Being single at 36 comes with its own set of challenges, especially when your friends are all in serious relationships, married or having kids except for you.
Many of us have been conditioned by society to believe that everyone should be married by the time they hit their mid-thirties.
If you’re past your mid-thirties and not married, or not even having a partner and on the trajectory to get married, you might feel weird about it. However, it doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you.
There are many people who are single at 36 and find out they’re quite happy about it! It might actually turn out to have many advantages that you don’t often realize. Here are 11 reasons why being single at 36 rocks beyond your expectations.
1) You get to focus on yourself
Being single at 36 gives you the opportunity to focus on yourself and find out what you really want in your life. You get to focus on your hobbies, interests, your career and your life goals.
You have the freedom to make any changes in your life that you want. You don’t have to compromise or sacrifice anything for a partner or your children, and you don’t have to deal with the emotional baggage of a divorce if your marriage doesn’t work out.
When you are past your mid 30s, you have a better perception of who you are as a person and what you want out of your career.
Being single at 36 can be a positive thing because it will help you become a better person in the long term.
Getting older without being married or having kids means that you have more time and more freedom to focus on your career, your goals, your dreams and ambitions.
You can start a business and grow your business empire, or travel the world, do what you love, focus on your growth and personal development, and invest in yourself before you get into a relationship with someone.
2) You know exactly what you want in a partner
Being single at 36 may mean you’ve had more life experience and are more discerning about who you want to share your life with.
You might have dated different people and figured out what works for you and what doesn’t, what you want and don’t want in a partner.
Dating is a skill you can improve with time and experience. Knowing exactly what you want in a partner might help you narrow down your search and find the right person sooner rather than later.
With more dating experience, you have a better chance of finding a compatible partner in the long term.
3) You know what you want in a relationship
Being single at 36 is a great way for you to find out what you want in a relationship and a partner. You want to know that whoever you settle down with is the right person for you at this time in your life.
Settling down before you’re ready could lead to an unhappy relationship or marriage. Being single at 36 helps you become more self-aware and know what you’re looking for in a partner before settling down.
You have more clarity about what you want from a partner, thus you are more likely to be able to find a compatible partner and end up being happy with the person you choose to date.
When you know what you want in a relationship, you will find out if your potential partner is interested in the same things as you are or not.
4) You know who you are and what you want
Being single at 36 means that you are more mature and get to understand yourself better. This age brings with it a sense of refinement and purpose that you didn’t have in your younger years.
It’s important to really know who you are and what you want in a relationship before settling down, and that takes time. Being single is a perfect time to figure yourself out and try new things without being tied down to a life partner.
You get to know what you want and don’t want in a partner, and what you want in your relationship.
You make sure that you’re happy and comfortable before entering a romantic relationship, and that the person you date is a good match for you and someone you can be happy with. This kind of clarity makes your dating life easier.
5) You’re finally comfortable in your own skin
Being single at 36 is a great place to finally get comfortable with yourself and don’t worry too much about what other people might think. You have spent a lot of time to work on yourself and become the best possible version of yourself.
Finally, you feel like you get to a place where you’re comfortable with who you are and what you want out of life, where you feel confident, empowered, and comfortable with yourself.
Being single means that you’re not tied down to anyone else, and you get to do exactly what you want to do. You don’t have to deal with anyone else’s drama or have to justify your lifestyle choices to anyone.
You get to spend as much time on yourself and your career as you want. You get to live life on your own terms, and decide exactly how you want to live your life.
Being single at 36 may mean that you’re finally comfortable in your own skin. You’re finally at a place where you don’t feel like you have to be in a relationship to be happy, and you’ve come to terms with being single and happy.
When you’re happy on your own, you have a better chance of finding a compatible partner.
6) You focus on finding a compatible partner
When you’re in your 20s, the pressure is off and it’s natural to have fun socializing and experimenting. In your 20s, you might not think too much about the long-term future and might just date whoever you feel attracted to or have some sort of chemistry with.
When you’re single and dating at 36, you’re not just dating someone for the sake of being in a relationship. You’re not just dating to have something to do on a Saturday night.
You’re dating to find out what you want in a partner and to determine if you’re compatible with that person, how you want your partner to treat you and what you want and need in a relationship.
Being single after your mid-30s might make you feel like time is running out and you might be more picky about the person you’re dating. You will less likely waste time on the wrong person or the relationships that are not right for you.
You would rather focus on finding a compatible partner and someone who is a good match for you in the long term, a potential partner with common interests, aligned values and compatibility that truly matter to you in a relationship. You get to date smarter and in a more meaningful way.
7) You are comfortable with being alone
Being single after mid-30s makes you learn how to be comfortable with being alone and being happy by yourself.
You can become more independent and self-reliant, do everything on your own and have the life you want without the added responsibility of having a partner and children. You can travel solo or do things that you love without looking for a partner to share these experiences with.
You can go out with friends, or stay home alone and do whatever you want without feeling like you should look for someone else to share your time with.
Being comfortable with being single and being happy by yourself will make you attract people who are capable of being happy by themselves.
This will help you create more healthy and non-toxic relationships when you meet the right person.
8) You are more realistic and see the world as it is
If you are single at 36, you might have been single for a longer period of time and become more mature, you have started to see the world in a more realistic way.
Being single makes you start to understand your emotions better and realize that things happen for reasons, not just because of chance or luck.
You know what makes someone special, what’s worth fighting for and the things that are important to you. You’re starting to see the world as it is and you know how to make the right choices, even if they’re hard.
9) You won’t settle for anything less than the life you want to live
Being single at 36 may mean that you’re waiting for the right person to come along. That doesn’t mean that you don’t want to settle down at all. When the right person comes along, you’ll know.
Everyone has a different path. Some people meet the love of their lives in their 20s, get married young and have kids sooner, and some people wait a bit longer.
There’s no right or wrong way to live your life, and there’s no way to gauge how long you should wait to settle down.
It’s important not to settle for someone who isn’t right for you, just because you want to settle down.
There’s no rush to find someone, even if your friends are all settling down. It’s better to wait for the right person than to settle for someone who’s not a good fit for you and end up in a divorce down the road.
Settling for someone who doesn’t make you happy is a recipe for disaster, and you’ll just end up resenting them.
When the right person comes along, you’ll know it and you’ll feel it. You’ll be able to tell if the person is right for you or not.
You won’t lose sleep over it, stressing over why the right person hasn’t come along yet. You can just relax and let things fall into place naturally, because you know that the right person will come eventually.
10) You have the freedom to travel and experience more of the world on your own
Being single at 36 gives you the time and space to do whatever you want and travel wherever you want without having to consult anyone else.
You have time to pursue your passions and do exactly what makes you happy. You have the freedom to take time off to travel, or the financial freedom to take extended vacations whenever you want to.
Since you don’t have anyone else to take care of, you can do whatever you want whenever you want. You don’t have to put off traveling or doing other things that matter to you because of a partner or children.
Being single gives you the freedom to do whatever you want, when you want, and travel wherever you want to go.
11) You can invest in yourself and make yourself even more attractive
Being single at 36 gives you the opportunity to invest in yourself and make yourself more attractive. You may want to go back to school, travel, or just do something for yourself.
You can focus on your career, or you can take time off to do something that you’ve always wanted to do. You can really invest in yourself and make yourself better. You can focus on your emotional health and focus on getting into a good headspace. You don’t have to change your plans to accomodate your partner’s or kids’, and you can do whatever you want.
Being single at 36 gives you the opportunity to develop healthy habits and become more self-aware and positive. You can start building a life that you truly want and need, rather than being tied down to someone else’s life or your parents’ expectations.
You can finally rid yourself of any bad habits or negative tendencies, and become the best possible version of yourself. You can make yourself a better person, and attract the kind of partner that you want.
Being single at 36 is not weird or strange. If anything, it’s awesome! Being single at 36 or at any age truly is an empowering choice towards your own happiness and contentment.
The idea that you should be married and have kids ideally with your high school sweetheart by this age is archaic and geared towards people who don’t like thinking about the future.
At the end of the day, you are the only one who knows what’s best for you, and you have to be happy with your choices.
There is no rule to say that you have to be in a relationship by a certain age, or that you have to have a significant other in order to be happy.
When you are single at 36, you have time to grow and become the best version of yourself that you can be before settling down.
Being single at 36 can also be a great opportunity for self-reflection. You have time to get to know yourself and what you want in a partner, so when the right person comes along, you will know it!
As Steve Jobs put it, “Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.”
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