Do you notice that being a needy boyfriend causes a lot of trouble in your relationship?
Then it’s time to take some constructive steps!
Yes, that’s right, relationships are fragile. One wrong move and you might just lose the person you thought you would be with forever.
This is one of the most common fears that people have when in a relationship, and it also happens to be one of the most common causes of breakups.
But if you want your relationship to last, you need to learn how to stop being needy.
In this article, I will give you 10 ways to stop being needy and show your significant other how much they mean to you.
1) Stop asking for reassurance all the time
Let’s start by asking a simple question.
Have you ever noticed how you ask for reassurance all the time?
If you think that you might be a needy boyfriend, then chances are that this sounds familiar to you.
And if that’s the case, you should know that you’re doing it wrong.
Let me explain.
Just because you are worried about something doesn’t mean your significant other should be too. Asking her for reassurance all the time won’t make her feel special or loved by you; it will just make her feel like she has to say yes to everything you want.
And guess what?
If she really cares about you, she will stop asking once and for all and start providing reassurance in return! That’s what true love is all about!
Why am I saying this?
Well, you don’t need to ask your partner for reassurance all the time! It’s not a requirement.
Instead, you should try to accept the fact that your girlfriend has her own life. She might not be able to give you reassurance in every situation, and she is probably going to feel bad because of it.
And you really don’t want her to feel that way, right? After all, that’s why you’re trying to stop being a needy boyfriend.
So, the next time you feel like asking for reassurance, just try to think about the situation from your partner’s point of view.
And maybe think about how much you would want her to ask you for something if it was the other way around.
2) Give out more support
Did you know that one of the greatest ways to become less needy is by giving more support?
The truth is that when you give more support, you will be able to better maintain your boundaries. You will know what your needs are not being met and you can then work on those areas yourself. How?
As a matter of fact, when a woman feels that she is being supported by her partner, it makes her feel loved.
And when a woman feels loved, she will be more likely to return the favor.
The best way to show your girlfriend you care about her is by giving her support in both material and emotional ways.
Now you probably wonder what kind of support I’m talking about. After all, there are a lot of different kinds of support.
Well, I’m talking about both material and emotional support. Why?
Because both of these forms of support for your girlfriend are great ways to show you care about her and make sure that she knows she’s special to you. But be careful not to go overboard!
For example, if you’re providing too much financial or emotional support for your girlfriend, then she might start to feel like everything is dependent on you, which can make her feel less important than others in your life.
That’s one of the biggest problems with being a needy boyfriend. But if you try to compensate for your needy personality with more support for your girlfriend, this won’t happen.
Instead, when you give her more support, she will see that you have her back and she will feel better about herself.
So, try to transform your needy attitude into support. And when you do that, you will be able to show your girlfriend that she is special to you and she will feel better about herself.
3) Accept your neediness instead of dealing with it
OK, I know you’re trying to stop being a needy boyfriend, but can I be totally honest with you?
Sometimes there’s nothing wrong with being needy. It’s natural. And it’s a part of your personality.
And if you’re trying to change this attitude, it means you’re trying to change yourself.
But what if you accepted your personality instead?
The truth is that it might help you feel better about yourself and your needy or clingy attitude towards your girlfriend. It might help you to develop a different perspective and realize that being needy is a natural part of your personality.
What I’m saying here is that sometimes you have to accept the fact that you’re a needy boyfriend. I know, it sounds like I’m saying you should be grateful for being needy, but I’m not. I’m just trying to help you on your journey of self-improvement and change.
But how can you accept your neediness when every time you do something wrong, your girlfriend will remind you about it?
It’s as if she’s always reminding you that “you need to stop being needy.” That’s what she will say every time she sees that your behavior is not perfect. And it’ll make her feel bad about herself too!
So what can you do?
Well, first of all, you should realize the positive aspects of having a needy personality. I learned this from Ideapod co-founder Justin Brown. In the video above, Justin explains how important it is to have a relationship with themselves and shares 7 positive aspects of being needy.
After listening to his perspective, you’ll understand that being needy is a sign that you care. It’s a part of your human nature, and there’s nothing wrong with it at all.
Justin developed his perspective after spending time with the world-renowned shaman, Rudá Iandé, in Brazil. He taught him that so much of what we believe to be reality is just a construction. And getting free from society’s expectations can change our lives.
So, if you’re ready to accept your true self and align your dreams with your reality, there’s no better place to start than with Rudá’s unique method.
4) Communicate openly and honestly about what makes her feel loved
Want to know another method of stopping being a needy boyfriend?
Well, you must be able to understand what makes her feel loved.
First of all, you should realize that she may not know exactly how she feels loved. That’s normal! And as a result, you must know what makes her feel loved.
So, how can you figure it out?
Just listen to what she says about love. Then ask her about it again and again until you get to the root of the problem. That way, you can figure out together what exactly is bothering her and make her happy.
Why is this so important?
Maybe the problem is not you being needy at all. Maybe she just doesn’t know how to feel loved and is asking you for help.
By communicating openly and honestly about what makes her feel loved, you can help her realize that she is already loved. You don’t have to tell her that she’s perfect. You can just let her know that she’s already amazing!
If you can do this, your girlfriend will stop being insecure and become happy again. And since the root of insecurity is insecurity, she’ll be able to stop worrying about herself too!
That’s why I always say that clear and honest communication is the key to healthy and happy relationships.
Just think about this for a moment.
What if she doesn’t think that you’re needy at all? Or what if she thinks you’re clingy but accepts your personality?
You probably want to answer these questions, don’t you?
That’s why you should start communicating with your girlfriend more openly and honestly.
You should know that she’s already loved, and you can’t make her love you. But you can decide what makes her feel loved and stop being needy.
So, speak to her sincerely and find out if your clingy personality actually bothers her.
5) Be mindful of your clingy actions
Do you even realize what your clingy behaviors are
Admit it. Maybe your girlfriend has told you several times that you’re being clingy, but you don’t realize it.
But what if you could try to identify your needy behaviors?
The simple truth is that recognizing your clingy behaviors is the first step toward changing them.
Now you might wonder what some common clingy behaviors are that needy boyfriends do all the time.
Well, here are some of the most common clingy behaviors:
- Mentioning your feelings or opinions to her a lot
- Asking her questions all the time
- Asking her for reassurance too much
- Getting mad if she decides to go somewhere else without you
- Checking up on her constantly
And these are just a few of the most common clingy behaviors.
But it’s not all bad, is it?
Well, I guess at least you’ve realized that you’re being clingy.
And now that you’ve seen yourself, you can change. You can start by being mindful of your clingy behavior and trying to stop it.
This can help you stop being clingy with others and start enjoying your own time. You don’t have power over other people’s emotions, but you do have control over yours.
Remember that everyone has flaws; it is just part of life. And if someone doesn’t like something about you, they will let it be known eventually–you cannot change who they are or what they think!
And by doing this, you’ll be able to experience more love in your life!
6) Work on your self-confidence
Do you know what is the main reason why most men tend to act so clingy towards their girlfriends?
Well, it’s their fear of losing the love of their girlfriends.
Why do they feel that way?
The answer is simple: because of their lack of confidence.
It is true that you can’t change other people’s feelings, but you can control your own feelings and actions.
This is very important because it will help you stop being clingy.
Your self-confidence is your ability to be comfortable with yourself and who you are. It’s a part of who you are that can’t be changed, but it can be strengthened.
You should work on your self-confidence by doing things that make you feel good, and also by surrounding yourself with people who make you feel confident.
For example, if someone makes you feel bad about yourself, don’t hang out with them or talk to them! You should choose friends who make you feel good about yourself and surround yourself with positive people.
And even though it may seem impossible, eventually your self-confidence will grow in the right direction and help you stop being clingy.
After you’ve made these changes, you will be stronger and able to see the right path in life. You will also know that there are people out there who truly care about your well-being and love you.
So, it’s the right time to stop working on your self-confidence and start enjoying your life!
Want advice specific to your situation?
While this article explores ways to stop being a needy boyfriend and show that you care, speaking to a relationship coach about your situation might be more helpful to deal with your situation.
With a professional relationship coach, you can get advice specific to your life and your experiences…
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7) Make your girlfriend feel appreciated
When was the last time you told your girlfriend you loved her?
Don’t tell me it’s never happened because that’s not true. But be honest.
If you feel that you’re too clingy, chances are that your girlfriend is feeling the same way. And probably, you haven’t said a single compliment to her for so long.
And guess what?
She doesn’t feel appreciated by you, but she needs to feel taht way.
And that’s why she thinks you’re being clingy.
So how can you make her feel appreciated?
I know this sounds a bit complicated, but if you want to stop being clingy, you have to do something about it. And the best thing you can do is start telling your girlfriend how much she means to you and that she really does mean a lot to you.
Let’s say, for example, your girlfriend is feeling lonely because she hasn’t seen her friends for a while or because she misses her family. You could easily tell her how much it hurts you when she feels lonely and that it makes you sad too when she feels this way
She will feel loved and appreciated by your words and actions because they’re sincere and come from the heart. And that’s exactly what will make her feel valued by your actions.
So, just tell her how much she means to you, how much it hurts when she doesn’t feel appreciated, and how sorry you are for being too needy in the relationship.
This will show her that there are things going on in your relationship that aren’t right, which will help her feel more confident in herself when it comes to your relationship.
She’ll stop thinking that you’re being too needy towards her.
8) Give your girlfriend some space
When you’re in a relationship with a woman, it’s normal to want to spend as much time with her as possible.
And that’s good.
But it’s important to remember that this should be the exception rather than the rule because women need some alone time too.
And if she thinks that you’re too clingy, maybe you’re not giving her enough space to be alone.
Now you may say that your girlfriend is happy to spend time with you and doesn’t need any space.
But you know what?
Some women need private space more than others, but all women need a little space from time to time.
If you’re not giving your girlfriend some space and telling her that she deserves some alone time now and then, she’ll think that something is wrong with her and won’t feel comfortable in your presence.
This will eventually lead to her feeling like she’s not good enough for you or that there’s something wrong with her because she just can’t seem to get it together when it comes to being with you.
So, try giving your girlfriend some space and see if it helps you to stop being so needy.
9) Work on your anxiety and overcome trust issues
Have you ever noticed you often get anxious when your girlfriend isn’t around you?
I’m talking about the anxiety that is so strong that it actually makes you feel like you’re going to have a heart attack if she’s not with you, or that your stomach is going to drop out of your body when she’s around.
This type of anxiety can be really intense and will make you feel really bad about yourself.
But guess what?
It’s not good for your relationship.
This anxiety is a sign that something’s wrong with your relationship, but it won’t help fix it by itself. You need to take care of this issue.
And you know what the reason for experiencing that kind of anxiety is?
Believe it or not, men have trust issues when it comes to women, and this is the reason why they experience anxiety like that.
When you have trust issues with a woman, it usually means that you don’t trust her.
And if this is the case, then it’s not healthy for your relationship because you’re going to be too afraid to let her into your life.
That’s why you’re being needy.
You’ll probably think that she’s going to cheat on you or do something bad, and you’ll be worried that she’ll break up with you if she feels like she can’t control herself around other guys.
This will make her feel insecure around you and won’t allow her to be herself around you. This is bad because your girlfriend needs to feel comfortable being herself around you in order for the relationship to work out well from now on.
So, how do you get over trust issues?
You need to work on yourself first because only when you’re in a good place can she be in a good place. Then you can work on the relationship together.
10) Try to spend time alone and rely on yourself too
I know that spending time with your girlfriend can be a lot of fun, but it won’t help you to stop being clingy if you’re constantly hanging on her every word and needing her approval on everything.
You need to learn how to rely on yourself too, because if you don’t, eventually she’ll start to feel like she has to take care of all the things in your life. And that will make her feel like she’s not good enough for you.
But how is being alone going to help you overcome being clingy?
Well, when you’re on your own, you have a lot of time to think. And when you think, you can easily identify the reasons why you’re being needy. And this way, you can feel better about yourself too.
And the result?
You’ll rely on yourself instead of your girlfriend, and you won’t feel like you need her to take care of you. And this is a great step towards stopping being clingy.
So, make sure you’re taking care of yourself and stop relying on your girlfriend all the time.
All in all, being needy can feel bad. Whether it’s a partner, friend, or family member, we all have the need to be cared for.
Sometimes all that time and effort can be a little too much when we are in a needy relationship with our partners.
However, it is possible to turn it around and create a better partnership by changing your mindset.
Remember that being clingy doesn’t mean you’re a bad boyfriend. It just means that you need to work on yourself.
And the sooner you start working on yourself, the sooner you’ll stop being clingy.
Can a relationship coach help you too?
If you want specific advice on your situation, it can be very helpful to speak to a relationship coach.
I know this from personal experience…
A few months ago, I reached out to Relationship Hero when I was going through a tough patch in my relationship. After being lost in my thoughts for so long, they gave me a unique insight into the dynamics of my relationship and how to get it back on track.
If you haven’t heard of Relationship Hero before, it’s a site where highly trained relationship coaches help people through complicated and difficult love situations.
In just a few minutes you can connect with a certified relationship coach and get tailor-made advice for your situation.
I was blown away by how kind, empathetic, and genuinely helpful my coach was.