You say you want to be friends with your crush. But how do you go about being friends with someone who’s a stranger? And then beyond just being friends, how do you get them to notice you?
All these and more questions can be found in this article. Here are 15 guaranteed tips on how not to be awkward around your crush.
1) Calm down
When it comes to just being around your crush, it’s important to keep your cool and put on a relaxed front.
People might think that you’re a stalker or a weirdo if you act weird around them, or if you try to get too close or make a big deal out of every little thing.
Try to keep your cool. Also, don’t overthink things and don’t try to “act cool” for their sake. You don’t have to be too cool for their (or anyone’s) sake. You’re allowed to be comfortable around your crush so long as you’re not being weird or overdoing it.
- Breathe and relax
You’re probably feeling uncomfortable and nervous right now, which isn’t surprising.
So, the first thing you need to do is calm yourself down. Deep breaths are the best way to do this.
Take a few slow, deep breaths and try to relax. It’s going to feel weird the first few times, but you’ll get the hang of it after a while.
- Smile and be friendly
When you make an effort to be friendly, you are likely to make more friends and gain more confidence. This is because you will be seen as being more approachable and sociable.
You might not be able to control how people see you, but you can always try your best to present yourself in a positive light.
And smiling is a good place to start. It will show you have a friendly, happy personality. It will also show that you are not stuck-up or conceited.
Smiles are contagious, so be sure to smile and show your teeth so your crush will feel the same way.
2) Be clear about your feelings
There’s a reason why people say being in a relationship isn’t easy.
It’s because there are so many mixed signals and unspoken emotions. That’s why you must be clear about your feelings before you start any kind of friendship with your crush.
If you’re not sure whether you like them as more than just a friend, then it’s best to be honest and upfront about it from the start.
Otherwise, you’re going to end up feeling confused and things will just become more complicated.
3) Don’t stare
Staring is one of the most common ways we are seen as being interested in someone.
When you are around a crush, don’t be afraid to look away. Chances are, they are feeling the same way.
If you don’t look away and make direct eye contact with them, they might feel like they are being stared at. It’s better to break the ice with a simple look and then look away than it is to stare and make it seem like you are trying too hard.
4) Talk with them
So you’ve got your chat face on and you’ve been dying to talk to your crush all day. But you don’t know where to start, and you’re not sure how to keep the conversation going.
Worried that you’re going to look like an idiot, you’re freaking out about what to say. And then suddenly, you spot them.
This is your chance. The more nervous you are, the harder it will be to talk to them and mention their name.
So try to act like you don’t care if you see them or not. You don’t need to go overboard and buy them a drink or anything.
Just say hi, and be friendly. Ask questions about their day, even if you feel like you don’t want to know the answer.
The point is to break the ice and make them feel a little bit more comfortable with you. It also lets them know that you’re interested in talking to them so that they’re a little more likely to start talking to you.
Keep in mind that you don’t have to have a topic in mind for when you talk to your crush. You can just talk to them about random stuff that comes to mind.
But the more comfortable you are with them, the better they’ll feel and the more likely they’ll be to open up to you.
5) Listen more
One of the most effective ways to keep yourself from being awkward around your crush is to listen to what they’re saying.
- Keep them talking about themselves.
This is a tip that might seem obvious, but it’s incredibly important. If you want to get to know your crush, you need to get them talking about themselves. It’s the only way to find out everything you need to know about them.
Try to ask them questions about themselves. This allows them to get to know you without the pressure of talking about themselves.
The best way to do this is by asking open-ended questions. Open-ended questions don’t have a “correct” answer, so it’s likelier for them to answer them truthfully.
- Look at them
First things first, look at them. Don’t be shy. When you’re talking to someone you like, look at them. This is a non-verbal way of showing them you found them attractive.
This alone might be all the encouragement they need to become your friend. If they are indeed interested in you, they may become more eager to talk with you.
- Concentrate on them, not you
This is a tip that’s often overlooked, but it’s incredibly important. Always try to focus on the person you’re talking to and what you’re saying. This will help you avoid any awkward social blunders.
Try not to let your insecurities show through. You will appear more confident and less self-conscious if you can keep yourself from focusing on your flaws.
When you’re talking to your crush and you’re feeling nervous, try to remember to keep your attention on them. And when they talk, try to keep your attention on what they’re saying.
6) Open up about yourself
A lot of us have trouble opening up to people we don’t know well. It’s scary because you don’t know what kind of person they are or how they’ll react to you. But there’s no reason you have to be afraid.
The best way to open up to your crush is to have a little bit of fun with it. They want to talk to you because they like you, and they want to feel comfortable around you.
Here is the point:
When you make it a little more casual, they’re going to be a lot more likely to open up to you.
If you want to get their attention, make them laugh. People tend to be a lot more open and talkative when they’re laughing. So try to crack a joke or make them laugh when you’re talking to them.
7) Don’t have super long conversations
If you find yourself engaging in very long conversations with your crush, you might want to take a step back and make a few adjustments.
If you find yourself having an extended conversation with your crush, chances are you might be over-analyzing things.
Or you might be feeling nervous and need to calm down. It’s much better to keep the conversation light and casual than to be too formal.
A good rule of thumb is to keep the conversation going for at least five minutes without any dead air. This will show your crush that you are interested in what they have to say and you won’t be coming across as awkward or desperate.
You can always finish the conversation if it becomes necessary.
8) Control your body
The biggest way to not be awkward around your crush is to not do anything to make them feel awkward around you. You don’t have to be overly shy or reserved around your crush. You just have to be yourself.
When you’re around your crush, try to control your body language and your expressions. Avoid fidgeting, crossing your arms, or looking around like you’re bored. These things will only make it more awkward for the both of you.
- Pay attention to your hands and arms
When you are around your crush, always be aware of your hands and arms.
You don’t want to accidentally brush against them or accidentally bump into them. But most importantly, you don’t want to let your hands and arms hang limply by your sides.
They should be held at the same height as your shoulders. When you are talking, keep one hand in view. Don’t hide it in your pocket.
- Keep your feet and legs in mind as well.
One of the most common ways people accidentally make themselves look and feel more awkward is by fidgeting a lot. Whether you are playing with your hair, biting your nails, or tapping your foot, you should do so only if you can keep your other hand on your side.
Otherwise, you are sending the message that you don’t know what to do with your hands.
When it comes to your feet, it’s best to keep them still. This can be hard with the increased circulation whenever you are around someone you are crushing on though so be prepared with some good foot-blasting music.
9) Increase your self-confidence
As bad as it is to constantly feel awkward around your crush, it’s even worse if you have low self-esteem. You might feel like you “aren’t good enough” for your crush, or that you won’t be able to get through to them.
And that will make you feel even worse.
The best way to increase your self-confidence and make yourself feel better is to start doing things that make you happy.
Instead of sitting around and being sad that your crush won’t notice you, go out with your friends, or talk to your crush on social media. You’ll feel a lot better about yourself, and you might even make a new friend!
Beyond that, another way to increase your self-confidence is to upgrade yourself.
- Be confident about your look
Your appearance, especially the way that you dress, is going to have a large impact on how people see you. You probably have an idea of what you’re going to wear before you go out with your friends, so make sure that this is the case.
When you’re around your crush, make an effort to look your best. This means that you’re not going to be wearing a baggy shirt and a pair of ripped up jeans. Try to keep your outfit smart and clean, so that it reflects positively on you and makes you look more put together.
- Smell good
How do you make someone notice you and feel attracted to you when you’re standing right in front of them? You smell good, of course! That’s what the majority of human attraction is based on: body odor.
It’s not a coincidence that the first thing most people notice about someone is that they smell good. Don’t be afraid of using a personal perfume or cologne. Just make sure it’s something that you enjoy and that you know makes you feel good.
- Dress well
This goes beyond just wearing nice clothes. You should always have a nice manicure, a fresh haircut, and you should smell good.
Dressing well will do a few things – it’ll make you feel good, you’ll carry yourself with confidence, and you’ll look good. It’ll also show that you put some thought into your outfit and that you care about how you look.
It’s important to remember, though, that nobody’s perfect. If you slip up here or there, nobody’s going to notice. You should still try your best to dress well and do the things that make you feel confident and beautiful.
10) Be yourself
This may seem like common sense, but it’s amazing how many people forget this when it comes to their crush.
Let’s face it – for the most part, we all want to be ourselves around our crush. We don’t want to act like some weird, awkward new person. But it’s easy to forget this when you’re nervous around them.
The truth is that being yourself around your crush will make things a lot easier. They’ll notice you more if you just act and talk like yourself.
11) Find similarities
What you should do is look for things that you have in common.
Maybe your favorite food is pizza and they like sushi. Maybe you both like to play video games and go to the gym. Maybe you both love music and have similar taste in art.
The point is to find something that you have in common with your crush. Doing so will make the both of you feel more comfortable around each other, and it’ll make it easier for you to strike up conversations with them.
12) Know your crush better
This is the most important thing you should do. You have to make an effort to get to know your crush on a more personal level.
It’s not enough to just know their name and where they went to school. If you genuinely want to be friends with them, you need to know a lot more than that.
For example, it’s important to know their favorite subject, favorite food or their best personality trait. You need to find out as much as possible about them to make the friendship less awkward.
13) Reach out to their friends
You’re probably aware of the fact that your friends are going to vouch for you, and that they’ll do their best to tell the person that you’re crushing on that you’re worthy of their attention. This doesn’t mean that they’ll automatically go to the person and say, “Hey, this is Michael. He’s cool.”
Instead, you need to make an effort to get their friends’ attention. This means that you’re going to have to be willing to talk to the person that you’re crushing on friends, as well as make an effort to get to know them.
The more that you try to be friends with the person that you’re crushing on friends, the more likely it is that they’ll be aware of you in no time, as they’ll be comfortable around you.
Here’s the secret:
You’ll notice they’ll be more receptive to you if you’ve got their friends’ approval first. If they have friends who like you too, then it’s a lot easier to approach people.
14) Don’t share your most personal stories
If you find yourself telling your crush about your life story, you might want to take a step back and reevaluate things. It might be better to keep some things to yourself.
You don’t want to come across as desperate or self-centered. You might also want to consider limiting the amount of details you share about your life.
There is nothing wrong with telling your crush that you are a student. It would be better to leave out the school you are studying at, your major, and the exact department you are in at school. This will make you seem more interesting and less desperate.
15) Practice with people who aren’t your crush
You’re probably not great at approaching people you don’t know. But that doesn’t mean you can’t practice.
There’s a simple way to get used to approaching people. Meet new people every day. See someone new every day. Ask them questions and get to know them.
Over time, this will feel more natural to you. You’ll get used to talking to strangers, and you’ll learn how to be comfortable with it.
If you’re really shy, then this might be difficult. But it’s something you can work on.
The tips in this article can help you avoid being awkward around people you have a crush on.
You just need to get your confidence up! And with a little bit of effort, you should be just fine.
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