No contact after a breakup is essential in order to get over the relationship and move forward.
When we’re going through a heartbreak, it’s so difficult to imagine life without the person who once meant everything to us, let alone refrain from contacting them.
That’s why I will show you how to stay strong during no contact so that you can get over your relationship fast!
1) Remember why it didn’t work out
When you’re feeling sad and nostalgic about your relationship, it’s easy to try to go back in time and change things.
Remember that relationships end for a reason, even if you both weren’t ready to let each other go.
No matter how much you loved each other, if a relationship isn’t working, there’s a reason for it.
When you’re going through no contact, remember why it didn’t work out so that you can move on and feel empowered by your decision to end things with your partner.
Now: if you feel like the breakup was your fault, let me tell you something: there are always two people at fault, so don’t beat yourself up.
And if the end wasn’t pretty, the relationship itself must have had its own issues, otherwise, the things that happened wouldn’t have happened, you know?
So, remember why the relationship didn’t work out and while you’re at it, try to figure out how a future relationship with someone could be better!
When you do that, you are on your way to finding love again!
And the best part?
Identifying why things didn’t work out can give you back a sense of control of the situation, which will help you feel more confident and be more open to meeting someone new.
During the breakup, it’s normal to idealize your ex and put them on a pedestal.
However, when you’re going through no contact, try to remember that your ex is not perfect and that the relationship had problems too!
If you remember this, then you’ll be able to move forward with your life and find someone who makes you happier than your ex ever did.
Putting them on a pedestal and idolizing them will not help you move on, I can tell you that much!
So instead, remember that they were perfectly human and that they weren’t perfect
2) Be proud of yourself
When you’re going through the breakup of a long-term relationship, it can make you feel as if you failed at love.
But one break-up doesn’t mean you’re a failure at love!
If a relationship isn’t working, you have to end it so that you can move on and find someone who makes you happy.
So when you’re feeling down about the breakup, remind yourself that you made the right decision for your wellbeing!
You see, even though it’s hard at times, try to be proud of yourself.
Maybe you were the one ending the relationship or maybe not, either way, you are here, following the no-contact rule and doing the work, so you can be proud of yourself!
Because of the self-work, you are doing right now, you are moving towards a version of yourself that will have much healthier relationships in the future.
That’s pretty amazing!
The no-contact rule is not easy, but it can be very rewarding if you stick to it.
You deserve to be proud of yourself for doing it!
And most of all, be proud of yourself for navigating the breakup so well and with such grace.
Have you talked to a relationship coach?
While this article will shed light on the main tips to follow through with the no-contact rule, it can be helpful to speak to a relationship coach about your situation.
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3) Be grateful for the relationship you had
Even though your relationship didn’t work out, there are still so many things to be grateful for!
Even if your relationship was short-term, if it helped you learn something about yourself and made you a better person, then it was worth it!
Despite the fact that your relationship is over, there is still so much to be grateful for and remember about the relationship you had.
When you’re going through no contact, be grateful for the relationship you had so that you can move on with a positive outlook.
You see, no matter what kind of relationship it was, every partnership teaches us lessons.
Some of them are more positive than others, but all in all, there is always something to be learned from relationships.
So be grateful for the relationship you had, because even though it’s over, it has taught you something about yourself.
Now: you can also use this time to identify what this relationship, in particular, has taught you.
Maybe you now know what an unhealthy relationship feels like, or you learned how to be assertive about your needs!
Maybe you now know that you don’t want to be in a relationship with someone who is disrespectful to you, or maybe you learned that you need a partner who supports your passions!
Whatever the lesson is, take some time to reflect on it.
The more grateful you are for the relationship, the easier it will be for you to move on.
4) Don’t blame yourself or dwell on what you could’ve done differently
There’s no point in beating yourself up over the breakup!
You have to let go of the “what ifs” and the “what could’ve beens” and accept that things didn’t work out.
Blaming yourself for the breakup will only make you feel worse about the situation and lead to unnecessary stress and anxiety.
The only thing that blaming yourself will achieve is to make you feel even more defeated, so put the blame on the shelf!
When you’re going through no contact, don’t dwell on what you could’ve done differently.
You can’t go back in time and change things, so why waste your energy thinking about it?
Instead, use your time during no contact to reflect on the relationship and what you learned from it.
While I think you shouldn’t blame yourself, what you can do at some point after having healed a bit, is reflect on where you might not have acted in the best ways, and then learn from it.
Don’t beat yourself up for it, but simply use it as a lesson to grow as a person.
5) Take care of yourself
During no contact, it’s so important to take care of yourself. You deserve it!
You might not be getting as much attention as you used to, but that doesn’t mean you can neglect yourself.
During no contact, you might start to feel neglected and unimportant, so it’s crucial to take care of yourself to prevent these feelings from overwhelming you.
Your needs are just as important as your partner’s needs were during your relationship, so make sure you aren’t neglecting them.
This is the time to focus on self-care on all levels, physical, emotional, and mental.
Eat well, get enough sleep, and exercise!
Do things that make you feel good about yourself.
Spend time with friends, do things that you’re interested in, and take care of your body.
You deserve to be happy!
Breakups are really difficult and you need to do things that will let your body and soul know that you are okay, you got yourself.
Even if your partner isn’t in the picture anymore, you have someone who takes care of you: you!
6) Stay busy and focus on your self-care routine
When you’re going through no contact, you’ll want to make sure you’re keeping yourself busy so that you don’t think about your ex.
Focus on your self-care routine to keep your mind off your partner!
Make sure you have plenty to do during the day so that you don’t have time to think about your ex and the breakup.
Having too much time on your hands can make it difficult to get over your ex, so make sure you have plenty to do to keep your mind off things!
Now; that doesn’t mean distracting yourself from your own feelings constantly, you definitely need time to think, cry, and process your emotions.
However, don’t do that for days on end, have some activities planned that will get your mind off of the breakup for a bit.
7) Create new routines to feel good about yourself
One of the best things you can do when you’re going through no contact is to create new routines that make you feel good about yourself!
Whether it be going to the gym more often, signing up for a new class, or spending more time with friends and family, creating new routines that make you feel proud of yourself will help you get over your ex more quickly.
When you feel good about yourself and proud of your achievements, it’s so much easier to get over your ex!
So make sure you dedicate ample time to creating new routines that make you feel proud of yourself.
You see, when we are in a long-term relationship, our routine is often heavily dependent on our partner.
When you break up, you might feel a bit lost now, as a big part of your routine is gone.
That’s why you need to create new routines and habits to follow!
8) Spend time with people who support you and lift you up
During no contact, you want to make sure you’re spending time with people who support you and lift you up!
If you’re going through a breakup, you might be tempted to surround yourself with people who make you feel better by talking about their breakups and giving you advice, but this isn’t always the best thing for you!
When you’re going through no contact, you want to spend time with people who support you and make you feel good about yourself.
You don’t want people around you who are going to make you feel bad about the breakup and make you feel as if you’re a failure at love.
Spending time with family and friends will be the perfect way to distract yourself a bit while also remembering that you are deeply loved, even without the relationship.
You see, during a breakup, it’s often hard to remember that you have so many people who love you and care about you.
Spending time with people who support you and love you will help remind you of this!
Use this time and reconnect with the people you might not have talked to a lot in the past few months!
9) Channel your emotions constructively
When you’re going through a breakup and going through no contact, it can be a great opportunity to channel your emotions constructively.
Breakups are a great time to learn more about yourself and to find out what you want in a partner and in life.
When you’re going through no contact, it’s important to channel your emotions constructively so that you don’t end up doing something you’ll regret.
Breakups can be really messy, especially if you two were together for a long time, so make sure that you channel your emotions and energy productively to get your head in a good place.
Channeling your emotions constructively will look different for everyone.
Some people like to sweat it out at the gym, while others prefer to use art as a channel for their emotions.
Journaling can be another great way to go about it.
However, don’t limit yourself to one thing only! Try out different things and see what helps you the most!
Maybe you will even find an activity that you come to love! That brings me to my next point:
10) Find a hobby you love
A great way to get over your ex quickly is to find a new hobby that you love.
Having a hobby that you love and enjoy will take your mind off your ex and make you feel happier, which is exactly what you need when you’re going through no contact!
When you’re going through no contact, it’s important to keep yourself busy so that you don’t think about your ex and the breakup.
Having a hobby that you love will take your mind off things and help you to stay positive and happy.
When you have a hobby that you love, it will be so much easier for you to get over your ex and move on with your life because you’ll have something constructive to focus on each day.
And the best part? It will be something new that you don’t associate with your ex, which can be very helpful, especially in the early stages of the breakup.
This could be sport, art, joining a club, anything like that!
11) Use the time to become a better person
When you go through no contact, you have to do a lot of self-work.
And this is the perfect time to work on yourself and become a better version of yourself!
Maybe you need to go back to school, get a new job, or start working out more?
Maybe you need to learn how to live your life with more joy and freedom?
Or maybe you need to learn how to be more assertive with your needs and desires?
When you go through no-contact, you have the perfect opportunity to work on yourself and become a better version of yourself.
Maybe you’ll find that your ex wasn’t the right person for you, but maybe they were!
Either way, whatever happens in your future relationships, know that you can only get better if you put in the work during no contact.
And most importantly, when it’s time to move on with your life again, know that you will have become a stronger version of yourself!
You see, becoming a better version of yourself is always a good idea, so why not use this transitory time in your life to be a catalyst for your growth?
Trust me, we rarely ever learn as much about ourselves as we do during a breakup.
You will be okay
Although the no-contact rule is difficult and breakups are hard, you will be okay.
With self-work and time, you will heal and move on from this breakup, I promise.
At first, it never feels that way, but in the end, things will be looking up and you will come out the other side a new and improved version of yourself!
Can a relationship coach help you too?
If you want specific advice on your situation, it can be very helpful to speak to a relationship coach.
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