No contact is a pretty difficult period of time. Trust me, that’s coming from someone who knows.
I used no contact as a way to move on from my ex-boyfriend after we broke up, and it drove me crazy to not know whether or not he was thinking about me.
Of course, he was on my mind a lot, but how could I know if I was in his thoughts, as well?
I did some research and stumbled across these signs that he is thinking about you during no-contact!
Trust me, knowing these signs made this period of time so much easier:
1) He’s constantly on social media
This one is kind of obvious, but it’s definitely a sign that he’s thinking about you during no contact.
If he was over you, he wouldn’t be scrolling through his feed trying to find anything related to you.
He would be completely over it and out of the loop.
If he’s constantly checking up on your social media pages, it might indicate that he’s thinking about you.
Maybe he’s just curious about what you’re up to, or maybe he’s just trying to find a way to contact you.
If he’s been on your social media pages constantly since the breakup, then he’s definitely thinking about you.
Now: you might wonder how you can find out whether he is checking your social media accounts.
It’s pretty simple.
Just be mindful of what social media accounts you’re on and look for any signs that he’s been on them.
If he’s been on your Instagram account, for example, then you can definitely deduce that he is thinking about you.
You might notice him watching your stories right away, or perhaps he even liked a few posts.
This is where the famous “accidentally liking a post from a year ago” comes in.
You see, sometimes, people will accidentally like a post that they were looking at.
This is pretty common in social media, and it’s a great way for people to find out if others are stalking them.
Now: if you don’t have a social media account, then it might not be as easy to find out whether or not he’s thinking about you.
However, I’m going to give you a few signs that can help shine some light as to whether or not it might be his intention to contact you during no contact.
2) He makes a point to reach out to mutual friends
I can’t tell you how many times my ex tried to reach out to mutual friends during no contact.
He texted them, called them, and sent them pictures.
I got so many texts from friends saying, “Hey, your ex is trying to get a hold of me. What’s up?”
I never knew how to respond because I was still trying to stay strong during no contact, but it was obvious that he was trying to get in touch with me.
If he’s trying to get in touch with your mutual friends, it might be because he’s trying to contact you.
He might be trying to get your number from a friend, or he might be trying to set up a time to talk to you in person.
If he’s making a point to try to get in touch with your friends, it’s a sign that he’s thinking about you.
Now: if they are mutual friends, he might obviously just want to hang out with them, and that’s not necessarily a sign that he’s thinking about you.
However, if they are close friends, and he’s making a point to reach out to them, it could be a sign that he’s thinking about you.
Maybe he talks about you a lot or asks questions about you.
He might say things like, “Oh, I haven’t seen her in so long. What’s she up to?”
That’s a great sign that he’s thinking about you.
You see, if he truly wasn’t interested in your life, he just wouldn’t ask them about you at all.
Now: I know, this sign only works if you actually have mutual friends, which a lot of people don’t, but it’s a great sign that he’s thinking about you.
3) A gifted advisor confirms it
Okay, you’re gonna think I’m nuts, but hear me out!
When I was completely desperate and trying to find out whether or not my ex was thinking about me, I took my advice to a “gifted advisor” and asked them.
I didn’t know where else to turn, you know?
The thing is, some people have really good intuition and can sense what others are thinking or feeling.
If you’re wondering whether or not your ex is thinking about you during no contact, then get a gifted advisor to find out.
If he’s thinking about you, they’ll be able to tell by the way he’s acting.
Now: this might seem kind of weird but it’s totally worth it to try! It will just take a short amount of time for them to get back to you with their findings.
I will be honest with you, before I went to Psychic Source, I didn’t believe in this stuff at all!
I thought they were a bunch of frauds making money off of other people’s problems.
However, a friend of mine has been getting readings from this website for a long time and she told me over and over again to just give it a shot.
I figured you know what? Why not?
At this point, I really have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
I was so desperate, I was willing to try anything! And that desperate feeling is what caused me to finally get my answers.
I had my gifted advisor tell me that my ex was thinking about me and that he wanted me back.
And he truly did, I just didn’t know it at the time. He started reaching out to me again a while later.
I was so happy to find out that he’s still thinking about me and he wants our relationship back.
The advisor from Psychic Source was so knowledgeable and understanding, they told me exactly what my next steps should be.
I never felt so seen with my problem!
I know, this might not be the tip for you, if you’re not into it, but I can only recommend that you give it a try, you won’t regret it!
4) He texts you by surprise
My ex texted me out of the blue a couple of times during no contact, and it always threw me off.
It was definitely a surprise because he hadn’t tried to contact me in weeks.
If your ex suddenly texts you out of the blue after weeks of no contact, it’s a clear sign that he’s thinking about you. (I mean, duh?)
He might just be curious about how you’re doing, or he might just want to see if you’re doing alright after the breakup.
No matter what his reasoning is, it’s a sign that he’s thinking about you a lot.
He’s clearly breaking the no-contact rule for you, which means that he’s got you on his mind a LOT.
The thing is, a text is a pretty clear sign that he has been thinking about you, but if you get a text from your ex after doing no contact, I want you to realize just how big of a sign that truly is.
You see, your ex has probably been thinking about sending that text for days, if not weeks!
If he’s thinking about you, then he’s definitely thinking about breaking the no-contact rule to talk to you and that means he wants your relationship back.
But when an ex breaks the no contact rule, it’s a clear sign that they still want you.
My ex didn’t send me a text, but I really wish he did, cause that would have been a clear sign that I was on his mind.
5) He still has your stuff around
My ex still had my stuff around even after we broke up!
He kept some of my clothes, he kept a few of my mementos and some of his were still in my house.
If your ex still has your stuff around, it could be a sign that he’s thinking about you.
He might be keeping your stuff as a reminder of you, or he might just not want to let go of the relationship.
If he’s still got your stuff around, chances are, he’s thinking about you.
Now: there is a chance that he simply forgot about the stuff, I’m not gonna lie.
However, when it comes to this kind of stuff, usually, a guy will try to give you your stuff back as soon as possible so he can move on.
If he still has it, it’s for one of two reasons:
1) He wants it as a reminder of you (meaning he is definitely not over you) or
2) He wants it as insurance that he can see you again (which also means he is definitely not over you)
So, to put it simply, if he kept some of your stuff, your chances of him being over you went down a little bit.
That’s why if he still has your stuff around, chances are, he’s thinking about you.
6) He gets jealous when he sees you with other guys
This one is kind of obvious, but it’s definitely a sign that your ex is thinking about you during no contact.
If your ex gets jealous when he sees you with other guys, it’s a clear sign that he’s still thinking about you.
He might be wondering why you’re not dating again or he might just be wondering why you’re not with him.
The thing is, this one is kinda tricky to figure out.
If you have mutual friends, they might let you know how he was trash-talking the new guy you were with or how he asked lots of questions about you two.
However, if you don’t have mutual friends, it gets a bit more difficult.
Maybe you will notice that when he sees you in public with someone, he stares at you and looks really sad.
Maybe you will notice that he starts asking you questions about your new guy, but he doesn’t want to hear the answers.
You see, however he does it, if you feel like he is jealous whenever you are with other guys, that’s a big sign that he is still thinking about you a lot.
7) He shows up where you are
This one is super weird, but I’ve heard it a few times, so I thought I’d share it with you.
If your ex suddenly shows up where you are without warning, it’s a clear sign that he’s thinking about you.
You might bump into him at the grocery store, or he might just show up at one of your usual hangouts.
No matter what his reasoning is for showing up where you are, it’s a sign that he’s thinking about you.
The thing is, it happens sometimes that you bump into an ex by accident, especially when you live in the same town.
But when it happens more than once and in the spots that you usually frequent, like your favorite café, it becomes suspicious.
My guess? He is going to your favorite spots in hopes of running into you.
Now: this happened to me a lot, I seemed to run into my ex whenever I left the house.
I wasn’t sure what it meant, though.
That’s another thing I asked my advisor from Psychic Source. They actually were the ones who told me that he is probably trying to get in touch with me!
Suddenly, it all made so much more sense!
You see, he was coming to my favorite park, going to my gym, and even going to my favorite bar on weekends.
I couldn’t believe I’d ever thought that was an accident!
After my reading, I realized that he was still very much in love with me and I had to choose what to do with that information.
Do you think there might be signs in your life that you simply aren’t seeing?
If so, I really recommend speaking to a psychic about them, they might be able to open up your eyes about some of these things!
8) He reaches out to your friends
My ex tried to reach out to my friends a few times during no contact as well.
He sent a text here and there and even tried to set up a time to meet up with one of them.
If your ex tries to reach out to your friends, it’s a sign that he’s thinking about you.
He might be trying to get your number from your friends, or he might just want to see how you’re doing.
Again, he’s clearly breaking the no-contact rule for you, which means that he’s got you on his mind a LOT.
Trust me, if they never really hung out or talked much while you were in a relationship, he has no reason to reach out to them other than to inquire about you.
Of course, your friends will most probably tell you all about this, which is why I recommend that you ask them if they’ve ever seen this happen before!
They might have noticed it, but they never gave it much thought because you were never a big talker.
Now: when he reaches out to your friends, it’s as if he was holding a neon sign that says “I am still thinking about you!”
9) He posts pictures that were taken during your relationship
This one is a bit more subtle than the other signs on this list, but it’s definitely a sign that he’s thinking about you during no contact.
If your ex posts a picture that was taken during your relationship, it’s a sign that he’s thinking about you.
He might have been looking through his phone and just wanted to share a picture with his followers, or it could have been a spur-of-the-moment decision.
Either way, it’s a sign that he’s thinking about you.
You see, you don’t even have to be in the picture to make it meaningful, if it’s a photo you took or a photo from a vacation you were on together, that means he is thinking back to those memories and feeling nostalgic.
Think about it: why do you post an old photo? Usually, because you miss that time and would love to go back.
Well, it’s the same for him. He might have been looking through his phone for an old picture and then decided to post it.
It’s just a sign that he’s thinking back to those good times you had together.
Of course, if you don’t follow him anymore, you might not be aware of this.
In that case, I recommend doing whatever feels best for you. If you are moving on properly right now, I’d recommend not following him, otherwise, you might ruin your healing progress and fall back in love with him.
However, if you have been following him all along, then seeing a photo like that can be a huge sign.
10) He listens to playlists you’ve made together
This one is the most subtle sign on the list, but it’s a clear sign that your ex is thinking about you during no contact.
If your ex is listening to a playlist that you two made together, he’s obviously thinking about you.
He might just be relaxing and wanting to listen to music that reminds him of you, or he might just want to be inspired by your creativity.
Either way, it’s a sign that he’s thinking about you.
Now: if you have a Spotify account, this is pretty easy to check.
If you are friends on Spotify, you can see what your friends are currently listening to.
So, if you notice that he is listening to songs or playlists you’ve listened to together, the chances are pretty high that he is thinking about you!
But I don’t recommend stalking his activity on these apps, don’t drive yourself crazy!
11) He takes an unusual interest in your well-being
This one is slightly similar to the previous sign, but it’s definitely worth mentioning.
My ex was so interested in my well-being that he came to the point of being overbearing.
He constantly asked me how I was doing and just wanted to know everything that was happening in my life.
He was way more interested in my well-being than he was when we were dating.
If your ex takes an unusual interest in your well-being, it could be a sign he’s thinking about you.
He might just be curious about how you’re doing or he might just want to make sure you’re taking care of yourself.
Or he might just want to know if you’re still struggling with the breakup. No matter what his reasoning is, he’s definitely thinking about you.
He might ask you directly, or he might ask your friends or family. Either way, it’s a big sign you’re on his mind.
No contact is difficult, but knowing these signs makes it just a little bit easier.
Knowing these signs made this period of time so much easier: It helped me know that he was still thinking about me, which helped me stay strong.
Sure, if your ex is thinking about you, there may be hope for the relationship yet.
Keep your head up and remember that these are just signs that he’s thinking about you.
There’s no way to know for certain whether or not he wants to get back together with you. You just have to keep reminding yourself that you are doing the right thing for yourself right now by doing no contact.
See where things go and if you’re meant to be together, you will be, eventually!
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