You’ve taken some time, you’ve both had a chance to miss each other, and now you want to make your ex fall in love with you all over again.
Just as we can fall in and out of love, so too can we do it again.
When I was trying to win back my ex, I did a lot of research to find out the best ways to make him want me again and I found that psychology-based ways work best.
It can be tricky but once you master the tricks, you can truly mesmerize him and make him fall even harder for you despite your breakup.
They helped me win my ex back and they’ll help you too!
Here are 15 ways to make your ex fall in love with you again using psychology.
1) Re-establish contact but don’t say anything about getting back together
To make your ex fall in love with you again, of course, you need to reconnect with them.
But, there are specific approaches for doing it which involve psychology.
You have to actually get their attention before you can get them to take you seriously again.
And you also need to make it somehow casual.
You text them as if you’re texting your friend.
Put the “getting back together” conversation aside first.
Ask them how they’re doing, what’s been happening in their life and so on.
Make it as if you’re catching up with an old friend.
This way, you can lure them slowly into their life without them even realizing it.
They’re going to think that it’s harmless and that you just want to catch up.
And when the right time comes, you plot your next moves.
2) Take your sweet time to reply
This is a very important psychological tactic as we, as humans, love consistency.
And all science shows us that slow and steady wins the race.
It’s exactly what makes people stay in relationships and it’s why you can get people back together even after they’ve been broken up with.
The key is to play it hard to get (despite you being the one to text them first).
Before you send a text, think about it for at least a full minute.
And then make sure that you don’t send a text until hours later (unless it’s an emergency).
I tried using this method to tantalize my ex.
And, guess what?
It worked even better than I had expected because he ended up double texting me!
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3) Don’t over-text
The last thing you want is to seem needy.
This is a big turn-off for both genders.
It makes you look crazy and desperate for their attention.
The texts should be short, simple and not too frequent.
You want your ex to think that they’re not your top priority and that you have better things to do.
This will leave them wanting more.
For example, when they ask what you’ve been up to, you don’t need to give a full elaboration on all the things you’ve been doing.
Just say something like “I just got back from Pilates.”, not “I got up and went to get a coffee. After that, I went to pick up my friend for our Pilates session…”.
Remember to play it cool.
But, you also want to make it engaging enough so you can expect a reply from them.
I’ll explain in my next point.
4) Ask them questions to keep the conversation going
Exes like to play the ghosting game.
In other words, they don’t want to come off as “too available” or “too friendly”, so they either pretend that they don’t have time or that they just have no interest in hearing what you have to say.
So, don’t give them a chance to!
You can use questions to keep the conversation going.
It doesn’t matter if you ask something like “How was today for you?” or “What did you eat for lunch?” or “How long did it take you to get to the office this morning?”.
Plus, if they reply to something that you said, it gives you an opening to reply again.
For example, when I was trying to win back my ex, he initially told me that he had no interest in getting back together.
I would wait for hours and even days just to get a response from him.
But, then I started asking him questions after every text.
I was able to go from 0 chats per day to over 10 (and counting) chats with him every day.
It’s like a domino effect — the conversation was no longer one-sided.
And since each text had a reply from both parties, he never knew that I was actually waiting for his replies.
5) Talk about something you can both relate to
The best way to make your ex fall in love with you all over again is by talking about your shared experiences.
It’s a very simple psychological trick that can make your ex feel like they’re a part of your life again.
Make it sound as if this is something that happened recently and that they should be happy to hear you talk about it!
How do you do that?
You talk about something in common, whether it’s food, a movie or a car.
“I really like your new car!”, “Oh, so you wanna watch this movie?”, “Yeah! It’s one of the best comedies ever!”.
The point is to make it about something that you both can relate to and then talk about it.
If he says no, then start talking about something else (within 1 minute).
That way his answer doesn’t seem negative or uninterested.
6) Upload subliminal messages on social media
This is one of the best passive-aggressive tricks out there for getting your ex back.
It’s very subtle, but it will grab their attention and make them think about your relationship all over again without you having to say a thing.
Now, you want to post something that’s connected to your ex.
If you want to make your ex fall in love with you all over again, then post pictures and statuses on social media that are related to the special moments that you shared together.
Here’s what you do:
Post photos from your previous vacations with your ex (without him in the photos) and insert a caption like “Take me back!”.
Or post old photos of the meals you had on a romantic dinner with them and put a status “Miss this”.
That way you not only remind them of your good times together, but also make them miss it all.
However, this is something that you shouldn’t do too much of.
A couple of times maybe, but then stop and never do it again.
Because if you do it too much, it’ll become annoying for them and start to feel like a spam.
You can also send the messages directly to them as I mentioned in the next point.
7) Send them something from the past
This is what I did with my ex.
I considered it as a last-ditch effort to win him back.
My ex and I had spent a lot of time together when we were dating and so there were a lot of things that we did and saw together.
Even though everything had gone sour, I still harbored some feelings for him.
So, I decided to send him something from the past just to see if he still cares about me at all.
I sent him a photo of us when we had the best time together.
Not only did this remind him about how good we were together, but it also made him miss our good times.
It’s so easy yet effective.
This relates back to what Brad Browning taught me – there are simple ways to get your ex back.
I mentioned Brad earlier, he’s an expert at helping couples work through their issues and rebuild their relationships.
With practical tips to help you get your ex back, his advice could be just what you need to make your ex fall in love with you again.
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8) Make your ex think that you’re doing good without them
While you’re texting them, you want to focus on giving the impression that you’re doing better without them in your life.
But remember, they don’t want to know all your business (well, maybe a little) but they do want to know that you’re doing good without them.
You can say that you’ve been busy working on a new project, for example.
Or that you met new people who have shown you some cool places around.
You can also upload posts on social media (if your ex is following you) that talk about something that you did and how you’re doing.
What I like about this is that it doesn’t make you seem like you’re doing well without them.
It actually makes you seem busy, focused on yourself or having fun.
This makes them miss you even more because they think you’re doing alright.
And that’s when you spring into action! (More details in my following point)
Just make sure to keep your responses simple and vague so that it doesn’t seem like you’re bragging or showing off.
They want to know that things are going well for you without them, but not everything!
9) Ask them if they want to meet up for a catch-up
This is a bold move.
And if you’re lucky, they might be the one to ask you out first.
This can be anywhere from coffee to a sit-down dinner.
Remember, you need to be a bit subtle so that your ex doesn’t think that you’re too keen on meeting up.
Get their expectations up by texting something like this: “Hey! How have you been?”, “I haven’t seen you in a while! How about we meet up for coffee?”.
Meeting up with your ex for the first time after the breakup can be downright scary.
Especially when you’ve been away from each other for a while.
When I had a date set with my ex after our breakup, I really didn’t know what to expect.
I was worried I was going to do something wrong that was only going to push him away instead of falling back for me.
Thankfully, I had my trustful relationship coach from Relationship Hero to give me a few tips on how to turn the date into a successful one.
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10) Revamp your look
If you’re not the type to make big changes in your appearance, then this one might not apply to you.
Ex-girlfriends and ex-boyfriends love to see you when you look your best.
And sometimes it’s nice to have a fresh start.
I’m not saying you should change everything about the way you look, but maybe adding a few new accessories or doing something wild with your hair.
Doing this will make you seem more exciting and adventurous all over again!
You can also wear clothes that make them want to see what else is underneath the clothes.
It’s always good to shock them a little bit just so they won’t get bored of seeing the same thing all over again.
But, if you decide to do something way beyond the usual, remember, too much is also bad.
Just make sure that the changes are subtle and not drastic.
11) Wear the fragrance that you used to wear when you two were together
I’m sure you’re aware of the saying that “scent can trigger memories”.
And it’s true!
While you’re being passive, this is something that you should do.
When you go out on dates, just make sure that you wear the perfume that they used to like when we were together.
Your ex will notice a certain scent from your body and this will trigger an association from the past.
This will remind them of what their last experience with you was like.
And even though you’re not trying to make your ex feel a certain way, it’s possible that their subconscious mind will bring up memories of you when they smell the scent.
That’s what happened with my ex and me.
I made my ex re-experience our time together by wearing the fragrance that he loved on me.
It was a kind reminder of how good we were together and how much he loved me.
12) Flirt with them subtly
Knowing when to flirt with your ex is probably the most important and hardest part of making him fall in love with you again.
You don’t want to come off as desperate, needy and insecure because that can be a huge turn off!
Disguising it well is key to getting him to fall in love with you again.
First of all, try not to flirt too much.
You want him to think that you’re just talking, but he doesn’t even realise that you are flirting with him!
So, go a little, then stop and then go a little more.
You don’t want him to know that he was right about you being interested in him.
When you make them think that you’re not interested, but still flirt with them, this makes him want you more.
When I was out with my ex, I treated him as if he was just a friend.
But, I did sneakily insert a few compliments here and there.
All he saw was that I was being nice to him and that made him think that maybe, just maybe, I’m not just friendzoning him.
You can also try this on social media.
If you feel like the right time to start flirting is approaching, then put a few comments on their posts.
13) Don’t be too available
I know, I know.
You still love your ex and want to spend as much time as possible with them.
And I totally understand that.
But, if you want to get an ex back, then you should try not to be available all the time.
If they’re seeing you so often, they will eventually get bored of it.
You want to give them the excitement of having to wait for you.
So, if they want to see you, they’re going to have to make an effort.
That way, they’ll start to miss you more and this will eventually lead them back into your arms again!
For instance, if they ask if you want to meet up again on a certain date, just say that you’re not available on the date mentioned and recommend another date.
Make them wait.
I’m sure they’ll be itching to see you again!
14) Make your ex jealous
When you miss your ex, sometimes the only way to get their attention is to make them jealous.
As a woman, I know that I always felt jealous when my ex started flirting with another woman or had a new girlfriend.
Even though you shouldn’t always rely on this trick, it can be very effective at times.
You want your ex to miss you, so if they start to notice that you’re seeing or talking to someone else, then they will begin to miss the ones and zeros that they have with you.
They’ll start wondering what other people have that they don’t.
And of course, the answer to that is YOU!
But, just try not to do anything that would make them really upset or jealous.
You don’t want to show them that you’re capable of acting like this because it shows that you’re not mature enough for a relationship.
And if they see that you are still immature, then they might think twice before taking you back again.
15) Show them that you still care
We all want attention.
It makes us tick and keeps us going.
Your ex WANTED your attention and love before.
So, why not give that to them again?
You want to show that you still care about them, but in a different way.
And here’s what I mean by that.
- Be supportive of your ex’s goals and dreams (their dreams not yours)
- Give them a compliment every now and then
- Show them you appreciate their time when they spend it with you (even if it’s also not much)
- Spend time with them in ways that don’t involve talking about YOURSELF (you will have to learn how to do this yourself)
- Be there for the things that happen in their life
The journey of making your ex fall in love with you again is different for everyone.
It could take days, weeks, months or even years.
The tips that I’ve mentioned above are just my own personal experience.
But, I do hope that they will work for you.
All of them have helped me in the past, but there’s one more thing I want to suggest to you.
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