Some guys have no problems showing they’re jealous, while others are pretty good at hiding it.
However, if you’re trying to figure out whether a guy expresses his jealousy while texting you, then things may get a little complicated.
Don’t worry, though! I can think of 10 revealing ways to tell if the guy you’re thinking about gets jealous while you text each other.
Here they are:
1) His mood changes while you text each other
Let’s say that you text each other, and then you casually mention that you’ll go out with your friends the next day. His reaction?
Instead of being happy for you, he doesn’t say anything against it, but he starts behaving a little differently. He is suddenly not in such a good mood anymore.
Or, let’s say that you casually tell this guy that you’re not going on that weekend getaway with your friends after all. His reaction?
He suddenly appears to be feeling better. He seems to be uplifted for some reason.
Want to know what his mood changes mean?
Simply put, what you’re saying to him affects him in one way or the other.
Maybe he feels threatened by one person from your group of friends, or maybe he wants you all for himself. In other words, he gets jealous.
You see, this guy may not even be aware of his reactions. However, these things usually give jealous people away.
In fact, he may not be aware of his reactions because jealousy is the kind of emotion that clouds our judgment. Jealousy is a distorting emotion.
2) He asks a lot of questions about where you are
To figure out if a guy is jealous over text, ask yourself this:
Is he texting you to ask you where you are and what you’re doing?
If so, then it’s a good bet that he is jealous. How so?
The psychology behind jealous men is that they want to be in control. They want to know where you are, who you’re with, and most of all, how much time you spend with them.
It only makes sense that the more questions he asks about where you are and what you’re doing, the more jealous he is.
And, if his questions get even a little too close to being obsessive or personal in nature… well, then it’s really safe to assume that he’s jealous.
A guy who isn’t jealous is generally not interested in knowing where you are. The reason is that he knows you have your own life, and he likes it that way.
Such a guy can text you about random topics without caring where you are when you reply to him. But jealous men have no such patience.
They always want exactly where you are, what you’re doing, and what time you’re going to get home.
3) He is especially concerned about the people you’re with
When it comes to jealous guys, you can’t leave out the topic of the people you’re with – not even when you’re texting each other.
Why is that?
I’ll tell you why:
He’s jealous of the people you’re with. He doesn’t want to be suspicious of those people, but he is. And he cannot help it.
But, if he doesn’t want to be suspicious, then why is he?
Let me explain:
There are all kinds of reasons why jealous guys act this way, but the main reason is that they fear losing you to someone else. They fear that someone else might steal you away from them.
So, think about this: is this guy interested in you romantically? Is he already your boyfriend?
If so, then he might be caught up in the idea that someone better is out there for you.
When you mention other people to him over text, he gets jealous. Is that so?
If not, there may be other reasons why he wants to know where you are and who you’re with.
These reasons may not have anything to do with his absolute fear of losing you to another guy, but rather, they may involve jealousy as a side effect of something else going on in his life.
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5) He made a habit of jumping to the wrong conclusions
Jumping to the wrong conclusions is a known habit that jealous people have.
As mentioned before, their judgment is clouded by feelings of jealousy, so it’s only natural for them to think the wrong things.
For example, let’s say he texts you to see how you’re doing, and you’re telling him that you’re out having drinks with some people. His reaction?
He immediately says something along the lines of “Fine, I won’t bother you anymore.” That’s when you know he’s jealous.
Or, maybe he wants to do something with you and he invites you to a special event. You can’t say “yes” or “no” right away – you have your reasons.
So, what does he do? He immediately thinks you don’t want to go and he becomes defensive.
Being defensive is also a sign of jealousy.
You see, a guy who isn’t jealous doesn’t have anything to be insecure about. He doesn’t have anything to protect.
But jealous guys are afraid of losing you, so they act differently when the topic of your independence arises.
They jump to conclusions and act a little too sensitively. They make it seem like you’re trying to avoid them or something (when you may not actually be doing so).
6) He gets mad when you don’t reply to his text immediately
Still not convinced that he’s jealous?
Think again. He’s jealous if he gets mad when you don’t reply to his text immediately.
Why? Because he wants you all for himself. He doesn’t want others to steal his catch, so he gets upset when you’re not all his.
To him, every minute that you’re out there with others is a minute that could be spent with him (and only him). He can’t help it – it’s how jealous people think and feel.
Or, he could be thinking that you’re doing something you shouldn’t when you’re not replying to him.
Either way, he’s probably resentful of the fact that you’re not giving him the attention he wants and needs.
So, ask yourself these questions:
- How does he react when you don’t reply right away to his texts?
- Is he annoyed?
- Does he feel hurt?
- Does he get angry because he thinks you’re ignoring him?
If so, then it’s a good bet that he is jealous. He wants you all to himself, and if you don’t play along with him, he gets mad.
Why won’t he say so then?
Because jealous people are not always that obvious.
They can easily lie when they want to. Or, they may not even be aware of their own feelings of jealousy.
If you are dating this guy, or you want to date him, then make sure you talk to him about it.
Don’t be afraid to tell him how you feel when he acts jealous. That’s how a real connection is born.
7) This guy simply stops replying to you when he gets jealous
If you’d like more proof that this guy really is jealous, think about the way he ends your conversations.
Does he suddenly become distant? Does he start to ignore your texts?
If this happens, then it’s a pretty safe bet that he’s jealous.
He chooses to ignore you because he either can’t deal with the situation or he knows that will affect you.
Let me explain:
When jealousy strikes, people act really differently. To get a reaction from you, they might do whatever they can to determine you to make the next move.
So, it’s easy to see why he’d stop replying to you. He wants you to keep texting him, so he doesn’t have to deal with the fact that he’s jealous of other people in your life.
8) He expresses his desire to protect you or take care of you
Jealousy is sometimes so deep that it’s difficult for the jealous person to express it to the source of their jealousy.
If this guy likes you, then he doesn’t want to ruin anything by coming right out and saying “I’m jealous.”
He may just not want to admit it, even to himself. He may think it’s a negative thing and he may try very hard not to feel that way.
So, instead, he might try to express his desire to protect you and/or take care of you.
Listen carefully because you might have triggered something in him; something that makes him behave this way.
In case he has a protective attitude over text, saying things like…
…”Please take a cab home. Don’t walk alone because it’s dangerous.”
…”Make sure one of your friends takes you home.”
…”Don’t stay out late because you have to get up early in the morning.”
… Then he could be fighting his feelings of jealousy and letting other feelings control him, such as the need to know that you’re safe.
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9) He constantly texts you throughout the day to check up on you
Again, this could be a sign that he is jealous.
He may not want to admit it to himself, but he might feel the need to check up on you all the time.
Obsessive people easily fall into this habit of always texting or calling the person they have feelings for.
They say things like: “I just wanted to see if you made it home safely.” Or, “I just wanted to know if you were doing okay.”
But the real reason may be something different. It could be jealousy.
The reason he may do all these things:
- He wants to check up on you and make sure you’re safe.
- He misses you and wants to know how your day is going.
- He is just being nice, so he sends you a million text messages all day.
If he does, then it’s a good idea to address this in your relationship, because it could be an indication that something is not right.
However, if you’re not dating him – but you want to – take his behavior seriously. He is not going to change just because you two change your relationship status.
While some guys feel more secure after defining their relationships, most of them don’t. He is a jealous person who will always feel insecure unless he faces and overcomes his insecurities.
10) Sometimes, he starts being unnecessarily mean to you over text
Can you really spot jealousy over text? Yes, you can! And here’s another way to do it:
Think about whether he starts being mean to you while you text each other. Does he resort to using harsh words because he feels that you have done something wrong?
If this guy starts calling you names or starts being mean, he may be trying to bring you down or make you feel bad.
It’s a way for him to boost his ego. He is trying to put you down and make himself feel better.
He is lashing out because he feels insecure about himself (or his relationship with you), so he wants to make you feel bad.
It’s a subtle way for him to show his feelings of jealousy. He doesn’t want to come right out and say it, so he uses his words in other ways.
However, this doesn’t mean that you should accept this behavior from him.
If he does this often – that is, he resorts to using harsh words for no reason – then it could be time to cut him off.
What to text a guy to make him chase you?
Now that you know how to tell if a guy is jealous over text, what’s your conclusion?
Is he jealous or not? If he is and you’re not dating him yet – but you want to, you can switch things around by making him chase you instead.
But how do you do that? What is the best way to text a guy so he will chase you? Well, here are some great ideas…
Answer his questions, but try to stay as mysterious as possible
Why does this work?
Because it makes him wonder about you… and want to know more. You see, being mysterious makes you appear more attractive.
If you want him to chase you, then you need to play these little mind games with him.
Leave the drama out and try to text him something funny
Why does this work?
Because you’ll make him laugh. Men love to laugh, too, you know. So, use this information to make him chase you.
Try to text him something that’s funny and flirty at the same time.
Ask for his help with something
Why does this work?
I mentioned this fascinating concept earlier: the hero instinct. When a man’s inner hero is triggered, he’s more likely to chase you.
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Don’t be afraid to pay him compliments
Why does this work?
Because it will make him feel good and want to be in touch with you. He’ll want to text you more, and he’ll start chasing you.
By making him feel good, you’ll attract him even more. Again, remember that you want him to chase you, so make sure you’re being honest.
What texts do guys like to receive?
You may not realize it, but your text messages have a lot of influence on a guy.
Well, your texts have the potential to make them feel good or bad.
That’s why most men generally like to receive these 5 types of texts:
The funny text
Most guys like to receive funny texts from a woman they are interested in.
So, if you want to make a guy feel good, then text him something funny. Remember that you don’t need to be clever – just tell him something outright funny and he’ll find it hilarious.
The flirty text
You see, sending him a flirty text is a way for you to show him that you’re interested in him. It’s also a way for him to feel good about himself.
The give-me-advice text
Advice texts are perhaps the most important type of text that guys like to receive from women.
Why? Because it makes them feel important. It makes them feel like their opinion matters to you and that’s something very valuable.
The what’s-your-next-move text
Texting a guy and asking him what his next move is, is another type of text that guys like to receive.
Why? Because it shows them that you are interested in seeing them again. And that is a very special thing to say to a man. It also makes them feel good about themselves.
The let’s-meet-up text
Want to know another type of text that men like to receive from a woman?
The good old let’s-meet-up text.
Why do they like this? Because it makes them feel special. It makes them feel like you are really interested in seeing them again, and that makes them feel wanted.
You don’t have to do much – just send a text that says, “Let’s meet up again!” or something similar. That’s it.
How do friends act when they are jealous?
I have another question for you: is this guy your friend?
So far, we’ve assumed this guy is a potential romantic partner or someone you’re already dating. But in case he’s your friend, he might act differently over text when he gets jealous.
Jealousy among friends may occur for the following reasons:
- He feels like he is losing his status in your friendship, and that makes him feel bad.
- He wants something that you have and he doesn’t – a relationship, job, and so on.
- You bring out his competitive side.
- He may feel like he needs to be as successful as you are.
- He thinks he can’t have what you have, and it bothers him.
- He’s just plain insecure.
While the list could go on, I think you get the point. So, how to tell when a friend of yours who is a guy is jealous over text?
Well, he might…
…start saying mean things about your other friends.
…distract you from your plans by sending you lots of texts.
…contain his feelings by not replying to your texts.
…dare you to do something or compete with him.
So, whenever you notice this kind of behavior in him, it should be a warning sign that he is, in fact, jealous.
As a friend, you should try to talk to him about his feelings. If he denies it, then at least you’ll be in a better position to know if there are any deeper issues that you should be concerned about.
How can you tell if a guy is jealous of your relationship over text?
It’s easy to spot jealousy over text. As a matter of fact, it’s one of the easiest ways to do it.
Here are some important signs that he is jealous:
- He makes fun of your partner over text.
- He says mean things about your partner over text.
- He says you’re not fun anymore or something similar.
- He makes fun of you, saying that your partner is controlling, and so on.
- He constantly criticizes your partner in person and over text.
As you can see, there is no need to guess what he is feeling. Just pay attention to your conversations over text, and you’ll see signs of jealousy.
Now, here’s the question: should you confront him about it?
Well, I’d say yes… but not when you’re still texting. That’s a whole different ball game.
Why? Because there’s also the possibility that you might be mistaken. It’s possible for you to misinterpret his answers in writing.
Now that you know how to tell if a guy is jealous over text, it’s time for you to pay close attention to your conversations with him, so you can spot any signs of jealousy.
If you notice that he is jealous, don’t jump to conclusions, talk to him about it and try to be supportive as a friend, or girlfriend.
You never know – he might have something else going on in his life and you could be an important part of the solution for him.
So, don’t rush to conclusions; try to be understanding and supportive, and you’ll be on your way to a healthy relationship in no time.
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