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Attracting a high-value man isn’t about changing who you are, but rather saying goodbye to unfavorable behaviors.
The difference is all in the approach. When you’re altering your behavior, you’re not pretending or putting on an act – you’re simply letting go of actions that aren’t serving you well.
As a relationship expert and founder of the Love Connection blog, I’ve come to understand what makes a man of worth sit up and take notice. And ladies, it’s often about what we don’t do, rather than what we do.
In this article, I’m going to share 8 behaviors that can hinder your chances of attracting a high-quality man. Remember, it’s not about changing yourself completely, but rather letting go of habits that may be standing in your way.
So, let’s dive in! I’m Tina Fey and I’m here to guide you through this journey.
1) Playing hard to get
In the world of dating, playing hard to get is a tactic often used to keep someone interested.
However, this technique can often backfire when it comes to high-value men. Why? Because these are men who value their time and appreciate straightforwardness.
A high-value man is likely to be attracted to a woman who is open, honest, and direct about her feelings. He doesn’t have time for games or deciphering mixed signals.
Playing hard to get can create unnecessary confusion and can even come across as disinterest. This could lead him to think you’re not genuinely interested, causing him to move on.
So ladies, if you’re interested in someone, show it. Be clear about your feelings. There’s nothing more attractive than a woman who knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to express it. But remember, there’s a big difference between being open about your feelings and appearing desperate.
Remember, high-value men appreciate honesty and authenticity in a relationship. So say goodbye to playing hard to get!
2) Neglecting self-care
Ladies, let’s talk about self-care, something I’ve personally struggled with in the past.
It’s easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of life, forgetting to take care of ourselves. But remember, self-care isn’t just about bubble baths and spa days. It’s about physical health, mental wellness, and emotional stability.
A high-value man is attracted to a woman who takes care of herself because it shows she values herself. And as the great Audrey Hepburn once said, “I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls.”
Neglecting self-care can lead to burnout, stress, and even health issues. And let’s be honest, it’s hard to be your best self when you’re not feeling your best.
So, make yourself a priority. Commit to regular exercise, eat healthily, maintain good hygiene, and ensure you’re taking time to relax and unwind.
Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup. By taking care of yourself first, you’ll be in a better position to attract a high-value man.
3) Being overly dependent
Let’s talk about dependency. It’s natural to rely on our partners for emotional support, but it’s crucial to maintain a certain degree of independence in a relationship.
I’ve seen many women, including myself, fall into the trap of becoming overly dependent in their relationships. It’s easy to lose sight of your own needs and desires when you’re constantly focusing on someone else’s.
A high-value man appreciates a woman who can stand on her own two feet, who has her own interests and passions, and who can bring something unique to the table.
In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I delve deeper into the concept of codependency and provide practical tools to maintain healthy independence in a relationship.
Remember, attracting a high-value man is not about seeking someone to complete you, but rather about finding someone who complements your already complete self. So, say goodbye to being overly dependent and embrace your independence!
4) Always agreeing with him
Here’s a counterintuitive point: You don’t always have to agree with a man to attract him, even a high-value one.
Contrary to popular belief, high-value men don’t want a woman who simply nods along with everything they say. They appreciate a woman who can challenge their thoughts, provoke stimulating discussions, and bring fresh perspectives to the table.
Agreeing with everything might seem like the safe route, but it can actually make you appear less interesting in the long run. Healthy disagreements can lead to growth and can keep a relationship dynamic and exciting.
Remember, it’s not about being confrontational or argumentative for the sake of it. It’s about having your own opinions and not being afraid to express them.
So ladies, say goodbye to constantly agreeing and start embracing healthy debates!
5) Being overly critical
We all have our own standards, and it’s important to uphold them. But being overly critical, especially of the man you’re trying to attract, can be a turn-off.
In my younger years, I was guilty of this. I would nitpick and criticize over small things, not realizing that it was creating a negative environment around me. It took some time and self-reflection to understand the impact of my actions.
High-value men appreciate constructive feedback, but constant criticism can make them feel unappreciated or disrespected. Remember, everyone has their strengths and weaknesses, including you.
Instead of focusing on what’s wrong, try to highlight what’s right. Encourage growth and improvement through positive reinforcement rather than constant critique.
So let’s say goodbye to being overly critical and hello to building each other up!
6) Hiding your flaws
Let’s get real here ladies. We all have flaws, and guess what? That’s perfectly okay!
In fact, trying to hide your flaws from a high-value man can actually do more harm than good. It can create an illusion of perfection that’s unsustainable in the long run.
Honesty is at the heart of any meaningful relationship. By being open about your flaws, you’re not only showing that you’re human, but also that you’re self-aware and capable of growth.
Remember, a high-value man isn’t seeking perfection. He’s seeking authenticity. He understands that everyone has their strengths and weaknesses and appreciates a woman who can own up to hers.
So let’s say goodbye to hiding our flaws and hello to embracing our authentic selves!
7) Living in the past
We all have a past, with its share of heartbreaks and disappointments. But dwelling on it can prevent us from fully enjoying the present and potential future.
I’ve learned from my own experiences that carrying past baggage into a new relationship can hinder its growth. It took a lot of introspection and self-awareness to let go and move forward.
A high-value man is interested in who you are now, not who you were. He’s looking forward to building a future with you, not dwelling on your past.
As the wise saying goes, “Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift. That is why it is called the present.”
So, let’s say goodbye to living in the past and embrace the gift of the present!
8) Trying to change him
This is a raw truth that many of us need to face: We can’t change other people.
Many women fall into the trap of trying to change the man they’re attracted to, hoping he’ll fit into their ideal image of a perfect partner. But this is not just unfair to him, it’s also unrealistic.
A high-value man, like any individual, is unique in his own way. He has his own habits, quirks, and personality traits. Trying to change these aspects of who he is can lead to resentment and can damage the relationship.
Remember, the goal isn’t to find a man you can mold into perfection, but rather someone whose imperfections you can accept and love.
So let’s say goodbye to trying to change others and instead focus on accepting and appreciating them for who they are!
Let’s wrap this up, ladies. Attracting a high-value man isn’t about being perfect or fitting into a mold. It’s about being authentic, self-aware, and open to growth.
Remember, it’s not about saying goodbye to who you are, but rather to certain behaviors that may be standing in your way. It’s about celebrating your strengths, acknowledging your weaknesses, and striving to be the best version of yourself.
For more insights on maintaining healthy independence in a relationship, check out my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship.
Remember, you are enough just as you are. Here’s to attracting the high-value man you deserve!
