Are you in a situation where your has a girlfriend but you really want him back?
Trust me, you’re not alone with this, plenty of women have asked themselves “How can I make him want me back when he has a girlfriend???”
The answer to this question is not a simple one, but I will tell you today:
Ask yourself why you still want him back even though he chose someone else
If you really want him back, ask yourself why.
You need to be 100% sure that this is what you want before anything else happens.
And the best part?
Asking yourself this will also let you know if it’s worth it or not.
The main reasons women want their exes back are: either they don’t have closure, they still love them, or they’re just lonely.
But dive a bit deeper than that: why do you want someone back who chose someone else?
Why do you feel like you don’t deserve someone who chooses you wholeheartedly?
I know, these are uncomfortable questions to ask yourself, but they are important!
If you ask yourself these questions, you will find the answer.
And then, you will know if it’s worth it or not.
You’re not going to like what I say next.
You see, when he has a new girlfriend, he probably doesn’t want to get back with you because there’s a good chance he doesn’t feel the same way about you and has moved on.
In case he does want to get back together with you, make sure that it’s for the right reasons and not because you’re lonely or something else beside love.
Now, let’s look at a few other things you can do to get him back.
Don’t chase him
The best advice that I can give you is to not chase him.
If he doesn’t want to talk to you and continues to ignore your messages, it’s time to back off.
This will tell him that he has control over the situation and most importantly it will show him that you are not desperate.
Men do not like it when they know we are 100% available and this is one way we can take away his control by letting him know that we’re not desperate for his attention.
You see, when you chase him, you will just drive him further away, no question about it.
The thing is, ironically, moving on and doing what makes you happy is actually the only and best way to get him interested in you again, everything else will just make you look desperate!
Get your own life and show him you’re happy without him
To get your ex back when he has a girlfriend, you need to show him that you’re happy without him.
Don’t be too needy because men sometimes like it when a woman is independent and doesn’t have time for them all the time.
He might think that if he gets back together with you, he’ll have to put up with your clinginess again.
But the truth is that if you want him back then it’s important to not be clingy at all or else he’ll just leave again.
Showing him that you’re completely fine without him will make him want to come back even more to prove that he can make you happy again.
You also need to show him that you’re doing well in life.
If he knows that you’re doing well without him and don’t need his help, then he’ll feel frustrated because he won’t get an ego boost of “she needs me”.
And the best part?
Even if he doesn’t come back to you, you will already be well on your way to moving on and being happy without him!
Work on your own goals
The first thing you need to do is work on your own goals and make sure that you’re happy in your life.
If you’re not happy, then you will never be able to make him want to be with you again.
You need to start by making your own life a better place.
Start by focusing on yourself, the good things in your life, and how much happier you are now without him.
Think about it: who would you rather be with, the ex who is a wreck, getting nothing done since you broke up, or the ex who is focused on her own goals and isn’t defined by a relationship?
Probably the latter, right?
Spend time with your friends
One of the best ways to get over a guy is to spend time with your friends. But not just that, it might also make him feel nostalgic and like he wants to spend time with you, too.
Spending time with your friends will allow you to keep yourself busy, and as a result, it’ll help turn your attention away from him.
Whether you’re at work or on vacation with your family, keep in mind that one of the best things you can do is have fun and make sure you have something else you’re focusing on.
And the best part?
Your friends can offer you valuable advice and a third-person perspective on the whole situation!
Talk to a relationship coach
What you want to do is talk to a relationship coach.
A relationship coach can help you work on the “why” behind your broken relationship, and help you figure out what went wrong.
This will give you some insight into what needs to be done for him to want you back.
This is a good start because it gives you the opportunity to think about what happened between the two of you in order to make things right.
While this article will shed light on the main things you can do to get your ex back, it can be helpful to speak to a relationship coach about your situation.
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Try out new things
One of the best ways to make him want you back is by trying out new things.
This can include personal growth and gaining confidence through hobbies, work, friendships, travel, or whatever else may interest you.
You don’t want to be the same person you were when you were with your ex because he’s most likely going to compare you to his girlfriend and if he’s happy then why would he come back to the past?
So try something new like learning a language or taking up a new hobby.
This will not only make you more interesting, but it will also help you to see that there is so much out there to be passionate about, not just this one guy.
You will meet new people through your hobbies and you will maybe find your new passion!
And if not just that, you’ll also make new memories of doing things for the first time!
Make a change about yourself (if you feel like it)
If you feel like it, make a change about yourself.
Show him that you are moving on with your life and not just sitting around waiting for him to call.
This could mean anything from changing your appearance, changing your job, or moving.
You see, when you make a change, that will be really interesting.
And the best part?
Your subconscious will realize that a new chapter is finally beginning!
Making a change can make moving on from someone so much easier!
However, make sure that you only make a change for yourself, never to please him.
So, if his new girlfriend is a blonde and you aren’t, don’t dye your hair blonde just to make yourself attractive to him.
This will actually take some of your confidence and power away!
Instead, make only the changes you truly want to make yourself!
Don’t wait too long
My biggest tip is to not wait too long for him to come back to you.
You see, all of these tips will make you seem more desirable while simultaneously helping you move on in case he doesn’t come back.
The big clue here?
Know when to cut your losses.
If it’s been months and a cute guy asks you out, don’t hesitate to put yourself out there and move on!
You are amazing and you deserve someone who chooses you 100%, and I’m not sure your ex is that person!
Can a relationship coach help you too?
If you want specific advice on your situation, it can be very helpful to speak to a relationship coach.
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