12 ways to tell if a woman has multiple partners

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Are you wondering whether the woman you just started seeing is seeing other men too?

You never said you were exclusive, but you feel weird and you wanna know.

It can be hard to tell because some women might not be open about the topic. However, there are certain signs that might help you figure out the answer to this question.

Here are 12 ways to tell if a woman has multiple partners:

1) She doesn’t have time for you

Let’s dig right in.

How much time has she spent with you since you started dating?

She is always busy and comes up with the silliest excuses why she can’t see you. When the two of you do see each other, she always seems to be preoccupied or in a hurry to leave.

Have you also noticed how it’s always on her terms? You see each other when she wants, where she wants, and for as long as she wants.

And yet, she seems to have all the time in the world to go out with her “friends”.

You have a bad feeling that whatever “extra” time she might have in her schedule, it’s probably going to someone else … and somehow, that doesn’t seem fair.

It might be a sign that she has multiple partners.

2) She’s a party girl

Are you dating a girl who is always out with her friends partying?

She hates to stay in and is always looking for excitement. She could mean trouble!


She may just be a party girl, but she might also be trying to mask something with her lifestyle.

It could be that she’s seeing other men. She might be trying to make sure that you don’t catch on by keeping her social media, text messages, emails, and personal calendar filled with party invitations.

What does this mean?

Well, if you’re looking for stability in a relationship, she might not be the one for you.

3) She’s got a boyfriend in another city

If you’re dating a woman who admits to having a boyfriend in another city, I’ve got news for you.

You’re probably not the only one.

She obviously has no problem with juggling two men, so what stops her from seeing three, four, or even five men at a time?

This might be an indication that she has more than one ideal man in her life.

4) She likes to drink and does recreational drugs

Here’s the deal:

If you’re dating a woman who drinks and does recreational drugs, you might be in trouble.

If this is the case, she probably has no problem with gambling, adultery, and cheating on her man.

You see, she is someone who gives in to temptation easily. And if she gives in to one type of temptation, what’s to stop her from giving in to another?

5) She has many male friends

Does the woman you’re seeing have an incredible amount of male friends? Have you ever seen her in the company of a girlfriend?

Could it be that girls don’t like her. Maybe there’s a reason for that.

Think about it:

Could it be because she is constantly seeking attention from men? All men. Even other women’s men?

Do you wonder if some of her male friends are more than just friends? They could actually be other men that she’s seeing.

6) She never thinks about “the future”

In my experience, most women in a relationship talk to their partners about their plans and the future. They may even make remarks about whether they would like to have children someday.

In the least, they make plans to spend the weekend or upcoming holidays together.

If she’s committed to you, she’ll be interested in meeting your family and you meeting hers.

However, if she never talks about the future with you, this could be some indication that she is not serious about your relationship.

Simply put, it could be a sign that she has another man or men in her life already.

7) She goes out with her girlfriends several times a week

If you’re dating a woman who never seems to be home and is always out with her friends, she might be seeing other men.

Turns out that she might be going out with her friends more than she’s hanging out with you because she doesn’t take your relationship seriously. You’re just one of several men.

It may be tempting to just ask her outright but this could end in a hurtful argument and ultimately lead nowhere.

Instead, give her subtle hints about other men by asking questions like “why haven’t I seen your friends lately?” or “what did you do today?”

If she responds playfully without giving you a straight answer and is quick to change the subject, then chances are she might be seeing someone else behind your back.

8) It’s just the two of you

Have you noticed that it’s been a while now since you started dating and it’s always just the two of you?

You’ve never met any of her friends, colleagues, or family members?

If you ask her about her friends, family, and work colleagues, she might say something like: “Oh, I’ll introduce you to them one day. Don’t worry.” But you never see them.

It just doesn’t seem right. Could it be that there is someone else she likes to spend her time with? Could it be that there’s another man in the picture who seems a bit more interesting than you?

9) She talks about her exes A LOT

Women who talk about their exes a lot have unresolved feelings for them – or towards relationships.

It’s a sign that they still miss them.

A lot of women hide the fact that they are in relationships and this might be because they want to remain single to get back with their ex.

But if you’re dating a woman whose exes are on her mind all the time, it could not only be that she is unconsciously looking for another man or men, but also that she doesn’t want you to know about her other relationships.

10) She gets bored easily

A woman who gets bored easily may not be content to be with just one guy.


Getting bored is a natural part of everyday life. We need to find new experiences and activities to keep us entertained, especially if it relates to our lives in some way.

In many cases, people grow bored with the same guy or girl because they don’t feel as though their emotional needs are being met.

Being able to find a partner who can provide for your emotional needs can help you avoid boredom since there is an underlying reason for why you’re together.

11) She has promiscuous friends

Does she mention that her friend is dating several guys at once?

How does she appear when saying it?

Is she casual about it? Does she seem to think it’s normal? Does she laugh about it?

If so, it could mean that she’s just fine with dating two guys at once and doesn’t see any issues with it. This could be a sign that she doesn’t believe in monogamy.

However, if her tone seems disapproving and she is critical of her friend, then she obviously doesn’t approve of promiscuous behavior.

12) She’s always posting pics on social media

Is the woman you’re dating always on her phone, posting sexy selfies on social media?

She obviously craves male attention. As soon as she posts one picture, a hundred guys are commenting on her looks and asking her out.

It never seems to be enough, she always wants more.

Instead of enjoying the time she is spending with you, she’s trying to get likes from other guys.

This could be a sign that she’s not into a monogamous relationship and that she needs more than one guy to make her happy.


There are many ways to know whether or not a woman is cheating on you. Some of the signs above are more obvious than others.

If you’re wondering if she’s seeing other men, ask yourself how she responds to you. Is she just as excited about your life together? Does she seem interested in everything you say? Are you a priority in her life? Do her eyes light up when you walk into a room?

If not, maybe it’s time to check some of these signs again. If they’re all true, then chances are she is seeing another guy behind your back and that she doesn’t care about you.

Don’t worry, there are plenty of fish in the sea. Just because it didn’t work out with her doesn’t mean that you’ll never find love. The two of you were obviously not in the same place in your lives and have different priorities and values.

It’s good you found out sooner than later. Now you are free to meet the girl of your dreams who will respect and love you the way you deserve.

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