Being cheated on is one of the most painful experiences you can go through.
For some people, cheating is a deal-breaker, for others, something to forgive.
If you’re wondering how to make your husband fall in love with you again after he cheated, you’re not alone.
The good news is that there are a few ways to do this.
Let’s take a look at 20 useful tips to make him fall in love with you again:
20 useful tips to make him fall in love with you again
1) Take some time apart
This is the best thing you can do for your marriage right now.
You know what they say, “Time heals all wounds”. Well, this is often true in relationships where one person cheats on the other.
Taking some time apart can be very helpful in repairing your trust in him and making your life easier emotionally.
And another thing:
When you spend time apart, you’ll both be able to see things clearer and see what’s really important to you.
Being away from you will give him a chance to miss you. He’ll realize that he could lose you – this could just be the wake-up call he needs.
So the best thing to do is to give him some space and trust that he will come back to you.
2) Try to understand why it happened
To make the situation better for you, you need to figure out what caused him to cheat.
Understanding what led him to cheat will be very helpful in bettering your marriage for the future.
The truth is that it takes two people for a marriage to fall apart.
So always ask yourself these questions:
- Did you do anything wrong?
- How could you have improved your marriage?
- Was your husband trying to tell you that he was unhappy?
The fact that he cheated is inexcusable but if you want him to fall in love with you again, you need to know what happened and why, so that it doesn’t happen again.
Perhaps there was nothing you could do, maybe it was because he needed to prove something to himself.
Maybe he lost his job. Maybe something else was going on.
Think about it:
Do you think this was an isolated incident?
The sad truth is that some men just don’t know how to control their urge to cheat and you need to find out if yours is one of them.
3) Forgive him
If you’ve decided to stay married to him then it’s time to let go of the past and move on.
If you want him to fall in love with you again, then follow your heart and forgive him.
Trust that it will never happen again.
This is a big step for you but it’s the right thing to do.
As much as he may not want to admit it, he needs you in his life.
But wait, there’s more!
You must also forgive yourself.
In order to move on, it is just as important to forgive yourself as it is to fogive him.
4) Bring out his inner hero
I know this might be hard to hear, but sometimes men cheat because they don’t feel like they are needed by their wives. They do it because they’re looking to feel like “men”.
There’s a new theory in the relationship world that’s causing quite a stir – it’s called the hero instinct.
Coined by relationship expert James Bauer, this fascinating concept finally explains how men really think and feel in relationships.
And it’s something most women have never even heard of.
According to James Bauer, men don’t actually need a lot to feel content in their relationships. In fact, what they need has nothing to do with sex.
Men have certain innate drivers. And when a woman comes along and triggers them, it causes a powerful response. The result is a man who loves harder, commits wholeheartedly, and truly dedicates himself to the relationship.
So, how can you trigger your man’s hero instinct?
The easiest thing to do is to watch this simple and genuine video by James Bauer.
The truth is, once you understand how the hero instinct works, there’s no telling what heights your relationship can reach.
So if you want to give your man what he truly wants from you, make sure to check out James Bauer’s excellent video. In it, he reveals the exact texts and phrases you can use straight away.
5) Take the time to get to know each other again
The fact that your husband cheated on you may make him seem like a stranger.
Maybe you’ve changed too.
In order to heal your relationship, in order for him to fall back in love with you, you need to get to know each other again.
It’s important to have some uninterrupted quality time together and get to know each other again.
Find out who the man you’re married to is today. Show him who you are.
All in all, when you take the time to get to know each other again, it will bring back the love and trust.
6) Remind him why he fell in love with you
Odds are, he fell in love with you for a reason.
So try to remember what drew him to you in the first place. What are the qualities he told you he loved about you when you first became together?
If you want him to fall in love with you again, show him what attracted him to you in the first place.
Now, as you start to get to know each other again, remind him how much he loved and trusted you.
He will realize that he made a big mistake and that it was not your fault.
7) Plan fun stuff together
While you are getting to know each other again and reminding him of why he fell in love with you in the first place, it’s a good idea to plan some fun stuff together.
Your marriage has been through a lot and it’s possible that you’re both feeling tense, emotional, and maybe even tired.
That’s why doing something fun will help you forget all the negative stuff and bring you to the present.
Here’s what you should do:
Forget about being grown-ups with grown-up problems. Do something fun – go to the fair!
I’m talking roller-coaster rides, cotton candy, the works!
Fun activities bring down our defenses – and when he sees you relax, laugh, and enjoy yourself, he’ll fall in love with you all over again.
8) Don’t act desperate
Whatever you do, don’t act desperate!
Even if you feel desperate for his love, don’t let it show.
Trust me, desperation is the number one turn-off.
You want him to run back into your arms, not run away from you.
Instead, be strong and independent. This will make him desire you more.
9) Make him infatuated with you
You want to make him fall in love with you again?
You want him to have eyes for you, and only you?
Well then, you have to make him infatuated with you!
Dating and relationship coach Clayton Max has developed sets of phrases that are guaranteed to make any man infatuated with you.
These phrases reach men on a deep primal level – most women don’t know about this, which is why they struggle to keep a man’s infatuation.
To find out what they are, watch his video here where he explains everything.
10) Love yourself
It’s crucial that throughout this whole ordeal you remember to love yourself.
I know it can be difficult and at times you may even feel like you don’t deserve love. But that’s not true!
You’re a wonderful person and you are worth loving. So start with loving yourself.
How do you expect someone else to love you when you don’t love yourself?
Once you have love for yourself, you will open yourself to receiving love from others – like your husband.
11) Accept him for who he is, flaws and all
How can you expect your husband to love and accept you for who you are, if you’re not willing to do the same?
You see, when you accept him for who he is, it shows that you care about him, and that his feelings are important to you.
This will make him want to reciprocate.
Most importantly, this will make him fall in love with you all over again!
12) Be affectionate every time you see him
When a marriage is on the rocks, you sometimes tend to forget the little things that attracted you to each other.
How can your husband fall in love with you again if he doesn’t feel the same chemistry that made him fall in love with you in the first place?
Try to be affectionate every time you see him.
So when your husband comes home after a long day at work, give him a kiss. And while doing it, look into his eyes and smile.
This will make him remember how happy he was when he first fell in love with you and he’ll fall in love with you all over again!
13) Show him that you need him
I don’t mean that you should rely on him for everything, men love a woman who is independent. It’s just that they also like to feel needed sometimes.
This could be as simple as asking for his advice from time to time, or asking him to open a jar for you!
Now, I mentioned this fascinating concept earlier: the hero instinct. When a man’s inner hero is triggered, he’s more likely to commit to you and be faithful.
Just by knowing the right things to say to him, you’ll open a part of him that no woman has ever reached before.
And the best way to do so is by watching this free video by James Bauer. In it, he’ll reveal simple phrases and texts you can use to make your man truly yours.
14) Don’t try to control him
Because it could be the reason he cheated on you in the first place.
If you try to control him all the time, you’ll suffocate him and make him feel like he needs to break free from you.
Now, if you want him to fall in love with you again, you need to let him be.
He’s a grown man and can make decisions for himself, he doesn’t need you micromanaging him.
He needs you to be his wife, not his mother.
15) Take care of yourself
To fall in love with you all over again, your husband will need to see that you are taking care of yourself and that you are happy.
Being able to take care of yourself means not feeling guilty about your own needs.
When you’re happy with yourself, your confidence radiates, and that’s something that a man can’t resist.
And another thing:
Treat yourself to some new clothes and try a new hairstyle.
Look fabulous and he won’t be able to take his eyes off of you.
16) Make him jealous
Hey, a little jealousy never hurt anyone.
- Smile to yourself as you text back and forth with a male friend late in the evening.
- Flirt with the bartender when you’re out with your husband.
- Talk about how great and talented a guy that you both know is.
Basically, you want him to realize that if you wanted, you could leave him for somebody better.
This will make him want to hold on to you even more and is guaranteed to make him fall back in love with you.
17) Go out with your friends
Remember that there’s more to life than just marriage.
So go out with your friends and have fun. This will help you heal from the hurt caused by your husband’s cheating.
What’s more, when your husband sees that you can be happy without him, it will make him want you back even more.
18) Be independent
This is a tricky area.
You need to be independent, otherwise he’ll get the feeling that he can walk all over you.
So don’t be codependent.
But at the same time, show him that you want to be in a relationship with him and that you enjoy his company.
It’s difficult to find the balance between these two extremes. But if you do it right, it will make him fall in love with you all over again!
19) Try the 10-minute-tactic
Here’s how it works:
Take 10 minutes each day to spend talking to each other about things that are really important to you.
Now, I don’t mean whose turn it is to empty the dishwasher. I’m talking about dreams and aspirations and other meaningful things.
This will help you reconnect and find each other.
20) Look to the future
Finally, don’t dwell on the past.
You need to take the time to process what happened, to forgive, and then to move on.
It’s important that once you’ve processed his cheating and forgiven him not to keep bringing it up every time you’re upset.
Instead, you need to look to the future. You need to work towards something new and positive together.
By now you should have a pretty good idea of how to make your husband fall back in love with you after he cheated.
We’ve covered proven ways that really work to get him to fall back in love with you, so that your marriage can go from surviving to thriving again.
One of the most important things you can do is to make him feel needed.I touched on the hero instinct earlier – it’s the perfect remedy for the situation you’re facing.
Because once a man’s hero instinct is triggered, he’ll only have eyes for you. You’ll reach a part of him that no woman has ever managed to reach before.
And in return, he’ll be compelled to commit to you and love you like he’s never loved another woman.
So if you’re ready to take that plunge and reach new heights in your relationship, make sure to check out relationship expert James Bauer’s invaluable advice.
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