There’s this guy who likes you and you like him. But he is dating someone else.
You’re not sure what to do.
If this sounds familiar, chances are that you’re wondering why your crush is dating someone else.
But why is he dating someone else if he likes you?
Here are 12 possible scenarios to help you understand why he’s dating other people even though he likes you.
1) You’re not the only one he likes
You might be surprised to hear this, but the most likely reason why he’s dating someone else is that he’s interested in them.
He may have only had a few dates with you, but he likes you enough that he wants to see where things go.
He may also have a crush on them and doesn’t want to hurt their feelings by letting you know that he has other intentions.
It could be one of his friends, or maybe even a family member or friend of his parents. In short, it could be anyone!
And what’s the point?
It’s not that he doesn’t like you. He does! But the point is, there are other people who make him feel as if they can give what you don’t.
He just wants to be able to enjoy himself with somebody who reminds him of everything else and all the good times he ever had before meeting you or someone new too.
So even if you like him back, it doesn’t mean that they won’t make him feel something more for them.
2) He’s not sure if it will work out with you
Ever noticed how insecure he feels every time he asks you out?
No, it’s because you’re the first person he’s ever asked out. It’s because he’s afraid that you’ll turn him down or that you won’t like him enough.
So what makes him feel this way?
Well, the truth is that he might not know if it will work out with you, and he doesn’t want to risk losing you if things don’t go well.
And even if they do work out, he might be afraid of getting hurt further by telling you how he feels and having you leave him afterward.
Maybe it’s the fact that he’s a bit of a player and has a lot of other girls on his mind. Or maybe it’s because he doesn’t have enough experience in relationships to know what they entail.
Whatever the case may be, he’s just trying to figure out what he wants in life and how he can make it happen with you.
3) He tries to bring out his inner hero
Have you ever noticed his desire to show you how strong and independent he is?
The simple truth is that guys often try to impress others and show them how strong and independent they are.
It’s even more so when you don’t know him very well and he thinks that you’re a girl who’s worth showing off his true colors.
Don’t get it twisted, though. He may be doing all of this for you and for his own good!
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4) He wants to try new things and have fun
Let me tell you one important thing.
The reason why guys like going on dates or doing all those weird things is because they want to feel comfortable and at ease.
They want to know that they can relax and let their guard down around you and that you won’t mind it at all.
Because guys tend to prefer to try new things and have fun before deciding on who to date.
Whether you like this or not, that’s the fact!
This is why it’s important for you to stop asking him to do the same things over and over again – even if you really love them. If he’s been doing something for a long time, he’ll soon get tired of it.
And then, one day, he’ll suddenly have enough of it and will start looking for new things to try out with you.
He might not be sure about how serious you are with him and whether or not you’re interested in each other.
He wants to see what it’s like to date someone else too because it can help him decide whether or not to date you.
He wants to explore as much as possible and experience as much variety in his life.
He wants to take a risk and go for something new, which is one of the reasons why he may often be interested in going on dates with you.
So instead of asking him to go out every Friday night or watch a movie, try to understand his personality and realize why he is pulling back.
5) He’s afraid of commitment
Ever wondered why he avoids commitment?
Don’t worry, a lot of guys do.
And in your case too, it’s pretty obvious that commitment terrifies him.
He’s afraid of getting hurt and of losing you. He’s afraid of being alone, and he doesn’t want to feel lonely. He’s afraid of having to change for you and putting himself out there, too. He doesn’t want to be responsible for your happiness or your well-being.
But have you ever wondered why?
Why does this guy who seems so strong and capable all the time, hide behind a wall of insecurities? Why is he so hesitant to commit?
The reason why he’s afraid to commit is that he’s afraid of being vulnerable.
Or maybe he’s not exactly the type who can handle deep, meaningful conversations with his girlfriend.
He doesn’t like to talk about himself, his emotions, or what he thinks about things. Instead, he prefers to be kept away from those kinds of questions and thoughts.
As a result, he’ll often get very defensive and become insecure when you try to open up to him.
This is especially true if you don’t know him very well yet and you’re asking questions that may seem too personal or invasive for him to handle.
But hang on a minute.
How can he be trusted when it comes down to it if he can’t even make himself do something as simple as asking someone out on a date?
Well, this guy is probably afraid that if you find out who he really is underneath his tough exterior, then you’ll run away from him in fear. And that’s just not going to happen!
6) He’s scared of being rejected by someone else
Here’s another common thing:
You realize that your crush is dating other people because he’s scared of getting rejected by someone else.
Sounds a bit silly, isn’t it?
I know but that’s what happens when we have low self-esteem.
He sees himself as unworthy of being loved so he doesn’t put himself out there so people won’t reject him.
And guess what?
This is why some people avoid relationships altogether because they feel like they will never be good enough for the person they are with or the one that comes after them.
Some people are just too insecure to put themselves out there and take a chance at finding love.
In this case, the one who is scared of being rejected is the one who doesn’t want to be vulnerable and open himself up to love.
So in simple words, imagining that you will reject him will not make him come out of his shell.
And when he doesn’t come out of his shell, he’s not going to ask you out on a date.
So what can you do about it?
Just let him know what you feel about him. Open up and show that you’re not going to run away from him when he asks you out.
Tell him that you’re ready to take a chance on him and that you will never reject him.
And most importantly, let him know that if he really wants to be in a relationship with you, he will have to be vulnerable and open himself up.
7) He doesn’t think you’ve got your life together
This one is a tough one – some guys, especially if they’re looking for a serious relationship, will wait until they find a woman who has her sh*t together. By that, I mean, they’re clear on their goals, they put in the work, and they’ve got a sense of purpose in their lives.
He knows he can grow with a woman like this. It’s highly attractive to see a woman who knows who she is and where she’s going.
But what if you struggle with self-improvement? What if you’re unclear on your purpose in life?
The problem is that there are far too many fake gurus out there ready to sell you on unrealistic and ineffective solutions for improving your life by becoming a “better version” of yourself.
They want you to meditate, radiate “positive vibrations” and visualize the life of your dreams. They say this will make it come true.
Here’s the crazy thing:
Visualization and positive vibes won’t bring you closer to your dreams, and they can actually drag you backwards into time-wasting, idle fantasy and frustration.
You want solutions, but all you’re being told is to create a perfect utopia inside your own mind. It doesn’t work.
I want you to turn off all the noise for a second and get back to absolute basics.
What are you here for?
Before you can experience a real change, you need to really know your purpose.
I learned about the power of purpose from watching Ideapod co-founder Justin Brown’s video on the hidden trap of improving yourself.
Justin used to be addicted to the self-help industry and New Age gurus, who sold him on visualization and positive thinking. It left him lost and confused.
That’s why he traveled to Brazil to meet the renowned shaman Rudá Iandê, who taught him a life-changing new way to find your purpose and use it to transform your life and everything around you.
After watching the video, I discovered my purpose in life and it completely turned my life around. This new way of finding success by finding your purpose actually helped me to find love – a partner who also had a strong sense of meaning in their lives.
8) He’s not sure about what he wants in a partner
Let me take a guess.
He keeps dating someone while he likes you because he’s not sure what he wants from a partner.
He’s not sure if he wants a serious relationship or just a casual fling. Maybe he’s just looking for someone to hang out with and have fun with.
Or maybe he doesn’t want to commit himself to any one person right now, so he keeps on dating different people at the same time.
Whatever the case may be, this guy is keeping you in the dark about his intentions because he is afraid of how you will react.
And guess what? He’s right!
You were very angry and disappointed when you found out that your crush was dating other people while still interested in you.
So how do you deal with it?
I mean, in all honesty, if your crush likes you but isn’t sure whether or not he wants a serious relationship with you, then there isn’t much that can be done about it except for accepting him as he is.
And if he wants to be with you, then he has to commit himself to you and make a move.
You can’t force him into something that he isn’t ready for or that doesn’t feel right.
9) He doesn’t want to hurt your feelings
Believe it or not, this one is the most common reason. He doesn’t want to hurt you, so he’s going on dates with other girls.
He wants you to know that he likes you, but he doesn’t want you to feel that way about him if things don’t work out.
He just wants to be honest with you and tell you what’s up!
I know. It sounds a bit paradoxical. I mean, why would he date other girls if he doesn’t want to hurt you?
But if you think about it, there’s a perfectly reasonable explanation.
In fact, if you understand his personality well, you might notice that he’s not into deep, committed relationships for now.
And if that’s the case, then he’s probably trying to avoid hurting your feelings.
That’s why he’s dating someone else instead.
It’s his way of showing you that he cares about your feelings.
In simple words, he wants to be honest with you and let you know that he likes you, but he doesn’t want to make any promises or commit too far if things don’t work out.
So what should you do?
The best thing to do is just accept that he’s not ready for a serious relationship.
And if he wants a relationship with you, then he has to make the first move. You can’t force him into anything that doesn’t feel right for him yet.
And what’s the point of being in a relationship if all of your time is spent fighting? I know this sounds negative, but it’s actually the truth!
So don’t worry! You’ll get his attention sooner or later! Just hang in there!
10) He’s looking for a best friend
This one is super frustrating, isn’t it?
You know, you’ve got the guy of your dreams. He’s everything you want in a man. He’s handsome, he’s fun and charming, he makes you laugh all the time, and he loves to spend time with you.
And then there are other girls that he talks to on social media or hangs out with in person. You can tell that they’re pretty close to him! Even though he never shows his feelings.
What gives? How come he doesn’t want to commit? I think most of us have wondered this at some point in our lives. I certainly have!
But if you really think about it, it makes perfect sense. He wants a girl who will make him happy and bring him joy every day… not just for one night!
He wants someone who will be there for him when life gets tough and there is no one else around.
He wants someone who will be his best friend, someone he can confide in, and he wants to be able to tell her everything that’s on his mind.
But you don’t really consider him your best friend, do you?
And of course, you don’t want that kind of relationship. You’re not looking for any more friends. You simply want to be his girlfriend.
So what’s the problem?
Well, he’s not ready to commit to you yet. He wants a real friend, not just a romantic partner. It’s hard for him to do that when he’s still in love with another girl.
But here’s the thing… he will figure it out eventually! And when he does, he will want to be with only you and no one else! You’re just gonna have to wait and see what happens next!
11) He thinks of you as his backup plan
This is a difficult one to deal with.
But sadly, a lot of guys think like this.
A lot of guys consider the girls they like as their backup plans.
Whether you like it or not, this is how most guys think.
When they first meet a girl, they want to be with her. They think she’s amazing and wants to be with them.
But after a while, they realize that this isn’t what they wanted at all. They don’t like her anymore, so they move on to the next girl who’s available…
And this happens over and over again with every new girl he meets. It’s just how guys are! You can’t do anything about it!
Maybe he thinks that you’re just a fling and he plans on doing other things when the time comes. Or maybe he thinks that you’re just not good enough for him and that there are better girls out there.
But if you want to know what’s really going on, I’m going to tell you… It has nothing to do with the type of girl that he wants or doesn’t want!
The reason why he doesn’t want to commit is that, deep down, there’s always been someone else in his heart. He knows that this isn’t going anywhere, but it still makes him feel sad inside.
But this does not mean that you should give up hope! It doesn’t mean that he will never want to be with you again. It just means that he has to go through a lot of trial and error before finding the right girl for him!
12) He’s too tired of waiting for you to show feelings
Let’s be honest.
Many guys will give up on you if they think that you don’t feel the same way about them.
They think that if you don’t tell him how you feel about him, it means that you’re not planning to date him and that he should move on to someone else.
The truth is that you’re making him wait too long. And as a result, he will probably give up on you and move on to someone else.
But the good news is, it doesn’t have to be like this.
If you tell him how you feel about him, he will be very happy and excited that he finally has a chance with you.
But if you keep on waiting for him to tell you how he feels about you, it will never happen! It’s just not going to happen!
And that’s why some guys give up on you before they even get started! They think that if they don’t say anything before moving on to someone else, then they won’t be moving on at all!
And this is definitely not true!
So, be open about your feelings and show him that you love him! You have to tell him that you love him before he finally feels the same way about you.
What should you do?
To sum up, the guy who likes you is dating someone else, and you don’t know what to do about it. Perhaps he likes you too, but he’s not sure if it will work out.
Maybe, you’re feeling a little left behind and sad. Maybe he’s afraid to commit, or maybe, he just doesn’t like you that much anymore.
Whatever the reason is, triggering his inner hero might be helpful in your situation.
I touched on the hero instinct earlier – it’s the perfect remedy for the situation you’re facing.
Because once a man’s hero instinct is triggered, he’ll only have eyes for you. You’ll reach a part of him that no woman has ever managed to reach before.
And in return, he’ll be compelled to commit to you and love you like he’s never loved another woman.
So if you’re ready to take that plunge and reach new heights in your relationship, make sure to check out relationship expert James Bauer’s invaluable advice.
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