you are the best person to be in a relationship with, because you’re able to make yourself happy, and believe me, not even your crush can do that for you.
Self-love is important. Make it a practice to love yourself every single day, whether you have a crush on someone or not.
4) Take your crush off the pedestal
When we have a crush on someone, we tend to put them on a pedestal.
What does this mean?
It basically means that we exaggerate everything they do – we see it as amazing, and we are impressed.
But, again, have you ever been in love before?
If so, then you may be familiar with that feeling of thinking your crush can do no wrong. You think they’re the most perfect person on Earth.
But guess what? They’re not.
In fact, even if your crush likes someone else, your crush is still human.
They’re going to have flaws.
They’re going to do things that you don’t agree with or like. This doesn’t mean that they aren’t worth being with; it just means that they are not perfect.
So, take your crush off the pedestal and see them as they really are.
This will help you handle your feelings in a better manner.
5) Don’t compare yourself with the other person
Comparing yourself with the other person isn’t going to help you get over your feelings for your crush – it won’t help with anything, actually.
While understandable, this habit can be self-destructive.
For example, if you compare yourself with the person your crush likes, you might assume that your crush doesn’t like you at all.
Also, if you assume that the person your crush likes is better than you in some way, this can strengthen the feelings of loneliness and sadness that stem from being attracted to someone who doesn’t like you back.
Rather than thinking about your crush liking someone else, focus on being happy. Focus on being yourself. Focus on the things that make up your life as opposed to worrying about who is in it.
Simply put, don’t compare yourself to others – it won’t help you deal with anything. You’ll only highlight your flaws and other people’s positive characteristics.
6) Try to find out if the other person likes your crush back
Before you lose all hope, there’s something else you could do. You could try to find out whether the person your crush likes also likes them back.
In case they do like your crush, then it’s probably a good idea to take a step back and don’t interfere in their relationship.
In case they don’t like your crush, you should give your crush some time to process their situation and then pursue them.
Although you might not want to face your crush because of their feelings for someone else, if their feelings are not reciprocated, then you shouldn’t completely disappear from their life.
You may not want to be a shoulder for them to try on.
But you could take this opportunity to show them that you can be there for them and to help them through this difficult period.
Remember: You don’t need to do anything that makes you feel bad or uncomfortable.
You shouldn’t be putting yourself into something that you’re not ready for.
However, if you want to pursue your crush later on, then try to do it when the time is right for both of you.
7) Go out with other people
What to do when your crush likes someone else and it hurts?
Why not try to go out with other people? Maybe there’s someone out there who will like you back.
While this might take your mind off of your crush liking someone else, it’s important to remember that you shouldn’t be looking for someone just because your crush likes someone else.
You should be looking for other people because you want to date and spend time with them.
But if you’re having a hard time finding someone, give yourself some time and try again later on.
Replacing one person who doesn’t like you with another might not seem like it will take your mind off of your crush.
However, I promise it will – at least for a short while.
8) Don’t let your feelings get in the way of your happiness
This is probably the hardest thing to do when you’re in this situation.
If you’re feeling sad about your crush liking someone else and you don’t want to accept their feelings for what they are, things might get worse.
You will experience a lot of negative feelings which might make it hard for you to enjoy your life or be yourself.
But I think you can get through this – if you just try.
On the one hand, you don’t want to see yourself as someone who’s not worth being with. But at the same time, you don’t want to lose the love that you have for your crush because of their feelings for another person.
It’s true that you should try to find a way to make yourself happy and find peace again. But this shouldn’t be at the expense of your crush.
Remember that you might not be able to change your crush’s feelings. So, do not waste your time waiting around for something that might never come.
Whether your crush likes someone else or not, there are plenty of other people out there who like you just the way you are!
9) Opt for a makeover to improve your confidence
The harsh truth is that you might feel less confident since your crush likes someone else.
Your looks may not be the main focus here, but opting for a makeover could boost your confidence more than you expect it to.
A proper makeover can make you feel good about yourself and help you feel more attractive.
Moreover, when you feel more attractive, you might get more attention from other people.
Who knows, maybe your crush never noticed you and they will if you look better than you did before?
This might sound superficial, but it might work.
Especially if you’re single and not in a relationship, it’s good to make sure that you feel good about yourself.
Here are some ideas:
- Change your hairstyle;
- Change your wardrobe;
- Try a new makeup routine;
- Start working out or improving your body if needed (eat healthy, etc.);
- Get a manicure and pedicure;
- Get a nice haircut or different hair color.
Remember: it’s not easy to regain your confidence, but it’s possible if you put in the work.
How to stop being jealous when your crush likes someone else
Jealousy is normal.
It’s a feeling that might show up out of nowhere and make you worry about things that you don’t even know for sure.
However, when your crush likes someone else, jealousy can be especially hard to cope with.
Here are some steps you can take if you find yourself in this situation:
1) Distract yourself with something else
Don’t think about it.
If you’re jealous and you keep thinking about your crush liking someone else, it can lead to some bad things.
Rather than allowing yourself to be consumed by thoughts about your crush liking someone else, take a step back and distract yourself.
You don’t need to think about your own feelings.
I recommend going on a walk or doing something that will make you feel better instead of staying at home and letting all of those negative thoughts consume you.
2) Learn to accept yourself
Learning to accept yourself is a process.
There’s no way around it.
But, as soon as you succeed, you won’t have any reason to be jealous. How so?
Because you’ll know that you’re exactly the person you are meant to be.
You might not be able to change who your crush likes, but you can change the way you feel about yourself.
3) Replace feelings of jealousy with other feelings
A healthy mind is a happy mind.
We’re all different and we all have different things that motivate us in life.
If you experience feelings of jealousy often, you should try to find things that make you happy.
For instance, if spending time with your crush was one of your happiest moments, start looking for other people to spend time with and engage in activities with them instead of feeling jealous.
You should also think about learning new hobbies.
While it might not be easy at first, you will notice results.
When should you give up on a crush?
Your crush likes someone else. What should you do? Is giving up on them a good idea?
The truth is that giving up on your crush might be the only way you’ll ever start to feel better.
You have to think about yourself and realize that if you don’t do any work on yourself, nothing will change in your life.
I know it sounds harsh, but it’s true. That’s why I recommend choosing self-love.
By this, I mean that you should stick to your beliefs about who you are and what makes you feel good about yourself.
There is no perfect timing to give up on a crush. There’s no rule about how long you should wait before you move on from them.
You should do whatever it takes to make yourself happy.
If you feel that something is not working for you, why not try something else? The world is endless and you have so many opportunities to create a better life for yourself.
So go ahead, get out there and take the time to find a healthier way of thinking about yourself.
You will be getting happier and happier with each passing moment.
By now, you should have a good idea of the things you can do if your crush likes someone else.
Remember that every situation is different, so if your crush likes someone else, try your best to find the best solution for you.
In addition to that, keep in mind that you have to deal with your feelings and try to change the way you think about yourself.
Only then will you be able to have a healthy relationship with yourself and with your crush.
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