Did you cheat on your significant other and are worried about the karmic consequences in store for you?
Or, did someone just rip out your heart and you’re pondering how karma is going to take care of them on your behalf?
If you’re wondering about all things Karma, you’re in the right place. This article takes a look at Karma (the good, bad and ugly) when it comes to relationships.
Let’s take a deep dive and find out more.
What exactly is Karma?
It’s all over social media, on quotes and memes but what’s the real deal when it comes to karma.
Hinduism and Buddhism refer to karma as the force created by our actions that will decide what type of life you’ll have when your current ends.
In today’s modern era, Karma is the result of your choices. Karma can be either negative or positive and is a direct consequence of your actions.
Is Karma real in relationships?
Absolutely. Karma occurs in every relationship.
The partner you have today is due to Karma and your previous break-ups, are attributed to Karma.
It plays a significant role in each relationship you have with family, friends, coworkers, and in your romantic partnerships.
Good Karma is essential for relationships to be peaceful and harmonious, but, is not a guarantee that it will work out.
Karma will determine whether or not a relationship is good for you or not. If it’s meant to be, it will and vice versa.
Once stuck in a cycle of bad Karma, your relationships are likely to be toxic and you’ll always have a sense that something isn’t right and will never be able to pinpoint exactly what it is.
In this cycle of bad Karma, you will live a life that is filled with regret, animosity, and resentment.
So, is Karma real in love?
Karma is real in so many facets of life and is especially important in romantic love and heartache.
Breaking someone’s heart can cause bad Karma for you and the same goes for someone who has wronged you.
Karma will ensure they pay for the damage done to you.
As I’ve mentioned, all relationships are governed by Karma.
Have you ever heard the expression “love at first sight?”, yup, that’s Karmic at its finest, however, Karma also plays a pivotal role in the formation of other relationships such as friendships, partnerships, friends with in-laws, and even co-workers.
So what is the golden rule in terms of Karma? It’s a simple principle — do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
Additionally, you may experience Karmic relationships which can be neither smooth nor healing.
A spark is lit the moment you set eyes on this person.
There is an instant connection.
There is no other way to describe it.
It is impossible to live without this person.
However, it doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll live happily ever after.
The nature of a Karmic relationship is to teach us a lesson and consequently, these are often fraught with drama and can be chaotic. Essentially, you’re destined to fail.
When you’re in a Karmic relationship, chances are you’re not even aware of it.
In fact, you truly believe you’re “meant to be” but regardless of how hard you try, or how much you put it, nothing seems to work out. This can leave you feeling exhausted emotionally and burnt out.
Here are 15 telltale signs that you’re in a karmic relationship
1) Your connection is instantaneous
Right from the onset, you feel attracted to this person.
You can’t believe your luck and it seems like it’s too good to be true. Usually, when something sounds too good to be true it usually is! (but we’re getting to that)
You feel an inexplicable soul connection, it’s love at first sign, you’re weak in the knees and have butterflies at the mere thought of them.
You feel like you’re playing the lead role in your very own love story.
2) Your relationship is ultra-dramatic
If your love life is constantly filled with drama, there’s a good chance your relationship is a Karmic one.
If so, it’s typical that you will experience frequent turbulence. When things are good, they’re amazing but when they’re bad, they’re REALLY bad.
They’re characterized by volatility, unpredictability, and even notoriously tumultuous.
Even when you have a drama-free period, you still feel off-ish and have a constant pit in your stomach.
If this paints an accurate picture of your current situation, the best and healthiest thing for you to do would be to end it. In letting go, you will be doing yourself a huge favor.
3) It’s predictable
This is one of the most common characteristics of the Karmic relationship.
The arguments are repetitive. It’s like a looping movie with the same issues brought up over and over again without any resolution.
Sharing a soul connection with another person doesn’t always mean that you are compatible with one another. Another typical characteristic of a karmic relationship.
Everyday relationships with compatible partners can be tough at the best of times however, the incompatibility issues that arise from your Karmic partnership cause far more arguments and fights between you.
In a nutshell, it’s a cycle of rinse, wash and repeat. You might make up for a short period but then, it all starts from the beginning again.
The two of you sound like a stuck record, draining the lifeblood from one another.
4) Codependency issues
You can thank the instant connection you had at the start of your relationship for these issues.
Codependency is a two-way street. That intense connection from the outset makes it difficult to leave them alone, and they’re likely to feel the same.
So what does codependency look and feel like?
Well, have you neglected the relationships you have with others in your life like family, coworkers, or friends?
Do your loved ones complain that they never see you anymore and have you noticed that your circle of friends is getting smaller?
While it might sound like a dream come true to be reliant on one specific person, it’s not healthy. You both need your own time and space to spend time with the people that matter to you.
5) You’re misunderstood and feel frustrated
If you feel frustrated and what you say is often misconstrued, there’s a fat chance you are in a karmic relationship.
A Karmic relationship is not about perfection but rather growth.
This is why you’ll find that your significant other always seems to push your buttons and get under your skin.
It’s all a lesson aimed at teaching you what not to do.
6) They’re control freaks and unpleasant to be around
You are likely to be in a karmic relationship if your partner’s presence is overbearing and feels more like a burden than a blessing.
Despite the feelings you have, you just can’t seem to let them go.
Karmic relationships are fraught with obsession, control, and the need for one partner to dominate the other.
Your life will also likely revolve around this person and they will dictate the way you feel, either happy or miserable.
You’re so blinded by their flaws that you end up destroying the relationships you have with your loved ones, especially if they voice their disapproval.
7) You’re addicted to them
A Karmic relationship can be like an addiction.
That’s right, karmic relationships are very addictive.
You can’t live without this person, you can’t imagine life without them. When you’re not with them, all you can think of is them.
Despite everything else in your life, all you want to do is be with them.
For some, they call this love, however, love doesn’t mean putting everything in your life on hold.
A healthy relationship is balanced and will uplift all areas of your life giving you the freedom to grow as an individual while also allowing you to grow as a couple.
In a Karmic relationship, there is no room for anything else. Breaking them is hard because they can be so intense.
Similar to any other addiction, going cold turkey is tough and you might find yourself relapsing. Even though you know you’re stuck in toxicity, you just can’t seem to break free.
8) Miscommunication is the order of the day
In most Karmic relationships, both partners are typically highly irrational. This paves the way for mishaps and blunders.
Your partner will ruminate on your insecurities and what your most vulnerable aspects are.
If you stay in this type of relationship for a long period, you’ll start feeling and acting like someone you do not recognize and might do things that you normally wouldn’t dare to do.
9) Inconsistency reigns
You never have a sense of stability and there is no consistency. Good days might feel perfect but they are short-lived as things go back to square one.
You are unable to make any progress and it’s as if you’re stuck in purgatory.
10) Airing of dirty laundry
The things you fear the worst will be aired like dirty laundry. Whether it’s about your future, your relationship, or love, it’s all brought to the forefront.
Traumas you’ve experienced and the things you remain to stay private are brought into the spotlight without anywhere to run.
11) They bring out the worst in you
Being in a Karmic relationship is like being on a never-ending rollercoaster that can bring out the worst in even the most level-headed folk.
You’ll be turning into someone you don’t recognize while in the relationship because they can highlight and provoke to such an extent that you reveal your most undesirable characteristics.
Thankfully, you learn from this. You will have the knowledge and good sense to avoid any potential manipulation in the future.
12) They exhaust you – body, mind, and soul
There is no such thing as a healthy boundary in a Karmic relationship.
They’ll begin to reveal their selfishness and the fact that they’re all about serving their own needs.
You’ll feel drained and even depleted because you’re constantly trying to satisfy them.
Thus, overly needy and abusive partners are often characteristic in Karmic relationships
So if you recognize that your partner makes you an option and not a priority (they love you when it’s convenient for them), this is a telltale sign that this individual is definitely not your soulmate.
Get out now while you still have time.
13) You don’t think you can leave them
Your mind will trick you into thinking that you simply cannot live without them and that regardless of the current problems you have, the two of you are destined together.
You’re unable to see where your relationship is going wrong and you’ll keep investing more time and more energy into keeping the relationship afloat.
The kicker here is that these karmic relationships are very hard to resist.
They draw you back over and over again until you finally learn your lesson.
14) They don’t last (and aren’t meant to)
Some things are meant to last with Karmic relationships being one of them.
Regardless of how much you try to hold onto them, you’re simply not meant to be together.
After you get “schooled” by this relationship and learn the lessons you needed to learn, it will implode and be over. Exactly the way it’s meant to.
Karmic Relationships are not happily ever after type partnerships.
The goal is to learn from the mistakes and pain to hopefully never make the same mistake again.
15) Warning signs apparent from the onset
Perhaps you’ve already noticed a few red flags and have decided to overlook them or make excuses.
What’s important is that you take note of them.
Karmic relationships are undoubtedly passionate with this passion known to bring out the worst in us, however, angry outbursts, overly controlling behavior, and low-key narcissism are dangerous.
When you’re around this person you will notice a change in your behavior and might portray a side of yourself that you don’t like.
Being your unique self is impossible because your partner is bringing out the absolute worst side of you.
Do I really need to tell you how unhealthy this can be?
How to end a Karmic relationship
So now that you understand how karma fits into the relationships you share with others, you might be wanting to end things immediately.
KNow that these Karmic relationships happen for a reason and they intend to impart wisdom on us.
They’re intended to help our souls heal and to mend the past hurt we’ve experienced.
They serve the purpose of helping to heal our souls and correct past hurts.
Karmic relationships facilitate certain lessons that need to be learned and understood during our lifetime.
A Karmic relationship is nothing like a twin flame or soulmate relationship because they are not meant to last.
Finding someone who you really connect with and who compliments you might seem easier said than done.
But, rest assured, every one of us has a soulmate out there somewhere.
Karmic relationships are forged from either good or bad karma that you’ve accumulated over a period of time.
Knowing what to look out for in terms of a karmic relationship will help you to grow personally and are necessary to grow as an individual.
Remember, they won’t last. Learn from the past to avoid repeating the mistakes of the future.
When it comes to Karma, the fundamental principle ALWAYS remains the same. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
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